I debated posting this in the stage 5 clinger thread, but thought they were separate enough to warrant a new thread (and not clog spam).
DD will not go to other people except for dh. She just now is starting to go to grandparents, but she starts screaming when dh or I leave the room. She's been like this since she was 6 weeks or so. On Sunday we attempted to place her in the church nursery because we thought she might handle it without screaming the whole time (she's been more social lately). She lasted 5 minutes before screaming for 20 minutes. They then called me out of service.
I'm hoping to do MOPS starting September 1, but I worry she'll repeat in the childcare program there. We plan on trying the nursery again at church Sunday, but does anyone have any advice to help her transition? We've tried to make strangers a happy, fun thing by giving her lots of smiles and claps when we hand her over, but that doesn't work for long.
Post by michelle142 on Aug 19, 2015 13:39:16 GMT -5
My only tips are comfort objects and consistency.
This is prime age for SA to kick into overdrive.
Find an item that LO loves and send it everywhere with them (and have extras!). This will give an extra layer of comfort.
Be consistent. I know it's hard and you'll feel like caving, but you can't put your life on hold because your baby hates strangers (who aren't really strangers at all). The more time LO spends say... in the nursery at church.. the more she will get used to it.
We have had the same issue with DS freaking out in the church nursery. He currently seems to be okay with others holding him as long as he can see me. No advice, though. I fear it's only going to get worse as he gets older because I SAH.
That's what I worry about, too. We go out to lap time and are doing a play group/swim lessons in tbe fall, but all those interactions will be with me right there.
Post by junebugjam on Aug 19, 2015 14:57:30 GMT -5
I think just a slow transition. My LO has some of these issues also. He sees his grandparents all the time so he's gotten used to them now, but I brought him to visit my grandmother last week and he screamed when she tried to hold him. I took him back for 20 minutes or so and faced him toward her so he could just get used to her presence, and then he went to her fine.
He's also started daycare recently and when we dropped him off for some trial runs, I'm pretty sure he cried the entire first visit (only 40 minutes), then he did better the second time (90 minutes) and he cried when I dropped him off for the day yesterday, but then he got over it.
I know it's hard but don't be afraid to let him cry. I feel like it's the same as sleep training. He won't cry forever. I would start with familiar people like grandparents and then work up to church nurses, etc when he's a little more used to others.
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