Ok but I do think that the bold is what is really rubbing people wrong.
Sometimes sex simply isn't enjoyable. Sometimes people don't even get to have sex in order to conceive. Sometimes in order to make a baby, people are (or have to be) willing to have unenjoyable sex. That's what people are saying.
And I do get that. I'm do feel for anyone who has struggles when it comes to TTC, or sex. My libido isn't the greatest, and it has affected my husband and I in the past, especially in the last couple of years.
In saying that, I have tried to change certain parts of our sex/sex life to make it more enjoyable. When we were trying I was going through severe GAD, depression among other things. It was affecting us VERY negatively. I stopped trying to make it all about TTC, and tried to focus on our relationship, especially in our FW. For us, and our relationship, his self esteem, and mine, we tried everything to make sex enjoyable in whatever way worked for us.
That's all I'm saying. When we did make it about work, we had an awful relationship. I'm not saying it would be the same for everyone else, obviously all relationships are different.
I think the problem is that this is not what you were saying before. Or at least not how it was being communicated/perceived.
And I do get that. I'm do feel for anyone who has struggles when it comes to TTC, or sex. My libido isn't the greatest, and it has affected my husband and I in the past, especially in the last couple of years.
In saying that, I have tried to change certain parts of our sex/sex life to make it more enjoyable. When we were trying I was going through severe GAD, depression among other things. It was affecting us VERY negatively. I stopped trying to make it all about TTC, and tried to focus on our relationship, especially in our FW. For us, and our relationship, his self esteem, and mine, we tried everything to make sex enjoyable in whatever way worked for us.
That's all I'm saying. When we did make it about work, we had an awful relationship. I'm not saying it would be the same for everyone else, obviously all relationships are different.
Ok but I do think that the bold is what is really rubbing people wrong.
Sometimes sex simply isn't enjoyable. Sometimes people don't even get to have sex in order to conceive. Sometimes in order to make a baby, people are (or have to be) willing to have unenjoyable sex. That's what people are saying.
And I do get that. I'm do feel for anyone who has struggles when it comes to TTC, or sex. My libido isn't the greatest, and it has affected my husband and I in the past, especially in the last couple of years.
In saying that, I have tried to change certain parts of our sex/sex life to make it more enjoyable. When we were trying I was going through severe GAD, depression among other things. It was affecting us VERY negatively. I stopped trying to make it all about TTC, and tried to focus on our relationship, especially in our FW. For us, and our relationship, his self esteem, and mine, we tried everything to make sex enjoyable in whatever way worked for us.
That's all I'm saying. When we did make it about work, we had an awful relationship. I'm not saying it would be the same for everyone else, obviously all relationships are different.
No you don't apparently. Thanks for the sorrynotsorry response. I am so glad it worked for you to just make it enjoyable. I wish that was the key to getting KU-just relax and enjoy.....
Ok but I do think that the bold is what is really rubbing people wrong.
Sometimes sex simply isn't enjoyable. Sometimes people don't even get to have sex in order to conceive. Sometimes in order to make a baby, people are (or have to be) willing to have unenjoyable sex. That's what people are saying.
And I do get that. I'm do feel for anyone who has struggles when it comes to TTC, or sex. My libido isn't the greatest, and it has affected my husband and I in the past, especially in the last couple of years.
In saying that, I have tried to change certain parts of our sex/sex life to make it more enjoyable. When we were trying I was going through severe GAD, depression among other things. It was affecting us VERY negatively. I stopped trying to make it all about TTC, and tried to focus on our relationship, especially in our FW. For us, and our relationship, his self esteem, and mine, we tried everything to make sex enjoyable in whatever way worked for us.
That's all I'm saying. When we did make it about work, we had an awful relationship. I'm not saying it would be the same for everyone else, obviously all relationships are different.
Saying "making babies should still be fun. You shouldn't make a job out of having sex." completely contradicts this statement. You get that, right? You made a general statement that YOU(meaning everyone) should enjoy sex, and now you're saying it shouldn't be the same for everyone else, just because it worked for you. I just...I don't understand your logic here.
Also, LMK your feelings on IUI and IVF. Is that still "fun" for making babies?
Yes! Damn it I do in fact want to watch 6 episodes in a row, on purpose, stop asking if I'm still watching!
6? Pshhh lightweight lol
Haha! Ok, so I may have rounded down by a lot. I'm actually enjoying a marathon on Netflix right now. Taking the day off and doing nothing productive. Hell yes.
Me: 31 Wife: 30. Legally married 2008, thanks CA! TTC #1 since 11/14 using donor sperm. IUIs Jan-Aug 2015 BFN Sept & OCT 2015 added Femara. BFN Saw RE December 2015. IUI with Clomid & Trigger Jan 2016 BFN IUI #13 with Follistim April 2016 BFFN IVF #1 July 2016. 14R, 10F, 6 Day 5 embryos. 4 PGS normal embabies!
FFFC: I had awful sex to try to get knocked up last cycle.
I had my first IUI, spent 12 hours driving in the car, got ovulation pain so bad it hurt to walk, got into a hotel room around midnight, exhausted, and in pain, and had sex anyway. During sex my husband accidentally put a little pressure on my abdomen and I thought that I would die. But I didn't, and it didn't work anyway. Am I supposed to be ashamed that neither of us particularly enjoyed that sex and that it was entirely just a job @erin2021?
Ok but I do think that the bold is what is really rubbing people wrong.
Sometimes sex simply isn't enjoyable. Sometimes people don't even get to have sex in order to conceive. Sometimes in order to make a baby, people are (or have to be) willing to have unenjoyable sex. That's what people are saying.
And I do get that. I'm do feel for anyone who has struggles when it comes to TTC, or sex. My libido isn't the greatest, and it has affected my husband and I in the past, especially in the last couple of years.
In saying that, I have tried to change certain parts of our sex/sex life to make it more enjoyable. When we were trying I was going through severe GAD, depression among other things. It was affecting us VERY negatively. I stopped trying to make it all about TTC, and tried to focus on our relationship, especially in our FW. For us, and our relationship, his self esteem, and mine, we tried everything to make sex enjoyable in whatever way worked for us.
That's all I'm saying. When we did make it about work, we had an awful relationship. I'm not saying it would be the same for everyone else, obviously all relationships are different.
Did you get whiplash from that? Does someone need to get you an ice pack?
FFFC: I had awful sex to try to get knocked up last cycle.
I had my first IUI, spent 12 hours driving in the car, got ovulation pain so bad it hurt to walk, got into a hotel room around midnight, exhausted, and in pain, and had sex anyway. During sex my husband accidentally put a little pressure on my abdomen and I thought that I would die. But I didn't, and it didn't work anyway. Am I supposed to be ashamed that neither of us particularly enjoyed that sex and that it was entirely just a job @erin2021?
And I do get that. I'm do feel for anyone who has struggles when it comes to TTC, or sex. My libido isn't the greatest, and it has affected my husband and I in the past, especially in the last couple of years.
In saying that, I have tried to change certain parts of our sex/sex life to make it more enjoyable. When we were trying I was going through severe GAD, depression among other things. It was affecting us VERY negatively. I stopped trying to make it all about TTC, and tried to focus on our relationship, especially in our FW. For us, and our relationship, his self esteem, and mine, we tried everything to make sex enjoyable in whatever way worked for us.
That's all I'm saying. When we did make it about work, we had an awful relationship. I'm not saying it would be the same for everyone else, obviously all relationships are different.
Did you get whiplash from that? Does someone need to get you an ice pack?
I regularly talk out loud to myself. Especially when I'm in the shower. Like, full on conversations.
I rehearse conversations that I either should have had or anticipate having in the shower when I'm alone. I am usually a bajillion times more awesome in my imaginary confrontations than real ones.
And I do get that. I'm do feel for anyone who has struggles when it comes to TTC, or sex. My libido isn't the greatest, and it has affected my husband and I in the past, especially in the last couple of years.
In saying that, I have tried to change certain parts of our sex/sex life to make it more enjoyable. When we were trying I was going through severe GAD, depression among other things. It was affecting us VERY negatively. I stopped trying to make it all about TTC, and tried to focus on our relationship, especially in our FW. For us, and our relationship, his self esteem, and mine, we tried everything to make sex enjoyable in whatever way worked for us.
That's all I'm saying. When we did make it about work, we had an awful relationship. I'm not saying it would be the same for everyone else, obviously all relationships are different.
Did you get whiplash from that? Does someone need to get you an ice pack?
I'm a little tired and sat reading her post trying to figure out where an accident was mentioned, and what on earth it had to do with TTC.
Ok but I do think that the bold is what is really rubbing people wrong.
Sometimes sex simply isn't enjoyable. Sometimes people don't even get to have sex in order to conceive. Sometimes in order to make a baby, people are (or have to be) willing to have unenjoyable sex. That's what people are saying.
And I do get that. I'm do feel for anyone who has struggles when it comes to TTC, or sex. My libido isn't the greatest, and it has affected my husband and I in the past, especially in the last couple of years.
In saying that, I have tried to change certain parts of our sex/sex life to make it more enjoyable. When we were trying I was going through severe GAD, depression among other things. It was affecting us VERY negatively. I stopped trying to make it all about TTC, and tried to focus on our relationship, especially in our FW. For us, and our relationship, his self esteem, and mine, we tried everything to make sex enjoyable in whatever way worked for us.
That's all I'm saying. When we did make it about work, we had an awful relationship. I'm not saying it would be the same for everyone else, obviously all relationships are different.
You're saying you get it but I don't think you do. Sometimes - no matter what - TTC sex will not be enjoyable. Sometimes - no matter what - TTC sex will be pointless and ineffective.
I think you're saying "all relationships are different" but you're not quite grasping why what you said is really bothering people.
FFFC: I had awful sex to try to get knocked up last cycle.
I had my first IUI, spent 12 hours driving in the car, got ovulation pain so bad it hurt to walk, got into a hotel room around midnight, exhausted, and in pain, and had sex anyway. During sex my husband accidentally put a little pressure on my abdomen and I thought that I would die. But I didn't, and it didn't work anyway. Am I supposed to be ashamed that neither of us particularly enjoyed that sex and that it was entirely just a job @erin2021?
Hugs.
We try to offset the fact that the only way we can get pregnant as a SS couple is by having a doctor shoot donor sperm through my cervix, by having sex afterwards. But admittedly we can't have mid blowing sex every time. That would be nice though
Me: 31 Wife: 30. Legally married 2008, thanks CA! TTC #1 since 11/14 using donor sperm. IUIs Jan-Aug 2015 BFN Sept & OCT 2015 added Femara. BFN Saw RE December 2015. IUI with Clomid & Trigger Jan 2016 BFN IUI #13 with Follistim April 2016 BFFN IVF #1 July 2016. 14R, 10F, 6 Day 5 embryos. 4 PGS normal embabies!
I talk to my cat like she's a real person. I always think she is going to talk back. I'm always disappointed.
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+1, that's the reason I kept getting more cats...I figured one of them would be like Salem from Sabrina the Teenage Witch...
No?
FFFC: When I was younger, I really thought I would turn 16 and get her magical powers. Also, sometimes I think I'm living the Truman Show.
Every year on my birthday, when you were supposed to make a wish before blowing out the candles, I would wish that I could meet the ninja turtles. I think this stopped sometime in college. I was really, really hopeful.
+1, that's the reason I kept getting more cats...I figured one of them would be like Salem from Sabrina the Teenage Witch...
No?
FFFC: When I was younger, I really thought I would turn 16 and get her magical powers. Also, sometimes I think I'm living the Truman Show.
Every year on my birthday, when you were supposed to make a wish before blowing out the candles, I would wish that I could meet the ninja turtles. I think this stopped sometime in college. I was really, really hopeful.
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