Mommy guilt!

[missjenniebean]

Aug 12, 2015 18:01:06 GMT -5 @jemomma said:

Don't feel guilty! You aren't doing anything wrong! Little M is prone to constipation as well, and we also use formula. You can't control everything, and it sounds like you are doing the best you can for her. I hope her constipation gets better soon, hang in there! **hugs**

what she said. You aren't doing anything wrong. *hugs* hope it all gets better soon!

[carolyngrace]

So sorry you're feeling that way. You are doing the best you can for your DB and she is going to be just fine! People do formula for all different reasons, and all of them are legitimate. I hope your DB starts pooping without pain soon, because I'm sure that's hard to watch, but don't blame yourself. xoxo

[billyhorrible]

Not exactly the same, but LBB went to an amazing daycare center as an infant. They held him for naps when needed, had "structure" to the day, even for infants (sensory, story time, etc.), and most of the kids in his class were born in October 2011 (can you imagine if your daycare was all June 15 babies?, it'd be like this board!) We moved and there's nothing like that in this area. There are no centers, so BH will be at an in-home, where he will be the only infant, and it's much more like a babysitter than an educational experience. I was telling a friend how I feel really guilty that LBB's experience is so different and better than what BH will be getting. She pointed out that when you have 2, there are always going to be differences, things you did with your first that your second isn't going to get. But conversely, there will be things you "do better" with your second, or things they get the first didn't. So what you're feeling is totally natural.

On a more similar note, my brother was born at 36 weeks, and shortly thereafter got really sick with a virus that wiped out his entire digestive system. My mom couldn't breastfeed him, because he literally could not digest breastmilk, he had to be on a special pre-digested formula. She felt guilty for not breastfeeding. But you know what? My brother is amazing. He is the funniest, quickest wit I know. He is the best looking member of our family. Super athletic. A brilliant artist. And he scored a perfect score on his Math SATS (for entrance to college.) So really, formula didn't hold him back at all!

[dogmama22]

It is so hard to see them uncomfortable. FX for soft poop soon with the new formula.

[tatersalad]

@hazeldublin you really shouldn't blame yourself. My first was EBF and had just as many digestive issues as my June baby who has been all formula. It's just hard to be a newborn with a developing digestive system. FX the poop issue resolved itself soon.

[dogmama22]

Aug 13, 2015 14:51:15 GMT -5 @hazeldublin said:

Well we had a yellow paste instead of the green hard poop! Thanks so much for the support. As far as the breast feeding goes whenever she lies in my chest she tries to suck at my skin and I have this urge the past week to breastfeed probably because mentally I feel so sorry for her in pain and I can't do anything....or I'm just losing my marbles all together!

It probably wouldn't hurt to let her comfort nurse if that's something you're interested in. I know of several people who FF, but still allow their littles to nurse even though nothing comes out.

[dogmama22]

Aug 13, 2015 16:16:41 GMT -5 @hazeldublin said:

dogmama22 I've never heard of that, I'm not sure if I find that strange or not, also I could squeeze a drop out very quickly so would comfort nursing stimulate production?

I don't know how I would feel about it for myself, either, but I know it is done. It could probably stimulate higher production if you're still producing right now.

[dogmama22]

Aug 14, 2015 9:27:48 GMT -5 @hazeldublin said:

dogmama22 I'm on antibiotics for a UTI so that's that anyway. Can only imagine poisoning my child would only add to the guilty feelings lol!

Definitely don't do anything that adds to your guilty feelings. You are doing the absolute best that you can for yourself and your LO. Keep it up, mama. Hope your baby feels better very soon

[amber311]

I feel the same way! My dd has silent reflux and we weren't sure if it was me or the formula we were supplementing (I wasn't producing enough) so because no one was sleeping and she was so miserable we opted for formula and I have had nothing but guilt since. Hugs to you! Glad your lo had a good poo!