Post by pitdigger on Aug 22, 2015 5:57:19 GMT -5
Drunken rant ahead:
I had 3 pisco sours since DH and I decided on a Chilean night and now I'm up with the self doubt and vague feeling of DH's family eating crackers for me while being drunk (rant ahead). I just want the dame amount of random acknowledgement that SIL gets from them. Instead, she gets all the 'you're such a good mom' and 'OMG so great for nephew' and I get jack shit. I'll say 'G's doing this!' and the first thing they do is say 'nephew's been doing that since x weeks (before G)'. Fuck's sake, just start with 'yay G' and I'd get over it. I'll own jealousy not being my most attractive trait, but shit, I'm a new mom just like SIL and I would like some fucking praise from the extended family on DH's side since we live so goddammed far from everyone. I mean, you comment on her facebook shit, why can't you be bothered with mine?
Rant over. I just wish I could let this go.
This is crap. And it's not like you can say something or have DH do it without coming off looking petty. Personally I would start by throwing in a few passive aggressive comments and hope that helps.
So when you say G did x and they mention nephew I would follow it up with yeah I heard that or yeah I figured since he's older but since this the first time G did it I'm pretty excited. Gotta get that tone just right!
I've done that, and no change. DH just goes with it because that's how it's always been. So I really just have to make peace with it, but it hurts.