Post by finnaroo on Jan 27, 2015 8:29:35 GMT -5
As I've said about 15 million times, DH suffers from anxiety. Since taking this new position, and simultaneously stopping his meds, it's been running rampant. He has a stressful job and his team isn't performing, which doesn't help matters. His boss and several seasoned peers have all told him that he's doing a good job and has nothing to worry about, but he can't hear logic or reason when he's like this. He's burning a candle at both ends and he knows that he can't sustain it.
Yesterday, he told me that he can't handle stress of any sort and wants to go back to waiting tables because he never felt professional stress in that role. He was a server when we met fresh out of college almost 9 years ago. He only did it that summer and I think he's glossed over how hard it was, not to mention how underpaid.
He also said that he realized that wasn't fair to me and didn't blame me if I left, as a result. Our wedding anniversary is this Saturday. Awesome timing, dude.
I made him an appointment with a psychiatrist and a counselor immediately afterwards. I was trying to make it for marriage counseling but since he has GAD, they wanted to see him first.
When I told him about the appointment, he changed his tune and started back pedaling. I'm trying to get him help and also help myself gain tools to not resent him when I start over with grad school and go back to work. It's hard. It's really hard, actually. I do have some anger about the situation and the fact that I had a position waiting for me and I gave it up to move down here for him, only for him to be like, "Nope!"
So, anyway, that's what I'm up against. I have no idea how to help him and the more he resists and refuses to seek or accept help, I think the worse the outlook.
Yesterday, he told me that he can't handle stress of any sort and wants to go back to waiting tables because he never felt professional stress in that role. He was a server when we met fresh out of college almost 9 years ago. He only did it that summer and I think he's glossed over how hard it was, not to mention how underpaid.
He also said that he realized that wasn't fair to me and didn't blame me if I left, as a result. Our wedding anniversary is this Saturday. Awesome timing, dude.
I made him an appointment with a psychiatrist and a counselor immediately afterwards. I was trying to make it for marriage counseling but since he has GAD, they wanted to see him first.
When I told him about the appointment, he changed his tune and started back pedaling. I'm trying to get him help and also help myself gain tools to not resent him when I start over with grad school and go back to work. It's hard. It's really hard, actually. I do have some anger about the situation and the fact that I had a position waiting for me and I gave it up to move down here for him, only for him to be like, "Nope!"
So, anyway, that's what I'm up against. I have no idea how to help him and the more he resists and refuses to seek or accept help, I think the worse the outlook.