Post by mcp6286 on Aug 13, 2015 19:35:57 GMT -5
How many siblings do you and your H have? I am the oldest of 5, with 2 younger brothers and 2 younger sisters. H has 3 brothers but his oldest is a half brother and a lot older, so H was basically the middle child btw the other two growing up.
How many kids do you each want? I want 2 and usually H agrees, though he says he'll be tempted to go for 3 if the next one is another girl.
Has your own experience influenced your decisions? I hated growing up in a big family. My mom didn't work and we were always poor, so I always felt like I missed out on a lot....experiences, attention, the "cool" possession of the time. I was also always the odd one out, since my brothers hung out and my sisters hung out. And oh, the sharing and the hand-me-downs - nothing was ever truly just mine. Now I'm super close to my one sister and on good terms with all the other siblings too, so it worked out but it took a while before I could enjoy them (I'm also 10 years older than the youngest).
H was the spoiled middle child. The brother older than him was always in trouble and the brother below him is super chill/introverted so H was the family golden boy.
With the careers we've chosen, we're never going to be wealthy, so we can only realistically give 2 kids the amazing life we want for them. Our parents didn't pay for first cars, college, our wedding, etc. and that's been really tough because we're both working our way out from under a pile of debt. We don't want that for our kids. I also want to have plenty of time and attention for each one....my mom straight up admits that she didnt put the same amount of effort into raising my youngest three siblings because she was "so tired by then". Parents can only spread themselves so thin and I want to make sure I'm not so tired that I'm giving my kids less than they deserve. Some people can handle more kids well but I know I'm not one of them.
How many kids do you each want? I want 2 and usually H agrees, though he says he'll be tempted to go for 3 if the next one is another girl.
Has your own experience influenced your decisions? I hated growing up in a big family. My mom didn't work and we were always poor, so I always felt like I missed out on a lot....experiences, attention, the "cool" possession of the time. I was also always the odd one out, since my brothers hung out and my sisters hung out. And oh, the sharing and the hand-me-downs - nothing was ever truly just mine. Now I'm super close to my one sister and on good terms with all the other siblings too, so it worked out but it took a while before I could enjoy them (I'm also 10 years older than the youngest).
H was the spoiled middle child. The brother older than him was always in trouble and the brother below him is super chill/introverted so H was the family golden boy.
With the careers we've chosen, we're never going to be wealthy, so we can only realistically give 2 kids the amazing life we want for them. Our parents didn't pay for first cars, college, our wedding, etc. and that's been really tough because we're both working our way out from under a pile of debt. We don't want that for our kids. I also want to have plenty of time and attention for each one....my mom straight up admits that she didnt put the same amount of effort into raising my youngest three siblings because she was "so tired by then". Parents can only spread themselves so thin and I want to make sure I'm not so tired that I'm giving my kids less than they deserve. Some people can handle more kids well but I know I'm not one of them.