My random is almost a WTF but not quite. It is my anniversary. Which in my world = sex. So why would H turn it down? He had an offer last night and this morning. If i wasn't feeling so hard up he would not have the option tonight.
tmclawchick, no advice, but hugs. We haven't had to deal with this yet. I think when it happens I would be bitching at home about it to hubs. But I have no idea how to move forward.
tmclawchick Everyone seems to have given you good advice, but the tricky part is how exactly do you "do" these things? One practical thing you could do is maybe encourage a friendship with another classmate? Plan a play date or something fun with another child who would be a better friend. Maybe if your son becomes excited about this new friendship, he won't focus on being friends with Jim as much?
amberlie, that sentence sucks! I'm so sorry for you and your friend's family
tmclawchick, that situation is no fun. How long are they likely to be in class/school together? If it is a long time I think I would be inclined to talk more about this specific situation and if its a short time I might be more general with your son. I would certainly talk to him about other kids in the class and encourage interactions with other children. Could you invite another favorite kid over for a playdate a few times to see if that would result in more in class interaction? And I think the scarymommy article is right on that if you catch Jim at this I would call him out on it (although it seems like teachers are already doing that with minimal effect). If nothing else it might make you feel better to know that you've stood up to him and give your son a model for how you stick up to someone politely and calmly.
Wow to all the outside babies and maybe outside babies -- we are not ready at all! Need to get one that!
I felt so bad leaving DS this morning. He fell down the stairs about 5 minutes before I had to go. He was trying to jump down and I stopped him, but then he tried again before I could react. He tumbled down about 7 steps. He cried, but calmed down pretty quickly and was coherent talking to me. I left his nanny on concussion watch and she is icing his head, but I feel bad I'm not there.
tmclawchick, at this point I would give no fucks about telling DS "Jim's a mean/naughty kid and you should stop playing with him." If DS repeats it and Jim's feelings are hurt or mom is offended, who cares? It's great that your DS has a big heart, but sadly he is going to learn that not all people are nice, and probably better if he learns it now with your support.
Post by tmclawchick on Jul 22, 2015 9:39:58 GMT -5
skinandbones, incir luckily DS starts kindergarten at the end of August... I suppose I should count my blessings that we only have a month of this, but I'm a little concerned that, knowing how sensitive DS is, this might happen again with another kid. I feel like maybe I shouldn't have put so strong of an emphasis on "getting along" and that I should have showed him that he needs to stick up for himself too, so now I'm doing damage control.
I can relate to you ladies with a husband that is hard to reach at work sometimes. My DH actually doesn't get any cell service there. So, his work number is the best way to reach him, but he's not always at his desk either. He has a very long commute too, so that stresses me out. (I think I posted some about all of this yesterday.) We decided from this point on, we'll try some things on Fridays to see if we can get things moving on a weekend while he is home. AKA, we'll DTD every Friday until this baby comes out. I told him "I need your prostaglandins!" I know that won't really work unless it is time anyway, but it can't hurt. We really haven't been having sex at all (it's probably been about a month since the last time), so he is all for it.
Post by gingerygirl on Jul 22, 2015 9:45:08 GMT -5
My friend from church had her baby this morning! I'm really jealous though because she was due a week after me (I'm due August 10) and hadn't been having contractions or uncomfortableness or anything. Is it my turn now? Mom and baby are doing great and he's super stinkin cute (:
I have PCOS so I basically NEVER got a period before pregnancy. We got pregnant through IUI and I had to take meds to get my period every single month we tried. Every month they were like "let's see if it comes" and it didn't. I've been told pregnancy can cure PCOS so we'll see. Although, I kind of liked not ever getting a period.
That'll be interesting to see what happens! I have heard that periods after first babies are easier to manage -- less PMS and pain -- so if it's just the inconvenience of dealing with it for a week each month, it might not be the worst thing in the world.
True. If anything it will be nice to get an actual monthly period that I can rely on, rather than getting 2 or 3 a year at random and being completely unprepared for them/having no idea how long they'll last.
Anyone else feel like life is "on hold" for the next several weeks? Everything friends/family invite me to do is prefaced, either by them or by me, with "if baby isn't here by then, if baby IS here by then, if I'm out of the hospital, if I don't go into labor before then..." Etc, etc, etc. This week I've had to defer making concrete plans to see a friend who teaches in Dubai and is only home for three weeks this whole year, and put off going to the cape several times with family because of weekly doctor appointments.
I can relate to you ladies with a husband that is hard to reach at work sometimes. My DH actually doesn't get any cell service there. So, his work number is the best way to reach him, but he's not always at his desk either. He has a very long commute too, so that stresses me out. (I think I posted some about all of this yesterday.) We decided from this point on, we'll try some things on Fridays to see if we can get things moving on a weekend while he is home. AKA, we'll DTD every Friday until this baby comes out. I told him "I need your prostaglandins!" I know that won't really work unless it is time anyway, but it can't hurt. We really haven't been having sex at all (it's probably been about a month since the last time), so he is all for it.
Yup. DH isn't allowed his cell inside the building. There is an office phone, but someone isn't always in there to answer it. Ugh. I also told DH I'm going to start trying some induction stuff next week, like pineapple and that delicious eggplant parm (mainly bc I'm just hungry), and he immediately goes sex?!?!!? Yes dear. Even sex. He's so excited and I feel bad, it's been at least 3 months. He's been so understanding of it though.
Anyone else feel like life is "on hold" for the next several weeks? Everything friends/family invite me to do is prefaced, either by them or by me, with "if baby isn't here by then, if baby IS here by then, if I'm out of the hospital, if I don't go into labor before then..." Etc, etc, etc. This week I've had to defer making concrete plans to see a friend who teaches in Dubai and is only home for three weeks this whole year, and put off going to the cape several times with family because of weekly doctor appointments.
yes yes yes. Every plan made in the next few weeks is followed by "if we don't have a baby yet." my mom was asked if she and I would take charge of the music at a church function on Saturday (pioneer day picnic for all my Mormon folks!) and she basically told them to count us out of everything because even if I'm not in labor I'm not about to be sitting outside for hours in the heat.
fogleer, noooooo total opposite and I feel like I should!!! I have so many things planned for the next 3 weeks and I am just starting to realize, Woah what if baby comes....ah well I will just cancel
Also, does anyone feel their belly tightening randomly rock hard but feel no pain or anything along with it?
I've never been happier to have the older version of the Ikea Hemnes bed. Those rails (that's not the right word but I can't think of the right word bc pregnancy brain) at the top make it SO MUCH EASIER to get out of bed in the middle of the night to pee. I use them to hoist myself up. It's awesome. Thank you, Ikea!
Picture for reference, this pic is almost 2 years old. We now have curtains
elizabethnevadap, ah ok! Awesome, hopefully this means our labours will be nice =D One can dream right? I was just browsing some blogs this morning and one girl mentioned she was having braxton hicks and felt no pain just a rock hard belly, and I sometimes have a rock hard belly with no pain, and I was wondering, because otherwise I can feel around and feel my little squishy.
On a sad note... (POSSIBLE TRIGGER) a friend of mine passed away in a drunk driving accident in November 2013, 1 week before her 23rd birthday. It was especially awful as one of her older sisters had also passed away almost exactly a year before. Well the man driving the car was charged & convicted of intoxication manslaughter and intoxication assault as well bc another person in the car suffered permanent brain damage. His sentencing was yesterday. He got the minimum sentence for the manslaughter (2 years) and will be eligible for parole after 1. Her family & my sister (who was much closer to her than I was) are all upset and I know there's nothing I can say to help. It's just frustrating bc the defense painted the girl as a "party girl" and that somehow negated the fact that he was the one driving and that it wasn't his first dwi incident.
Ugh. The worst goddamned kind of victim blaming. It doesn't matter whether she was a "party girl" (whatever the fuck that means), Mother Theresa, or, like most of us, somewhere in between. Her life had value, and he took it away. And he was a repeat offender driving drunk. He should be in jail for YEARS.
Horrible result. My heart goes out to the victims' families and your sister. Just horrible.
My favorite bat story is when I was 12 my younger sister went on a Broadway tour for a year and my mom went with her, and my dad stayed home with my younger brother and me. My mom left lists upon lists of everything to do in case of such and such emergency, schedules, everything. Two days after my mom and sister leave, my dad calls me into their bathroom because there is something in the shower and he can't see what it is. I get down on my hands and knees and stare into the face of a bat. I tell my dad I think its a bat and the amount of expletives that came out of his mouth was impressive (my parents never cursed in front of me). That, of course, was not on my mom's list.
Haha if this had been me and my dad, he would've spent the next few hours chasing me around bc I grabbed the bat and would have been trying to make it our new pet.
Oh, bc of ADD and Pregnancy Brian, I forgot about the pic of my squirrel pet. He liked to play in my hair. I had a few pictures of him inside my house, chilling in his nest I made him, but those are on my dead computer.
Sometimes I read the Randoms and look at who wrote the comments after. I read this and said in my head this has to be kaeguri. Lol
ETA thought this before I saw the photos obviously.
It is so hot in this doctors office. It is so hot outside. It needs to stop being hot. I can't handle it.
Also, baby's movements have been nonexistent so far today. I ate a uncrustables pb&j because I'm 5 and the sugar in it and nothing an hour later. But I'm not back on the nst yet so there's that. Dh got my hospital bag out of the garage finally but it's not packed yet and my friend that is watching my kids in the event of operation baby is 3 hours away today. So naturally he's probably going to fail the nst.
tmclawchick Ugh. That sucks so hard. I'm sorry your son is having to deal with this . . . IN PRESCHOOL!
I think it might be time to have a conversation with him, on a level he can understand, about boundaries. I wouldn't tell him not to hang out with Jim because, obviously, he continues to be drawn to him for some reason. But I would talk to him about how friends are supposed to treat each other and how it makes him feel when Jim is mean to him. Emphasize that friends treat each other with kindness and respect, and if Jim is hurting his feelings, maybe he's not being a good friend. I'd also work on some age-appropriate practice responses if Jim is mean to him -- "It hurt my feelings when you did [X]." "I don't think you're treating me like a friend right now." And if Jim persists in being mean, encourage him to simply remove himself from the situation and play with someone or something else.
I feel like this is the kind of issue I didn't deal with until middle school, but it's never too early to learn that toxic friends aren't friends at all. Hope you're able to have a good talk with your son, and hope he learns to protect himself from this kind of thing.
Just used our Amazon completion discount coupon (second kid so I made a private one just for me to get the discount). Holy cow that was a lot of money! On the other hand I now feel like we might be mildly prepared if this baby decides to make an early appearance. I have pretty much everything I need except I want to get a ring sling. I feel much better now -- and also a little bit like I've ensured that I will go really late.
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