I have a quieter day today; just work this afternoon and then BLTs at my parents for dinner tonight. We are using fresh tomatoes from the garden and bacon from our farm to table pig. Oh, and my mom got stuff to make smores in the fire pit. So that will be just terrible.
I'm watching DS pull clean laundry out of DH's basket while I drink coffee. I'm not even going to pick it up after.
A does that to our laundry all the time. We also keep a little basket of diapers downstairs. No matter where we keep it, A finds it and has diapers thrown across the living room in a matter of minutes! I don't know why I even pick them up anymore lol.
I am in meetings most of the day again blah :/ i need to find a way to schedule a meeting with my boss to discuss my pay and ask for a raise. Im scared yo. The awkward part is just wording the meeting request. I hate this but If I never ask it will never happen! I cant wait for 5pm to drink all of the wine!!
I am in meetings most of the day again blah :/ i need to find a way to schedule a meeting with my boss to discuss my pay and ask for a raise. Im scared yo. The awkward part is just wording the meeting request. I hate this but If I never ask it will never happen! I cant wait for 5pm to drink all of the wine!!
Get that raise!
But really good luck! That's scary to have to ask for.
I have a quieter day today; just work this afternoon and then BLTs at my parents for dinner tonight. We are using fresh tomatoes from the garden and bacon from our farm to table pig. Oh, and my mom got stuff to make smores in the fire pit. So that will be just terrible.
This sounds like a fantastic day! Andplusalso, we just got some garden fresh tomatoes from and friend and H and I were trying to think what to do with them. He mentioned chili, but BLTs sound amazing. We make ours with sourdough and melt Parmesan on the bread.
I'm watching DS pull clean laundry out of DH's basket while I drink coffee. I'm not even going to pick it up after.
A does that to our laundry all the time. We also keep a little basket of diapers downstairs. No matter where we keep it, A finds it and has diapers thrown across the living room in a matter of minutes! I don't know why I even pick them up anymore lol.
This is dd with her wash clothes. I don't know why I bother to pick them up either. She recently started playing peek a boo with them too, which is adorable.
I am in meetings most of the day again blah :/ i need to find a way to schedule a meeting with my boss to discuss my pay and ask for a raise. Im scared yo. The awkward part is just wording the meeting request. I hate this but If I never ask it will never happen! I cant wait for 5pm to drink all of the wine!!
Do you have regular performance reviews? If not, and if you haven't had one in the last 3 months, say you want to discuss your performance. This can be especially helpful if something has changed about our job, responsibilities, your boss, etc. in the last year. If I remember, there was a merger at your company, right? Say I want to evaluate my position now that we are x months out from the transition. And don't just ask for a raise. Pitch it with all the accomplishments you have, experience, and, if you are feeling scrappy, market research about how your assets are valued at other similar companies.
I have a quieter day today; just work this afternoon and then BLTs at my parents for dinner tonight. We are using fresh tomatoes from the garden and bacon from our farm to table pig. Oh, and my mom got stuff to make smores in the fire pit. So that will be just terrible.
This sounds like a fantastic day! Andplusalso, we just got some garden fresh tomatoes from and friend and H and I were trying to think what to do with them. He mentioned chili, but BLTs sound amazing. We make ours with sourdough and melt Parmesan on the bread.
Mmmmmmmmmmmmmmmm. I get this epic Asiago bread sometimes from Panera and now I know where I'm stopping in the way to my parents house.
I am in meetings most of the day again blah :/ i need to find a way to schedule a meeting with my boss to discuss my pay and ask for a raise. Im scared yo. The awkward part is just wording the meeting request. I hate this but If I never ask it will never happen! I cant wait for 5pm to drink all of the wine!!
Good luck we the meeting request. That would make me anxious too, but you're right, if you don't ask it won't happen. Love tit for all the wine later!
I am in meetings most of the day again blah :/ i need to find a way to schedule a meeting with my boss to discuss my pay and ask for a raise. Im scared yo. The awkward part is just wording the meeting request. I hate this but If I never ask it will never happen! I cant wait for 5pm to drink all of the wine!!
Good luck! Try not to over analyze it too much. That's what I always do and it makes it that much worse.
This sounds like a fantastic day! Andplusalso, we just got some garden fresh tomatoes from and friend and H and I were trying to think what to do with them. He mentioned chili, but BLTs sound amazing. We make ours with sourdough and melt Parmesan on the bread.
Mmmmmmmmmmmmmmmm. I get this epic Asiago bread sometimes from Panera and now I know where I'm stopping in the way to my parents house.
I've never had the bread but the asiago cheese bagels at Panera are the best!
For those who asked the tator tot casserole was a hit last night! I used the recipe that MrsTinMKE shared last week and added mixed veggies and some shredded cheddar. It was delicious, we'll definitely be making it again!
For those who asked the tator tot casserole was a hit last night! I used the recipe that MrsTinMKE shared last week and added mixed veggies and some shredded cheddar. It was delicious, we'll definitely be making it again!
That's what I made Tuesday and it was a big hit, as usual, at home, but I also took it to my friend and her husband and they loved it!
Vent about an email for my mother: She has this boyfriend (little over a year together) that at Christmas she signed gifts from Grandmom and Pop Pop Gary. I told her I didn't like this she let it go. Until last night she sent an email stating- I respect that you are the parent but I'd like to come up with a compromise to have Emma call Gary
Them told a story of her grandmoms boyfriend that they called by his first name until they were older
She'd like to come up with a name.
I'm pissed bc we just had this convo, Emma can't speak yet, and frankly you shouldn't have to try to respect that I'm the parent because got damnit I AM THE PARENT!
She also told me not to call her to discuss bc she doesn't want a lecture!
I'm responded with I'm not ready to revisit this convo, I understand that Gary is special. I won't say this but in the past 7 years this is the 3rd boyfriend since her and my step dad split up. But I will also add that when Emma is older she can change the name but until then he is Gary. And that I will not be having this convo again.
I already know she's going to be hurt and act like a child afterwards bc she didn't get her way. She is always telling me she's following the "rules". I have no rules except DH and I make life decisions (which in my mind is a given).
Sorry for long block of text.
TLTR: My mom wants her boyfriend of more than a year to have a grandfather title.
meagpt22 email her and say "she can call him Grandma's Boyfriend." JK. DH's mom has been remarried for 12 years, but DH was an adult when they married and he calls him "my mom's husband". Recently, after FIL passed he started calling him his stepdad sometimes. MIL calls him Grandpa, but we just call him by his first name, even to DS. If she raised it, I'd acquiesce, but I don't touch it for now. He is really odd, and MIL has a pretty arm's length relationship with us even though she claims to want to be more involved, so it would be weird for me to accept that my son has a more formal relationship with them than I do by giving special names. Does DD spend much time with them? If not, be like "sure, call him whatever you want!"
kellrr yes DD does spend a good amount of time with my mom and her boyfriend. So I don't want to confuse anyone bc I don't want him called grandpop anything. They only started dating last year. And my mom has had several relationships over the years. I had so many "dads" growing up that it's a joke. It messed me up so I don't want the same for DD.
kellrr yes DD does spend a good amount of time with my mom and her boyfriend. So I don't want to confuse anyone bc I don't want him called grandpop anything. They only started dating last year. And my mom has had several relationships over the years. I had so many "dads" growing up that it's a joke. It messed me up so I don't want the same for DD.
That's totally fair. But, of course, it will hurt her feelings if you say that. Could you come up with something silly that isn't a "grandpa" name? I met a family last week that the grandma is Giggy (like "I have a gig to play music at a bar") and my mom is Lala because it's a play on her name and a Spanish nickname for a grandma. If it's something unique to him, but not "grandpa"ish, it might not seem like one grandpa after another is interchangeable? I'm just spit-balling here.
kellrr I know it'll bother her but she can't get her way. I told her my wishes in Jan and she's bringing it up again. I honestly hope it works out with him but given my moms track record I can't guarantee that so he will be called by his name. I had major trust issues growing up that I can't do that to my daughter. I just wish she'd stop bringing it up and making me be the bad guy. It's so frustrating. I guess I just needed to vent bc I'm so annoyed about it. Thanks for "listening".
We're super busy today! Getting the car packed, filling out daycare paperwork and just generally rushing around in an attempt to leave here at a decent hour tonight. We are driving through the night in hopes that DD will sleep for the first big chunk of our trip. Google says we have 15+ hours before traffic and stops so the more progress we can make overnight the better!
In the meantime I want this daycare enrollment taken care of before we leave. I'm so scared that otherwise we'll come back and find out our spot has been filled. Thanks again for all of the advice yesterday, I feel much better about the whole situation now!
Anyway, I hope everyone else is having a lovely day! I'll finish catching up later when we're on the road.
kellrr I know it'll bother her but she can't get her way. I told her my wishes in Jan and she's bringing it up again. I honestly hope it works out with him but given my moms track record I can't guarantee that so he will be called by his name. I had major trust issues growing up that I can't do that to my daughter. I just wish she'd stop bringing it up and making me be the bad guy. It's so frustrating. I guess I just needed to vent bc I'm so annoyed about it. Thanks for "listening".
I absolutely get that. Sorry that this is so frustrating for you and that your mom won't let it go. Hugs.
Vent about an email for my mother: She has this boyfriend (little over a year together) that at Christmas she signed gifts from Grandmom and Pop Pop Gary. I told her I didn't like this she let it go. Until last night she sent an email stating- I respect that you are the parent but I'd like to come up with a compromise to have Emma call Gary
Them told a story of her grandmoms boyfriend that they called by his first name until they were older
She'd like to come up with a name.
I'm pissed bc we just had this convo, Emma can't speak yet, and frankly you shouldn't have to try to respect that I'm the parent because got damnit I AM THE PARENT!
She also told me not to call her to discuss bc she doesn't want a lecture!
I'm responded with I'm not ready to revisit this convo, I understand that Gary is special. I won't say this but in the past 7 years this is the 3rd boyfriend since her and my step dad split up. But I will also add that when Emma is older she can change the name but until then he is Gary. And that I will not be having this convo again.
I already know she's going to be hurt and act like a child afterwards bc she didn't get her way. She is always telling me she's following the "rules". I have no rules except DH and I make life decisions (which in my mind is a given).
Sorry for long block of text.
TLTR: My mom wants her boyfriend of more than a year to have a grandfather title.
As someone in a similar situation I think you have every right to be frustrated about this and that your mom needs to back off a bit. My mom recently decided, without discussing it with me, to start signing cards from her and her boyfriend as Grandma and Pappy Bill. They've been together for over 3 years and he's the only man she has dated at all since my dad passed away so I'm mostly OK with it. I am annoyed though that she took it upon herself to give him a grandpa title without asking first. If the relationship was newer and she had a history of other relationships that didn't last I would not be as cool with it as I am. I know you were more venting than asking for validation but I figured I'd give it to you anyway. Obviously you are in the right and your mom needs to get over it.
kellrr I know it'll bother her but she can't get her way. I told her my wishes in Jan and she's bringing it up again. I honestly hope it works out with him but given my moms track record I can't guarantee that so he will be called by his name. I had major trust issues growing up that I can't do that to my daughter. I just wish she'd stop bringing it up and making me be the bad guy. It's so frustrating. I guess I just needed to vent bc I'm so annoyed about it. Thanks for "listening".
I hear you. She's your kid and you get to make the rules and you shouldn't feel bad about it. I like kellrr 's idea of another silly name that doesn't include grandpa or you could let dd 'decide' what his name is. I. E. His name is yayadaaaa or whatever noise she likes to make.
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