Potty Training?

[Unknown]

Anybody start? Any tips?

For months now we have talked to DD about what a potty is and what it is used for, and she watches me go plus she helps me flush then we wash our hands together. Lately she has been telling us she just did or has to poo poo (which is pee and poop). I ask her if she wants to go on her potty, she says "ya", and we go and sit for awhile but nothing yet. I know it is early, so we aren't really "training", but letting her lead if she wants to sit on the potty.

We have a little potty, but she seems interested in sitting on the big potty, so I'm thinking about getting a seat for on top of it. Pros? Cons? Also, it's such a hassle w/ the diaper, so I'm thinking of switching to pull ups soon. Anybody use these yet? Do they still hold a lot? I'm thinking pull ups during the day and regular diapers at night.

[happymama]

We started around a year with DD putting her on when she wanted to, but we haven't pushed at all and have let her lead. She has gone maybe a dozen times on the potty all together, and I think she is getting the concept, but she still isn't quite there. She has been staying dry at night for a while now, but now she is peeing so much and so fast when she goes in the morning that her diaper leaks, so we have been setting her on after she wakes up in hopes of avoiding a mess.

This week we had success twice, a couple times she just held it until we gave up and put her diaper back on, and the other times when she was about to go she stood up and asked for her diaper and then peed all over the floor. Hence why I'm not pushing her...I'd rather change a diaper than clean up an accident. I think she may be ready for "real" potty training in a few more months.

[lilqt3929]

We have started something similar to what you are doing. Not forcing anything or full on training, more just her getting used to sitting on the potty and making a huge deal out of it. She's been sitting on it here and there for many months (but not daily) and just last week went pee for the 1st time (for daddy) and he has gotten her to go pee two more times! I haven't had success yet but maybe it's a good bonding thing for her and daddy. We have a little potty and a ring for the big toilet and have had more luck with the ring since she would just sit on the little potty then jump right up and play with it, she thought it was more of a toy I think. We have a potty book we read everytime she is sitting on the toilet to keep reinforcing what the potty is for and to keep her there a few extra minutes. I agree with you that the diapers are a pain and have thought about pull ups but I wasn't sure if since we're not full on training and she is still mostly going pee/poo in her diaper if they'd even work so I'd also appreciate any input on that! The only advice I have is to keep up what you are doing, make a huge deal out of her just sitting on the potty, and follow her lead when she's ready.

[redfraggle]

I'll start with DD, since she's my S13 baby:
At around 14 mo., she started saying "potty", and we took her to the little potty and let her sit on it when she asked. She went pee a few times and poop twice since then (hard to believe that was almost a year ago!). Most of the time, she just wants to sit on the potty after a diaper change or sometimes if DS or I are going, which I usually allow. I don't let her flush, wash her hands in the sink, shut the toilet lid, etc. unless she actually goes on the potty, as she considers these to be really fun activities and using them as incentives worked well when training DS. We have read a few potty books (love Leslie Patracellie "Potty"!), and I explain in detail what I'm doing when she watches me go, including that we always wipe front to back. I'm actually hoping she will PT in about a year because PTing with a NB in the house was really tough last time.

Which brings me to PTing DS, who PTed at 2.5:
Around 21 months or so, he took an interest in all things potty. So we got some books and let him watch us go, explaining in detail what we were doing. We started with a toilet seat insert, but he's such a peanut, he didn't fit well on it. I took him to Target and showed him 3 different potties and let him choose the one he liked best. (It sings, but I disabled that because I find it kind of annoying. This has come back to bite me in the but a few times when the switch has gotten bumped and freaked him out when it started playing music.)
This potty worked much better, and any time he'd ask to go, I'd get his pants and diaper off him and let him sit. I was nursing my NB DD at the time, so we often sat on the toilet while we waited for him to go. If he went, we praised him and let him help dump the excrement into the toilet, flush, wash his hands, etc. If he didn't go, we just got him redressed and didn't make a big deal out of it.
A little before 2.5, he was about to outgrow his size 4 diapers, so I told him he would need to PT soon because they didn't make bigger diapers. He bought this hook, line, and sinker, and he started being very consistent with peeing on the potty. We used Pull Ups for a week or 2 until we realized he didn't differentiate between them and diapers and would just go in them if he didn't feel like going to the potty. So a friend suggested putting him in underwear and letting him have a few accidents. This worked really well! We also emphasized that poop goes in the potty by dumping poopy diapers in the toilet and sending it to the "poop party". (The party thing sounds silly, but I still hear about it a year and a half later. Got to get the poop to it's party on time so it doesn't miss out on cake...oh my!)
We also used a sticker chart for a week or 2 to help him track his progress and be consistent. He got a sticker for pee, and for poop, he got a sticker and an animal cracker (he wouldn't eat the M&Ms I bought!). I let him pick out the stickers and help make the chart. When we ran out of spaces or stickers, the chart was done, but he was in the habit. I bought underwear with characters he liked as a surprise, but a lot of moms bring the kid to pick it out. (I already have some for DD if she decides to PT soon.)

If you want a good book recommendation, try "The Everything Potty Training Book". I got a copy from the library and really liked it. It gives overviews of 3 common methods and some general info on toileting habits and common issues. I chose the child-centered method because it jives with my parenting style, but it offers the weekend method and one other one that a friend of mine used (can't remember much about it, sorry!).

Good luck!

[carli]

Unknown we're basically doing the same thing as you. We do use the Huggies slip ons which are kind of similar to pull ups. I've been using them for a while bc she never wants to lay still for a diaper and these just slip on like panties. I use overnight diapers at night.

[mommytoone]

DS would rather go naked so he can sit on his potty when he wants.. I'm "trying" to potty train but not "forcing" sometimes he goes sometimes he doesn't... During diaper changes he always yells "pee-pee" so he sits on his potty then (most of the time he does actually go) I sometimes use pull ups but mostly just if we're going out somewhere (at home he likes to wear his big boy underwear or be naked.. Unless he ends up having more then one accident. Then it is back to the pull up) I use diapers at night or when I'm running low on the others.

[Unknown]

redfraggle, Thanks for the book rec!

Good Luck everybody! Sounds like we are all in similar places.

ETA: carli, I'm also thinking pull-ups/slip ons because DD seems annoyed by her diapers and is always trying to pull them off. Hopefully they're a little more comfortable. As long as they still give good protection from leakage.

[carli]

Aug 11, 2015 8:05:17 GMT -5 Unknown said:

redfraggle, Thanks for the book rec!

Good Luck everybody! Sounds like we are all in similar places.

ETA: carli, I'm also thinking pull-ups/slip ons because DD seems annoyed by her diapers and is always trying to pull them off. Hopefully they're a little more comfortable. As long as they still give good protection from leakage.

We've been using them for a while without leakage issues. I do use a size smaller than I do with normal diapers though.

[sugarkissed]

Like jnetx, we really haven't thought much about it yet at all. Between a new baby and a busy summer, we've had enough to think about as it is! She asked to sit on the potty once, and then proceeded to scream the second that we put her on it. I think we'll wait until the fall at least to even think about trying.

[RedDDD]

My S13 baby has been interested for about 6 months but only because my April12 baby was potty training. He started a little before age 3 being interested and honestly I think us putting him in the pull ups was a mistake. He just about a month ago switched over, literally it was like a switch. So buying the more expensive pull ups for 7 months SUCKED. I thought once he showed he was ready he would just go with it. NOPE....didn't care but loved the damn pull ups and wouldn't go back to diapers. So he is 3 and 4 months and he just did it.

S13 baby is interested (sometimes), pees and poops on the potty (sometimes), and tells us when she has to go but isn't really there yet. Personally with one potty training Im ok with that because taking a potty training kid around to run errands, visit grandma etc....is a shit show and I don't think I could handle two potty training at the same time

We have a little potty and our big potty has a mini seat already attached to the bigger seat (you can buy them at home depot). The kids alternate which one they prefer but I think they both prefer to go on the little potty only because its hard for them to get up on the big potty.

[redfraggle]

jnetx, sugarkissed, I honestly think DS PTed because it diverted my attention from DD back to him. And he was behaving similar to what you are describing. I'll bet you both will PT soon. I wish you all the luck in the world!

[redfraggle]

Aug 11, 2015 12:07:31 GMT -5 RedDDD said:

S13 baby is interested (sometimes), pees and poops on the potty (sometimes), and tells us when she has to go but isn't really there yet. Personally with one potty training Im ok with that because taking a potty training kid around to run errands, visit grandma etc....is a shit show and I don't think I could handle two potty training at the same time

I agree with this so much! I wound up lugging the little potty with us everywhere for about a month because DS was too terrified of public toilets to go if I didn't have it. He is still freaked out about flushing, but I got him to at least use the toilets when we are out, though I had to hold him on the potty and DD in my arms for a few months until he gained confidence. I lost count of the number of times I had to leave a line or trek to the opposite end of the store or whatever to get him to the potty on time. I can't fathom trying to do it with both kids simultaneously.

[joi922]

redfraggle we have that book and DS LOVES it! He says "hooray!" before we even get to that page

Like a couple PPs, we aren't anywhere near ready. DS is interested in us when we use the toilet, and has asked to sit on a few times. But generally, when we ask if he wants to use the potty, he says "no" and we don't push it. Since he's a boy, we know it will likely happen when he's closer to 3, and weren't planning to seriously try until at least the new year.

Besides, I just had another baby, and the thought of trying to potty train right now sounds awful!

[fiveohfive]

Aug 11, 2015 14:14:55 GMT -5 joi922 said:

redfraggle we have that book and DS LOVES it! He says "hooray!" before we even get to that page

Like a couple PPs, we aren't anywhere near ready. DS is interested in us when we use the toilet, and has asked to sit on a few times. But generally, when we ask if he wants to use the potty, he says "no" and we don't push it. Since he's a boy, we know it will likely happen when he's closer to 3, and weren't planning to seriously try until at least the new year.

Besides, I just had another baby, and the thought of trying to potty train right now sounds awful!

Did I miss your announcement?!? Congrats!! Boy or girl? How are you feeling?

[fiveohfive]

DD will sit on the potty when she feels like it but never actually goes. She does tell us after she has gone pee/poop in her diaper because she wants it changed. I haven't started to really push it yet since it seems she isn't quite ready yet.

[joi922]

Aug 11, 2015 15:06:38 GMT -5 fiveohfive said:

Aug 11, 2015 14:14:55 GMT -5 joi922 said:

redfraggle we have that book and DS LOVES it! He says "hooray!" before we even get to that page

Like a couple PPs, we aren't anywhere near ready. DS is interested in us when we use the toilet, and has asked to sit on a few times. But generally, when we ask if he wants to use the potty, he says "no" and we don't push it. Since he's a boy, we know it will likely happen when he's closer to 3, and weren't planning to seriously try until at least the new year.

Besides, I just had another baby, and the thought of trying to potty train right now sounds awful!

Did I miss your announcement?!? Congrats!! Boy or girl? How are you feeling?

Ha, no   I suck and didn't announce last week.  And by the time I remembered, it seemed silly to say "hey, I had a baby a week ago!" 

I had a little girl, born August 5 via RCS.  I had a really bad reaction to the spinal, so wasn't myself for about 24 hours, but baby girl and I are both doing great now.  We were shocked - she was born with a full head of hair even though DS was completely bald for the first year, and a full pound LIGHTER than her older brother! 

[lilqt3929]

Congratulations joi922 !!

[fiveohfive]

joi922--- so glad you both are doing well now! Congrats again on your 2u2. Is your DS liking his big brother role?

[redfraggle]

Aug 11, 2015 15:32:00 GMT -5 joi922 said:

Aug 11, 2015 15:06:38 GMT -5 fiveohfive said:

Did I miss your announcement?!? Congrats!! Boy or girl? How are you feeling?

Ha, no   I suck and didn't announce last week.  And by the time I remembered, it seemed silly to say "hey, I had a baby a week ago!" 

I had a little girl, born August 5 via RCS.  I had a really bad reaction to the spinal, so wasn't myself for about 24 hours, but baby girl and I are both doing great now.  We were shocked - she was born with a full head of hair even though DS was completely bald for the first year, and a full pound LIGHTER than her older brother! 

Congrats! FTR, I'll still come in and congratulate you if you do a separate post. (I waited to announce my BFP until after my early US. I don't think any of us are too worried about time frames.) I'm glad you are both doing well now!

[annarose]

Congrats joi922!!!!!! Glad you are both doing well - enjoy your new baby!

[joi922]

Aug 11, 2015 17:48:38 GMT -5 fiveohfive said:

joi922--- so glad you both are doing well now! Congrats again on your 2u2. Is your DS liking his big brother role?

We think so. He seems a little wary of her, but also is quick to tell me the baby is crying or baby is drinking milk. He also brings us her spit up cloths or hands us her bottles - we think those are all good signs

PS - sorry for the threadjack everyone!

[af1004]

joi922 congrats! Hope all continues to go well with 2u2.

SIL got DD a potty for Christmas and then I bought another in the spring because we have 2 bathrooms on 2 levels. DD played on the potty for a few months but of course I was and still aren't pushing it. I just wanted her to get comfortable. She randomly peed in it a few times.
Now she will not sit in the little potty at all. She uses the rings in the big toilets and the potty as a step. About a month ago I dumped her poop in the toilet, just to keep it from sitting in the trash. If we are at home and she poops, she'll try to dump it so I have to keep a close eye. Several times she has pooped in the toilet since though. Once totally on her own then flushed as I walked in. We did get her the training panties but haven't really tried them yet.
I think she's showing tons of signs she ready but I'm not really ready yet. It's much easier to change a few diapers during the day rather than trying every few minutes. And you BTDT mom's have me worried about going to the store while pt!

[salemkitty]

We are waiting. DS isn't ready. I would rather wait and hopefully train faster than spend a long time training. If DS starts showing more readiness, I'll reconsider.