Post by stephanie012 on Jul 22, 2015 14:56:47 GMT -5
incir you made some good points, I may have inadvertently been offending him without even realizing it. I will definitely talk to him later and see if perhaps some of his reluctance was coming from and inability to help/bond with the baby. Thanks for the links:) skinandbones that's part of the issue. Most of the people we know with kids used formula. However, a lot of them were doing so due to supply issues (which he wasn't aware of). runningmommy519 that's a good idea, I have a pump coming some time this week. Maybe that will help solve the problem. Eta:nimfalen hoping you continue to do ok. Sending positive thoughts your way!
nimfalen FX that whatever is best for baby happens! I have BP issues with recurrent spikes with headaches and swelling, but labs have always been good. Ive been sent to l/d multiple times for testing. At my 37 week check yesterday, my BP was absolutely perfect for the first time in weeks. But my OB said if it spikes again she is going to induce, and not even bother with labs. I bout had a panic attack, lol. Stupid BP issues!
I was feeling down this morning when I realized that with a little more than 3 weeks to go I've officially gained more weight than I had when DD was born. So I had a healthy breakfast and did my prenatal pilates and yoga. Then I proceeded to have a huge spread of salami, gruyere, and brie for lunch followed by stale cake and an ice cream sundae. I vacillate daily from "I have almost a month left! I need to be healthy!" to "It's only a month, I should just give up and eat whatever I want." Clearly the latter thought process won for the day. Now I have a stomach ache and am more swollen than I've been all pregnancy (likely from my super salty lunch). Blah.
Post by bibliothecary on Jul 22, 2015 15:10:04 GMT -5
HEY, INSURANCE COMPANY. I understand that you also insure the dude who caused the bloody accident, but that doesn't mean the accident was "no fault". He took a left. Across my lane. Right in front of me. I couldn't avoid him. So please stop this idiocy of applying my deductible to the damage and GIVE ME THE DAMN MONEY TO FIX THE CAR. I will not be cashing your $26 check. You can DIAF.
tmclawchick that's a tough situation. First off, I would be proud of your DS for trying so hard to make a positive impact on Jim. Yea, he will need to learn not to take it to heart when those efforts fail - that is also an important lesson. I personally wouldn't back pedal on the "try to get along with everyone" strategy. Schools really push that, and will only reinforce what you are teaching him at home in K next year. Good job on raising a compassionate little man! Really, I think it's awesome.
I agree with what others said about practicing communicating his feelings to Jim. I would approach it as he is teaching Jim to be a better friend by telling him that he is hurting DS's feelings. That by doing this he is helping Jim.
Also, I agree with supporting other positive friendships via play dates, etc. That way, he can still try to "help" Jim by modeling a positive friendship, but also experience the rewards of other more healthy friendships. I think that would help distract from the disappointment he's feeling about Jim not reciprocating his efforts. That's probably why he is so drawn to him, he just wants to be liked by him and is frustrated.
Good luck, you are doing great! Just remember, deep breaths and keep being the better role model. Jim is a temporary problem, but DS is learning to weather failure and model good friendship even when it's tough. Both very hard lessons to learn, and sooo important.
This is a good perspective. I think I sort of instinctively came at this as "how do you teach your child to protect himself?" but I think it's also important to remember that Jim is just a kid too, and maybe a kid that was dealt a bad hand in life. He deserves compassion here too.
If you're planning to bf, Baby Ddrops were the BEST vitamin d suppliment. You just put one drop on your boob once a day right before a nursing session, and wallah, vitamin is all taken care of.
Plus the D-vi-sol made dd so so gassy and fussy.
The Ddrops were prescribed to me before I even left the hospital. Super easy to administer.
Post by gingerygirl on Jul 22, 2015 15:27:19 GMT -5
Well, we just got the message from my grandma that my little brother made it to the Salt Lake airport safe and sound. I can't believe I'm not going to see him for two whole years, but I am so stinkin proud of that kid for his decision to serve a mission for our church!
I had an internal today ( 1 cm YAY for progress) and she had some bright red blood on the glove - no big. I have had plenty of internal exams but I have never spotted afterwards (not with DS1, never with yearly checks, etc).
Anyways went to hospital to pre-register (peed there - no blood or anything) and when I got home just now I peed and when I wiped I had a lot of brownish discharge. No red blood.
So spotting from internal or part of MP? Last pregnancy I lost my plug pretty much all at once so now I'm unsure but I thought spotting would be bright red blood?
Normally it wouldn't matter but of course I'm in a constant state of compare (even though I know every pregnancy is different) because I was dilated to a 1 my last appointment before going into labor with DS1 so I'm being optimistic. If I started to lose my plug too - more optimism.
My professor isn't coming to class today... so I guess his TA is going to lecture instead? Her accent is a bit difficult to understand. And she apparently finds it important to tell us her life story before she starts the lecture. Please stop, girl.
I had an internal today ( 1 cm YAY for progress) and she had some bright red blood on the glove - no big. I have had plenty of internal exams but I have never spotted afterwards (not with DS1, never with yearly checks, etc).
Anyways went to hospital to pre-register (peed there - no blood or anything) and when I got home just now I peed and when I wiped I had a lot of brownish discharge. No red blood.
So spotting from internal or part of MP? Last pregnancy I lost my plug pretty much all at once so now I'm unsure but I thought spotting would be bright red blood?
Normally it wouldn't matter but of course I'm in a constant state of compare (even though I know every pregnancy is different) because I was dilated to a 1 my last appointment before going into labor with DS1 so I'm being optimistic. If I started to lose my plug too - more optimism.
Pending labor is such a mind fuck!
I would say spotting, but I also never noticed losing my MP last time so I have no experience with that. With DD, I had brown spotting for 2-3 days after every cervical check. It was more than I expected and kind of freaked me out but apparently was normal. I have to admit, all this talk of losing the MP has made me obsessed with identifying it this time. I feel like I missed out on something although from the descriptions I've heard I'll probably regret it if I do see it.
Post by runningmommy519 on Jul 22, 2015 15:36:49 GMT -5
Ethan's blood sugar continues to drop whenever they lower his IV. I want this IV out. they are keeping it in for 1-2 more days then they will try to lower it again. If drops then we'll need to do more tests. T&P it's just taking longer because he's so tiny.
bibliothecary why are you still having to deal with this! Lame.
Fucking sucks. I'm not asking for anything crazy. Just give me the money to fix the car, pay for the hospital bills, and my lost day of work. That's it. But they're dicking me around. I'm keeping copies of everything I send to them. I anticipate needing to contact a lawyer.
bibliothecary why are you still having to deal with this! Lame.
Fucking sucks. I'm not asking for anything crazy. Just give me the money to fix the car, pay for the hospital bills, and my lost day of work. That's it. But they're dicking me around. I'm keeping copies of everything I send to them. I anticipate needing to contact a lawyer.
Wait what insurance do you have? I need to make sure we don't have them too since they sound like such PEACHES!
The level of sasshole I would be in your situation at this point is not pretty. FX it gets resolved quickly!
I had an internal today ( 1 cm YAY for progress) and she had some bright red blood on the glove - no big. I have had plenty of internal exams but I have never spotted afterwards (not with DS1, never with yearly checks, etc).
Anyways went to hospital to pre-register (peed there - no blood or anything) and when I got home just now I peed and when I wiped I had a lot of brownish discharge. No red blood.
So spotting from internal or part of MP? Last pregnancy I lost my plug pretty much all at once so now I'm unsure but I thought spotting would be bright red blood?
Normally it wouldn't matter but of course I'm in a constant state of compare (even though I know every pregnancy is different) because I was dilated to a 1 my last appointment before going into labor with DS1 so I'm being optimistic. If I started to lose my plug too - more optimism.
Pending labor is such a mind fuck!
I would say spotting, but I also never noticed losing my MP last time so I have no experience with that. With DD, I had brown spotting for 2-3 days after every cervical check. It was more than I expected and kind of freaked me out but apparently was normal. I have to admit, all this talk of losing the MP has made me obsessed with identifying it this time. I feel like I missed out on something although from the descriptions I've heard I'll probably regret it if I do see it.
lol the MP definitely isn't pleasant looking - for me, I went into labor the same day I lost it which is probably why I keep looking for it.
Fucking sucks. I'm not asking for anything crazy. Just give me the money to fix the car, pay for the hospital bills, and my lost day of work. That's it. But they're dicking me around. I'm keeping copies of everything I send to them. I anticipate needing to contact a lawyer.
Wait what insurance do you have? I need to make sure we don't have them too since they sound like such PEACHES!
The level of sasshole I would be in your situation at this point is not pretty. FX it gets resolved quickly!
I've never been happier to have the older version of the Ikea Hemnes bed. Those rails (that's not the right word but I can't think of the right word bc pregnancy brain) at the top make it SO MUCH EASIER to get out of bed in the middle of the night to pee. I use them to hoist myself up. It's awesome. Thank you, Ikea!
Picture for reference, this pic is almost 2 years old. We now have curtains
It's funny I just rearranged furniture and moved an oak bureau next to my bedside for baby stuff, it replaced a puny night stand and it is handy for getting out if bed.
Post by bcmomsaysso on Jul 22, 2015 16:01:10 GMT -5
Question while on the sex and periods topics... breast feeding and birth control? Last time, I got an IUD so it wasn't really an issue. I don't want to go that route again with another IUD. So, I was reading about choices and it seems they are limited for bf moms? Basically, depo shot, something called the mini-pill, IUD, or condoms? Any thoughts on this? What have other btdt moms used for bc while breast feeding?
Ok ladies I am having a bit of a dilemma and could use some advice. Sorry in advance for the length. I have been back and forth about breastfeeding for weeks (for various reasons). I told H yesterday that I think I want to give it a try, at least initially, to see how it goes. If it doesn't work, I can always switch to formula, but not the other way around. His response was 'it is 2015, in this day and age I don't get why you need to breastfeed, they make formula that's just as good.' He also basically said he doesn't think I should bf at all and wants no part of it; he apparently thinks it's weird. I am absolutely shocked by his attitude towards all of this and a bit upset. I feel like I'm definitely going to need support and encouragement in order to be successful and I just don't think I'll get it from him. I tried explaining all the benefits of bf'ing to him, but he didn't really want to hear it. His mom didn't bf, his sister didn't bf our nephews, so he has it in his head that there's no difference and thinks it's unnecessary. Any suggestions on how I can talk to him to get him to come around? Our convo last night ended with me crying out of frustration and being super confused about what I should do.
I'm a little behind on the randoms but wanted to put in my $0.02 on top of all the great advice you've already been given.
The care here in England is all midwife, and they're a bit relentless about trying to get women to breastfeed if they're able to. They have a whole movement called "Every Drop Matters", basically teaching people that even one day of breastfeeding is better than zero. I've had tons of pamphlets on it -- maybe you could find something like that to give to your H? Mammals would probably have evolved beyond producing milk if it was unnecessary or "weird". Isn't formula just cows' milk that has been processed and had all the vitamins added to it? Is it really less weird to feed a baby milk from a cow instead of milk from a human?
But at the end of the day, I don't think he should have a say. While it would obviously be 10 times better and easier with his support, you get to choose how you feed your child. I say go with your instincts. If you feel you want to try it out, then you should, and if he's going to be a dick about it, just let him -- I can't see him continually laying on the guilt once you've started as, let's face it, you're providing sustenance for your child, just like you have been for the last 9 months. I hope I'm not over-estimating him, though! I might sound a tad aggressive about it but that really rubbed me the wrong way. It'd be on par with him being against you trying out formula because you have issues with breastfeeding, and demanding you be in pain or what have you just to continue trying something that's not your style. I hope he gets a clue, and you're not stressing over it too much!
Post by runningmommy519 on Jul 22, 2015 16:31:23 GMT -5
I'm so frustrated. MIL called and wanted to visit and help with DS1. She said she was leaving at 2:30 pm which would put her here at 315. She showed up 45 minutes late which means I lied to DS1 when I told him I'd go to therapy with him. MIL wanted to see Ethan and given I wasn't planning on coming back after therapy until 8 I had to stay because one parent needs to be with Ethan when there is a visitor. I can't drive so..... I couldn't go. It threw a fit and rightfully so. Now I'm trying not to cry because I feel like he thinks he's been replaced and I let him down.
Question while on the sex and periods topics... breast feeding and birth control? Last time, I got an IUD so it wasn't really an issue. I don't want to go that route again with another IUD. So, I was reading about choices and it seems they are limited for bf moms? Basically, depo shot, something called the mini-pill, IUD, or condoms? Any thoughts on this? What have other btdt moms used for bc while breast feeding?
Anything that is progesterone only is recommended while bf'ing. I did the Nexplanon implant in my arm with DD and had no issues with supply. Most docs recommend starting out on the mini-pill to make sure it doesn't affect your supply first before going for something else, but the mini-pill, you ABSOLUTELY have to take it at the same time every day, because it affects its efficacy. I didn't trust myself to take a pill every single day, so I opted for the implant which I didn't have to think about and it worked well.
Question while on the sex and periods topics... breast feeding and birth control? Last time, I got an IUD so it wasn't really an issue. I don't want to go that route again with another IUD. So, I was reading about choices and it seems they are limited for bf moms? Basically, depo shot, something called the mini-pill, IUD, or condoms? Any thoughts on this? What have other btdt moms used for bc while breast feeding?
Anything that is progesterone only is recommended while bf'ing. I did the Nexplanon implant in my arm with DD and had no issues with supply. Most docs recommend starting out on the mini-pill to make sure it doesn't affect your supply first before going for something else, but the mini-pill, you ABSOLUTELY have to take it at the same time every day, because it affects its efficacy. I didn't trust myself to take a pill every single day, so I opted for the implant which I didn't have to think about and it worked well.
My friend got pregnant on the mini. So I'm nervous to use that.
I'm so frustrated. MIL called and wanted to visit and help with DS1. She said she was leaving at 2:30 pm which would put her here at 315. She showed up 45 minutes late which means I lied to DS1 when I told him I'd go to therapy with him. MIL wanted to see Ethan and given I wasn't planning on coming back after therapy until 8 I had to stay because one parent needs to be with Ethan when there is a visitor. I can't drive so..... I couldn't go. It threw a fit and rightfully so. Now I'm trying not to cry because I feel like he thinks he's been replaced and I let him down.
I am so sorry. Can you have a talk with your MIL about this? She needs to understand how important it is for you to give DS1 attention, too, right now, and obviously she doesn't seem to care.
Post by elizabethnevadap on Jul 22, 2015 16:52:55 GMT -5
Went to my weekly OB appointment, and no cervical check. I'm impatient by nature, so I was hoping to see If there was any progress. Apparently he only did one last week because he was already there doing the strep test. Next week (38 weeks) he starts them weekly. It's not like the weeks don't fly by though!
Post by flippinchica on Jul 22, 2015 16:53:56 GMT -5
I think we will use condoms only while I'm breastfeeding. H's work friends are throwing us a small shower tomorrow. I think I'm just going to wear the same dress as my family shower. Is that weird?
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