I'm a grump this morning. I am so tired of being the one to help the ILs out with taking care of their house while we're here -- laundry, meal prep, dishes, vacuuming, cleaning bathrooms... SH basically hasn't lifted a finger. I know you fall into old habits when you're back with your parents but he sees ME doing all this stuff. And last week he asked if there was anything he could help me with to relieve some stress and I mentioned the chores but has he done any? Nawp.
Not cool, Mr. Rabbit. I think you need to make him a list of things you need him to step up and do. The general notion of "chores" may be too vague for him to actually be accountable.
YES! Although we haven't seen it. That'll be interesting. We've spoken to the tenants who had the faculty house last academic year and they wished they could stay, so we're hopeful it's not a total dump.
How far did you say you will be from NYC? If you ever plan to take a trip i to the city please gives me a heads up!!
That goes for any bees in the area.... ciahanna im looking at you!
5-6 hour drive. I KNOW. But I'll definitely be doing it; I have friends I can stay with who've already offered their couches.
Post by numbersgirl08 on Jul 20, 2015 8:58:28 GMT -5
Just stopping in to say hi. Life has been crazy and isn't slowing down yet, but I'm so happy to be home now.
At jury duty today waiting to see if I get called. This is the first time I've done this, so while it's inconvenient, I'm so curious to see how everything works.
Flying to Jamaica with MH and N this weekend for a much needed family vacation. Crossing my fingers she flies well and sleeps well in the hotel room!
Hi ladies. Hoping I'll have time to keep up this week. AWing my mommying success this weekend, improvised water table. I way too proud of myself for this one, but I'm so happy I was able to throw it t together with stuff I had lying around.
Oh ladies how I missed you. A week with my H's side of the family was a little much. It was fun but I definitely needed a few days to recover. Hugs to all that need them and nut punches to all that deserve them.
I didn't even look at last week's thread, I won't have a hope of catching up because I have so much work to do.
I did notice peachey tagged me about late teethers, (I replied in last week's thread)
hugs, wine and ice cream subliminalrabbit! It's hard when you are out of a normal routine and staying in someone else's house. I feel like this when we stay with my parents for the week at the beach because as usual, I have the cooking and laundry for the week, while things like the pool and yard maintenance that he is normally in charge of don't exist there. Hang in there, this too shall pass!
@winesconstantly why do they always want to potty train in public toilets first?! Arlo is the same way. He just wants to touch all the things in there like the big boys. Shudder.
Tent camping in the rain with 2 kids = 2 thumbs down. Been there, no fun. Thank god we had movies on the ipad!
Good morning!! We had quite the weekend. Camping with extremely sleep deprived kids, a torrential downpour and thunderwithsomuchlightening storm while sleeping in a tent, and an afternoon so hot we said fuck you to the great outdoors and took the kids to see Ant Man and then bowling. It was fun to be camping wih my parents there and overall a nice time. But exhausting. Glad to be home.
Today we begin potty training, because all weekend long G asked to potty in the gross public toilets. I have m&ms and beer. Ready as I can possibly be!
I'm picking up M&M's after work and hitting potty training as hard as I can this week...
Post by colieann31 on Jul 20, 2015 10:01:23 GMT -5
I slept in until 8 today because I just wasn't ready to start the day. Is was storming too so that didn't help. Unfortunately, I'm at work now. Here's to another long work week!
Good morning!! We had quite the weekend. Camping with extremely sleep deprived kids, a torrential downpour and thunderwithsomuchlightening storm while sleeping in a tent, and an afternoon so hot we said fuck you to the great outdoors and took the kids to see Ant Man and then bowling. It was fun to be camping wih my parents there and overall a nice time. But exhausting. Glad to be home.
Today we begin potty training, because all weekend long G asked to potty in the gross public toilets. I have m&ms and beer. Ready as I can possibly be!
Sorry the camping sucked, I think you guys are brave for even trying!
You made me realize why potty training isn't working too well over here, I have the m&ms but forgot the beer!! Silly me...
I'm super torn. G just got a party invite to a classmate's party this coming Sunday. We went to the party last year, and the birthday boy is on the spectrum and it was all kids from his other program (I guess? he is also in the public school system and the classmates from that were all on the spectrum). It was by far the most intense kid's party I've been too and G had fun but not playing with other kids, just getting one on one time with the hired entertainer because the other kids were not handling the stimulation very well. When I was talking kids' parties with my close friend, her daughter has Downs and she got all teary and said that it really means a lot to special needs parents when "normal" kids come to their parties. So I'm super torn. I don't know the parents at all and I just spent the last party watching G play, and it's a summer weekend day with TWO birthday parties the day before. I really don't want to go but I feel super guilty RSVPing no...
ETA: also it's 10-1 and I don't feel like Arlo can really go too as he wasn't invited so it's splitting up the family for one of our precious together days. I think that's the biggest drawback for me.
I'm super torn. G just got a party invite to a classmate's party this coming Sunday. We went to the party last year, and the birthday boy is on the spectrum and it was all kids from his other program (I guess? he is also in the public school system and the classmates from that were all on the spectrum). It was by far the most intense kid's party I've been too and G had fun but not playing with other kids, just getting one on one time with the hired entertainer because the other kids were not handling the stimulation very well. When I was talking kids' parties with my close friend, her daughter has Downs and she got all teary and said that it really means a lot to special needs parents when "normal" kids come to their parties. So I'm super torn. I don't know the parents at all and I just spent the last party watching G play, and it's a summer weekend day with TWO birthday parties the day before. I really don't want to go but I feel super guilty RSVPing no...
ETA: also it's 10-1 and I don't feel like Arlo can really go too as he wasn't invited so it's splitting up the family for one of our precious together days. I think that's the biggest drawback for me.
Was the invite just sent? I don't see anything wrong with saying no if you got under a week of notice.
It was in G's cubbie at school Friday morning. So it could have gotten put in there Thursday. Meaning 1.5 weeks notice? I feel like it's totally no problem if I legit had plans but I feel the need to give a reason if I RSVP. The guilt is strong with this one for this particular situation after my friend's response. Also ALL his other classmate's at Caterpillar (G's school) were invited and we were the only ones to come. So that made me feel bad. Because I have lots of guilt issues and personally feel responsible for a decent representation from our school.
Post by michelin82 on Jul 20, 2015 11:10:09 GMT -5
I'm just going to bury this in here....
So, I'm really struggling w/ my 3 year old. He's testing me like no other lately! For example, this weekend he refused his nap, so I told him he needed to have some quiet time in his room. He has an entire bookcase full of books, and a bin full of puzzles in there to keep him occupied.
There's nothing dangerous in his room, so I didn't feel the need to "check in" on him during this quiet time. After about 15 minutes I hopped into the shower for a 5 minute rinse down.
When I got dressed, I went into his room and it was a DISASTER. He had completely taken apart his Melissa & Doug Easel (every screw was taken out and thrown across the room), the knobs from his dressers were all unscrewed, and during the 5 minutes I was in the shower, he snuck out of his room and got into the hall closet. The closet he KNOWS he is not allowed into. The closet that has a childproof doorknob cover on it that apparently he's figured out how to use. And from there, he pulled out a brand new set of bathtub crayons, opened them up, and used them to draw all over his carpet and his bed sheets.
And last night I tried letting him CIO for 1.5 hours before bed because he didn't listen to me and got out of bed after he was all tucked in. I told him I wouldn't go back in, and I HAD to stick to my guns.
Sigh. I just don't know how to handle him I feel like such a failure.
YES! Although we haven't seen it. That'll be interesting. We've spoken to the tenants who had the faculty house last academic year and they wished they could stay, so we're hopeful it's not a total dump.
How far did you say you will be from NYC? If you ever plan to take a trip i to the city please give me a heads up!!
That goes for any bees in the area.... ciahanna im looking at you!
And clue me in cause I want to come play too!
My brother's BF told us that we should come down in October. So that's what I'm currently planning
michelin82 I don't have great advice because I'm there too. Like eternally with G. My best coping mechanism is having a sense of humor about it. Even if it means laughing slightly manically when you really want to scream or cry. Definitely don't feel like a failure. You'll figure out ways to handle him better over time, as he will start to learn what the boundaries are. It's an ever-evolving process
Hugs to all that need it! Nothing like the first day back after 6 days off. I think my next day off is in a month. And I'm taking it by myself. Have a chocolate order coming in to complete
DD turning two will save us at least $2630 a year in daycare costs! We got a reduction when she moved to the 2's room and I get another 10% discount through work starting at 2. I'll be over here counting my money.
Wahoo! I'm still waiting to see what the minor rate increase for us is
michelin82 also my new year's resolution was to not yell. I lasted a month! I was super proud of that. But seriously, I only got 30 days into that. I feel like I need to have "GET DOWN! THAT'S NOT FOR CLIMBING!" on a mega phone pre-recorded. Our poor neighbors!
Ashley Madison got hacked. They are threatening to release the data on their 37 million subscribers unless the site gets taken down.
This makes me LOL. Karma's a bitch. How many politicians or other "moral" leaders will have their careers ruined if the hackers actually make good on their threat?
michelin82 I don't have great advice because I'm there too. Like eternally with G. My best coping mechanism is having a sense of humor about it. Even if it means laughing slightly manically when you really want to scream or cry. Definitely don't feel like a failure. You'll figure out ways to handle him better over time, as he will start to learn what the boundaries are. It's an ever-evolving process
I was going to page you if you hadn't already replied, it sounded like a lot of the stuff you described with G. michelin82, today is a new day hopefully it will be better.
Post by michelin82 on Jul 20, 2015 11:44:27 GMT -5
Oh, andplusalso - my kid (DS1) no longer sleeps for stretches longer than 3 hours. I don't understand why. But it's KILLING him in the behavior department. It's been a living hell!
Post by huckleberry08 on Jul 20, 2015 11:46:22 GMT -5
michelin82 You're right, not getting long stretches of sleep can really, really negatively impact behavior. If it's been going on for a while then I might ask his pediatrician about it. What a tough situation.
anustart1 - I felt really guilty about thinking about not attending a birthday party we were invited to on Sunday. But I felt so much better just being at home and doing what I wanted to do with KJ instead. I RSVPd too so I felt really crappy about just not showing up. As soon as I made a decision not to go to I felt relieved. Do what's best for you and your family. There will be other times where you can be the one to represent. Plus, you did it last time. It's not your turn.
So we are still having trouble getting S added to our insurance policy. Hs boss has sent all the info In twice now and yet the ins company is saying they don't have any for him. Monday they said adding him wouldn't be a problem once boss man sent the info. Friday they say he has coverage, but under "newborn coffee." I specifically asked If I could take him In and have Itncovered and they said yes. Today I take him In and get denied again. They say there is no info and that it may be too late for him to get coverage at all which is the opposite of what they said a week ago. Wtaf why do I hear a different story for each rep I talk to?!
Don't talk to a rep. Ask for a supervisor to handle your case. Get his/her direct fax number or email and have boss send info straight to them or get docs sent to you so you can forward to them while on the phone. Tell them to call you as soon as they get the fax so you can confirm its taken care of.
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