Are you getting your SO a gift? Are you getting a gift?

[mrsdee1982]

I am just curious here. 

Is your partner planning on getting you a push present, that you know of?  If so, do you know what it is?  

What are your thoughts on push presents?   

Are you planning on getting your partner a present?  If so, what are you going to get them?

[bendherova]

No. I'm not a big fan of push presents. And my partner gets a baby plus he didn't gestate OR push anything.




My in-laws surprised me a few months after DS#1 was born with diamond earrings though. I did not say no.

[mrsdee1982]

I doubt he will, but he surprises me sometimes, so who knows. I don't have any strong feelings towards push presents. If I get one, yay! If I don't, that's cool. But I do have some friends who have strong feelings. One friend has made it known to her DH that she expects one and it better be a big, expensive thing, and she's not joking. Another friend of mine has said she thinks the whole concept is disgusting and hates the idea of it.

I go back and forth. I'd love to get my DH something special. I just don't know what the hell I'd get him. Also, our baby is due at the beginning of June, so he'll also be getting his first Father's Day a few weeks later. I'll most likely just wait to do something special for him then.

[bluediamond]

DH didn't get me anything the first time, so I'm guessing I won't be getting anything this time either. I think it's a weird concept.
Never even thought about getting him anything.

[noeliav]

My push present with DD was a massive plate of sushi delivered to the postpartum suite.

DH isn't getting a present, other than a new baby. DD may get a present. Possibly. From the new baby, of course.

[Deleted]

Jan 26, 2015 16:26:51 GMT -5 mrsdee1982 said:

I

I go back and forth. I'd love to get my DH something special. I just don't know what the hell I'd get him. Also, our baby is due at the beginning of June, so he'll also be getting his first Father's Day a few weeks later. I'll most likely just wait to do something special for him then.

My thoughts exactly! I'm excited to get DH his first Father's Day gift so I think I will do that in lieu of a gift at birth. No idea what that gift will be though... So any ideas are welcome!

[mrsdee1982]

Jan 26, 2015 16:29:34 GMT -5 noeliav said:

My push present with DD was a massive plate of sushi delivered to the postpartum suite.

DH isn't getting a present, other than a new baby. DD may get a present. Possibly. From the new baby, of course.

I've already given my mom a list of items she is to bring to me after birth.  A dirty martini being the #1 thing  

[leenziepops]

I used to want one but DH has caved in for new bathroom renos and new curtains before Bubs arrives. Plus a new SUV for me some stage post baby. So i think I'll stop mentioning push present. ...

[andreap525]

I wouldn't say no to a push present - but I don't want it big and flashy and something that will break him/us. Maybe a really small, really simple mother's ring or something to that effect.

I made a joke with DH back when he was just BF because he had jean shorts and I threw them out of his dresser drawer and onto the floor and said "EW NO THOSE ARE DAD SHORTS". So one of his gifts on father's day will be a pair of jean shorts. From baby. I'll obviously get him something nice, too, but I think this will be a swell joke

[baileybaileybne]

I agree that the idea of a gift, especially the term 'push present' is so strange. A gift would be nice any day of the year but considering I'm about to take leave from work so our income will halve, and we both get such an amazing gift out of the pregnancy process, I'll pass.

Some flowers to say 'good job' would be nice! As for me getting DH something, I don't know when I would do that: "hey, I just finished labour, here's a watch!"

Totally personal choice but for me, I'd rather something for our wedding anniversary or something that isn't related to child birth. A baby will be overwhelmingly awesome for both of us. No gift could compare.

[veggiemo]

When I was pregnant with DS, I told my husband about push presents and jokingly asked if he was going to get me anything. A few days later I came home and he had bought me a new lunch box I had commented on at the grocery store a few weeks earlier. He wrote with a sharpie on a piece of paper towel "Happy Push Present". It's the thought that counts...

[laurenlou83]

All DH needs to bring me after I give birth is: red wine, a cold beer, all the sushi 1 woman can eat and a fountain diet coke from McDonald's.


In all seriousness though, we haven't even discussed it, but it is very doubtful. DH is super sweet and amazing, but it just isn't our thing. I'd like a simple ring or a necklace with the baby's birthstone at some point, but I don't expect it as a "push present".

[girpipley]

I'm with @pcrunk here. I think push presents are completely ridiculous, for all the reasons she listed.

I think that someone bring flowers is totally appropriate, but I wouldn't expect it to be SO. I'll want him with me and the babies, not running to whole foods to buy flowers. As for an elaborate gift, no thanks. I'll take a gift on the kids first birthday to celebrate that, but after labor? No thanks, just hand me my babies.

For him-Nope. Maybe a cigar to enjoy once we get home, but other than that, Nope.

[nettje]

Nope. Baby is gift enough.

I think I had mentioned it to DH. When pregnant with DD and we both laughed about it.

[mrskblack11]

Jan 26, 2015 16:40:37 GMT -5 @pcrunk said:

If my fiancé wanted to get me something as a gift that relates to baby (a piece of jewelry with babes birthstone or something idk) that is totally on him. I would never in a million years expect a gift nor do I even WANT one. I LOATHE the term "push present" and what it stands for. This baby is my gift, the only gift making labor and these long months worth it all. I do want to get him a "Thank you for putting up with my crazy ass while I was growing our baby. I appreciate everything you have done over these long months. You're awesome." gift. But that would be something that I do for him prior to me actually going into labor.

This. 

I feel like hubs deserves at least a thank you card for dealing with my emotional state, giving in to all my food cravings, and taking over dish duty for me. 

I do not want nor need a push present, however, I will accept any present someone has graciously picked out for me.

I just want a take home baby. That is all. 

[noname83]

Jan 26, 2015 17:02:10 GMT -5 mrskblack11 said:

Jan 26, 2015 16:40:37 GMT -5 @pcrunk said:

If my fiancé wanted to get me something as a gift that relates to baby (a piece of jewelry with babes birthstone or something idk) that is totally on him. I would never in a million years expect a gift nor do I even WANT one. I LOATHE the term "push present" and what it stands for. This baby is my gift, the only gift making labor and these long months worth it all. I do want to get him a "Thank you for putting up with my crazy ass while I was growing our baby. I appreciate everything you have done over these long months. You're awesome." gift. But that would be something that I do for him prior to me actually going into labor.

This. 

I feel like hubs deserves at least a thank you card for dealing with my emotional state, giving in to all my food cravings, and taking over dish duty for me. 

I do not want nor need a push present, however, I will accept any present someone has graciously picked out for me.

I just want a take home baby. That is all. 

Agree with everything above 100%

Since my due date is father's day, my husband will probably get something small/thoughtful for that. Maybe the baby won't even be born yet, who knows.

[lunalovegood]

I wouldn't call it a push present really, I think that idea is silly. Here's a present for pushing a watermelon sized human out of your lady bits.
Since this will be our last we have talked about a mother's ring for me, but that could take months or years to find because I am really picky.

[Deleted]

Our baby just happens to be due right around my 30th birthday, our 1 year wedding anniversary, and our 10 years together anniversary. So it's a BIG summer for us!

Before I got pregnant DH was going to upgrade my engagement ring for our anniversary. I have since told him I don't want him spending that kind of $$ when we're about to have a baby, and I also don't want to part with my current ring. My DH still wants to get me something, so I just threw out a few options: a Pandora bracelet or a nice baby bag (like a Kate Spade or Tory Burch, nothing too crazy).

I also made it very clear the first thing I want after I give birth is a boat load of ALL THE SUSHI, which my mom said she will take care of!

As for DH, I haven't really thought about it. One year I gave him coupons for a couple of BJ's and he said it was the best gift ever. I don't think that's an appropriate gift to celebrate the birth of our child though...

[Deleted]

We are getting a baby and that's enough. DH would laugh at the concept of push presents if I told him about it. I don't expect anything from him and I'm not getting him anything. That's money we can better spend on other things.

[silv3rlining]

No and no. I didn't get one for DS so I'm sure I won't get one for this baby. But then again DH didn't get me a wedding present either (I don't think he realized he was supposed to and when I said something about it after the fact he was said the wedding was the present. He/we paid for it ourselves).

I do plan to get DS a gift from his baby sister though.

[tiffbot]

Haha, Ya, same boat as everyone here, no. It's not something that would even cross my mind to happen. DS's birthday is 4 days before our anniversary and he was still in the NICU then when he was born so we treated ourselves by actually leaving the hospital for supper that night.

Someday in the far future when our family is for sure complete I would like a family ring or necklace, but that would be when I know we are done.

[wifedeangel]

Yeah, the term "push present" is so tacky to me. H is a very sentimental and romanic guy, and even he thought the idea was ridiculous. One day I'd like a piece of mothers jewelry, but I don't need it with this baby.

[carolyngrace]

I doubt my DH has even heard of a push present, so no I don't think either one of us will be giving gifts!

ETA: @silv3lining - DH and I didn't get each other wedding gifts, either! Never crossed my mind. We got a honeymoon together!

[nicolec78]

I have never gotten one. After I had our dd all his female coworkers were asking if he bought me a push present. He had no idea what they were talking about and he felt terrible. I told him I had never heard of it either and not to worry because I wasn't expecting anything.

I wouldn't mind a present but am looking forward to taking home my little boy. I might like a mother's necklace but not expecting anything.

I am due right after Father's Day so I think I might buy him a Star Wars diaper bag!

[leenziepops]

Adding another note. My DH was kissing my face last night as I was curling up ready to sleep and he was mumbling sweet nothings and he was telling me thank you for looking after our baby. Thank you for being a great mum already. Thank you for doing this and being a champ throughout my pregnancy. It was so sweet and touching i couldnt reply and gave him a squeeze back. When you hear your DH acknowledging what you're going through and thanking you, I think it means so much more than demanding and getting a gift when his heart isnt into it.

[gigi3126]

I totally don't want anything other than a giant margarita and a plate of sushi... We've already had conversations about my fantasy feast.
As PP mentioned, the fact that I'll deliver right around Father's Day has me excited to buy him something. He's kind of a scifi nerd, so I was thinking about getting a geeky onesie from Think Geek and maybe a shirt for him that goes with it.

[billyhorrible]

Another vote for push presents are silly- especially when DH has to put up with a lot of crap during the pregnancy.

One of my very dear friends always gets/expects a push present when she has a baby. She has very "rough pregnancies" and feels like she deserves it. (basically she's tired and sick for the the first 2 trimesters, then large and uncomfortable for the last one) Except because she has "rough pregnancies", her husband does everything over those 9 months. She doesn't lift a finger or move from the couch while he cooks, cleans, waits on her hand and food, and takes care of the other child. I love her, but I've told her on more than one occasion that he's the one who deserves something for all he does.


But my birthday is the week after I'm due, so I'm expecting a present for that. Something very-non baby related.

[herbavein]

Well, since my due date is our wedding anniversary, and I'm not expecting anything for that, no. After DD was born, the best present was a peanut butter fudge sundae. Especially since she was taken right to the NICU. at least it was a delicious consolation prize...

[mmo2112]

No push presents in our family, either. I'm pretty sure DH has never heard of them, and I won't be introducing the concept to him. I will be 100% satisfied with one healthy baby in my arms and one roast beef & cheddar sandwich in my mouth.

That said, I liked hearing about the earrings that were passed down a generation. But if DH and I decide on something like that, it will be for the baby/an heirloom rather than for me.

[Deleted]

Jan 26, 2015 20:46:56 GMT -5 mmo2112 said:

No push presents in our family, either. I'm pretty sure DH has never heard of them, and I won't be introducing the concept to him. I will be 100% satisfied with one healthy baby in my arms and one roast beef & cheddar sandwich in my mouth.

That said, I liked hearing about the earrings that were passed down a generation. But if DH and I decide on something like that, it will be for the baby/an heirloom rather than for me.

I like this idea too. My dad gave my mom a ring after my sister was born, and eventually it was passed down to her. I think its sweet.