1 year mark!

[hootiemommytobe]

Today marks one year that we have been active. Honestly, I really can't believe how fast this year has gone. There were so many times looking back, that I thought we'd have our baby by now. Each holiday that passed, etc. Some days I see how fast the year has gone by, and other days it feels like we're still at the beginning of this process. I don't know what I would do without this board and all of you to get me through my days, good or bad. Thank you all for being there. It's a wild ride, isn't it?
 

[theatrepal]

(Hugs) It's a wild ride full of different emotions. I'm pretty sure that each day I feel differently about the process and the wait.!

[teenybenoit]

Hugs. We are just at the beginning of this process and I can just imagine how it must feel as time flies by us. I think for me age has something to do with it, I'm 39 this year and there is something about the stigma of going into your 40's having expected to be somewhere nothing like where I am today. New beginnings include giving up the idea of birthing my own child, also a switch in careers, I'm going back to school this fall, changing my lifestyle to an incredibly healthy one because all of a sudden being diabetic and having some other health issues effect me much quicker and stronger then ever before....sorry just went off on a tangent there....
What are some suggestions to keep the anxiety from becoming overwhelming while in the waiting period?

[theatrepal]

@tennybenoit We've taken to staying busy. We go on weekend trips, go out with friends and keep living life to the fullest. We decided to see the wait as a gift of time. Normally, you'd be pregnant and unable to do things while you wait to have a child. We aren't pregnant! The world is ours to see and experience. Stay up a little to late, have an extra glass of wine and be spontaneous!

[teenybenoit]

That sounds like a great way to pass time and you are right in many ways the wait is a gift.
Thanks for sharing.

[casarosada]

DH and I are on year 3 of waiting :-( and have tried to plan a few fun trips that would be difficult/we wouldn't be able to take with a baby/kid. We also try to do random, last minute things that we wouldn't be able to do with a kid (bike/brewery tour, etc.) and I pretend that it's great that we can do random things on a whim versus having to figure out childcare, etc. I'm thinking next summer we'll plan a big trip to go abroad if we still don't have a baby.

[hootiemommytobe]

teenybenoit, theatrepal is right. You just find fun things to do while you're waiting. Yes, there will be bad days along the way, but it's important to find the good in all of it and get out there. Explore the world, take vacations, relax, whatever tickles your fancy. Dh and i have taken to going to lots of concerts, getting projects done around the house that might be more difficult once a little one is there. Most of all, try to enjoy the journey, no matter the good days or bad days. Good luck in your journey!!

[hootiemommytobe]

theatrepal, I also feel different each day about the process and journey! Especially when you've been waiting what seems like an eternity. LOL!

[teenybenoit]

hootiemommytobe I am actually starting school in September so I think that is going to be a great way to distract me as well as help me get into a new and better career, it's part time 5 years and I'm going to work full time as well.
I think my hubby and I have been afraid to take trips and be gone for long periods of time because we think that call might come just when we are out of the country. It's almost been a fear of living just in case. I'm starting to realize this is not healthy and I don't want to leave this world thinking I missed out on a lot because of just in case.

[theatrepal]

teenybenoit We've decided that the cost of a lost trip or quick flight home is worth it. In the end, the cost is pennies compared to adoption. The trips and planning also keep us sane!