Prayers and good vibes needed LOSS MENTIONED

[mamanorris]

One of my best friends lost her 3 month old yesterday to SIDS. I'm on my way to be with her. I can't even digest that our sweet Finley is gone. All the prayers and good vibes needed.

[lucanjo14]

Omg. I cannot even fathom this. My heart breaks just thinking about it. Prayers and thoughts to your friend, her family, and you. How is sids still a thing with all the medical knowledge and research out there- I just wish there was some way to stop it from happening. Poor baby.

[surfmama106]

Omg...prayers and many good vibes to you and your friend as you help her grieve during this horrible time. My heart aches for her. 3 months? I can't even comprehend this. Many many prayers for you both.

[Lola]

Sooo sad. I'm so sorry. Lots of prayers for her family.

[Liv]

I cannot imagine that pain. Thank you for being there for her. I'm sure this is impossibly difficult for a mommy to live through.

[anotherdreamer]

I am so sorry thinking of you and your friend. That is so utterly heartbreaking!

[soon2bmrsn]

I am so sorry and can't even imagine what she's going through. Good for her for having a sweet friend like you. Hugs.

[mamanorris]

Thanks guys, I'm just so sick over this. She has two boys and she is doing her best to keep it together for them. They have a great support system so they don't need any food but I want to do something for them. Any thoughts? They are staying at her inlaws so they don't need help with the house.

[emilillies]

I am so sorry.

[Liv]

Jul 18, 2015 12:10:03 GMT -5 mamanorris said:

Thanks guys, I'm just so sick over this. She has two boys and she is doing her best to keep it together for them. They have a great support system so they don't need any food but I want to do something for them. Any thoughts? They are staying at her inlaws so they don't need help with the house.

maybe offering to take the boys for an afternoon or some amount of time in case there are things she needs or wants to do without having to keep it together in front of them?

[Lola]

Jul 18, 2015 12:39:37 GMT -5 Liv said:

Jul 18, 2015 12:10:03 GMT -5 mamanorris said:

Thanks guys, I'm just so sick over this. She has two boys and she is doing her best to keep it together for them. They have a great support system so they don't need any food but I want to do something for them. Any thoughts? They are staying at her inlaws so they don't need help with the house.

maybe offering to take the boys for an afternoon or some amount of time in case there are things she needs or wants to do without having to keep it together in front of them?

This is what I was going to suggest

[dawnfire]

Oh God. I'm so sorry to hear of their loss. Poor sweet baby.

And I agree with seeing if you can watch her boys! Especially depending on their ages...they may really appreciate it, too. I can't imagine their heartache.

[isolemnlyswear]

I'm at a loss for words. I'm praying for the families.

[aulumos]

So sorry. I can't even imagine. Praying for you and your friend and her family.

[ursula]

I'm so sorry, this is just so tragic. Maybe offer to watch the boys for her? Take them to a movie?

[mamanorris]

I spent a few hours this morning with them, she is doing ok. She was sleeping with the baby on her chest and is blaming herself. They found some heart issues during the autopsy but haven't given their final report. The oldest son goes from sad to wanting to play and the youngest doesn't really register what happened but he is great comedic relief for them. Her husband is trying to keep it together for his family but he has his moments of overwhelming grief. My heart is aching and I am sick over this. I am getting ready to head over and I am going to try to steal the boys for some fun in the next couple of days. Thanks ladies!

[honeybee434]

I'm so sorry. I just can't even imagine what she is going through. So tragic. I don't even have words to say something comforting. So glad she has you as a great friend to be there for her.

[alwaysnc4me]

Oh, how awful. She and her family will definitely be in my thoughts.

[littlemissmarla]

mamanorris, There are no words . I am so sorry for this terrible loss. So many comforting and healing thoughts and prayers to all those that loved Finley. Hugs

[vtkatie]

I am so sorry for your friend's loss. That is unimaginable.  Prayers to you all.

[mamanorris]

Thanks ladies. They are doing as well as you can expect, she has her moments of clarity but she is pretty out of it.
My husband gained some weight and can't fit into his black suit pants. Would khakis and a shirt and tie be appropriate? I don't really know the etiquette.

[isolemnlyswear]

Jul 20, 2015 8:27:14 GMT -5 mamanorris said:

Thanks ladies. They are doing as well as you can expect, she has her moments of clarity but she is pretty out of it.
My husband gained some weight and can't fit into his black suit pants. Would khakis and a shirt and tie be appropriate? I don't really know the etiquette.

More than fine. Him being there supporting you and their family is what's most important anyways.

[Lola]

Jul 20, 2015 8:35:10 GMT -5 isolemnlyswear said:

Jul 20, 2015 8:27:14 GMT -5 mamanorris said:

Thanks ladies. They are doing as well as you can expect, she has her moments of clarity but she is pretty out of it.
My husband gained some weight and can't fit into his black suit pants. Would khakis and a shirt and tie be appropriate? I don't really know the etiquette.

More than fine. Him being there supporting you and their family is what's most important anyways.

I agree.

[lablover13]

I am so sorry to hear about your friend's loss, i can't even wrap my brain around how sad they must be. I will be thinking about them today.

[Deleted]

Just reading this now. How heartbreaking! Thinking of all of you!! Xo

[mary1217]

I am so sorry for your friend's loss. I can't even imagine what they are going through. My thoughts are with them.

[rlb]

mamanorris, I'm just now seeing this and trying to keep it together at my desk. Tell your friend she has all the support of J14. As do you, this can't be easy for you either.

((hugs))

[dawnfire]

mamanorris, oh no, the poor mama. I can't imagine how she feels about that. It's probably not much comfort for her, but her baby passed on to the next world cuddled up with the one who brought that sweet child to this one. That baby was loved and knew it. My heart still breaks for them. Tears in my eyes just thinking of them.

[mamanorris]

dawnfire, you are spot on. The priest said at the service all she knew in this world was love and he was right on the mark. That's all she knew. And she passed in the arms of the one that loved her the most, what more could you ask for in this terrible situation? My friend saw her before the funeral and all she can say is that she knows God exists because she saw an angel on earth. They told her not to touch the baby but she said she kisses her face 50 times. I would have done the same!
Also I lied, she was just shy of 2 months.