Post by happymama on Jan 29, 2015 15:05:56 GMT -5
Hi, I am so glad to see this board started
I am white, born and raised in Maryland (another DC-area person!) H is Korean and moved here when he was a toddler. We grew up in the same county. I am not religious and H's family is extremely religious, although he doesn't attend church anymore. We are both in our early 30s and work for the government.
We have two boys, a 2 1/2 year old and our baby is almost 9 months. Genetics is an interesting thing because my kids do not look Asian, at all. My older boy has red hair. I don't even have red hair. H gets some weird looks when he's out alone with the kids, this Asian guy toting around two "white" babies.
Honestly, H's parents had a bigger (much MUCH) bigger problem than my family when it came to our relationship. It took years for them to come around to the fact he was with a white girl. The night before we got married, his mom begged me not to marry him. Yeah. We're all cool now though.
We're trying to raise our children with as much exposure to their Korean heritage as possible. MIL and SIL watch them during the day and MIL tries to speak primarily Korean to them. We celebrated the New Year in the traditional Korean way and are planning our baby's Dol - big first birthday party. My side of the family has been in the States since the colonial times so I really had no connection to any kind of cultural food or celebrations until I met my husband, so it has been really fun for me.
Anyway, this got really long. Just happy to have somewhere to connect with people going through similar experiences!
Welcome! It sounds like it has been a rough road with the in laws, but I'm so glad you guys were able to work through it and can be close now. Family is so important yet most people really struggle to work through these kinds of things, kudos on successfully getting through that process! I was so glad to discover this board too, I can't wait to get to know everyone better :-)