Spoiled Parenting

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We have a nanny in our home from 8-5pm. Monday-Friday. When I'm back to work next month she will be watching both kids. I haven't been doing many activities w one or the other. we usually do group activities. If I have a play date w another mom I just go by myself w the kids and the nanny will work 1/2 day that day.

On the weekend we do tend to split up and DH does alot of one on one activities w DS.

That being said I still remember that nasty phone call that Alek Baldwin made to his older daughter calling her fat and it made me cringe. I just can't look at him and read a story about his kids without remembering that so I have trouble reading it and thinking things in that home are now all rainbows and unicorns.

[erbear]

People really take their kids on solo vacations?

Yes, that's what I got from this.

[wegrowsheep]

I know a family with 4 kids that takes each one to Disneyland for their 5th birthday. The other kids stay at gma and gpa's farm while they are away. It seems to work for them. However, I see it as more of a rite of passage than what's going on here. They take other vacations as a family.

[Widget123]

I do think giving your child some individualized attention is a good thing. Now that we are a family of four i do find it somewhat hard to have one on one time with one child without it being interrupted by the other child, even if DH and I are both home. I really wanted to take DD to the pool this summer, just the two of us, but we still havent made it there. So i get this POV. But i wouldnt go so far as to hire help for this.

[mcp6286]

The lady I nannied for last year did this. I worked one long day (12 hours) while she was actually at work and then two short days (6 hours) on her days off. While she sometimes ran errands (because her kids were so terribly behaved that she couldn't take them anywhere alone), she often did exactly what this article says. And she and her husband take solo trips with the girls because the two girls have totally different interests (one loves outdoor activities and one hates them); they just leave the other one with the grandparents. It was very interesting. I thought it was really nice that my boss made a conscience effort to spend time with each child, because I do think one-on-one is very important. I always loved that my dad spent individual time with me and think it's part of the reason I'm way closer to him than my mom. However, I also think that my boss did this out of necessity, because she could only wrangle one kid at a time. If her kids were better behaved, she could certainly have done all those outings with both of them (they're only 13 months apart).

[carolyngrace]

Why don't these articles open for me in tapatalk? Anyone else? This, the shopping cart one, etc...

[Bluedaisy]

While I don't think I'd necessarily do solo vacations I think individual time is really important. I would totally hire a babysitter for a few hours if I had one child who really wanted to go to a museum or something and another who would hate being dragged along. I think the age differences between kids might make this a very practical option.

I do also think that family and sibling time is important. I think it's about finding the right balance for each family.

[baytosa2013]

I wouldn't hire someone just so I could spend one on one time. I do agree that it is nice for each child to have some separate time to do activities with each parent but solo vacations? NOPE

[dmoney]

My sister does this.. 2 Saturdays a month her and my brother in law, take my nephew (their oldest) out to breakfast. So they have just momm/daddy/edward time. Their youngest are 7 month old twins. They starting doing it because their oldest was acting out when he wasnt getting the attention he was used to getting. Part of this they realized they did to them selves by never leaving him for an over night trip or a weekend trip. The first time they left him alone was when she went to the hospital to have the twins. He only knew every waking momment with them. And didnt realize that there might be other things in mommy and daddys lives. And that it is okay if he isnt the center of their attention 24/7