I have almost 5 weeks of vacation at work. I'm trying to save it for when #2 is born (#2 is not even real yet) because I have no option of paid time off. I tended to be a vacation hoarder even before kids though too. How do you manage your vacation time?
****loss and living child discussed***** We're queer. I'm 34, have severe stage 4 endo, and both fallopian tubes are gone. My love ("Manada" 33) was diagnosed with diminished ovarian reserve. We did Partner IVF (my eggs, her uterus). We lost our twins Tav.in and Ca.sey at 21 weeks gestation.
I have almost 5 weeks of vacation at work. I'm trying to save it for when #2 is born (#2 is not even real yet) because I have no option of paid time off. I tended to be a vacation hoarder even before kids though too. How do you manage your vacation time?
Not very well, though I'm getting better at it. We get 4 weeks, but what builds for me is comp time (we don't get paid overtime) so whenever I'm facilitating groups I rack it up like mad. Using it is difficult because there's a lot of work left on the table when I get back. It's a good problem to have though, and it's working out well with taking some mornings off for RE appointments.
kona - I have 4 weeks of vacation time per year, but I can also roll over up to 1 week from the previous year if unused, which I always do. So I always have 5 weeks. I also hoard my time for maternity leaves. My company offers 2 weeks of paid maternity, then you use your 1 week of paid sick time, then you use your vacation time. So in total I would be able to take 8 weeks off at full pay; however, then I would be left with no paid time off for the rest of the year (our time-off resets in January). Since I am due in January this time, I plan to take 7 weeks at full pay, and then return to work as long as I am able to (beyond that I would have to take time without pay, which we cannot afford for me to do since mine is our only income currently). That would leave me with 1 week to use for the remainder of the year for 2016. That's my current plan.
Pre-kids and pre-maternity leave planning, I typically hoarded my vacation days until the second half of the year. I like to take a bunch of time off around the holidays, in addition to a vacation in the late summer.
I am a crazy planner, so I always print out a yearly calendar in January and I mark down my planned PTO in different colors and see how many days I will have to "play with" that I don't have a plan for yet.
This year, since I can only roll over 5 vaca days for my maternity leave in 2016, I have three vaca days and three sick days left that I don't have a plan for yet, and I am hoarding them until third trimester in case I need them.
Post by wittyandwaiting on Jul 30, 2015 8:19:41 GMT -5
kona,I am a total vacation time hoarder. I save it all for the last possible moment and find ways to stretch it out as much as possible. C and I usually sit down together and plan out our time for the upcoming year in advance but I always hoard time to give me a ton of time off over the summer.
We do get about a year of maternity/parental leave here (sorry) so I don't have to worry about saving for that because my company doesn't allow you to take your vacation and personal time adjacent to mat/pat leave.
So yesterday I took R to the park and we after being there 15 min we had to leave or I would have peed my pants! This is no exaggeration since I've done it 6 times already. I felt bad we had to leave. This morning we were there about 20 min before R popped through his shorts. I had no change of clothes on me. Grrrr. Since we were the only ones there I let him run around in his diaper. It's so hot out I bet it felt good.
Re: vacation time. I'm self employed which you would think means I take a lot of time off. It's the opposite. I take about 1 weeks vacation a year and then a few random days here and there. I'm bad about giving myself a break. My wife has sick time left and I told her to save it and not take it as paid leave. With 2 kids coming I want her to have time off if there's ever a day when one is sick or I'm sick I need an extra set of hands/boobs around.
Post by wittyandwaiting on Jul 30, 2015 8:24:58 GMT -5
It's not even 9:30 in the morning and I am already eyeing my lunch....and I had breakfast. I want to eat all the things today. I have a totally yummy lunch today.
Lately my whole existence revolves around when I can eat and how much. Pregnancy reminds me of when I'm training for a road race; eat, sleep, drink, repeat.
So a woman on my BMB just posted that she showed up to the hospital 8cm dilated and didn't even know she was in labor. She gave birth and went home by 4pm. For the love of all that is holy in those world, PLEASE let this be me!! Seriously. I would have thought she was lying if my own wife wasn't still working when she was 5cm dilated.
Wow! That is amazing! I kind of hope that is me this time around too!
Although, I don't plan to go home same day. That kind of scares me. I will gladly stay at least one night. It would be lovely if we could avoid the NICU this time though, and both be discharged together (and avoid 2 day pp me sleeping in a chair in the NICU family room and using a public restroom for everything - ugh!). When I think about it, I think my birth/recovery/hospital experience can really only get better than last time, right?!?!
I just ate my lunch. It is 11am. I will be chewing off my arm by 3.
I get 4 weeks of vacation/year and can't accumulate any more than that (per this new stupid policy.) We used to be able to accumulate up to 9 weeks - I regularly hover around 5 weeks accrued and liked the buffer of the time in case I needed it for an emergency.
In 3 years, I will get another week of vacation.
I finally am working on a project for work that I have been putting off for weeks. It feels good to actually do it vs have it hanging over my head.
kona, When I was an employee I hoarded vacation hours too. It worked out when I quit and had weeks worth of vacation pay they had to give me.
healz413, that 30 minutes must be the worst! Knowing I'm not allowed to eat would just make me more hungry.
karlamo, I'm self employed too and feel your pain when it comes to vacations. I don't even take a full day off during the week so getting me to actually unplug for a vacation is rare.
I can't buy ice cream for a while. I ate a whole rocky road container in about 3 days. I was doing really well with the clean eating, but I crave sugar a few days after AF ends without fail every month.
Me: 31 Wife: 30. Legally married 2008, thanks CA! TTC #1 since 11/14 using donor sperm. IUIs Jan-Aug 2015 BFN Sept & OCT 2015 added Femara. BFN Saw RE December 2015. IUI with Clomid & Trigger Jan 2016 BFN IUI #13 with Follistim April 2016 BFFN IVF #1 July 2016. 14R, 10F, 6 Day 5 embryos. 4 PGS normal embabies!
****loss and living child discussed***** We're queer. I'm 34, have severe stage 4 endo, and both fallopian tubes are gone. My love ("Manada" 33) was diagnosed with diminished ovarian reserve. We did Partner IVF (my eggs, her uterus). We lost our twins Tav.in and Ca.sey at 21 weeks gestation.
I spend every single minute of my vacation time, kona, and think of minor appendages I could have removed to acquire more time off. And applied for FMLA intermittent to care for J when his asthma flares. I tend to book it all at the end of the year and cancel/use it earlier when the need arises. Sometimes I use partial days to cut out and sleep. After 17 years I have quite a bit of time to use, but manage to use every drop of time. Years ago I used to roll over time, but not these days
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This IS pretty random, but after many many years it seems Ive acquired a girlfriend situation. still very set in my single mom ways, but at some point in the future... it seems like we might be managing a small tribe, as she has 3 kids of her own. Anyone whose got advice on dating/singleness/multiple kids...feel free to chime in.
I have zero advice on this topic, but YAY!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
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