Hi all! I've been lurking around for a few days gathering some info on foster-to-adopt and wanted to say thanks for sharing stories & other helpful info.
A little about me...I'm 35, single, never married and no children. Born and raised in south Louisiana!
Tomorrow, I attend orientation and hope to find a good bit of info during the session. I would really like to adopt a newborn but the cost of going through a private agency is not an option for me at this time. I have so much love to give and I'm hoping to make a difference for a child.
Thanks y'all! I'm super excited to start my journey. This is something I've longed for and I'm hoping for the best. Sometimes it's difficult to talk with friends about it because none of them have been in my shoes. I haven't met Mr Right and I'm not getting any younger!
---- 39 years old, MH is 43 TTC since 2010; Dx Unexplained Infertility; possible male factor 6 IUIs, 1 IVF, 2 FETs, 1 mmc, 1 CP Started Adoption process Feb 2015, officially waiting July 2015
Thanks y'all! I'm super excited to start my journey. This is something I've longed for and I'm hoping for the best. Sometimes it's difficult to talk with friends about it because none of them have been in my shoes. I haven't met Mr Right and I'm not getting any younger!
It is so hard when no one else really gets it. It is very isolating. But we get it and you can ask away or vent away any time. That's what boards like this are for. :-)
I'm sure obtaining a foster license in LA is different than in CT, but if you check out my blog (link in my siggy), I've documented the process we've gone through so far. It might help give you an idea of what goes into it.
I'm sure obtaining a foster license in LA is different than in CT, but if you check out my blog (link in my siggy), I've documented the process we've gone through so far. It might help give you an idea of what goes into it.
Hi there! Thanks!
I have read your journey while I was lurking! It is totally unacceptable that it has taken this long for anyone to get back to you regarding the home study.
So as I mentioned in my intro, I'm single, never married. I built a house last year and moved my parents (whom have been married for 46 yrs) in with me. When I go through my home study, will my parents also be interviewed since they live in my home?
So as I mentioned in my intro, I'm single, never married. I built a house last year and moved my parents (whom have been married for 46 yrs) in with me. When I go through my home study, will my parents also be interviewed since they live in my home?
Yes, I'm pretty sure they will be. They will also have to have background checks done.
So as I mentioned in my intro, I'm single, never married. I built a house last year and moved my parents (whom have been married for 46 yrs) in with me. When I go through my home study, will my parents also be interviewed since they live in my home?
Yes, I'm pretty sure they will be. They will also have to have background checks done.
That's no problem! I wasn't sure if they would basically have to go through everything I will ...since they aren't the ones "fostering/adopting".
One more question. If I knew someone that was due to have a baby & wanted to put the child for adoption...if that person chose me to adopt, would I still have to go through the home study & all of that stuff to adopt the child? How does that work? Like if there was a friend/family member...
Welcome to the board and good luck as you begin your journey! I do believe your family will be interview during the home study, but you would be the main one who would go through the bulk of the review. I don't know for sure about your second question about a private adoption, as I'm sure the rules are different in the US than Canada. You will at least need a lawyer familiar with adoption, but I'm not sure about homestudy etc. Good luck
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Yes, I'm pretty sure they will be. They will also have to have background checks done.
That's no problem! I wasn't sure if they would basically have to go through everything I will ...since they aren't the ones "fostering/adopting".
One more question. If I knew someone that was due to have a baby & wanted to put the child for adoption...if that person chose me to adopt, would I still have to go through the home study & all of that stuff to adopt the child? How does that work? Like if there was a friend/family member...
I tried doing some research and I discovered that there are several states that don't allow direct adoption and CT and MA are two of them, but I'm not sure of the other 3 states. If you live in a state that does allow it, it's my understanding that you don't have to go through the whole process through an agency and that it can be handled by lawyers. I could be wrong, but that's what got out of my research.
Here's something I just found quickly by googling:
Private Adoption
Most states allow "non-agency" placements of children for adoption, often referred to as "private" or "independent" adoption. Only four states (Connecticut, Delaware, Massachusetts, and North Dakota) prohibit independent adoption.
One type of private adoption allowed in most states is the "direct placement" of a child by the birth parent with an adoptive family. Many states that allow direct placement have detailed regulations in place to protect the interests of the parties to the adoption. Some of these laws may include the following:
Limiting the amount of money prospective adoptive parents may give the birth mother for prenatal care and other medical expenses; Restricting prospective adoptive parents from advertising for a birth mother; and Extending the amount of time birth parents have to change their mind about the adoption after it is complete.
Thanks y'all! I'm super excited to start my journey. This is something I've longed for and I'm hoping for the best. Sometimes it's difficult to talk with friends about it because none of them have been in my shoes. I haven't met Mr Right and I'm not getting any younger!
I am also a single parent by choice through adoption! I felt the same way. I would still love to meet "Mr. Right;" however, I can meet him when I am 60. I can not have children when I am 60. It has been difficult (I also have no one who is in my shoes). However, it has been the best decision that I have ever made. My boys are now 8 and 10 and I am considering adding 1 more. I am not sure which route I will take for that (IUI, FTA, domestic adoption). I would love to hear more about your journey.
If you ever want to talk, or just have questions, I will be glad to answer them. Just send me a PM.
So as I mentioned in my intro, I'm single, never married. I built a house last year and moved my parents (whom have been married for 46 yrs) in with me. When I go through my home study, will my parents also be interviewed since they live in my home?
When I adopted, my brother was living in the home with me. He had to answer a few questions (not a full interview) and he had to get fingerprinted and a background check.
Yes, I'm pretty sure they will be. They will also have to have background checks done.
That's no problem! I wasn't sure if they would basically have to go through everything I will ...since they aren't the ones "fostering/adopting".
One more question. If I knew someone that was due to have a baby & wanted to put the child for adoption...if that person chose me to adopt, would I still have to go through the home study & all of that stuff to adopt the child? How does that work? Like if there was a friend/family member...
My adoption was a private adoption (the biological parents were acquaintances of mine). I had custody for over 2 years before I could officially adopt because of a mess-up by my first lawyer and the laws in my state. I had to hire a lawyer (my second one was wonderful!) and a lawyer was appointed to represent the biological parents. I did have to have a formal home study, which made me laugh because I already had court-appointed custody. I would contact a few adoption lawyers and request a consult. May will do this for free or minimal cost. Ask them all of your questions and get a good feel for them. You do not want to make my mistake and just hire one because they were referred to you. My second lawyer, I did consults with several before choosing him. Check the laws in your state/province and be well informed. Good luck!
My adoption was a private adoption (the biological parents were acquaintances of mine). I had custody for over 2 years before I could officially adopt because of a mess-up by my first lawyer and the laws in my state. I had to hire a lawyer (my second one was wonderful!) and a lawyer was appointed to represent the biological parents. I did have to have a formal home study, which made me laugh because I already had court-appointed custody. I would contact a few adoption lawyers and request a consult. May will do this for free or minimal cost. Ask them all of your questions and get a good feel for them. You do not want to make my mistake and just hire one because they were referred to you. My second lawyer, I did consults with several before choosing him. Check the laws in your state/province and be well informed. Good luck!
Hi there irismorning! Thanks so much for all of the info! My plan is to go the foster to adopt route! I've actually found 3 children I'm really interested in learning more about but cannot do anything until I am certified. I appreciate the info you shared and do believe you and I will have many convos in the near future! I start training on Aug 27th. 7 straight weeks of it! I live in Louisiana and the social worker said that it should all be complete within 90 days! I'm so excited!
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