I feel like we need a little of this, every once in a while. Not like, all the time. But sometimes, it's like we just need to air some shit out and then move on, you know?
"Making babies should still be fun. You shouldn't make a job out of having sex."
This is what I said. I said FUN, meaning it can be fun in whatever way you want it!
And the reality for a lot of people is that it's NOT ALWAYS FUN! Sometimes, if you want to have a chance of hitting your FW you have to have sex when you're upset. Sometimes you have to have sex when you're in too much pain to really enjoy it. Sometimes you have to have sex in the 2 minutes you have before leaving for work when you're both exhausted and grumpy. Sometimes it's just not fun at all. Not physically, not emotionally, not mentally (though I'm not sure how that's different than emotionally).
Sometimes it really fucking sucks, but the end goal is so important to you that it makes it okay.
I'm glad you have no idea what I'm talking about and didn't experience it. I really am.
This is my reality. The end goal is the reason we power through.
"Making babies should still be fun. You shouldn't make a job out of having sex."
This is what I said. I said FUN, meaning it can be fun in whatever way you want it!
And the reality for a lot of people is that it's NOT ALWAYS FUN! Sometimes, if you want to have a chance of hitting your FW you have to have sex when you're upset. Sometimes you have to have sex when you're in too much pain to really enjoy it. Sometimes you have to have sex in the 2 minutes you have before leaving for work when you're both exhausted and grumpy. Sometimes it's just not fun at all. Not physically, not emotionally, not mentally (though I'm not sure how that's different than emotionally).
Sometimes it really fucking sucks, but the end goal is so important to you that it makes it okay.
I'm glad you have no idea what I'm talking about and didn't experience it. I really am.
I really am sorry you are going through that.
But once again, you don't know what I experienced, and you shouldn't judge or compare yourself to what others are going through.
I feel like we need a little of this, every once in a while. Not like, all the time. But sometimes, it's like we just need to air some shit out and then move on, you know?
I feel like this is all my fault for being disappointed yesterday's UO thread wasn't more exciting with all the new people who have been introing lately. Sorry guise!
Number One: Born 06.16.2009 BFP: 01.17.2014 / MC 02.05.2014 BFP: 03.08.2014 / MMC: 05.07.2014 Dx: Partial Molar/GTD. Benched until 01.2015 Number Two: Born 07.22.2016
And the reality for a lot of people is that it's NOT ALWAYS FUN! Sometimes, if you want to have a chance of hitting your FW you have to have sex when you're upset. Sometimes you have to have sex when you're in too much pain to really enjoy it. Sometimes you have to have sex in the 2 minutes you have before leaving for work when you're both exhausted and grumpy. Sometimes it's just not fun at all. Not physically, not emotionally, not mentally (though I'm not sure how that's different than emotionally).
Sometimes it really fucking sucks, but the end goal is so important to you that it makes it okay.
I'm glad you have no idea what I'm talking about and didn't experience it. I really am.
I really am sorry you are going through that.
But once again, you don't know what I experienced, and you shouldn't judge or compare yourself to what others are going through.
Jesus Christ. Then stop making shitty statements that can only be interpreted to mean that you only have super awesome fun baby-making sex and the rest of us should totes be the exact same way or we're doing it wrong.
But once again, you don't know what I experienced, and you shouldn't judge or compare yourself to what others are going through.
Jesus Christ. Then stop making shitty statements that can only be interpreted to mean that you only have super awesome fun baby-making sex and the rest of us should totes be the exact same way or we're doing it wrong.
How is what I previously said interpreted to mean I had awesome sex to get pregnant?!?
Right, so just don't hate the person you're trying to make a baby with? That is not at all what you originally said.
"Making babies should still be fun. You shouldn't make a job out of having sex."
This is what I said. I said FUN, meaning it can be fun in whatever way you want it!
Okay. I'm going to say my piece.
Trying to conceive is NOT always fun. And sometimes it IS a job. There were times that neither one of us WANTED to have sex. But it was FW, and we wanted a baby, so we more or less grinned and beared it. Toward the end of FW, I definitely did not O. I was praying for a quickie.
It's not glamorous.
If you're lucky enough that it is every time, that's magical. But it is not like that for most people.
Jesus Christ. Then stop making shitty statements that can only be interpreted to mean that you only have super awesome fun baby-making sex and the rest of us should totes be the exact same way or we're doing it wrong.
How is what I previously said interpreted to mean I had awesome sex to get pregnant?!?
Are you fucking kidding me? No. I'm not even going to bother. If you can't read the other million responses that pretty eloquently explained why what you said is dumb as fuck, I can't help you.
Post by onesweetworld on Aug 21, 2015 13:32:05 GMT -5
Is this the FFFC?
FFFC: I almost called in sick to work today because I wanted to sit at home and do nothing. I have this feeling every single time I have a day off next to a work day because I want two days off. But I love my job!!! I just love sleep more.
How is what I previously said interpreted to mean I had awesome sex to get pregnant?!?
Are you fucking kidding me? No. I'm not even going to bother. If you can't read the other million responses that pretty eloquently explained why what you said is dumb as fuck, I can't help you.
YES! I said people should enjoy sex, or not make a job of it. I'm not the only person who said it, or liked it!
Never ONCE did I explain MY situation to get pregnant, you want to sit there and assume, that's on you!
Are you fucking kidding me? No. I'm not even going to bother. If you can't read the other million responses that pretty eloquently explained why what you said is dumb as fuck, I can't help you.
YES! I said people should enjoy sex, or not make a job of it. I'm not the only person who said it, or liked it!
Never ONCE did I explain MY situation to get pregnant, you want to sit there and assume, that's on you!
Okay, but THIS, right here. That's what's wrong with what you're saying. I don't see how you don't see it...
This is NOT reality for people who have to TTC month after month after month after month...
Jesus Christ. Then stop making shitty statements that can only be interpreted to mean that you only have super awesome fun baby-making sex and the rest of us should totes be the exact same way or we're doing it wrong.
How is what I previously said interpreted to mean I had awesome sex to get pregnant?!?
Be you said that IYO sex should always be fun regardless of whether that involves orgasm or not.
One would then assume that if you feel that way you only ever had fun sex.
Then you got pregnant.
So this line of thinking would be that you got pregnant by only having good sex.
And the reality for a lot of people is that it's NOT ALWAYS FUN! Sometimes, if you want to have a chance of hitting your FW you have to have sex when you're upset. Sometimes you have to have sex when you're in too much pain to really enjoy it. Sometimes you have to have sex in the 2 minutes you have before leaving for work when you're both exhausted and grumpy. Sometimes it's just not fun at all. Not physically, not emotionally, not mentally (though I'm not sure how that's different than emotionally).
Sometimes it really fucking sucks, but the end goal is so important to you that it makes it okay.
I'm glad you have no idea what I'm talking about and didn't experience it. I really am.
I really am sorry you are going through that.
But once again, you don't know what I experienced, and you shouldn't judge or compare yourself to what others are going through.
Okay, so I don't know what you experienced. We've established that. We've also established that we can only go off the information we have available to us and the words that you say.
So when you said "Making babies should still be fun. You shouldn't make a job out of having sex." what you meant was "I just think sex should be enjoyed, whether it be sexually, mentally, emotionally. If for some reason someone can't enjoy it and climax, because I have been there, I still make a point to enjoy just being close with my husband."
Yet somehow my reply that I was glad you didn't have to deal with having to have sex when you weren't able to enjoy it in any way in response to you saying that you still make a point to enjoy just being close with your husband is still somehow wrong?
So you do know what it's like to struggle through sex that isn't enjoyable and therefore you do have an idea of what I'm upset about? Or you didn't experience that because you still made a point to enjoy being close to your husband? Pick one and stop being vague and getting upset that we don't know your life.
And lastly, you're the one that's doing the judging telling us we shouldn't make a job out of having sex.
Are you fucking kidding me? No. I'm not even going to bother. If you can't read the other million responses that pretty eloquently explained why what you said is dumb as fuck, I can't help you.
YES! I said people should enjoy sex, or not make a job of it. I'm not the only person who said it, or liked it!
Never ONCE did I explain MY situation to get pregnant, you want to sit there and assume, that's on you!
And nobody is liking your shit now because you've dug your heels in and gone off the fucking deep end.
High fives to requiressnacks and icaughtfire for being normal humans that recognize mistakes and own them.
Are you fucking kidding me? No. I'm not even going to bother. If you can't read the other million responses that pretty eloquently explained why what you said is dumb as fuck, I can't help you.
YES! I said people should enjoy sex, or not make a job of it. I'm not the only person who said it, or liked it!
Never ONCE did I explain MY situation to get pregnant, you want to sit there and assume, that's on you!
Ok but I do think that the bold is what is really rubbing people wrong.
Sometimes sex simply isn't enjoyable. Sometimes people don't even get to have sex in order to conceive. Sometimes in order to make a baby, people are (or have to be) willing to have unenjoyable sex. That's what people are saying.
Right, so just don't hate the person you're trying to make a baby with? That is not at all what you originally said.
"Making babies should still be fun. You shouldn't make a job out of having sex."
This is what I said. I said FUN, meaning it can be fun in whatever way you want it!
When you are paying thousands of dollars to try and get KU, sometimes sex is just part of the job. If I am doing an IUI cycle and I wait until the mood is right for me, I may have wasted $2000 because the mood was wrong and we didn't schedule properly which completly lowered our chances at success from slim to almost zero.
Thanks but no thanks, sometimes we just have sex cause we need to have sex. Just stop talking now please.
Are you fucking kidding me? No. I'm not even going to bother. If you can't read the other million responses that pretty eloquently explained why what you said is dumb as fuck, I can't help you.
YES! I said people should enjoy sex, or not make a job of it. I'm not the only person who said it, or liked it!
Never ONCE did I explain MY situation to get pregnant, you want to sit there and assume, that's on you!
I started a long and kind-hearted explanation for what I think was being lost in miscommunication, but I really don't see how you can say this and not think it's judgey. Other posters meant to say that for themselves, they believe sex should be fun, but not that everyone else necessarily has to operate the same way. We all agreed that it wasn't meant as a rule for everyone else to live by.
But you're explicitly saying that no one should make a job of sex. If that were the case, a lot of us would completely give up TTC. Sometimes, wanting a baby outweighs wanting to have a fun and spontaneous sex life. And that should be OK for those of us who aren't feeling it every time for various reasons, some of which (years TTC, painful treatments and meds with crappy side effects) are BEYOND valid and understandable.
YES! I said people should enjoy sex, or not make a job of it. I'm not the only person who said it, or liked it!
Never ONCE did I explain MY situation to get pregnant, you want to sit there and assume, that's on you!
Ok but I do think that the bold is what is really rubbing people wrong.
Sometimes sex simply isn't enjoyable. Sometimes people don't even get to have sex in order to conceive. Sometimes in order to make a baby, people are (or have to be) willing to have unenjoyable sex. That's what people are saying.
And I do get that. I'm do feel for anyone who has struggles when it comes to TTC, or sex. My libido isn't the greatest, and it has affected my husband and I in the past, especially in the last couple of years.
In saying that, I have tried to change certain parts of our sex/sex life to make it more enjoyable. When we were trying I was going through severe GAD, depression among other things. It was affecting us VERY negatively. I stopped trying to make it all about TTC, and tried to focus on our relationship, especially in our FW. For us, and our relationship, his self esteem, and mine, we tried everything to make sex enjoyable in whatever way worked for us.
That's all I'm saying. When we did make it about work, we had an awful relationship. I'm not saying it would be the same for everyone else, obviously all relationships are different.
Ok but I do think that the bold is what is really rubbing people wrong.
Sometimes sex simply isn't enjoyable. Sometimes people don't even get to have sex in order to conceive. Sometimes in order to make a baby, people are (or have to be) willing to have unenjoyable sex. That's what people are saying.
And I do get that. I'm do feel for anyone who has struggles when it comes to TTC, or sex. My libido isn't the greatest, and it has affected my husband and I in the past, especially in the last couple of years.
In saying that, I have tried to change certain parts of our sex/sex life to make it more enjoyable. When we were trying I was going through severe GAD, depression among other things. It was affecting us VERY negatively. I stopped trying to make it all about TTC, and tried to focus on our relationship, especially in our FW. For us, and our relationship, his self esteem, and mine, we tried everything to make sex enjoyable in whatever way worked for us.
That's all I'm saying. When we did make it about work, we had an awful relationship. I'm not saying it would be the same for everyone else, obviously all relationships are different.
I feel like Netflix is sassing me when it asks if I'm still watching <insert whatever show here> .
FU Netflix. Don't judge me.
I have *literally* told Netflix to STFU when this message comes on. "Yes, Netflix, I just watched 10 episodes in a row. I'll tell YOU when I'm done watching!"
Me: 31 Wife: 30. Legally married 2008, thanks CA! TTC #1 since 11/14 using donor sperm. IUIs Jan-Aug 2015 BFN Sept & OCT 2015 added Femara. BFN Saw RE December 2015. IUI with Clomid & Trigger Jan 2016 BFN IUI #13 with Follistim April 2016 BFFN IVF #1 July 2016. 14R, 10F, 6 Day 5 embryos. 4 PGS normal embabies!
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