FFFC 7/31

[hurricanerek]

Most of DD's snacks are consumed in the living room out of a snack catcher/the floor.

[Lola]

Jul 31, 2015 8:51:18 GMT -5 @iheartmyshiba said:

Comicon is at the convention center like right by my house. I've never been and am only a fan of stuff like the Batman movies, etc. I kinda wanna go just to see what it's like. Hubs thinks I'm nuts.

Oticon (I think?) was just in Baltimore this past weekend. We went downtown for a date and it was the BEST people watching!!  

Go sit outside and look for the crazy costumes!

[jnnfrrose6]

Dragoncon here over Labor Day weekend does a parade. You don't even have to make much of an effort to people watch since they're marching down the street on purpose for you!

FFFC I'm letting DC take care of potty training DS. Yes, I support what they're doing (obviously), but they can take the lead on getting him regularly on the potty. I'm way more lax about it at home.

[Liv]

silly me hoping that tonight's full and blue moon starts something labor-wise...

flame away.

(did you know that a blue moon means two full moons in one month, and it only comes around every 2.7 years??)

[lea]

Sometimes I worry about how DH would handle the kids' affairs if something happened to me. Like would he remember to make doctor/dentist appointments, keep up with their school activities, remember to buy birthday presents for their friends? He's a fantastic father but all that stuff I pretty much take care of. He says he doesn't see himself marrying again if I died but in my head I'm always like, for the love of God please find them a loving stepmother who will be on top of all of the shit that slips your mind. I know my mom would be a huge help but she won't be around forever and if he moved near his parents I don't see them being all that helpful.

[liziz]

Jul 31, 2015 9:52:30 GMT -5 Liv said:

silly me hoping that tonight's full and blue moon starts something labor-wise...

flame away.

(did you know that a blue moon means two full moons in one month, and it only comes around every 2.7 years??)

Zero flames from me. Thankfully I got induced first, but I was holding out hope that I'd have my baby no later than July 12th (last July's supermoon). My due date was the 1st, so that was my last resort!

[honeybee434]

All of these news stories about missing kids, kids getting hurt, etc get to me way more than they should. DH tells me I need to stop reading things. It's so hard when you imagine it being your own child.

[Liv]

I've thought the same thing lea. I don't think he's ever even started a load of laundry without me asking him to...

[lea]

Jul 31, 2015 10:10:42 GMT -5 honeybee434 said:

All of these news stories about missing kids, kids getting hurt, etc get to me way more than they should. DH tells me I need to stop reading things. It's so hard when you imagine it being your own child.

I continually need to stay off social media because all the stories make my anxiety go through the roof.

[soon2bmrsn]

Jul 31, 2015 10:05:14 GMT -5 lea said:

Sometimes I worry about how DH would handle the kids' affairs if something happened to me. Like would he remember to make doctor/dentist appointments, keep up with their school activities, remember to buy birthday presents for their friends? He's a fantastic father but all that stuff I pretty much take care of. He says he doesn't see himself marrying again if I died but in my head I'm always like, for the love of God please find them a loving stepmother who will be on top of all of the shit that slips your mind. I know my mom would be a huge help but she won't be around forever and if he moved near his parents I don't see them being all that helpful.

Same. He works so much. I 100% guarantee he'd make his mom move in.

[isolemnlyswear]

Jul 31, 2015 10:40:36 GMT -5 @iheartmyshiba said:

+1 for the worrying about M if I die. I'm more worried about us both dying. We can't agree on who should take her if we both go. I'd like to get a decision nailed now and get it in writing because I think it would be a huge fight between families and I don't want to do that. His Dad and step Mom are still raising kids so they are the best option but they don't go to church, etc and its important to me that she grow up getting to know God. My best friend and her husband have been trying to have kids for a long time and I'd love to have them get M and raise her but DH thinks she should go with family. My other thought is my Aunt but he thinks she was too strict/scheduled raising her kids. Ugh.

That's tough. Fortunately it was an easy decision for us. She'd go with my parents. They financially can afford her plus they still attend church and have similar family values. My sister is also close so she'd be near her cousins. I'm sure DH's mom will be hurt if she ever asked but we don't want her growing up in a new age home...

[Lola]

Jul 31, 2015 9:52:30 GMT -5 Liv said:

silly me hoping that tonight's full and blue moon starts something labor-wise...

flame away.

(did you know that a blue moon means two full moons in one month, and it only comes around every 2.7 years??)

You should do all the induction things today! Eggplant parm, pineapple and sex!!

[Lola]

FFFC Ive never really thought about what we would do if either of us died. I think my sister would take him. I agree with her parenting and she is financially stable. Probably should get that in writing.

FFFC # 2: Now that DS is sleeping through the night, I have an irrational fear that he's dead. Then I struggle with checking on him or not because if he's sleeping I don't want to wake him up. Our video monitor hasn't been working but I i don't think it would make me feel better unless I saw him moving.

[Liv]

Jul 31, 2015 11:01:34 GMT -5 @iheartmyshiba said:

Jul 31, 2015 10:48:59 GMT -5 isolemnlyswear said:

That's tough. Fortunately it was an easy decision for us. She'd go with my parents. They financially can afford her plus they still attend church and have similar family values. My sister is also close so she'd be near her cousins. I'm sure DH's mom will be hurt if she ever asked but we don't want her growing up in a new age home...

My parents fight all the time and there is a lot of alcohol and prescription (their own) drug use so neither of us feel ok with that. His Mom is divorced twice over and living with her boyfriend and I'm not keen on the way she raised DH's brother so there's that- we both agree that neither of them are options. His Dad and wife are up in the air for us- they would do great raising her it's just church and I think it would strain them financially a bit unless there was leftover $$$ if we die which I think there would be so maybe that's not a big thing. Out of Uncles and Aunts, the only contender is my Aunt but DH has feels about that. Then we have friends but DH has feels about that too. Idk.

Anyone have custodial ppwk on file in case they die?

We do. My sister lives nearby so the kids would be in her care until my parents could get them. They'd be the permanent guardians. We agree mostly with their parenting, but most of all I know they would respect how we wanted them to be cared for and wouldn't let our memory die out for the kids. Very sad to think about, but it's freeing to have an action plan in place, just in case anything ever happened. 

[littlemissmarla]

FFFC #1 ... I still have a fucking hemorrhoid named Roy. WTF, is he a lifer?

FFFC #2 ... I'm REALLY excited to watch the tv movie Decendents on the Disney channel tonight.

[mamanorris]

Jul 31, 2015 11:19:01 GMT -5 littlemissmarla said:

FFFC #1 ... I still have a fucking hemorrhoid named Roy. WTF, is he a lifer?

FFFC #2 ... I'm REALLY excited to watch the tv movie Decendents on the Disney channel tonight.

I sill have one from ds1....

[Lola]

Jul 31, 2015 11:21:54 GMT -5 mamanorris said:

Jul 31, 2015 11:19:01 GMT -5 littlemissmarla said:

FFFC #1 ... I still have a fucking hemorrhoid named Roy. WTF, is he a lifer?

FFFC #2 ... I'm REALLY excited to watch the tv movie Decendents on the Disney channel tonight.

I sill have one from ds1....

Same. 

TMI question for both of you- did you get it during pregnancy or delivery? Mine was from pregnancy....havent ahd any issues this time around. Fingers crossed I won't get any if I VBAC. 

I am seriously thinking about surgery for it post baby. 

[Liv]

omg I was just thinking of you and Roy, littlemissmarla! I just got one-- thought I'd make it out of the woods with this pregnancy, but apparently not.

[liziz]

Jul 31, 2015 11:01:34 GMT -5 @iheartmyshiba said:

Jul 31, 2015 10:48:59 GMT -5 isolemnlyswear said:

That's tough. Fortunately it was an easy decision for us. She'd go with my parents. They financially can afford her plus they still attend church and have similar family values. My sister is also close so she'd be near her cousins. I'm sure DH's mom will be hurt if she ever asked but we don't want her growing up in a new age home...

My parents fight all the time and there is a lot of alcohol and prescription (their own) drug use so neither of us feel ok with that. His Mom is divorced twice over and living with her boyfriend and I'm not keen on the way she raised DH's brother so there's that- we both agree that neither of them are options. His Dad and wife are up in the air for us- they would do great raising her it's just church and I think it would strain them financially a bit unless there was leftover $$$ if we die which I think there would be so maybe that's not a big thing. Out of Uncles and Aunts, the only contender is my Aunt but DH has feels about that. Then we have friends but DH has feels about that too. Idk.

Anyone have custodial ppwk on file in case they die?

No paperwork, but I'd like to get it documented. She'd go to my sister if anything happened, and there's life insurance money for her. No argument with my sister at all, except that she's not (yet) married. But I really like her current (live-in) BF (and I think that she'd ditch him in a second if he interfered with taking care of LO). We'd also have to send the dog somewhere else, because the BF is terribly allergic. But that's a little easier.

[honeybee434]

I have no idea if I've ever had a Roy or not. I've had situations where I've wondered, but don't know for sure. I assume I woild know if I did, thus assuming I don't? But I don't know what the difference between a tear and an actual hemoroid would be.

[isolemnlyswear]

Jul 31, 2015 11:19:01 GMT -5 littlemissmarla said:

FFFC #1 ... I still have a fucking hemorrhoid named Roy. WTF, is he a lifer?

FFFC #2 ... I'm REALLY excited to watch the tv movie Decendents on the Disney channel tonight.

Haha yes!!! Every time I see the commercial in look at DH and say "I'm really more excited about this movie then I should be" he just laughs because he knows I'm a Disney dork.

[isolemnlyswear]

Jul 31, 2015 11:24:52 GMT -5 Lola said:

Jul 31, 2015 11:21:54 GMT -5 mamanorris said:

I sill have one from ds1....

Same. 

TMI question for both of you- did you get it during pregnancy or delivery? Mine was from pregnancy....havent ahd any issues this time around. Fingers crossed I won't get any if I VBAC. 

I am seriously thinking about surgery for it post baby. 

I got mine during delivery. (I did push for 3hrs Straight...)

[soon2bmrsn]

Jul 31, 2015 11:01:34 GMT -5 @iheartmyshiba said:

Anyone have custodial ppwk on file in case they die?

No, but we should. We suck and there's no excuse. Our kids would definitely go to DH's sister because she's really our only option (my brother is 30, never married, not in a "career," etc.) and I know she and BIL would do a good job with our kids. The slight concern I have is how she and BIL would spend our life insurance money and what we've saved, but I guess that's why we put it all in trust like we intend to and really designate when/why/how much could be spent. We really need to get this in writing. We've been parents for six years.

[walterjenne]

Jul 31, 2015 11:19:01 GMT -5 littlemissmarla said:

FFFC #1 ... I still have a fucking hemorrhoid named Roy. WTF, is he a lifer?

FFFC #2 ... I'm REALLY excited to watch the tv movie Decendents on the Disney channel tonight.

I still have Hermy too. I've accepted it. I'm pretty sure she showed before delivery but became much worse during 3 1/2 hours of pushing.

[mamanorris]

Jul 31, 2015 11:24:52 GMT -5 Lola said:

Jul 31, 2015 11:21:54 GMT -5 mamanorris said:

I sill have one from ds1....

Same. 

TMI question for both of you- did you get it during pregnancy or delivery? Mine was from pregnancy....havent ahd any issues this time around. Fingers crossed I won't get any if I VBAC. 

I am seriously thinking about surgery for it post baby. 

Pregnancy, I had two c sections.

[littlemissmarla]

Jul 31, 2015 11:24:52 GMT -5 Lola said:

Jul 31, 2015 11:21:54 GMT -5 mamanorris said:

I sill have one from ds1....

Same. 

TMI question for both of you- did you get it during pregnancy or delivery? Mine was from pregnancy....havent ahd any issues this time around. Fingers crossed I won't get any if I VBAC. 

I am seriously thinking about surgery for it post baby. 

I actually got mine afterwards, I was pretty constipated after my csection so I'm thinking that's where it came from. If I was done with having kids I'd probably get it taken care of but I'm thinking of waiting... It's not horrific but just enough to be annoying every other day or so- mine is also internal so I don't know How bad external ones are.

[liziz]

My FFFC: I haven't pumped in almost 3 weeks. I still have my "facilities" set up - pump still plugged in under my desk, but more importantly, a mini fridge in my office, and a privacy curtain over my window.
I should give up the fridge and the curtain, but I'm so spoiled!

[lea]

We don't have anything in writing, either, because we haven't made a decision. My sister and BIL are probably the most feasible because they're financially stable and would ensure our kids get s good education. Two of DH's siblings are single and work min wage jobs (and I know he'd never want his sister to take them though I think she'd probably be fine if she was more financially stable). One already has 6 kids and we don't know if they're done and aren't financially secure. Plus, they homeschool which I don't want for mine preferably. His youngest would probably be good but he's already the guardian for the other 6 kids so what if something happened to all four of us and they acquired 9 or 10 kids?? lol and he's in the military so moving around and deployments would be something to consider.

My parents would do the best job but they're almost 70 and don't want to be raising young kids (though they would 100% be there I know). DH's parents are in poor health and have no money. My brother would probably do a good job but he says he has no interest in having kids so I don't think he'd agree to it.

Why's it gotta be so hard?

[liziz]

I unplugged the pump and fridge. Not taking the curtain down, though. Also leaving the pump and a set of parts in my desk, just in case. This all means I'll have to use the communal fridge for my lunch on Monday

[liziz]

FFFC #2: DCP just sent a picture of LO playing in a pool (they must be at someone's house) with an ocean view. I wish I had my swimsuit with me - I'd go join them when I'm off work in 2 hours.