FFFC 8/21

[honeybee434]

I don't have much in my email inbox this morning. I'm hoping it stays that way so I can catch up on here/fantasy football leagues/Facebook/whatever else I want. It's friday. I'm over this week!

[Lola]

I realized yesterday that I forgot to shave one of my armpits. Woops.

[Lola]

FFFC # 2: I have an irrational attachment to all of my grad school work. My laptop is full and I should really just delete it...but everytime I go to click it, I freak out. Its pointless to back up to a hard drive. When am I ever going to look at it again???

[jnnfrrose6]

Aug 21, 2015 8:28:47 GMT -5 Lola said:

FFFC # 2: I have an irrational attachment to all of my grad school work. My laptop is full and I should really just delete it...but everytime I go to click it, I freak out. Its pointless to back up to a hard drive. When am I ever going to look at it again???

DH refuses to get rid of his grad school books because he may "need" them one day. He graduated 10 years ago and they've been through 5 moves and I've yet to see him open one.

[lucanjo14]

DH and I haven't had sex in at least two months. Mostly because I'm exhausted by the time I get the kids to bed, or he snores me out and I leave. I only feel slightly guilty.

[littlemissmarla]

Currently feeding Zoey stale graham crackers because they are softer than when the are fresh? So strange how that happens.

[jnnfrrose6]

It's been a minute over here. Didn't help that he tried last week on day 2 of my period. Nope, not gonna do it.

[jnnfrrose6]

I'm supposed to be at work until 2 today. There's a very real possibility I'll leave earlier and just not fob out. I've already turned in my time sheet for the week.

[Lola]

Aug 21, 2015 9:24:26 GMT -5 @iheartmyshiba said:

Aug 21, 2015 8:28:47 GMT -5 Lola said:

FFFC # 2: I have an irrational attachment to all of my grad school work. My laptop is full and I should really just delete it...but everytime I go to click it, I freak out. Its pointless to back up to a hard drive. When am I ever going to look at it again???

I have mine too. It feels wrong to delete hours and hours of hard work. Can you add more memory to your laptop? My Mac mini had been slow and DH checked, we can easily buy and add memory and beef it up x4 from its currently amount.

Hmm.. I hadnt thought of that. I have a macbook air, so im not sure. I'll have to check though. 

[Lola]

Aug 21, 2015 9:29:40 GMT -5 lucanjo14 said:

DH and I haven't had sex in at least two months. Mostly because I'm exhausted by the time I get the kids to bed, or he snores me out and I leave. I only feel slightly guilty.

I think you have ever right to be exhausted! If hes snoring he clearly doesnt want sex! 

[honeybee434]

I have my yearly OB appt on Monday. I purposely scheduled it for late enough in the afternoon to where I wouldn't have to work after, but early enough that I get about 2 hours of free time I wouldn't have had without the appointment. I can't decide if I want extra time with the baby or a nap.

[jnnfrrose6]

Aug 21, 2015 10:01:18 GMT -5 honeybee434 said:

I have my yearly OB appt on Monday. I purposely scheduled it for late enough in the afternoon to where I wouldn't have to work after, but early enough that I get about 2 hours of free time I wouldn't have had without the appointment. I can't decide if I want extra time with the baby or a nap.

Nap or get a mani/pedi.

[liziz]

Aug 21, 2015 9:50:28 GMT -5 jnnfrrose6 said:

I'm supposed to be at work until 2 today. There's a very real possibility I'll leave earlier and just not fob out. I've already turned in my time sheet for the week.

I'm trying to figure out a good way to sneak out an hour early. I'm hoping my boss will take a long lunch and I can sneak out

[honeybee434]

I'm judging SIL in my head, really hard right now. She just told me that she intends to start my 3rd nephew in school a year late (she did this with my first nephew with an April birthday, which I thjnk I've mentioned before). His birthday is the befinning of March. he is 16 months older than DD and they will be in the same grade in school. She just "doesn't want him to be the youngest and boys mature slower than girls."

I know not my kid I shoudn't care, but I hate the idea of DD going to school with kids so much older than she is all because parents don't want their kids to be the youngest. If developmentally they aren't ready, that's one thing...but just a blanket reason? My nephew who she already held back is such a huge influence on his friends because he is so much older, I could easily see it being an issue for the parents of kids who started theirs on time.

[jnnfrrose6]

Aug 21, 2015 11:08:14 GMT -5 TheCoffeeNinja said:

honeybee434, judging right along with you. The UK don't do it, your kid is in their age group and that's that. If the kid has any specific educational needs, they will be addressed while the kid is in the age-appropriate class so I find it really weird that parents can delay their kids starting school in the US because they take exception to their kid being the youngest.

+2. DS 's birthday is this weekend. When he was born, the cut off was Aug 30, so he was going to be one of the youngest in his class. DH and I both agreed that it was ridiculous to hold him back unless he needed it. They just changed the law to Aug 1, and it'll be sliding back to July 1 by the time he starts (school here starts the first week of August), so now he'll be one of the oldest AND I have to pay for another year of pre-school. Also, now my kids will only be a year apart in school.

ETA and how exactly does a march birthday make him one of the youngest? What about all the summer babies?

[anotherdreamer]

Aug 21, 2015 3:49:45 GMT -5 @iheartmyshiba said:

Shaved yesterday... For the first time in like 2 weeks... Yup.

This is me.

The other day I had fairly noticeable stubble, and said screw it. I told DH "I'm a 30 year old woman. If people are shocked that I have leg hair, that's their problem not mine." I've barely had time to shower with the packing and moving prep, I have zero fucks to give. DH said he couldn't even see it lol, but it was pretty noticeable to me.

[anotherdreamer]

Aug 21, 2015 10:59:59 GMT -5 honeybee434 said:

I'm judging SIL in my head, really hard right now. She just told me that she intends to start my 3rd nephew in school a year late (she did this with my first nephew with an April birthday, which I thjnk I've mentioned before). His birthday is the befinning of March. he is 16 months older than DD and they will be in the same grade in school. She just "doesn't want him to be the youngest and boys mature slower than girls."

I know not my kid I shoudn't care, but I hate the idea of DD going to school with kids so much older than she is all because parents don't want their kids to be the youngest. If developmentally they aren't ready, that's one thing...but just a blanket reason? My nephew who she already held back is such a huge influence on his friends because he is so much older, I could easily see it being an issue for the parents of kids who started theirs on time.

I'd never even heard of holding your kid back with a delayed start until this board. I really don't get why you would do that unless you had legitimate concerns about your child's readiness or development... Even then, case by case differences.

[liziz]

Aug 21, 2015 11:58:16 GMT -5 anotherdreamer said:

Aug 21, 2015 10:59:59 GMT -5 honeybee434 said:

I'm judging SIL in my head, really hard right now. She just told me that she intends to start my 3rd nephew in school a year late (she did this with my first nephew with an April birthday, which I thjnk I've mentioned before). His birthday is the befinning of March. he is 16 months older than DD and they will be in the same grade in school. She just "doesn't want him to be the youngest and boys mature slower than girls."

I know not my kid I shoudn't care, but I hate the idea of DD going to school with kids so much older than she is all because parents don't want their kids to be the youngest. If developmentally they aren't ready, that's one thing...but just a blanket reason? My nephew who she already held back is such a huge influence on his friends because he is so much older, I could easily see it being an issue for the parents of kids who started theirs on time.

I'd never even heard of holding your kid back with a delayed start until this board. I really don't get why you would do that unless you had legitimate concerns about your child's readiness or development... Even then, case by case differences.

I think it's really common when kids are right on the cut off date (and may have other reasons to be held back - size, development, etc.), but I don't get making that choice because your kid is in the younger half (maybe?) of your class.

The cutoff for us growing up was December 1. So the oldest kids in my class (unless held back for other reasons) were born in December the year before me, and my bday is in May. It was never that big of a deal.

[honeybee434]

I even get a Bday right before the cutoff. My second nephew (held back again) has a birthday mid-August, and he honestly was probably NOT ready for kindergarten on a maturity level and was close to the cutoff, so that I understand a little more. He repeats pre-k again this year and his previous teacher agreed with the repeat. (Cutoff for us is Sept 1st).

DH has a mid to end of July Bday and repeated either pre-k or kindergarten due to similar reason as above.

March and April I just don't get. I imagine it could get awkward later. Kids aren't always nice, and realizing someone is a lot older could create issues. Or even in HS dating younger people, or if he gets in trouble he wouldn't have adult laws to deal with vs junvenile. (I only think of this with high school pranks, etc. not serious crimes)

[honeybee434]

Oh, and I forgot to mention she is due with baby #4 any time who will be a girl. And she said she has no plans on holding her back and wants her started on time. So it's totally a sex of her kid thing. She says she assumes she will be more mature at that age bc she is a girl.

[isolemnlyswear]

Let's be honest. She wants the biggest fasted more physically mature kid when it comes to sports. I've heard a ton of parents do it for this reason even though they claim mental maturity. It's super wrong to me. It's one thing if you have a late June - cut off baby. But march? I was end April and never felt like one of the youngest..

[honeybee434]

Aug 21, 2015 15:03:04 GMT -5 isolemnlyswear said:

Let's be honest. She wants the biggest fasted more physically mature kid when it comes to sports. I've heard a ton of parents do it for this reason even though they claim mental maturity. It's super wrong to me. It's one thing if you have a late June - cut off baby. But march? I was end April and never felt like one of the youngest..

Yes to all of this!

[surfmama106]

I'm an October birthday and was always the youngest. It only bothered me when I was getting my license or trying to drink. Other then that it wasn't a big deal.

I wouldn't hold my kids back, I have a friend with a November Bday baby and she has no plans of holding her back either. I think the cutoff is Dec 1 around here. My other friend's son is Dec 4 and I know she said he will be held back when he gets school age. I don't know if she has a choice though since the cut off is Dec 1.

[Lola]

Aug 21, 2015 16:12:31 GMT -5 surfmama106 said:

I'm an October birthday and was always the youngest. It only bothered me when I was getting my license or trying to drink. Other then that it wasn't a big deal.

I wouldn't hold my kids back, I have a friend with a November Bday baby and she has no plans of holding her back either. I think the cutoff is Dec 1 around here. My other friend's son is Dec 4 and I know she said he will be held back when he gets school age. I don't know if she has a choice though since the cut off is Dec 1.

Does that mean she will start kindergarten at 4? My step son is 5 in November but misses the 9/1 cut off for school this year.

[lucanjo14]

Aug 21, 2015 13:20:02 GMT -5 honeybee434 said:

Oh, and I forgot to mention she is due with baby #4 any time who will be a girl. And she said she has no plans on holding her back and wants her started on time. So it's totally a sex of her kid thing. She says she assumes she will be more mature at that age bc she is a girl.

Side eyeing this hard. Pretty much agree with what everyone else has said.y daughters birthday is aug 1, the cutoff here is sept 1. At the time her dad wanted to hold her back and I said no way. Still glad I started her on time, she may be one of the shorter ones in her class but she is definitely mature enough and was ready.

[surfmama106]

I believe so. Starts at 4 turns 5 in November.

[lea]

Our cutoff date is January 1. To me that's way too late for kids going into kindergarten. They would still be four for almost half of kindergarten and now that it is full day here and much more rigorous than when we were in kindergarten, I don't understand why they don't move the cutoff date up to September or October 1st. Many parents - especially of boys - have been holding their kids back anyway. There was talk of changing it a few years ago but it never came to fruition.