TTC Check-In (9/14)

[rikkiandjulie]

How is everyone fairing with the TTC highs/lows? Spill the beans, we are all here to listen.

QOTD: What is your worst habit?

[rikkiandjulie]

I'll go first, we are 11 dpo. Yesterday's test was negative. I'm not really sure what we are doing wrong at this point because it feels like we are doing everything we possibly can, and then some. It sucks. It sucks hard. DW is getting fairly depressed about it all as well, she just keeps saying "Her body is failing her". Breaks my heart! We have discussed taking a break however each cycle we have $400-$500 of opened Follistim in the fridge, because we need just 10mil more to get a full dose, so we keep going. It's no good after 30 days and DW really doesn't want to toss it. . ? We have decided that DW will continue to try until May. If nothing at that point it will be my turn, as currently IVF is out for us. Hopefully, I'll be able to get KU if she can't. DW will not be out of the game forever just after a year of trying she mentioned she'd like for me to try for a while with better luck, then she can try again.

Come January we will pick a new donor, why continue to stick with one that doesn't work? We adore our current one but he's probably not out lucky ticket.

I have started to track my cycle, DW asked that I do. I have also made an OBGYN appointment to make sure all is well, and I should start working out, watching what I eat. I can't decide if I will BBT or not. My sleep is erratic and I wake up suuuuper early. Before 4a, a lot of days, of course I hit snooze, but my understanding is that I temp the minute my eyes open, is this correct? I downloaded the fertility friend tracker, is reading a chart difficult?

I'm just really praying that one of us gets lucky.

A new girl that transferred to my store is KU. She can't even afford to keep her cell phone on, and her BF doesn't have a job. She's 23. She complains constantly about how disgusting and fat she is, and how being PG is disgusting. Some of the looks I shoot her resemble death threats I swear. She's so lucky and has no idea.

QOTD: Food. I just enjoy really delicious indulgent foods, this is no doubt why I'm over weight, but I just love a good meal. Second, before my braces i used to bite my nails. I can't now. It's weird.

[JustJudy]

rikkiandjulie, I found with how time sensitive IUI with donor sperm is tracking my BBT was a huge help in timing. I didn't temp until about 4 months in and now I'm pretty sure our timing was far off those first three months.

AFM, I'm on CD 1 and will start Femara on CD 3. After 10 months of trying I'm ready for something to work! Timing the IUI should be interesting since I have a 5k I really don't want to miss the day before FF says I'll ovulate. I'm not sure how the Femara will affect my O day, if it does at all. We'll find out.

QOTW: Being attached to my phone is definitely my worst habit. I put it away when I'm with friends and family now, but it's definitely an addiction.

[rikkiandjulie]

Sept 14, 2015 10:55:39 GMT -5 JustJudy said:

rikkiandjulie, I found with how time sensitive IUI with donor sperm is tracking my BBT was a huge help in timing. I didn't temp until about 4 months in and now I'm pretty sure our timing was far off those first three months.

AFM, I'm on CD 1 and will start Femara on CD 3. After 10 months of trying I'm ready for something to work! Timing the IUI should be interesting since I have a 5k I really don't want to miss the day before FF says I'll ovulate. I'm not sure how the Femara will affect my O day, if it does at all. We'll find out.

QOTW: Being attached to my phone is definitely my worst habit. I put it away when I'm with friends and family now, but it's definitely an addiction.

This might be ridiculous but do yo think that tracking temp with a trigger shot is still worth while? I'm not sure how that will impact things. My RE always does it 36 hours after, would it be wise to track the temp and try to shift it? Do the fertility mess impact the accuracy of the temps? Is the temp still beneficial?

[JustJudy]

Sept 14, 2015 11:41:48 GMT -5 rikkiandjulie said:

Sept 14, 2015 10:55:39 GMT -5 JustJudy said:

rikkiandjulie, I found with how time sensitive IUI with donor sperm is tracking my BBT was a huge help in timing. I didn't temp until about 4 months in and now I'm pretty sure our timing was far off those first three months.

AFM, I'm on CD 1 and will start Femara on CD 3. After 10 months of trying I'm ready for something to work! Timing the IUI should be interesting since I have a 5k I really don't want to miss the day before FF says I'll ovulate. I'm not sure how the Femara will affect my O day, if it does at all. We'll find out.

QOTW: Being attached to my phone is definitely my worst habit. I put it away when I'm with friends and family now, but it's definitely an addiction.

This might be ridiculous but do yo think that tracking temp with a trigger shot is still worth while? I'm not sure how that will impact things. My RE always does it 36 hours after, would it be wise to track the temp and try to shift it? Do the fertility mess impact the accuracy of the temps? Is the temp still beneficial?

If you're triggering then I'd say temping would be a waste of time and worry. I temp bc I've never used a trigger shot, this will be our very first month doing anything with fertility meds. It's all been 100% natural so far. Clearly, that's not working.

[dannigirl]

CD4 today for me and last night I took my first 2.5mg dose of Femara. I got a headache last night, and another one this afternoon. Not sure if either has anything to do with the Femara, or other factors… like last night I was stressed due to our hot water tank leaking and I was worried there was going to be a massive failure throughout the night and our basement would have water damage. And then this afternoon I think I got a ‘too much sugar’ headache.. lol I ate two donuts and I’m sure that gave me a headache… We’ll see what happens tonight after I take my next dose.

OH, and I found out that I can have my follicle tracking here in town!!!!! No more travelling 3 hours to have the ultrasound done. Yay!!! So that is already scheduled for the 21st. So we will see how that goes.

I am excited and nervous about getting the process started again. Trying to keep my feet grounded for now… But a few things that are making me hopeful is the fact that for the first time since I got pregnant last year, I had sore breasts 5 days before I started CD1. And, AF is acting the same as she would back then too. 1 day spotting, 1 day mild, 1 day heavy and then tappers off… rather than 3 days of heavy and then weird off and on heavy/light for the rest. Everything is feeling like the first time we tried, and that makes me super happy. Maybe I needed 9 months to let my body get back to normal?

QOTW: Worst habit… I am very anal… I like things being done a certain way. So that means I tend to do a lot myself and then I get annoyed because I’m doing everything… haha

[dannigirl]

JustJudy, Is this month your first time taking Femara??

rikkiandjulie, I really hope you are getting a false negative and it's a BFP after all. It's so frustrating when things are not working out. I know I felt like my body was failing me also.. and that I could sustain life when we had issued with Baby Girl. Sometimes a break is the best thing, as hard as that can be. Ugh.

[humorme00]

We've started down the road to IVF. I've been on birth control since last Wednesday. This is the first time I've ever taken the Pill, and it feels very strange to be doing so. Right now the plan is to stay on BC until 10/11. Then stim and probably retrieval around the 27th. Had the pleasure of doing a saline ultrasound when we went in Wednesday and she did a mock transfer too. Good news is that the ute looks fine. It seems like time is standing still and flying by at the same time.

Honestly, it's been nice to step out of the craziness of repeat cycles for a couple of weeks. We're making the most out of it by taking a small vacation to celebrate our 5th wedding anniversary.


QOTW: Food. Food, food, food. My poor relationship with food is by far my worst habit.

[kona]

We are finally jumping back on the TTC wagon. It looks like this month or next will be our first IUI TTC #2. I'm excited and dreading the process at the same time. We still have 2 vials from the donor we used to conceive O. We are fairly certain that he doesn't have any more available. So we have 2 chances to give O a bio sibling. I don't think a bio sibling is really important to us but it might be nice. We do plan to try for 3, and I will carry the last one. We will see how the next round goes to see if we have the energy to do this 3 times!

QOTW: I can be very quick to judge. It's not a very flattering trait.

[esquette]

Today is CD14, and i somehow missed my ovulation this month. Did OPKs each day from day 7 until today, normally O like clockwork between day 9 and 12 and nothing. Fortunately, Sweetie works in a lab and we just stored our vial of frozen donor sperm at work for next month. But I'm super bummed. Also, even though I had a pretty typical period, I sort of kind of believe that I'm not ovulating because I'm already pregnant. Bahahahaha. TTC makes me feel crazy already. So, I've told myself that if my period is late, I can POAS, but otherwise I just have to soldier on and wait until next month's ovulation. Tomorrow, we'll sit down and have Kid Meeting to talk about stuff.

Worst Habit: According to my physical therapist, sleeping on my belly is pretty awful. But I just can't shake it. It's like coming home.

[JustJudy]

Sept 14, 2015 16:48:10 GMT -5 dannigirl said:

JustJudy, Is this month your first time taking Femara??

It is! I just turned 30 in Jan and all my labs looked beautiful so my doc wanted to try unmedicated IUIs for a while. 

[mahler5]

Had ultrasound today and they checked my estrogen levels. FET is a week from tomorrow. My lining was at a 6 (mm I think). They said they like it at an 8. But then they said my labs came back good and that I should have no problem getting to an 8 by next week. But they aren't doing another scan.

I'm starting to get some nerves about TTC again. I've felt relatively chill about it the last few weeks. I just want it to be over with.

Good luck to everyone in the TWW and everyone with procedures coming up.

QOTW: I'm definitely on my phone too much too. I was initially going to say I am bad at keeping things organized and neat and I have a bad habit of not cleaning up after myself right away and waiting until later and it's a huge mess (if that makes sense). I am not one of those people that picks up as they go. I do clean up every night, although lately I've done a really half ass job, but I make myself do it. Anyway, I digress.

[Stringy]

Sept 14, 2015 19:29:56 GMT -5 mahler5 said:

Had ultrasound today and they checked my estrogen levels. FET is a week from tomorrow. My lining was at a 6 (mm I think). They said they like it at an 8. But then they said my labs came back good and that I should have no problem getting to an 8 by next week. But they aren't doing another scan.

I'm starting to get some nerves about TTC again. I've felt relatively chill about it the last few weeks. I just want it to be over with.

Good luck to everyone in the TWW and everyone with procedures coming up.

QOTW: I'm definitely on my phone too much too. I was initially going to say I am bad at keeping things organized and neat and I have a bad habit of not cleaning up after myself right away and waiting until later and it's a huge mess (if that makes sense). I am not one of those people that picks up as they go. I do clean up every night, although lately I've done a really half ass job, but I make myself do it. Anyway, I digress.

Hey cycle buddy! I had my things checked out today and also have a FET scheduled for next Tuesday. I was told everything looks perfect. But it always has so far and never works. So that doesn't really make me feel any better.

What are you on to prep. I'm only on oral estrace and I have some weird cramping on and off. Odd to me since it's supposed to be suppressing things.

[mahler5]

Sept 14, 2015 20:06:31 GMT -5 Stringy said:

Sept 14, 2015 19:29:56 GMT -5 mahler5 said:

Had ultrasound today and they checked my estrogen levels. FET is a week from tomorrow. My lining was at a 6 (mm I think). They said they like it at an 8. But then they said my labs came back good and that I should have no problem getting to an 8 by next week. But they aren't doing another scan.

I'm starting to get some nerves about TTC again. I've felt relatively chill about it the last few weeks. I just want it to be over with.

Good luck to everyone in the TWW and everyone with procedures coming up.

QOTW: I'm definitely on my phone too much too. I was initially going to say I am bad at keeping things organized and neat and I have a bad habit of not cleaning up after myself right away and waiting until later and it's a huge mess (if that makes sense). I am not one of those people that picks up as they go. I do clean up every night, although lately I've done a really half ass job, but I make myself do it. Anyway, I digress.

Hey cycle buddy! I had my things checked out today and also have a FET scheduled for next Tuesday. I was told everything looks perfect. But it always has so far and never works. So that doesn't really make me feel any better.

What are you on to prep. I'm only on oral estrace and I have some weird cramping on and off. Odd to me since it's supposed to be suppressing things.

So excited to have a cycle, FET, buddy!!

I'll be thinking about you! Glad everything looks good!

I'm on estrace oral and estrace patches, lupron, and aspirin. I've had some mild cramping too.

I start progesterone shots, Medrol, and doxycycline on Thursday I think. Normally I would do the doxy at the beginning of the cycle but they switched.

Today was the first time they weren't like, your lining is perfect! They still said it should be fine by next week. Everything has always looked good too and none have worked. This will be number 4. (#3 FET). I wouldn't say I'm optimistic but I'm not pessimistic either. I'm just blah about it. Statistically with a normal egg I read somewhere on the internet it's 75-80% likely to result in a take home baby. But the last transfer was a normal genetic embryo as well, and one of the other ones could have been too, so who knows.

Anyway, I'm rambling. Keep us updated!

[bexincanada]

7dpIUI, had a nice weekend away though where I only thought about TTC maybe 20% of the time. It was a nice mental break, in nature... lovely. Work has been really busy, so that's keeping me pretty occupied for this TWW.

[rikkiandjulie]

Sept 15, 2015 7:08:33 GMT -5 bexincanada said:

7dpIUI, had a nice weekend away though where I only thought about TTC maybe 20% of the time. It was a nice mental break, in nature... lovely. Work has been really busy, so that's keeping me pretty occupied for this TWW.

Good luck bec. Fx for you all.

[rikkiandjulie]

DW took a wondfo test today, 13dpiui. Negative. We are out this month. She's doing a beta tomorrow anyways I guess she just wants to be sure, because she will have to stop taking progesterone. Hopefully iui #5 is the lucky ticket.

[dannigirl]

JustJudy, Good luck with the Femara! I hope it helps you.
I'm 35 and all my blood work was good, but because we've had 2 BFN's since our Baby Girl, I wanted to better our odds and the RE suggested Femara with the trigger (which we have always done). No side effects with the Femara on this end, other than possibly the headaches, but I didn’t have one yesterday and nothing today.. So that’s nice.
I was told the RE would talk with me more about progesterone after the IUI, so I’m not sure if I’ll get to add those to the list.
Not looking forward to driving to Saskatoon sometime next week.. I hate that drive. But hopefully I’ll only need to go two more times.

rikkiandjulie, I am so sorry. I really hope #5 is the one for you!

[klake42]

I'm 14dpiui, and BFN. Quitting the progesterone and waiting for the next cycle to start.

We thought about taking a break, since my wife lost her job (same week as the IUI, and same week that we paid $4k for a new roof), but we decided to go for it anyway. It will be number 6, and if it doesn't work, we'll be discussing IVF.

[rikkiandjulie]

Sept 16, 2015 16:12:09 GMT -5 klake42 said:

I'm 14dpiui, and BFN. Quitting the progesterone and waiting for the next cycle to start.

We thought about taking a break, since my wife lost her job (same week as the IUI, and same week that we paid $4k for a new roof), but we decided to go for it anyway. It will be number 6, and if it doesn't work, we'll be discussing IVF.

You and my wife are cycle buddies. I am so sorry this time didn't work. ? It sucks. I have no idea what our next steps are, all I know is next month is IUI.

[mahler5]

Sept 16, 2015 16:12:09 GMT -5 klake42 said:

I'm 14dpiui, and BFN. Quitting the progesterone and waiting for the next cycle to start.

We thought about taking a break, since my wife lost her job (same week as the IUI, and same week that we paid $4k for a new roof), but we decided to go for it anyway. It will be number 6, and if it doesn't work, we'll be discussing IVF.

I'm so sorry your wife lost her job and that you all got BFN. Hope the next cycle works out.

[bexincanada]

Sorry to hear about the BFN's klake42 and rikkiandjulie.

[rikkiandjulie]

BETA was negative. Officially officially onto cycle #5.

Why is it that people who don't even want kids just pop them out like candy, but the ones who want then most struggle? Today I'm just mad at the world.