Transition
Aug 29, 2015 0:59:55 GMT -5
Post by excited30 on Aug 29, 2015 0:59:55 GMT -5
Hello everyone,
So, the last I posted here was a few months back I think. It was to say that I was trying again with my husband. I, to date, don't regret that decision at all. Things are going really well. But, well, transition is difficult, even positive transition. My husband actually stepped foot into my apartment for the first time in a few years 2 months ago. The would be the first time that dd would remember. It's just rocked the family dynamic totally. He's around part time and is slowly joining me on the parent-discipline team. All these changes are bringing out major behavioral issues with dd and quite frankly right now I'm worn down and just needing somewhere to talk.
I spoke with my husband tonight, but I feel he just doesn't get it. It's that 3.5 yrs of being a single parent and holding all the responsibility (and still holding most of it). I tell him how much of a hard day that I've had, he listens, but I know he doesnt' fully get it and cannot because he's not living here yet and hasn't had more than 3 hrs alone with her at a time. I have days and day and days that just bleed into each other with her.
Anyone else gone through family transition with a 3+ yr old and major behavioural issues came out? She's biting, hitting, and just plain acting out way more than usual. This morning "randomly" after a good start of the day she just starts hitting me with her clothing meanly. It took 1 hr but I finally got to the bottom of it. She was angry that daddy wasn't here this morning, so she was taking it out on me. I don't want to get into all the negative behavior in this post (there's lots), but more for support of a single parent.
When my husband is here, I'm trying to support him as he 'learns' to parent in our household. But it's always me that things are deferred to (so still feel like the weight is on me) as the heavy disciplined one. Then when he's gone the next day she takes out her behaviour on me and I try and catch up the household.
All in all this change is a good thing, but I am just having a really hard week and worn down with all the responsibility on me. It's till just dd and I under one roof, and husband lives under anotherr.. no overnights yet.
So, the last I posted here was a few months back I think. It was to say that I was trying again with my husband. I, to date, don't regret that decision at all. Things are going really well. But, well, transition is difficult, even positive transition. My husband actually stepped foot into my apartment for the first time in a few years 2 months ago. The would be the first time that dd would remember. It's just rocked the family dynamic totally. He's around part time and is slowly joining me on the parent-discipline team. All these changes are bringing out major behavioral issues with dd and quite frankly right now I'm worn down and just needing somewhere to talk.
I spoke with my husband tonight, but I feel he just doesn't get it. It's that 3.5 yrs of being a single parent and holding all the responsibility (and still holding most of it). I tell him how much of a hard day that I've had, he listens, but I know he doesnt' fully get it and cannot because he's not living here yet and hasn't had more than 3 hrs alone with her at a time. I have days and day and days that just bleed into each other with her.
Anyone else gone through family transition with a 3+ yr old and major behavioural issues came out? She's biting, hitting, and just plain acting out way more than usual. This morning "randomly" after a good start of the day she just starts hitting me with her clothing meanly. It took 1 hr but I finally got to the bottom of it. She was angry that daddy wasn't here this morning, so she was taking it out on me. I don't want to get into all the negative behavior in this post (there's lots), but more for support of a single parent.
When my husband is here, I'm trying to support him as he 'learns' to parent in our household. But it's always me that things are deferred to (so still feel like the weight is on me) as the heavy disciplined one. Then when he's gone the next day she takes out her behaviour on me and I try and catch up the household.
All in all this change is a good thing, but I am just having a really hard week and worn down with all the responsibility on me. It's till just dd and I under one roof, and husband lives under anotherr.. no overnights yet.