Have you told anyone yet?

[Deleted]

Have you told anyone about your BFP yet? 

If not, when are you planning to tell people?

[Deleted]

I'm more nervous this time about the pregnancy because I was sick last year. Especially because it had to do with my folic acid levels and if they're still low... obviously that has issues in a pregnancy. I've been getting shakey throughout the day so that may not be a good sign (I thought I had like Parkinson's before they figured out what was wrong) Going to the doctor later today to check my blood, let the blood draws begin!

Anyways because of that I haven't told anyone besides DH. I've asked DD if she wants to be a sister but I haven't actually told her she will be one because FIL and BIL are in town this weekend and I don't want her to mention it.

We'll probably wait until 12 weeks to tell anyone. Maybe a few people at 8 weeks but if I remember that ultrasound doesn't really show anything. I'm mostly worried about spinal defects. FB official after 20 weeks, whenever we have the name picked out. We announced DD's name/sex on the same day at about 21/22 weeks last time.

ETA : I took a video of DD saying that she does not want to be a sister and I plan on sending it to my mom/sister with a note that says "Too bad" and see how long it takes them to freak out. My mom thinks we are OAD.

[doublehammock]

I've told two close friends then all my internet pals. Beyond that we are holding off until at least 8 weeks. I would like to graduate from my RE before telling anyone else. We'll come out to FB and such around 12. I think.

[minae01]

We've told my parents, my MIL, and I told my BFF. I think we'll tell our siblings in the next couple of weeks and everyone else around 13 weeks.

[JoeLies]

I told my BFF and her husband, but they're closer than most of our family, so...

We'll probably tell our parents after my first ultrasound or shortly thereafter, assuming all is well. Ideally, we'd wait until after we know what we're having (sometime around 12 weeks, since I'm AMA) but we have too many opportunities for extended family to find out sooner. Unfortunately I don't think my Mom would handle it well if things didn't go well, so we prefer to keep it quiet until we're feeling more confident. With DS, I was 10 weeks along and I had heard the heartbeat twice. I still would have waited longer, but my hand was forced because of a bachelorette party - I couldn't tell random friends before telling my own parents.

We'll start telling co-workers and friends once we know if C is having a brother or sister.

[jags8]

I've told so many people already haha! Obviously DH knows. I've also told:

My best friend
One of my sisters
DH's aunt
My boss from one job
My employer from my other job
My coworker from one of my jobs (we are the only two employees at this job, and she knows everything it's taken to get here)

Thursday night we will tell DH's parents, and my dad and second mom. My mom is on vacation so I won't be able to tell her and my stepdad until Sunday.

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Aug 4, 2015 8:05:26 GMT -5 @ismellbooks said:

I'm a craft beer-lovin fool, and SIL will know right away if I'm not drinking. The rest of our families are scattered, and we're planning on announcing publicly while we're in Jamaica in early October, so MH is already planning what weekends we're going to go visit which family members in September.

We're supposed to go to a happy hour with a bunch of friends tomorrow and they all know I love beer. I'm just hoping no one is paying attention. Luckily the person who I really think would notice immediately isn't in the country yet.

Jamaica sounds like fun!

[mrsk23]

We have told all of our close people. Parents, silblings, best friends. This was for 2 reasons, first, they all knew about our fertility treatments and often ask how they are going and second, because we know that if we were to suffer another loss we would need their support. Last time we only told two people and now it feels taboo and like a dark secret that we lost a baby. I don't want that to be the case again if we were to suffer another loss.

We will come out on FB sometime after 12 weeks when we feel a bit more confident in things. I'll probably tell my close coworkers after my first ultrasound. I know that I'm going to need their support should I have bad MS, I'm a teacher and so if I'm not well I'm going to need people to come watch my class...ect.

[Deleted]

I almost spilled the beans to my mom yesterday. They had a crib because we were staying there for a few weeks and DD wasn't in a normal bed then, well we left and transitioned her and my nephew recently transitioned so she was like "we posted that crib on Craigslist, dad took it apart already" and I was almost like "but I'm going to need it soon!" I remembered though that the little one will sleep in a bassinet so I'll just have to get a cosleeper or something.

I'm excited, but the timing of this baby is so bad. Like so bad. We're supposed to move in the beginning of March but I won't be allowed to go with DH because I'll be too pregnant so I have to move to my parents' to have the baby and do 6 weeks post birth there before going to DH with a 6 week old and DD. Sigh. My head spins every time I really start thinking about the timing.

[lilmonk]

I told my online friends before I told DH, then told two of my RL friends because they have been on my TTC journey and diagnosis for a while now. I also told my mom because I can't keep secrets from her. DH then decided since I told my mom, we could tell his mum who can't keep her mouth shut. I told SIL to help keep her mother in line and warned them both they would be cut off from future information if they said one word. The next day MIL decided to tell everyone she could. She didn't believe me when I said cut off, but she is cut off and it's killing her gossip needing mind.

I planned to announce around Halloween but I guess everyone already frickin knows because of MILs fat mouth.

[scotty138]

We haven't told anyone yet. We'll tell our parents in the next couple weeks and everyone else after 12 weeks or so.

[ciaobaby]

Only my DH and best friend (most likely her husband too) know. Told my best friend because she is pregnant (only about 6 weeks ahead) and we hang out quite a bit with them, so I didn't feel like dodging questions since I usually enjoy a drink when we are all together.

We will probably tell our family/close friends after my first ultrasound which is scheduled at 10 weeks. We will probably make it public at 14 weeks. That's what we did with DS.

[MissMusic]

I've only told 1 close friend because she kinda sorta knew what was going on. I'm in the mind that you can't un-tell people once you spill the beans, so I'm fine waiting.

I also hate people asking me inane questions all the time like "are you puking?!" and "was this planned?!" etc. I may tell at 12w, or just wait until the big scan at 20w when we find out the sex. I'm in no rush. People who see me often enough will know I'm PG before 20w visually, but most of my family & friends are out of state so it won't be an issue.

[MissMusic]

Aug 4, 2015 9:24:00 GMT -5 lilmonk said:

I planned to announce around Halloween but I guess everyone already frickin knows because of MILs fat mouth.

I hate it when people don't respect your wishes and privacy!  How rude of her.
This is also why we waited to tell people last time: if you don't want people to know, don't tell anyone!

[bluedot]

I've only told my other BMB so far. And one close friend who knew I was trying. My family lives far away, so I'll wait for a good time... see if any visits come about. Last time we held off until 14 weeks to say anything on FB, IG... probably similar timing this go around.

[Deleted]

Last time my mom told my gossip aunt the day after I explicitly asked my mom not to tell anyone... I won't tell anyone until I'm ready for a of my extended family to know

[Ashburn]

I told hubby, my mom and my SIL already. I plan on waiting to tell everyone else as time gets closer to 12 weeks. Since this is baby #2 I'm pretty sure that will come sooner than later.

[jags8]

What the fuck lilmonk? That was so fucking rude of your MIL. She already had kids, she already had her chance to share that kind of news. This was not her news to share. I'm really sorry.

[wittyandwaiting]

We've told a few family members we know will keep it under wraps, my online peeps and a select few close friends....

.... Somebody asked if it was planned:

1. We are a lesbian couple
2. We are both happily telling you

I think you're safe to assume it was planned.

[jags8]

Aug 4, 2015 15:13:14 GMT -5 wittyandwaiting said:

We've told a few family members we know will keep it under wraps, my online peeps and a select few close friends....

.... Somebody asked if it was planned:

1. We are a lesbian couple
2. We are both happily telling you

I think you're safe to assume it was planned.

"No! I thought I was just getting my annual, but it turns out the doctor inseminated me instead!"

[doublehammock]

Aug 4, 2015 15:18:22 GMT -5 jags8 said:

Aug 4, 2015 15:13:14 GMT -5 wittyandwaiting said:

We've told a few family members we know will keep it under wraps, my online peeps and a select few close friends....

.... Somebody asked if it was planned:

1. We are a lesbian couple
2. We are both happily telling you

I think you're safe to assume it was planned.

"No! I thought I was just getting my annual, but it turns out the doctor inseminated me instead!"

Snort.

[wittyandwaiting]

Aug 4, 2015 15:21:18 GMT -5 doublehammock said:

Aug 4, 2015 15:18:22 GMT -5 jags8 said:

"No! I thought I was just getting my annual, but it turns out the doctor inseminated me instead!"

Snort.

I honestly snorted too.

[danenikki]

DH, BFF and sis know. We are gonna tell immediate family this weekend. I might spill to my mom on Thursday at lunch.

[blueandi]

I've only told my daughter and H. One of my best friends is 14 weeks pregnant right now and another BFF O'd literally the day after me (yep, we compared charts lol), so hopefully she gets good news as well! I'll probably tell them soon, same with the parents. I'm also planning on telling work soonish because of the risk involved.

[lilmonk]

Aug 4, 2015 12:37:33 GMT -5 MissMusic said:

Aug 4, 2015 9:24:00 GMT -5 lilmonk said:

I planned to announce around Halloween but I guess everyone already frickin knows because of MILs fat mouth.

I hate it when people don't respect your wishes and privacy!  How rude of her.
This is also why we waited to tell people last time: if you don't want people to know, don't tell anyone!

She knows I was seeing a FS, because she is my main source of childcare, and until recently travel, for appointments. And it was tough when I was running to the toilet to puke every five minutes, and she watches my habits like a hawk, then DH threw me under a bus by confirming it. Honestly, like DH said to me when I start bitching about it: she would have guessed since she sees us pretty much every day, and told everyone anyways. She did that to SIL.

[lilmonk]

Aug 4, 2015 14:51:01 GMT -5 jags8 said:

What the fuck lilmonk? That was so fucking rude of your MIL. She already had kids, she already had her chance to share that kind of news. This was not her news to share. I'm really sorry.

Thanks. She's feeling the strain now since I refuse to talk about anything pregnancy related. i told her that I can't trust that what i say remains private and respected and she's going on about "families don't keep secrets" "we're just excited and worried about you" "your family would be doing the same". No. See I told my mom before you and still no one on my side knows because she respects our decision to not share.

[Deleted]

... well that didn't take long.

We had a friend (A) and his friend (B) over for dinner tonight, we've never met B prior to tonight. We were talking about kids because DD is obsessed with B. B mentions that his wife is pregnant with their second and he says "are you guys planning on having a second?" 

I have an awkward pause.

B says "Unless you already are..." and then notes that I didn't have a beer with them! 

Well I guess I'm a bit superstitious because I think it's bad luck to straight up lie about being pregnant so out it came. In the 2 minutes DH was gone to the bathroom. He got back and was like "what!? You didn't last long without telling." 

All in all I thought it was hilarious. I told A's wife because we're friends and she'll be here soon. Plus DH and I talk about everyone so I assume A would have mentioned it to her anyways. 

Still don't plan on telling anyone else soon... but we'll see who all finds out accidentally early.

[beyoncepadthai]

I'm going to tell DH tomorrow or Thursday. It took me a while to get what I needed to do it. I think he suspects something is up though.

I'm going to try to wait until after first tri to tell everyone else. Hopefully DH doesn't spill the beans again. He probably will.

[samesister]

Aug 4, 2015 8:24:22 GMT -5 @aest said:

I almost spilled the beans to my mom yesterday. They had a crib because we were staying there for a few weeks and DD wasn't in a normal bed then, well we left and transitioned her and my nephew recently transitioned so she was like "we posted that crib on Craigslist, dad took it apart already" and I was almost like "but I'm going to need it soon!" I remembered though that the little one will sleep in a bassinet so I'll just have to get a cosleeper or something.

I'm excited, but the timing of this baby is so bad. Like so bad. We're supposed to move in the beginning of March but I won't be allowed to go with DH because I'll be too pregnant so I have to move to my parents' to have the baby and do 6 weeks post birth there before going to DH with a 6 week old and DD. Sigh. My head spins every time I really start thinking about the timing.

I feel you on the bad timing thing. My husband and I live 8 hours away from our entire families. We decided we want to finally move back to our hometown. He has had a terrible time finding a job back home but we both wanted to try for a second. In a perfect world, he would get a job offer and I would find out I was pregnant and everything would be fine. Now that I am pregnant, we are feeling the pressure of trying to get back home. Obviously after a certain point I can't move. We are praying that his most recent job lead works out. I really want to surprise our parents with we're moving home and baby news.

[steveo]

I've told one sister, my IRL BFF, my work BFF and J's BMB. (And MH, obviously).

No one else until we have all genetic testing results back. Our family and friends are SO supportive, but I know everyone will be so anxious for us, so I'd prefer to just be able to say "I'm pregnant, and everything is okay." (KNOCK ON WOOD).

We never have said anything about pregnancies on FB, other than to announce the arrival. IDK why, just not my thing.