DH is supposed to pick the kids up at 5:30 from the in laws. At 6, he still wasn't home. At 6:30 I called. "Oh, just talking to mom. Be home soon." They're still not home. In laws live one mile away. Dinner is now way beyond cold, and the kids will get home just in time to make bedtime miserable because I will now have to try and cram in reheating dinner and feeding it to them minutes before their normal bedtime routine starts.
Were you on the WM board on thebump? "Significant Other Sound-off" (SOS ) was a weekly thread. It's just vents about all of the petty stuff that drives you nuts about your significant other but you wouldn't actually complain to your friends and family about. It isn't really supposed to be "that bad."
And her husband is being a jerk.
twinmomma My H does that stuff and then acts like it was a huge nice thing that the did, keeping the kids out of my hair for an extra hour.
Well, maybe it would have been nice if you had let me know where you were and maybe fed them dinner. Me sitting at home cooking and wondering where everyone is, then rushing around at bedtime does not make for a relaxing evening.
Grrr guys can be so ignorant of what their actions can do to our time and kids'schedules sometimes. This is something I can see MH doing. Then he'd be the one saying "this isn't that bad" when I explained why I was upset.
Post by queenbabee on Jan 26, 2015 20:49:01 GMT -5
That's annoying. Especially since its a mile away. Drop the kids off and jog back if you want to chat for crying out loud! I cooked! ....I may have my own MIL issues talking right now lol. But seriously, it's just annoying.
Were you on the WM board on thebump? "Significant Other Sound-off" (SOS ) was a weekly thread. It's just vents about all of the petty stuff that drives you nuts about your significant other but you wouldn't actually complain to your friends and family about. It isn't really supposed to be "that bad."
And her husband is being a jerk.
twinmomma My H does that stuff and then acts like it was a huge nice thing that the did, keeping the kids out of my hair for an extra hour.
Well, maybe it would have been nice if you had let me know where you were and maybe fed them dinner. Me sitting at home cooking and wondering where everyone is, then rushing around at bedtime does not make for a relaxing evening.
Thanks! He finally strolled back in around 7:15. With unfed toddlers.
Post by supertrooper1 on Jan 26, 2015 21:35:49 GMT -5
DH always leaves vacation planning to me which is fine, but when I ask for his input, he always says he's too busy to worry about it and I should just reserve what I want. So I've been making reservations for our upcoming trip in April. Today I made the last reservation for our rental car. I ended up bidding for a SUV on Priceline and got it for less than the price of a midsize car. He was pissed because I didn't know if it would have a cargo cover to go in the back and I shouldn't have reserved an SUV without being able to know that. But when I asked him a couple weeks ago what kind of car he preferred, he said anything would be fine. Grrrr.
ETA: And now he just gave DS a yogurt and a spoon without help. DS not being very good with a spoon just got yogurt all over the carpet. Really DH?
Were you on the WM board on thebump? "Significant Other Sound-off" (SOS ) was a weekly thread. It's just vents about all of the petty stuff that drives you nuts about your significant other but you wouldn't actually complain to your friends and family about. It isn't really supposed to be "that bad."
And her husband is being a jerk.
twinmomma My H does that stuff and then acts like it was a huge nice thing that the did, keeping the kids out of my hair for an extra hour.
Well, maybe it would have been nice if you had let me know where you were and maybe fed them dinner. Me sitting at home cooking and wondering where everyone is, then rushing around at bedtime does not make for a relaxing evening.
While I dream of the day DH will take DD over to the IL's and give me a few hours of uninterrupted me time, I'd be pissed. For serious.
My complaint for Jan/Feb - DH complains if I take more than one trip a quarter. He had TWO in January. In February, he's going on the annual snowboarding trip we used to always take before we had DD.. which I don't get to go on, since someone has to watch DD. So no, I really don't give a rat's ass about your flight schedule, how busy you are, or the fact that it backs up against a different, cheaper trip we're taking where we'll BOTH get to snowboard (in crappy manufactured snow since the Sierras are seriously hurting). Because I'm going to be doing parent duty solo for 5 days while you're spending a couple grand over 5 days spent testing your liver function and snowboarding. I deserve something shiny for being so accommodating. Also, that "special" bottle of Alpha Omega you've been saving for a special occasion? I'm pretty sure this is it. Sorry you'll be missing out.
Were you on the WM board on thebump? "Significant Other Sound-off" (SOS ) was a weekly thread. It's just vents about all of the petty stuff that drives you nuts about your significant other but you wouldn't actually complain to your friends and family about. It isn't really supposed to be "that bad."
And her husband is being a jerk.
twinmomma My H does that stuff and then acts like it was a huge nice thing that the did, keeping the kids out of my hair for an extra hour.
Well, maybe it would have been nice if you had let me know where you were and maybe fed them dinner. Me sitting at home cooking and wondering where everyone is, then rushing around at bedtime does not make for a relaxing evening.
Thanks! He finally strolled back in around 7:15. With unfed toddlers.
I would have been conveniently taking a bubble bath or something. "Good luck to you, DH."
Post by somebabiesmom on Jan 27, 2015 5:44:27 GMT -5
DH is our housekeeper and he gets mad when anything gets dirty (he would say "too dirty, too quickly" but we have kids FFS - there's no "slightly unkempt" setting anymore). He envisions the basement as his one place to keep orderly. The dude has never kept anything orderly in the 10+ years I've been with him, so - ridiculous, but he is our housekeeper now (and that never occurred during our 10+ years either).
Anyhoo. I was down there with the kids, b/c I view it as my laundry-folding room. So I'm folding and the kids have a nice change of pace. Apparently DS turned all of the dials on DH's guitar amp all the way up which would have blown the amp if DH had used it. DH is all kinds of mad. Which is legit. However, I envision 3 possible types of exchanges on the matter:
1 - "Honey, would you mind not taking the kids down there? The amp..." "Ok. Sorry, honey." 2 - "Don't take the kids down there. I need a space for my sanity [insert minor bitching]" "Ok, honey. No problem." 3 - What actually occurred. "Blah blah blah!!!! Blah Blah Blahblahblah blaaaaaaaahhhhhhhhh....!!!" For about 20 minutes. I took DS to bed early and did some reading just to escape. Then I go back downstairs, outline DH's options for effective communication which starts the whole thing again (I should know better). Then I get a texted "I'm sorry." I also got the 2 min of "me time" that I requested he do every day where he focuses just on me for exactly 2 minutes. It was nice. Problem solved.
So annoyed with DH this morning. He started my day, before I even had my hearing aides turned on. It went something like this:
DH: "what do you want me to put on DD's feet?".... Me: "Well did you bring back her slippers, shoes or boots?" (why he took ALL of these yesterday I have no clue) DH: "I didn't bring anything back" Me: Huge sigh, count to 10...."Well then socks since that is our only option" DH: "You don't need to get snippy" Me: "Well if you would for one second think ahead, and think about what DD NEEDS to have with her we wouldn't have these kind of problems" DH: upset and annoyed "I GET IT, you don't have to beat a dead horse"
Meanwhile these instances that keep happening, highlight that he DOESN'T "Get it". I mean just a few weeks ago the man left the house with her and didn't take a stitch with him. Then realized his mistake when OMG, he didn't have any diapers, or wipes, or a sippy cup, or snacks, or a change of clothes......and this was not the first time he had made this mistake.
Seriously, DD is 2.5. He has had plenty of time to figure this out.
So annoyed with DH this morning. He started my day, before I even had my hearing aides turned on. It went something like this:
DH: "what do you want me to put on DD's feet?".... Me: "Well did you bring back her slippers, shoes or boots?" (why he took ALL of these yesterday I have no clue) DH: "I didn't bring anything back" Me: Huge sigh, count to 10...."Well then socks since that is our only option" DH: "You don't need to get snippy" Me: "Well if you would for one second think ahead, and think about what DD NEEDS to have with her we wouldn't have these kind of problems" DH: upset and annoyed "I GET IT, you don't have to beat a dead horse"
Meanwhile these instances that keep happening, highlight that he DOESN'T "Get it". I mean just a few weeks ago the man left the house with her and didn't take a stitch with him. Then realized his mistake when OMG, he didn't have any diapers, or wipes, or a sippy cup, or snacks, or a change of clothes......and this was not the first time he had made this mistake.
Seriously, DD is 2.5. He has had plenty of time to figure this out.
That stuff kills me! "What do I put in the diaper bag?" type questions make me rage. I feel your pain.
Yes!!! "What does DS need for school?" EVERY TIME DH TAKES HIM TO SCHOOL. He's almost three so it's not like he has to gather his homework, a water bottle, snack, backpack, jacket. COME ON. Grab the lunch I already made and packed, with a sippy, and the hoodie on top of it, and walk out the door. Like every other morning.
DH got a new car this weekend. Last night, after arriving home after I had bathed, homeworked, sold girl scout cookies, cooked, fed, breathing treatmented.....and he had commuted an hour...he tried to eat quickly and "go drive around" because he loves his car. Know what else he loves? Putting the kids to bed. Just had to remind him of that....in a slightly annoyed tone....
Post by kendraj426 on Jan 27, 2015 11:43:10 GMT -5
I thought my DH was just absentminded, but apparently this is a common thing among SOs. He always asks what to put in the diaper bag when he has to pack it. And then when we are out, I frequently find out that he left something at home that I told him to put in the bag. I don't know why this is so difficult to remember. I get that she's only been in our life for 7 months, but still, it's been 7 months. How do you not remember?
Also, I wish he would stop stealing the covers at night.
DH is a big guy. Not overweight or anything, but he's built like a linebacker. Anyway, when he tries to adjust or get comfortable in bed at night, it feels like a small child is jumping up and down on our bed!! It annoys the crap out of me. I'm constantly telling him to be still! I need to get one of those TempurPedic beds that you can drop a bowling ball on and the glass of wine on the other side won't spill.
DH is a big guy. Not overweight or anything, but he's built like a linebacker. Anyway, when he tries to adjust or get comfortable in bed at night, it feels like a small child is jumping up and down on our bed!! It annoys the crap out of me. I'm constantly telling him to be still! I need to get one of those TempurPedic beds that you can drop a bowling ball on and the glass of wine on the other side won't spill.
There are two things that make our marriage work. 1) separate XL twin mattresses with a king memory foam topper over them. This makes it so when DH flops around I barely feel it. 2) Separate blankets/top sheets so we don't fight over covers.
DH is a big guy. Not overweight or anything, but he's built like a linebacker. Anyway, when he tries to adjust or get comfortable in bed at night, it feels like a small child is jumping up and down on our bed!! It annoys the crap out of me. I'm constantly telling him to be still! I need to get one of those TempurPedic beds that you can drop a bowling ball on and the glass of wine on the other side won't spill.
There are two things that make our marriage work. 1) separate XL twin mattresses with a king memory foam topper over them. This makes it so when DH flops around I barely feel it. 2) Separate blankets/top sheets so we don't fight over covers.
Separate blankets is a great idea! Somehow I still think he would manage to steal the covers though.
My husband has this weird habit of sleeping with one of his arms at a totally awkward angle that leaves his hand dangling over my face. Imagine being woken up by creepy waggling fingers on your face. Then he gets mad at me when I freak out and throw his arm away.
DH is a big guy. Not overweight or anything, but he's built like a linebacker. Anyway, when he tries to adjust or get comfortable in bed at night, it feels like a small child is jumping up and down on our bed!! It annoys the crap out of me. I'm constantly telling him to be still! I need to get one of those TempurPedic beds that you can drop a bowling ball on and the glass of wine on the other side won't spill.
DO IT. We bought a Tempurpedic bed back in November, and one of the biggest selling points was the lack of motion transfer. Worth every penny.
DH is a big guy. Not overweight or anything, but he's built like a linebacker. Anyway, when he tries to adjust or get comfortable in bed at night, it feels like a small child is jumping up and down on our bed!! It annoys the crap out of me. I'm constantly telling him to be still! I need to get one of those TempurPedic beds that you can drop a bowling ball on and the glass of wine on the other side won't spill.
DO IT. We bought a Tempurpedic bed back in November, and one of the biggest selling points was the lack of motion transfer. Worth every penny.
So did we. I was always reluctant due to the cost, but now I'm sold. Best sleep I've had in years
DH is supposed to have the kids home from his parents' house by 6:00 every night. He gets home by 4:30 and his parents live less than a mile away. Easy peasy, right? Nope. He cannot manage it for the life of him.
And why the F can men not "nest" dishes inside of each other? If DH puts away the dishes, we are guaranteed to have an avalanche. Big ones on bottom, little ones on top. How difficult is that?.
DH is a big guy. Not overweight or anything, but he's built like a linebacker. Anyway, when he tries to adjust or get comfortable in bed at night, it feels like a small child is jumping up and down on our bed!! It annoys the crap out of me. I'm constantly telling him to be still! I need to get one of those TempurPedic beds that you can drop a bowling ball on and the glass of wine on the other side won't spill.
I had the same issue and we got a memory foam mattress. It definitely works.
DH is a big guy. Not overweight or anything, but he's built like a linebacker. Anyway, when he tries to adjust or get comfortable in bed at night, it feels like a small child is jumping up and down on our bed!! It annoys the crap out of me. I'm constantly telling him to be still! I need to get one of those TempurPedic beds that you can drop a bowling ball on and the glass of wine on the other side won't spill.
There are two things that make our marriage work. 1) separate XL twin mattresses with a king memory foam topper over them. This makes it so when DH flops around I barely feel it. 2) Separate blankets/top sheets so we don't fight over covers.
We did the separate cover thing while I was pregnant and I loved it. My DH, though, can be a little needy and felt like we were sleeping in separate beds. So now we're back to fighting over covers.
There are two things that make our marriage work. 1) separate XL twin mattresses with a king memory foam topper over them. This makes it so when DH flops around I barely feel it. 2) Separate blankets/top sheets so we don't fight over covers.
We did the separate cover thing while I was pregnant and I loved it. My DH, though, can be a little needy and felt like we were sleeping in separate beds. So now we're back to fighting over covers.
Sometimes I feel just a twinge of guilt, because DH is a very affectionate, loving guy and he would like if we didn't sleep so separated. However, it is a fleeting feeling. He knew when we married that I have strict sleep environment requirements (absolute dark, window open, fan running, my own covers, and absolutely no one touching me).
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