My FC? I may kill my DH today. He sat in the car with dd and waited while I dealt with a meltdown from ds that he caused and got myself ready to go visit his family. He was butthurt because he didn't like how I talked to him (basically I told him he caused the meltdown by overreacting). You guys will have to be my defense that it is justifiable if I do kill him
Jk obviously but I don't really have any other FC and I'm sitting in the car for an hour so I figured I would add something, even if it's more SIWTBU.
I think I have one ... I know a lot of people were upset by how the duggars parents handled the situation with josh because charges were not pressed, and I 100% agree more should have been done to protect the victims and that the parents did not handle it in a very appropriate way. But I don't know if I could ever go to the police about something my DD or DS did, unless it was like murder or something. I hate to even think about being in a position to have to decide something like that. I just don't know what I would have done.
Post by Riverdong11 on Aug 14, 2015 8:02:46 GMT -5
Liam developed a crazy high fever overnight. I was up multiple times with him and the sleep I did get was awful. Since he's feeling better this morning I'm laying in bed getting ready for a nap while my MIL watches him. Dare I say that I'm happy my MIL is staying at my house right now?!
My FC? I may kill my DH today. He sat in the car with dd and waited while I dealt with a meltdown from ds that he caused and got myself ready to go visit his family. He was butthurt because he didn't like how I talked to him (basically I told him he caused the meltdown by overreacting). You guys will have to be my defense that it is justifiable if I do kill him
Jk obviously but I don't really have any other FC and I'm sitting in the car for an hour so I figured I would add something, even if it's more SIWTBU.
So I will play devil's advocate on this one (admittedly I wasn't there and don't know the details) but my H did this to me once - told me I caused Ingrid's meltdown - and I was furious. She got upset about who knows what and he said I made it worse by engaging with her instead of ignoring her . I hadn't been engaging her - but regardless, the thing that pissed me off was that he undermined me in front of our child during a fight. I told him if he disagreed with how I was handling a situation, then we could talk about it later. He agreed with me after I showed him my point of view that saying that to me at that time in front of Ingrid was uncool.
I saw a friend this week who has a daughter the same age as Tumaini. We found out we were expecting baby 2 at about the same time. However, she felt she'd be a better parent and a happier person with only one child, and had an abortion. She seemed so rested and put together when I saw her - nice haircut and fashionable clothes, anecdotes from activities and social events, happy with her professional life... I was a bit jealous of her life and for a while, I wondered if I wouldn't have been happier if I had made the same decision she did.
My FC? I may kill my DH today. He sat in the car with dd and waited while I dealt with a meltdown from ds that he caused and got myself ready to go visit his family. He was butthurt because he didn't like how I talked to him (basically I told him he caused the meltdown by overreacting). You guys will have to be my defense that it is justifiable if I do kill him
Jk obviously but I don't really have any other FC and I'm sitting in the car for an hour so I figured I would add something, even if it's more SIWTBU.
So I will play devil's advocate on this one (admittedly I wasn't there and don't know the details) but my H did this to me once - told me I caused Ingrid's meltdown - and I was furious. She got upset about who knows what and he said I made it worse by engaging with her instead of ignoring her . I hadn't been engaging her - but regardless, the thing that pissed me off was that he undermined me in front of our child during a fight. I told him if he disagreed with how I was handling a situation, then we could talk about it later. He agreed with me after I showed him my point of view that saying that to me at that time in front of Ingrid was uncool.
True. Our son was in his room at the time so it wasn't right in front of him. But I know sometimes it's hard for us because we have some areas we struggle to agree on how to discipline.
I saw a friend this week who has a daughter the same age as Tumaini. We found out we were expecting baby 2 at about the same time. However, she felt she'd be a better parent and a happier person with only one child, and had an abortion. She seemed so rested and put together when I saw her - nice haircut and fashionable clothes, anecdotes from activities and social events, happy with her professional life... I was a bit jealous of her life and for a while, I wondered if I wouldn't have been happier if I had made the same decision she did.
So I'm not going to get into a huge debate on this because for the most part I believe you should have a say over your own body. BUUUUUT if she really felt this way I feel like there are way better avenues to ensure you don't get pregnant than this. Get your tubes tied, use protection, etc not just meh don't want this one I'll just have an abortion. This just really rubbed me the wrong way and is really saddening.
I saw a friend this week who has a daughter the same age as Tumaini. We found out we were expecting baby 2 at about the same time. However, she felt she'd be a better parent and a happier person with only one child, and had an abortion. She seemed so rested and put together when I saw her - nice haircut and fashionable clothes, anecdotes from activities and social events, happy with her professional life... I was a bit jealous of her life and for a while, I wondered if I wouldn't have been happier if I had made the same decision she did.
So I'm not going to get into a huge debate on this because for the most part I believe you should have a say over your own body. BUUUUUT if she really felt this way I feel like there are way better avenues to ensure you don't get pregnant than this. Get your tubes tied, use protection, etc not just meh don't want this one I'll just have an abortion. This just really rubbed me the wrong way and is really saddening.
So I have problem with the "you should have/could have prevented the pregnancy to begin with" argument against abortion because I just think it's a little hypocritical. If pregnancy resulted from every "irresponsible" sexual decision there would be no debate; everyone would be pro-choice. Because the fact is we don't have sex just to procreate, we have sex for pleasure, for fun, for intimacy, for a multitude of reasons both good and bad. The difference is we don't all have to face an unwanted pregnancy as a result of a poor decision - or as a result of failed birth control.
So I'm not going to get into a huge debate on this because for the most part I believe you should have a say over your own body. BUUUUUT if she really felt this way I feel like there are way better avenues to ensure you don't get pregnant than this. Get your tubes tied, use protection, etc not just meh don't want this one I'll just have an abortion. This just really rubbed me the wrong way and is really saddening.
So I have problem with the "you should have/could have prevented the pregnancy to begin with" argument against abortion because I just think it's a little hypocritical. If pregnancy resulted from every "irresponsible" sexual decision there would be no debate; everyone would be pro-choice. Because the fact is we don't have sex just to procreate, we have sex for pleasure, for fun, for intimacy, for a multitude of reasons both good and bad. The difference is we don't all have to face an unwanted pregnancy as a result of a poor decision - or as a result of failed birth control.
I don't know what method of birth control they were using, or even if they were using any. I do know H and I were using condoms consistently and correctly (I think) and I still got pregnant with Liam. I have a good friend who is expecting a third baby even if she was taking her birth control pill correctly. Sometimes unexpected pregnancies happen to responsible people.
So I'm not going to get into a huge debate on this because for the most part I believe you should have a say over your own body. BUUUUUT if she really felt this way I feel like there are way better avenues to ensure you don't get pregnant than this. Get your tubes tied, use protection, etc not just meh don't want this one I'll just have an abortion. This just really rubbed me the wrong way and is really saddening.
So I have problem with the "you should have/could have prevented the pregnancy to begin with" argument against abortion because I just think it's a little hypocritical. If pregnancy resulted from every "irresponsible" sexual decision there would be no debate; everyone would be pro-choice. Because the fact is we don't have sex just to procreate, we have sex for pleasure, for fun, for intimacy, for a multitude of reasons both good and bad. The difference is we don't all have to face an unwanted pregnancy as a result of a poor decision - or as a result of failed birth control.
I get this too, I really do and I do tend to agree! Like I said I don't want to get into a big debate. Maybe it was just the way it was worded or how I interpreted it that seemed a like it was no big deal. When in reality regardless of your decision(again I do believe it should be your decision) it is a big deal
Post by aimeefarrahfowler on Aug 14, 2015 9:31:33 GMT -5
barefoot84 I think I know what you mean. I don't ever wish I didn't have my kids, but there are times where I think about what my life would be like without kids. Or a husband, for that matter
I think deciding to have an abortion is always a big deal, more so when you've already had a full pregnancy and a child. You're just more aware of what you' re giving up, what it means to be a parent.
It was a hard time for my friend and it'll stay with her. Sometimes I see her watching her daughter play with Liam and I know she's wondering what would have happened if she had kept the baby.
Being an adult and a parent is hard, and she didn't feel able to take care of two babies. I couldn't have made the same decision but I can respect it.
I crazy love both my babies but some days I feel like the shell of who I used to be. I just look forward to a place where there will be more time and energy for my wants and needs.
barefoot84 I think I know what you mean. I don't ever wish I didn't have my kids, but there are times where I think about what my life would be like without kids. Or a husband, for that matter
Post by origamimommy on Aug 14, 2015 10:16:21 GMT -5
My counselor canceled on me this week, so instead of letting DH know, I went to Pure Barre and then to have a drink at the pub next door. Me time crisis averted.
So I'm not going to get into a huge debate on this because for the most part I believe you should have a say over your own body. BUUUUUT if she really felt this way I feel like there are way better avenues to ensure you don't get pregnant than this. Get your tubes tied, use protection, etc not just meh don't want this one I'll just have an abortion. This just really rubbed me the wrong way and is really saddening.
So I have problem with the "you should have/could have prevented the pregnancy to begin with" argument against abortion because I just think it's a little hypocritical. If pregnancy resulted from every "irresponsible" sexual decision there would be no debate; everyone would be pro-choice. Because the fact is we don't have sex just to procreate, we have sex for pleasure, for fun, for intimacy, for a multitude of reasons both good and bad. The difference is we don't all have to face an unwanted pregnancy as a result of a poor decision - or as a result of failed birth control.
I think it's never fair to assume that the women having an abortion didn't use any precautions. An abortion can be traumatizing and I don't think anyone wants to go through it. However, a woman has 30 some years of fertility. That's a long time to go without a slip-up. Sometimes even a vasectomy fails and someone gets pregnant. It's pretty hard when you get caught in a situation like that.
Post by sarahandeddie on Aug 14, 2015 11:19:52 GMT -5
Before having children I was strongly pro choice. After having children I have very mixed feelings. I think having those early u/s and seeing heartbeats at 6w made me think more about it.
I'd never tell anyone what decision they should/should not make but I know I couldn't terminate a pregnancy simply because it was unplanned. If the issue is the health of the mother or child that's completely different IMO.
I am training for a half marathon in October and am really excited about it and have been feeling really good since starting to run again. I also just got this crazy notion in my head that I want to run a full marathon in March (only mildly crazy) and a 50 mile ultra in October 2016 (WTF is wrong with me!?).
I am training for a half marathon in October and am really excited about it and have been feeling really good since starting to run again. I also just got this crazy notion in my head that I want to run a full marathon in March (only mildly crazy) and a 50 mile ultra in October 2016 (WTF is wrong with me!?).
I understand the feeling - it's a high for sure! I got that way after training for my first half iron-man. I trained for a full marathon a few years ago but didn't get to do the race because I hurt my knee on vacation about 3 weeks before the race. Right now I just don't have the kind of time to commit to training for that distance though. About an hour and a half is about the longest we can run with the kids in the stroller before they start getting antsy and wanting out.
I ran two half-marathons after Eli was born, but for some reason since the last one I did back in March I've just lost my running mojo. I'm hoping it comes back, but lately I've been struggling to run more than 6 miles.
I am training for a half marathon in October and am really excited about it and have been feeling really good since starting to run again. I also just got this crazy notion in my head that I want to run a full marathon in March (only mildly crazy) and a 50 mile ultra in October 2016 (WTF is wrong with me!?).
I understand the feeling - it's a high for sure! I got that way after training for my first half iron-man. I trained for a full marathon a few years ago but didn't get to do the race because I hurt my knee on vacation about 3 weeks before the race. Right now I just don't have the kind of time to commit to training for that distance though. About an hour and a half is about the longest we can run with the kids in the stroller before they start getting antsy and wanting out.
I ran two half-marathons after Eli was born, but for some reason since the last one I did back in March I've just lost my running mojo. I'm hoping it comes back, but lately I've been struggling to run more than 6 miles.
Maybe change your training and focus on a new PR for a shorter distance? Either a 5k or a 10k? And in the fall, you can reevaluate if you want to train for a longer distance?
I am training for a half marathon in October and am really excited about it and have been feeling really good since starting to run again. I also just got this crazy notion in my head that I want to run a full marathon in March (only mildly crazy) and a 50 mile ultra in October 2016 (WTF is wrong with me!?).
Where do you live again? A good friend of mine organizes an awesome ultra race for good causes in a beautiful setting. In the meantime, you could look into running an ultra relay with friends so you know what to expect when you do it on your own?
Before having children I was strongly pro choice. After having children I have very mixed feelings. I think having those early u/s and seeing heartbeats at 6w made me think more about it.
I'd never tell anyone what decision they should/should not make but I know I couldn't terminate a pregnancy simply because it was unplanned. If the issue is the health of the mother or child that's completely different IMO.
When I was younger, I leaned more towards prolife. Now that I know all that is involved with having a child, I've become more prochoice. However, my friends know I would respect but not support their choice to abort. I'm much more likely to promise a friend all the help she needs in raising the baby and following through.
I think deciding to have an abortion is always a big deal, more so when you've already had a full pregnancy and a child. You're just more aware of what you' re giving up, what it means to be a parent.
It was a hard time for my friend and it'll stay with her. Sometimes I see her watching her daughter play with Liam and I know she's wondering what would have happened if she had kept the baby.
Being an adult and a parent is hard, and she didn't feel able to take care of two babies. I couldn't have made the same decision but I can respect it.
I crazy love both my babies but some days I feel like the shell of who I used to be. I just look forward to a place where there will be more time and energy for my wants and needs.
@barefoot I can relate to your last paragraph completely. It's a delicate place between not wanting these early times to go too quickly and longing for more independence from my kids so I can focus on myself more. The feelings intensified after P was born (after enjoying the growing independence of a 2/3 year old). When I think about having a third, I'm really not sure if I could do it.
I struggle with enjoying/being in the present instead of constantly looking forward to the next phase/big thing/vacation/adventure /what have you.
Before having children I was strongly pro choice. After having children I have very mixed feelings. I think having those early u/s and seeing heartbeats at 6w made me think more about it.
I'd never tell anyone what decision they should/should not make but I know I couldn't terminate a pregnancy simply because it was unplanned. If the issue is the health of the mother or child that's completely different IMO.
I feel the same way after having children. But in the end I'm still staunchly pro-choice because I think that's where my feelings still exist: I know what's right for me and my family, not anyone else's. So I'll make the best decision for me and let others make the best for them.
I don't have anything to confess today because I did NOT eat a family size box of macaroni and cheese for lunch, and Robin did NOT eat fruit loops and chocolate milk for lunch.
I am training for a half marathon in October and am really excited about it and have been feeling really good since starting to run again. I also just got this crazy notion in my head that I want to run a full marathon in March (only mildly crazy) and a 50 mile ultra in October 2016 (WTF is wrong with me!?).
Where do you live again? A good friend of mine organizes an awesome ultra race for good causes in a beautiful setting. In the meantime, you could look into running an ultra relay with friends so you know what to expect when you do it on your own?
We live in NC. I don't have any friends here yet, and I don't really have any close friends who run so I think a relay is likely out. But I am getting ahead of myself as the ultra I was looking at is 14 months away. I'm going to see how I like the half and a full marathon first and go from there.
I am training for a half marathon in October and am really excited about it and have been feeling really good since starting to run again. I also just got this crazy notion in my head that I want to run a full marathon in March (only mildly crazy) and a 50 mile ultra in October 2016 (WTF is wrong with me!?).
I understand the feeling - it's a high for sure! I got that way after training for my first half iron-man. I trained for a full marathon a few years ago but didn't get to do the race because I hurt my knee on vacation about 3 weeks before the race. Right now I just don't have the kind of time to commit to training for that distance though. About an hour and a half is about the longest we can run with the kids in the stroller before they start getting antsy and wanting out.
I ran two half-marathons after Eli was born, but for some reason since the last one I did back in March I've just lost my running mojo. I'm hoping it comes back, but lately I've been struggling to run more than 6 miles.
Yeah I don't know that I will be able to commit the amount of time an ultra would require, but I like the idea of it right now. I will see how the half and the a marathon go first obviously.
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