Post by chilibeansm0m on Jan 25, 2015 22:37:17 GMT -5
Like I said- I'm sorry a lot of my posts are whining lately. I'm just exhausted, hormonal, R is going through some crap that is exhausting me more and I'm pregnant. Add all that to something that's been bothering me for a while and I should have talked to dh about it earlier but it's gotten progressively worse now.
I feel like I have no backup on the parenting. I feel like he is in the background a lot. I feel like R never hits him or treats him like she does me because he never disciplines her and does all the fun stuff with her.
Today I had to put her in timeout 2 times for hitting me. She comes up to me, seeing my attention is on something else and will just wack you in the face. I warn her sternly- we do not it. If you hit mommy once more you will go to timeout. And she does within 1 minute with a grin on her face. Timeout takes forever because i have to put her back in the spot over and over and tears are streaming down her face which makes me want to cry too. I'm having a hard time not crying now.
I know she's exhuasted. She used to get like this when she was tired. Today we were home all day hoping to get back on schedule. She took about 30 min to go down but only slept for 20 min. A lot of the time she'll wake up half way through and go back to sleep so i didn't go in right away. But before i knew it it was an hour later and she wad knocking on the door and calling for me so i gave up.
We've been putting her down earlier now. 715-730 becauee she takes at least 30 min to go to sleep.
I feel like a lot of her behaviors is just from being tired. Maybe she's still teething? I have no idea. Developmental growth spurt?
Despite the reason i just feel like I have no backup on the parenting front. I know I'm going to have to talk to him. I'm not scared, but i know he's going to put his wall up and get defensive and I'm going to cry so Obviously I'm not looking forward to this.
I thought i had a question now i realize this was more of a vent. Sorry.
Eta i tried talking some to him and he says he'll try and help me by letting me have this coming sat off to either go out or stay in the bedroom all day. And I'm crying. Thing is there is a 50/50 chance hell have to work ot that day!
I feel like I have no backup on the parenting. I feel like he is in the background a lot. I feel like R never hits him or treats him like she does me because he never disciplines her and does all the fun stuff with her.
Today I had to put her in timeout 2 times for hitting me. She comes up to me, seeing my attention is on something else and will just wack you in the face. I warn her sternly- we do not it. If you hit mommy once more you will go to timeout. And she does within 1 minute with a grin on her face. Timeout takes forever because i have to put her back in the spot over and over and tears are streaming down her face which makes me want to cry too. I'm having a hard time not crying now.
I know she's exhuasted. She used to get like this when she was tired. Today we were home all day hoping to get back on schedule. She took about 30 min to go down but only slept for 20 min. A lot of the time she'll wake up half way through and go back to sleep so i didn't go in right away. But before i knew it it was an hour later and she wad knocking on the door and calling for me so i gave up.
We've been putting her down earlier now. 715-730 becauee she takes at least 30 min to go to sleep.
I feel like a lot of her behaviors is just from being tired. Maybe she's still teething? I have no idea. Developmental growth spurt?
Despite the reason i just feel like I have no backup on the parenting front. I know I'm going to have to talk to him. I'm not scared, but i know he's going to put his wall up and get defensive and I'm going to cry so Obviously I'm not looking forward to this.
I thought i had a question now i realize this was more of a vent. Sorry.
Eta i tried talking some to him and he says he'll try and help me by letting me have this coming sat off to either go out or stay in the bedroom all day. And I'm crying. Thing is there is a 50/50 chance hell have to work ot that day!