FTM Questions

[hannahl201477]

Do any of you other FTMs feel like you just have a ton of questions all the time and no one to ask them too? Lol. I think I'm just paranoid..
Like my LO got his shots yesterday and I have been taking his temp rectally is a 99.5 a fever for rectal temp or not? I have seen different things.
And I was just giving him Tylenol and he started coughing while taking it. Never cried or seemed in distress other than several coughs. But should I be worried about aspiration?
I wish there was just a big book that has all the answers. Lol

[baileybaileybne]

If you're interested, there is a great book which has heaps (maybe not all) of the answers! I don't know if it's available widely overseas but it's called Baby Love by Robin Barker. It has a 'first 3 months' section with heaps of common questions and advice that I've used a lot. It has really put my mind at ease a few times. Common sense and easy to read.

[missjenniebean]

You can always call your Dr if worried. My LO had a reaction to a vaccine. No fever though, thank goodness. Just a cough and vomiting. I took her in to make sure all was good. Books are a good help as well, like PP said.

I often feel as the same as a FTM. If you work, coworkers are good to talk to as well.

[carolyngrace]

When does the anxiety that something will happen to them go away?? I have bad dreams and get daydreams/flashes of silly things like dropping him, or more serious things like a home invasion. It's not bad enough that I think I need to talk to someone, but it is distressing!

[kemdupuis]

Aug 22, 2015 5:50:19 GMT -5 carolyngrace said:

When does the anxiety that something will happen to them go away?? I have bad dreams and get daydreams/flashes of silly things like dropping him, or more serious things like a home invasion. It's not bad enough that I think I need to talk to someone, but it is distressing!

+1. I am also having severe anxiety about leaving him with a sitter when I go back to work in September. Like that he will suffocate during his nap or something awful like that. So scary. I'm ready for these worries to be gone, too.

[carolyngrace]

Aug 22, 2015 6:03:01 GMT -5 kemdupuis said:

Aug 22, 2015 5:50:19 GMT -5 carolyngrace said:

When does the anxiety that something will happen to them go away?? I have bad dreams and get daydreams/flashes of silly things like dropping him, or more serious things like a home invasion. It's not bad enough that I think I need to talk to someone, but it is distressing!

+1. I am also having severe anxiety about leaving him with a sitter when I go back to work in September. Like that he will suffocate during his nap or something awful like that. So scary. I'm ready for these worries to be gone, too.

yes, mine is worse when he's with other people, too.. it sucks!

[carolyngrace]

Aug 22, 2015 5:58:58 GMT -5 @hazeldublin said:

Aug 22, 2015 5:50:19 GMT -5 carolyngrace said:

When does the anxiety that something will happen to them go away?? I have bad dreams and get daydreams/flashes of silly things like dropping him, or more serious things like a home invasion. It's not bad enough that I think I need to talk to someone, but it is distressing!

I don't think this ever goes away. DS is 14 months and the thought of him being knocked over by a car popped into my head before bed during the week(a play date in a house on a main road prompt this) I nearly went into a full blown panic attack. I swear it was like a hole through my chest. So yeah basically I don't think it ever stops.

Thats's a good way to describe it. It hurts so deeply just thinking about it I cant imagine actually dealing with it. I have friends with boys who love jumping and climbing and are regularly hurting themselves... not sure I'll be able to handle that!

[turtletyme]

Aug 22, 2015 5:50:19 GMT -5 carolyngrace said:

When does the anxiety that something will happen to them go away?? I have bad dreams and get daydreams/flashes of silly things like dropping him, or more serious things like a home invasion. It's not bad enough that I think I need to talk to someone, but it is distressing!

I have this thing with home invasions too, lately.

[mcp6286]

Aug 22, 2015 7:33:38 GMT -5 turtletyme said:

Aug 22, 2015 5:50:19 GMT -5 carolyngrace said:

When does the anxiety that something will happen to them go away?? I have bad dreams and get daydreams/flashes of silly things like dropping him, or more serious things like a home invasion. It's not bad enough that I think I need to talk to someone, but it is distressing!

I have this thing with home invasions too, lately.

Same! My mom blames it on my aunt for telling me too many true-crime stories when I was a kid lol. I was so worried the first day I left her with the nanny to go to work...I cried the whole way there and made DH take a half day to go home and be with LO so she wasn't with the sitter all day. Of course she was perfectly fine...

[hannahl201477]

Aug 22, 2015 5:50:19 GMT -5 carolyngrace said:

When does the anxiety that something will happen to them go away?? I have bad dreams and get daydreams/flashes of silly things like dropping him, or more serious things like a home invasion. It's not bad enough that I think I need to talk to someone, but it is distressing!

I'm anxious but rarely have dreams but when I do it's about someone breaking in the house and taking him while we are asleep. And he sleeps right next to me in a bassinet. Lol. And I am getting better about trusting people with him. Its really just my in laws I worry about now and only bc I think my mother in law will do something I don't want her to just in spite me. Or bc I know my nephew is really wild (never would hurt him on purpose) but they just don't pay enough attention. am already a hooverer though. I cringe when people just lay him on the couch even if they are sitting next to him. I would rather they lay him on the dirty floor. Lol.

[hannahl201477]

Aug 22, 2015 10:43:28 GMT -5 Joolschweets said:

Aug 22, 2015 10:36:18 GMT -5 hannahl201477 said:

I'm anxious but rarely have dreams but when I do it's about someone breaking in the house and taking him while we are asleep. And he sleeps right next to me in a bassinet. Lol. And I am getting better about trusting people with him. Its really just my in laws I worry about now and only bc I think my mother in law will do something I don't want her to just in spite me. Or bc I know my nephew is really wild (never would hurt him on purpose) but they just don't pay enough attention. am already a hooverer though. I cringe when people just lay him on the couch even if they are sitting next to him. I would rather they lay him on the dirty floor. Lol.

Im a hoverer too. I find it so hard to let go b/c im a very cautious (read: paranoid) person and half the stuff ILs do like prop him up in the corner of the sofa, lay him on it, hold him with 1 hand while not really concentrating, im just not cool with. I absolutely hate being told "dont worry, its not like i didnt do this with mine" etc. Hate it. The point is i dont do that with MY babe, so you dont get to either. Particularly after MIL told me how many times H fell, was dropped or had to go to ER (as an older toddler) b/c of carelessness. Judgy i know and im sure ill drop the ball at some point, but for now, my son, my rules!

YES YES YES and YES! I try to be nice about it but it's like she thinks since she raised kids and I'm just starting out she is better than me. Um no im not perfect but I'm doing the best I can and what I say goes no matter if it worked for you or my sister in law.

[gilder40]

We don't watch the news, and I try to avoid news postings on Facebook. I HATE seeing the news reports about people who do bad things to babies. They really, really upset me.

[bookninja]

New question... How many ounces are the breastfeeding mamas giving when they give a bottle? LO is two months old... And I am trying to figure out what to have ready for when I go back to work in a week...

[carolyngrace]

Aug 22, 2015 18:33:49 GMT -5 bookninja said:

New question... How many ounces are the breastfeeding mamas giving when they give a bottle? LO is two months old... And I am trying to figure out what to have ready for when I go back to work in a week...

DB is almost 3 months and he takes 4oz bottles because that's what I prepared (and typically pump in a sitting). sometimes he wants more, but I don't know if it's because he's hungry or because he drinks them so fast.

He will have an average of three 4oz bottles during an 8-hr day.

[dogmama22]

Aug 22, 2015 18:33:49 GMT -5 bookninja said:

New question... How many ounces are the breastfeeding mamas giving when they give a bottle? LO is two months old... And I am trying to figure out what to have ready for when I go back to work in a week...

My kiddo takes about 2 1/2 ounces. I believe the rule is one ounce per hour. I really stress paced feeding to anyone who feeds him because I know he would chug down a ton if I let him.

[kemdupuis]

Aug 22, 2015 20:21:21 GMT -5 dogmama22 said:

Aug 22, 2015 18:33:49 GMT -5 bookninja said:

New question... How many ounces are the breastfeeding mamas giving when they give a bottle? LO is two months old... And I am trying to figure out what to have ready for when I go back to work in a week...

My kiddo takes about 2 1/2 ounces. I believe the rule is one ounce per hour. I really stress paced feeding to anyone who feeds him because I know he would chug down a ton if I let him.

Yeah, we're right at 2 1/2 or 3 oz bottles, and he eats them usually every 2-3 hours. I'm hoping he will start taking more at a time so we can space the feedings out a bit more

[gigi3126]

Aug 22, 2015 18:45:50 GMT -5 @imapenguin said:

Aug 22, 2015 18:43:21 GMT -5 carolyngrace said:

DB is almost 3 months and he takes 4oz bottles because that's what I prepared (and typically pump in a sitting). sometimes he wants more, but I don't know if it's because he's hungry or because he drinks them so fast.

He will have an average of three 4oz bottles during an 8-hr day.

Same.

J takes about the same amount, but I do four 3 oz bottles. The ladies at daycare are really good about not letting any go to waste, but he's a spit-up king, so I didn't want them to give him too much per feeding. He is consistently eating 12 oz a day while I'm at work. I left some frozen there too, just in case, but they haven't had to use it yet.

[billyhorrible]

Aug 22, 2015 18:33:49 GMT -5 bookninja said:

New question... How many ounces are the breastfeeding mamas giving when they give a bottle? LO is two months old... And I am trying to figure out what to have ready for when I go back to work in a week...

We just switched over to 3oz bottles after his last doctor's appointment and he doesn't always finish them. But DH is fantastic at paced feeding and I'm neurotic about not overfeeding because of the whole childhood obesity thing. My kids don't need any help in that department, they already have an uphill battle thanks to my genes.

[periwinkledaydreams]

Aug 22, 2015 18:33:49 GMT -5 bookninja said:

New question... How many ounces are the breastfeeding mamas giving when they give a bottle? LO is two months old... And I am trying to figure out what to have ready for when I go back to work in a week...

My LO has been taking 4oz since she was 4 weeks old. Whenever I first pumped, I pumped 4oz and we had to keep stopping her to rest and burp or she would have just guzzled the whole thing down. Shes consistently been satiated around 4oz. Now she's 9 weeks it seems odd to me that she's still taking the same amount, and it starting to seem like she would take more if it was there. We rarely do pumped bottles right now as she's 95% at the breast at this point but soon I'm going to have to figure it out more clearly.

[periwinkledaydreams]

Thanks @imapenguin ! That makes a lot of sense. I remember reading the 25ish oz a day number now, but I think I got confused in that it is formula that the amount increases.