Re-intro *LC and loss mentioned*

[vrlc1403]

Hi ladies,

I'm back, after another loss was confirmed today. I feel like it hasn't hit me yet. With my first loss in March, everything happened quickly; the spotting quickly turned to red blood, and it was over. This time has been so different. I just started with some light pink discharge Friday, then a little brown, then nothing at all since. I went to my OB today anyway, even though it seemed like it was nothing, and an ultrasound found no fetal heartbeat.
With our first loss, we never saw the baby. It happened at 6 weeks. The beta levels never rose like they should have and the pink lines on the tests were always light.
This time, we did see the baby and the heart rate was 136 at 7w2d. Today I should've been 9w4d but still measured 7w2d.
I'm just so confused. Why did that little heart stop beating, apparently right after we saw it? We felt safe. The betas were awesome, they tripled over 48 hours. The lines were super dark. I just feel so lost.
We felt safe enough to tell our 2 yr old. She talks about the "tiny baby" all the time. This is killing me.

Anyway, since I'm not bleeding, my OB suggested we wait one week and then schedule a d&c. Has anyone ever gone through something like this? Are there lasting effects? It's very hard for me to get pregnant to begin with, and I'm afraid having a d&c could cause more damage. Am I even making sense?

[daystardreams]

First of all, I'm so sorry for your loss. I just had a D&C on Friday after seeing a heartbeat two weeks ago. My doctor also said she believed that tiny heart stopped beating the day that we saw it. We aren't sure why yet but are awaiting genetic testing.

Every loss will effect you differently. My loss at 5 weeks messed my cycles up way more than my first loss at 10 weeks. My doctor was really great about explaining the D&C process to me and the precautions she would take to eliminate scarring. I believe the D&C to be much easier on me and much less painful but everybody is different.

Again, I'm sorry for your loss. Take care and I hope your doctor can assist you in making the right decision for you.

[hoopoe]

Hi vrlc1403,

I'm so sorry you find yourself here. Your loss sounds a lot like my last lost, which was going perfectly, until it wasn't and the heartbeat was gone at 7 weeks.

I had a D&C with my last loss. I'd had no bleeding at all and had the D&C within a week. With a D&C, there is the risk of developing adhesions (Asherman's syndrome). You also have the anesthesia risk, and the risk of uterine perforation as they insert the instrument.

Having said all that, my doc said D&Cs are the most common surgical procedure in the country and the great majority of them are routine with no complications. My doc also told me that the earlier the miscarriage, the lesser the risk, as it is easier to remove the 'products of conception.' (ie - more suction, less scraping. It's the scraping of the uterine wall that causes the risk of Asherman's)

There is also the option of using misoprostol, which is a drug to induce miscarriage. I don't have experience with it, but if you are worried about the D&C risks, it may be worth asking about.

((Hugs)) as you make your way through this - it will get better.

[teenybenoit]

I'm so sorry for your loss and that you find yourself here. Please be gentle with yourself. I have no experience with d&c as all three of mc were natural.
I do know that my last which was a BO and I was on progesterone I didn't start bleeding until a week after I stopped the suppositories.
I hope this part goes quickly so you can start to heal. Hugs.

[vrlc1403]

Thank you everyone. I'm really hoping it happens naturally, but my dr is giving me until Monday to make a decision on the next step. Im going to call and ask for more information on a d&c. I'm so nervous about having it done. I absolutely hate that we're going through this again. My husband seems to be taking it harder this time around.

[nikolie93]

I just wanted to say that I'm sorry for your loss. I hope it happens naturally for you and it passes quickly *hug*

[LadyNymeria]

I am so sorry for your loss. I don't have experience with a D&C so I can't help there but I recently completed a misoprostol induced m/c so if you have any questions on that let me know. I hope it happens naturally for you so you don't have to worry about a D&C. Many hugs to you.

[hollyberry]

I am so sorry for your losses. Reading this brought back all the feels. With my fist loss it was a surprise loss, no symptoms and we had seen the heart beat as well. With my second it seemed doomed from the start with spotting, but I was hopful when we saw the heartbeat and then to find out we lossed it the day after we saw it. I had D&Cs with both. Bith went well, and was practically painless. I only needed one advil between the 2. I have had no complications with either. I understand your worry though. I really didn't know much about the complications of the sugery, as far as scarring and all that, until later. But so far so good. I would have no problem recommending the sugery as it is fast, and can then move forward with the emotional healing. But it is good to have all the info. I hope the MC will be completed before you have to make the decision, since that is what it sounds like you want. * hugs*

[beyoncepadthai]

I'm sorry for your loss, hugs.

[bethkate]

I'm late to this thread, but I'm so sorry for your loss, and I wanted to chime in with my experiences. I've had two similar losses this year. One was at 10 weeks after seeing the hb at 7 and 8 weeks. Last week, I miscarried at 7 weeks after seeing the hb at 6 weeks.

With my loss at 10 weeks, I had a d&c, but I had actually already miscarried at home prior to going in for the appointment. It took 6 weeks for my period to come back, but my cycles have been normal since then.

Take care of yourself as you deal with this awful situation.

[vrlc1403]

Thank you, I'm very curious as to how long it's going to take to get back to normal.. My cycles are always crazy when I'm not taking Clomid and they don't give me Clomid again until I have 2 periods on my own.

[nikolie93]

Sept 8, 2015 16:48:07 GMT -5 vrlc1403 said:

Thank you, I'm very curious as to how long it's going to take to get back to normal.. My cycles are always crazy when I'm not taking Clomid and they don't give me Clomid again until I have 2 periods on my own.

Unfortunately it is different for everyone so there is no way of knowing

[vivela]

Sept 8, 2015 16:48:07 GMT -5 vrlc1403 said:

Thank you, I'm very curious as to how long it's going to take to get back to normal.. My cycles are always crazy when I'm not taking Clomid and they don't give me Clomid again until I have 2 periods on my own.

I also have totally random cycles without meds. It generally feels like whatever I'm hoping for, my body does the opposite. My period always shows up early, and this cycle I was excited it was waiting a normal amount of time... And now it is five days late (I'm definitely not pregnant)  I hope you can get through these next two periods in a reasonable amount of time.