I feel like the worst mother and I feel like I have no business having another baby some days. I fail with my DD it seems daily and I keep asking myself why I thought I deserved another child when I am not even good enough for her. I am so frustrated all the time and I don't have enough patience with her. I don't play with her like I wish I could and I lose my temper when I should be able to keep my cool.
I sometimes wonder if the reason I've had so many issues with this pregnancy is because I don't deserve the baby or I'm being punished for not being the best mom for DD. Logically I know that's not how God works but sometimes feelings aren't logical.
I'm not saying I regret her in any way or that I don't want her (or this baby), I just think she deserves better than me.
I'm sorry I'm being such a downer. I just needed to get that all off my chest.
Sometimes parenting can be overwhelming. But just remember you're doing the best you can, and no matter what you are enough.
If you get to over whelmed go in your room take a break and come back. Breathe in and out.. you got this!
Oh and I randomly woke up to my dog puking this morning. That's the second time in a month. It's not like he ate something weird either; he just yaks up bile/foamy stuff. When do I become rightfully concerned?
I feel like the worst mother and I feel like I have no business having another baby some days. I fail with my DD it seems daily and I keep asking myself why I thought I deserved another child when I am not even good enough for her. I am so frustrated all the time and I don't have enough patience with her. I don't play with her like I wish I could and I lose my temper when I should be able to keep my cool.
I sometimes wonder if the reason I've had so many issues with this pregnancy is because I don't deserve the baby or I'm being punished for not being the best mom for DD. Logically I know that's not how God works but sometimes feelings aren't logical.
I'm not saying I regret her in any way or that I don't want her (or this baby), I just think she deserves better than me.
I'm sorry I'm being such a downer. I just needed to get that all off my chest.
So sorry you are feeling this way, beeorange ! I think we all have these moments. Don't ever doubt yourself as a parent or think you do not deserve the children. Sometimes I have to step away from my DD because I know that my fuse has become shorter and shorter with her. When this happens, I am frustrated, lose patience, and don't play with her like I should either...just like you. I think it is because I just need a moment to myself to regroup. You ARE and WILL be a great mother to BOTH your babies. Be kind to yourself, Momma!
Out of habit, I went to the evil place and responded to ridiculousness before realizing that the 24 hours was still going.
I know I shouldn't have replied to her, but I was just so sick of missriss filling new people who don't seem trolly with misconceptions based on her flip flopping...Ugh, whatever. I will stay off until noon now.
I feel like the worst mother and I feel like I have no business having another baby some days. I fail with my DD it seems daily and I keep asking myself why I thought I deserved another child when I am not even good enough for her. I am so frustrated all the time and I don't have enough patience with her. I don't play with her like I wish I could and I lose my temper when I should be able to keep my cool.
I sometimes wonder if the reason I've had so many issues with this pregnancy is because I don't deserve the baby or I'm being punished for not being the best mom for DD. Logically I know that's not how God works but sometimes feelings aren't logical.
I'm not saying I regret her in any way or that I don't want her (or this baby), I just think she deserves better than me.
I'm sorry I'm being such a downer. I just needed to get that all off my chest.
Oh honey, big hugs. None of us gets the mom thing right all the time. Yesterday, my son looked at me with a tear in his eye and said stop shouting at me. I didn't even know he knew the word about, but he sure used it appropriately. You are not being punished.
Oh and I randomly woke up to my dog puking this morning. That's the second time in a month. It's not like he ate something weird either; he just yaks up bile/foamy stuff. When do I become rightfully concerned?
I def would be. I mean its not a lot of occurrences, but if he didn't eat anything weird then that shouldn't be happening.
Oh and I randomly woke up to my dog puking this morning. That's the second time in a month. It's not like he ate something weird either; he just yaks up bile/foamy stuff. When do I become rightfully concerned?
I def would be. I mean its not a lot of occurrences, but if he didn't eat anything weird then that shouldn't be happening.
viola My dog has the same problem, has had it for years. She would puke in the morning, during the day and at night sometimes. The vet said its basically reflux, they are puking because there is nothing in their stomachs except bile. Our solution was to feed her smaller meals several times a day instead of twice a day so there is always something in her stomach. It's worked like a charm so far!
Huge hugs beeorange I have similar feelings... The feelings intensify for me when running on little to no sleep with a trying toddler--I just try to cuddle her extra and tell her I love her even more to make up for when I'm upset she won't sleep or is having a ridiculous meltdown...
DS got into it preschool and will start in a few weeks so we are taking him on a tour this morning. I am nervous as heck and fearful that we are pushing him too hard too soon but he does seem very ready for a bit more structure. I was pushed really hard academically from a super young age and I thrived with that, but all kids are different and I don't want DS to feel pressured.
UGH STUCK IN BOX..
You can request a half trial day in some daycare to test it out. That helps to see if he is ready or not.
Post by Starbuck128 on Jan 15, 2015 8:59:37 GMT -5
viola Same as JustinBobby My dog will wake us up, right before we wake up, with her vomiting. You should probably get an official diagnosis just to be safe, but it may be nothing if he's only vomiting once at a time and it's bile. Our vet says our dog does it because of early morning reflux too. That's why it happens right before breakfast.
I feel like the worst mother and I feel like I have no business having another baby some days. I fail with my DD it seems daily and I keep asking myself why I thought I deserved another child when I am not even good enough for her. I am so frustrated all the time and I don't have enough patience with her. I don't play with her like I wish I could and I lose my temper when I should be able to keep my cool.
I sometimes wonder if the reason I've had so many issues with this pregnancy is because I don't deserve the baby or I'm being punished for not being the best mom for DD. Logically I know that's not how God works but sometimes feelings aren't logical.
I'm not saying I regret her in any way or that I don't want her (or this baby), I just think she deserves better than me.
I'm sorry I'm being such a downer. I just needed to get that all off my chest.
Chin up, hon. It's tough being a mother and I think it's pretty normal to have these feelings. Rest assured that you aren't having these issues with the pregnancy because you don't deserve this baby because YOU DO! No one is punishing you.
I think it's normal for parents to sometimes feel like they are failing their children and I think we're harder on ourselves than we should be a lot of the time. Sometimes we lose our temper and that's normal. You recognize when you do and that's a good thing because you can make changes in your behavior when you can reflect on yourself. We all need improvements and people would be lying if they said they didn't because no one is perfect.
I'm so sorry that you have these feelings and I wish there was something more that I could do or say to make you feel better.
I feel like the worst mother and I feel like I have no business having another baby some days. I fail with my DD it seems daily and I keep asking myself why I thought I deserved another child when I am not even good enough for her. I am so frustrated all the time and I don't have enough patience with her. I don't play with her like I wish I could and I lose my temper when I should be able to keep my cool.
I sometimes wonder if the reason I've had so many issues with this pregnancy is because I don't deserve the baby or I'm being punished for not being the best mom for DD. Logically I know that's not how God works but sometimes feelings aren't logical.
I'm not saying I regret her in any way or that I don't want her (or this baby), I just think she deserves better than me.
I'm sorry I'm being such a downer. I just needed to get that all off my chest.
I am so sorry you are feeling this way. Don't be so hard on yourself. Sending you some creepy internet <<hugs>>!
viola Same as JustinBobby My dog will wake us up, right before we wake up, with her vomiting. You should probably get an official diagnosis just to be safe, but it may be nothing if he's only vomiting once at a time and it's bile. Our vet says our dog does it because of early morning reflux too. That's why it happens right before breakfast.
violaStarbuck128 same with my dog. I added a little more food to her night feeding (1/4 cup) and she has stopped. I started giving her a small treat fora few days before I added more food just so she could get used to it.
beeorange we're never as bad as we think we are. You're doing a way better job than you think, I'm sure!
My random - my DD has been telling me when she poops. So I bought her a potty last week to start showing her where to poop without the idea that she will use it yet since I could see her flinging the damn thing everywhere. This morning she kept saying "poo" and pointing to her butt. I took her diaper off to change her but there was only a little in there and she was squirming since she still had to go. She was flailing so much and would not let me put a diaper back on. I ran her over to the potty and told her to poo and it worked!!!! I wonder of it's a fluke though ?
Oh shit, 12 PM?! Haha Oops I posted on another board, I was awake at 5am and twitter was dead so I posted a few responses.
Random: my dog's snoring is OOC and I know this is going to be an issue when baby is in here. He's such a clingy little old pup I feel bad giving him the boot, plus if we do put him in another room he'll be guaranteed to pee or something bc he's a spiteful little SOB.
beeorange - big ol creepy internet hug. Mama, you're allowed to have days like this sometimes. But you just remember you're a great mama and no one is perfect. You can do this
Not random but whine: my friend who was going to watch DD today for my MFM appt texted me at 10last night with a sick 17mo old So I found a replacement last minute, another friend with three girls, two in preschool still and she said that would be great, etc. As I'm leaving work I get a text (just after midnight) that her middle kid has high fever and sore throat. So now my H has to take a 2.5 hour lunch then stay late at work tonight. Ugh.
Anyone else get a message on TB from the BBC overlord?
Hey,
We met briefly on that BBC attack thread (glorious overlord here). Been lurking & saw all the commotion with the new TOS. Just letting you know, if you guys haven't found a private place to post, on BBC you can create private groups that are invite only. That way you don't get the influx of newbs & what not. I know you guys aren't fans of BBC, but letting you know it's an option.
If this is already taken care of, disregard. Just trying to help! If this is something you might consider, I'll hook you up with my SN over there & can help you set up a private group.
viola Same as JustinBobby My dog will wake us up, right before we wake up, with her vomiting. You should probably get an official diagnosis just to be safe, but it may be nothing if he's only vomiting once at a time and it's bile. Our vet says our dog does it because of early morning reflux too. That's why it happens right before breakfast.
Same here. We started giving a treat right before bed too and that helped.
I don't want to give my business to TB any more. I don't care about the new guidelines or even of they messed with TOU... But the mass ban and other shenanigans--no. We need to let them have the board of dumb, butthurt troll newbs that they wanted.
Oh and I randomly woke up to my dog puking this morning. That's the second time in a month. It's not like he ate something weird either; he just yaks up bile/foamy stuff. When do I become rightfully concerned?
No, some dogs just overproduce stomach bile. Mine is TERRIBLE about it. I just have to feed him immediately before bed and immediately in the morning. He kind of goes in waves, he'll be okay for a couple weeks, and then he'll puke three days in a row. It's gross.
Anyone else get a message on TB from the BBC overlord?
Hey,
We met briefly on that BBC attack thread (glorious overlord here). Been lurking & saw all the commotion with the new TOS. Just letting you know, if you guys haven't found a private place to post, on BBC you can create private groups that are invite only. That way you don't get the influx of newbs & what not. I know you guys aren't fans of BBC, but letting you know it's an option.
If this is already taken care of, disregard. Just trying to help! If this is something you might consider, I'll hook you up with my SN over there & can help you set up a private group.
Wishing you all the best weathering the chaos!
The worst part about this is people still think it's about the TOU. And NO I do not want to go to BBC thankyouverymuch.
@blackpearl08 Goodluck with the tour today. As a FTM I have no advice to give but just for you to take it one day at a time. You will know if he is happy
((Huge hugs)) beeorange I've had those moments before and they are so tough. You are a wonderful mother, and you are going to continue to be a wonderful mother to this baby.
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