Monday whines and wins

[tribute17]

Anyone?

Win/whine: the overnight interview for my H has turned into a three day two night interview. I've decided not to go and just stay home. That was too long to be away. It pretty much sounds like he has the job if he wants it. The whine is that we don't know if we can afford it. Post doc jobs pay is awful and would be way less than im making as a teacher. He doesn't know specifically how much but he is going to ask him when he is there. If it is below a certain number we just can't make it work. And we aren't talking about living some luxurious life, we wouldn't be able to afford rent and food and insurance. We have it so nice here other than him not having a job that it is really hard to take such a cut. He is going Wednesday-Friday so we will see how it goes.
Whine: Thursday is my birthday and it will be the first one since I was 16 that H won't be with me. Bummer.
Win: I fully plan on celebrating by myself when the kids are in bed. It will be three days by myself with both kids we will see how it goes. I will definitely need that ice cream and wine.
Whine: since he doesn't have a job yet I have to go back to work in just a couple of weeks. William will be 7 weeks old and it just isn't long enough. We just can't afford me not getting paid. Ugh, I hate worrying about money All Of The Time.

[paddyb]

Win: if our agent is even it hte right ballpark for how much we can get for our house it is a lot more than we were expecting.
whine: it is going to be stressful and a lot of work to get that though.

[xanthepants]

paddyb, can Cosette and I just come live in your back 40?

[junkytrunk]

Whine: I go back to work tomorrow after 4 days off.

Whine: I feel like I'm getting sick (sore throat, sneezing a lot, foggy ears)

Win: we move on Saturday out of this craphole apartment

Win: we get the keys on Thursday night

[aimeefarrahfowler]

tribute17 that's tough...But I thought you were going to look for a teaching job wherever H ended up? Seriosuly, he's been looking so long and so hard, it's gotta be worth it just for him to take any job just to get his foot in and network and have something on his resume.

[tribute17]

Sept 14, 2015 20:35:26 GMT -5 aimeefarrahfowler said:

tribute17 that's tough...But I thought you were going to look for a teaching job wherever H ended up? Seriosuly, he's been looking so long and so hard, it's gotta be worth it just for him to take any job just to get his foot in and network and have something on his resume.

I think that's the plan. But apparently teaching jobs are hard to come by in that area. I also have some online options so I could maybe stay home and make a little. There are just lots of pros and cons and it will ultimately be up to him. I'm going to push him to take it. Mostly for his mental health and for the health of our marriage. The money will be tight but could be worse. We will see how the interview goes and how much they are going to offer. Fingers crossed.

[bliz1712]

Whine: sick of sicko kids. V is getting splotches and rash like things after she showers.
Whine: Hanna are her string cheese too fast and didn't chew it good. About 10 minutes after she left the table she threw up 2x.
Win: the dog cleaned most of it up before I could get to it.
Win: I had a good day healthy eating wise.
Whine: I have money on the Vikings game and it just started at 915. Sadly I'll be going to bed soon

[justbeth]

bliz1712, I used to get red splotches and itch after showers. No one could ever figure out why. It went away when I moved off to college, but still happens when I go home to visit. My derm assumes it has something to do with the hardness of the water in our home town. Mine just started suddenly one day and never stopped. Cold showers helped, and super moisturizing soap like cetaphil or cereve. V might want to try showering with nothing to see if it's the water, if not then slowly add in soaps and shampoos until she finds what is triggering it.

[bliz1712]

justbeth, thanks. That's what I thought too. We haven't changed any soaps, detergents, etc for her to be allergic to any of that. I had MIL look at it last night and she has a book of diseases (insert eye roll here) that she looked it up in it. According to it she might have fifth's disease. Which would make sense since she has been sick the last week and a half. I'm not sure I believe it just yet and might try what you suggested.

[summergirl1211]

bliz1712, I get red, itchy splotches after I shower sometimes too. It's always randomly and they splotches go away after about 30 minutes. But it's annoying and I can't figure out what the deal is.


Whine: Life is so stressful right now. My H and I are super busy with work and then crazy busy at night looking for a house. I can't wait until we find one and can breathe for a day or two.

Win: Ed Sheeran concert tonight!!

Whine: A deal I've been working on since April probably isn't going to close this quarter, which means I won't get paid until next year on it. Boo.

Win: At least the big deal I've been working on still looks like it's going to close. We're taking business away from a competitor and that always makes me happy.

[summergirl1211]

Ooh, one more win! For the first time since Memorial Day, Riley slept in her room by herself all night long. We told her my H wouldn't be sleeping on her floor in the new house, but she did this on her own. We're going to try to use the momentum of one night and see if we can keep it up. We've promised her a small toy from Target if she does this the rest of the week. FX!!

[laurski81]

Win: I'm taking Friday off and meeting my sister at the beach house she is renting on Thursday night.
Whine: I'm taking both kids (hers will be there too).
Win: It's a free overnight stay for us.
Whine: this whole Cece never sleeping thing is just plain ridiculous now. Not that it was ever fun but I am so over it. We went to a wedding on Saturday night and she was still awake when we got home at 11:30. My aunt watched the kids and she could not get her down. She has such a reputation I don't want to ever ask someone to watch her overnight. The "joke" that my sister started was "oh look! Cece's awake" anytime we would see each other, anywhere we would see each other, because she's always awake. It's caught on because now my whole family says it.

[summergirl1211]

Hugs laurski81. Hugs and wine. I wish I knew how to help. And also, I really think your H and your BIL should take the kids for a night sometime soon so you and your sister can relax!

[laurski81]

Sept 15, 2015 12:41:39 GMT -5 summergirl1211 said:

Hugs laurski81. Hugs and wine. I wish I knew how to help. And also, I really think your H and your BIL should take the kids for a night sometime soon so you and your sister can relax!

Thanks summergirl1211 but my sister doesn't need to relax any more. Both her kids sleep for at least 11 hours straight every night and another 2-3 hours (my niece) or 4-5 hours (my nephew) every day.

How is that for a cruel joke on me?

[summergirl1211]

Sept 15, 2015 12:44:44 GMT -5 laurski81 said:

Sept 15, 2015 12:41:39 GMT -5 summergirl1211 said:

Hugs laurski81. Hugs and wine. I wish I knew how to help. And also, I really think your H and your BIL should take the kids for a night sometime soon so you and your sister can relax!

Thanks summergirl1211 but my sister doesn't need to relax any more. Both her kids sleep for at least 11 hours straight every night and another 2-3 hours (my niece) or 4-5 hours (my nephew) every day.

How is that for a cruel joke on me?

Okay, then drop your kids off at her place for the weekend and your sister, BIL, and your H can all take turns with them at night. it's only fair! 

[laurski81]

summergirl1211 my H was actually really good when we got home Saturday night and she was still awake. I thawed milk before we left because I was planning to drink (heavily) and he stayed up with her, rocked her, fed her, etc until she fell asleep (and then got up with her MOTN) so I could just sleep. It was really nice.

[summergirl1211]

Sept 15, 2015 11:43:10 GMT -5 summergirl1211 said:

Ooh, one more win! For the first time since Memorial Day, Riley slept in her room by herself all night long. We told her my H wouldn't be sleeping on her floor in the new house, but she did this on her own. We're going to try to use the momentum of one night and see if we can keep it up. We've promised her a small toy from Target if she does this the rest of the week. FX!!

Also, can I say how much my family is judging me on this shit? They don't come right out and say it, but they ask all the time if Riley is sleeping by herself yet. It's hard dealing with a kid that destroys her room if you leave her in there, screaming like a crazy person. I'm just glad you ladies aren't (openly) side eyeing me on this. Parenting is so freaking hard! 

[bliz1712]

summergirl1211,hugs. I get the side eye or comment from people when I mention Eliza sleeping with us sometimes. But until you're in the situation (and long term) you have no clue. And of course when she stays at my parents she sleeps perfectly.

[laurski81]

Sept 15, 2015 14:26:14 GMT -5 summergirl1211 said:

Sept 15, 2015 11:43:10 GMT -5 summergirl1211 said:

Ooh, one more win! For the first time since Memorial Day, Riley slept in her room by herself all night long. We told her my H wouldn't be sleeping on her floor in the new house, but she did this on her own. We're going to try to use the momentum of one night and see if we can keep it up. We've promised her a small toy from Target if she does this the rest of the week. FX!!

Also, can I say how much my family is judging me on this shit? They don't come right out and say it, but they ask all the time if Riley is sleeping by herself yet. It's hard dealing with a kid that destroys her room if you leave her in there, screaming like a crazy person. I'm just glad you ladies aren't (openly) side eyeing me on this. Parenting is so freaking hard! 

OMG...could you imagine if I were their daughter?!
Edit: wth happened to the rest of my post? Anyway...my Mom is always making comments to me about the bad habits I'm creating with Henry by letting him leave his bed and come into ours in the middle of the night. Even though she knows the problems we have had with him and now Cece. I actually asked her if she wanted me to not even get the two whole hours a night I am currently getting and she rolled her eyes like I was doing something wrong. So frustrating. I feel you girl.

[aimeefarrahfowler]

Here's a Tuesday whine.

I took the kids to my sister's birthday dinner at a Mexican restaurant tonight and it was a freaking disaster. H works late so I was on my own. They made such a mess, A kept yelling "I have to go poop!" every time he was just tired of sitting at the table. T kept throwing everything on the floor, every time I turned to help Alex with something he'd grab for something else on the table. A threw a fit while I was trying to finish eating and waiting for my check and It was just awful and so embarrassing.

[xanthepants]

aimeefarrahfowler, that sounds a lot like our dinners out these days too. I'm about ready to just give up. Especially the I have to poop thing. I swear I go to the bathroom about 4-5 times a meal. I may as well get a to-go box from the start, I never get to eat. Then I get home and shovel that whole cold meal in fast as I can while H does books at bedtime in my resentment.

[tribute17]

My family judges me all of the time too. Comments from my sister who has two teenagers like, "I just let them cry it out, have you tried that?" Oh thanks for the advice. Your kids just screamed for an hour while you ignored them every night. Not sure that is better. Oh yeah and you weren't teaching every day. I've gotten over it though. It's the only way to sleep sometimes. People who don't have horrible sleepers just don't get it.

[cookiesandwine]

Sept 15, 2015 15:21:28 GMT -5 laurski81 said:

Sept 15, 2015 14:26:14 GMT -5 summergirl1211 said:

Also, can I say how much my family is judging me on this shit? They don't come right out and say it, but they ask all the time if Riley is sleeping by herself yet. It's hard dealing with a kid that destroys her room if you leave her in there, screaming like a crazy person. I'm just glad you ladies aren't (openly) side eyeing me on this. Parenting is so freaking hard! 

OMG...could you imagine if I were their daughter?!
Edit: wth happened to the rest of my post? Anyway...my Mom is always making comments to me about the bad habits I'm creating with Henry by letting him leave his bed and come into ours in the middle of the night. Even though she knows the problems we have had with him and now Cece. I actually asked her if she wanted me to not even get the two whole hours a night I am currently getting and she rolled her eyes like I was doing something wrong. So frustrating. I feel you girl.

Sounds to me like grandma just offered to host a sleepover for H & C!!

[junkytrunk]

Sept 15, 2015 21:48:11 GMT -5 cookiesandwine said:

Sept 15, 2015 15:21:28 GMT -5 laurski81 said:

OMG...could you imagine if I were their daughter?!
Edit: wth happened to the rest of my post? Anyway...my Mom is always making comments to me about the bad habits I'm creating with Henry by letting him leave his bed and come into ours in the middle of the night. Even though she knows the problems we have had with him and now Cece. I actually asked her if she wanted me to not even get the two whole hours a night I am currently getting and she rolled her eyes like I was doing something wrong. So frustrating. I feel you girl.

Sounds to me like grandma just offered to host a sleepover for H & C!!

Sounds like it to me! Only im sure H & C would sleep like angels magically. M never fights our parents or when he is somewhere new.

[laurski81]

Sept 15, 2015 22:18:02 GMT -5 junkytrunk said:

Sept 15, 2015 21:48:11 GMT -5 cookiesandwine said:

Sounds to me like grandma just offered to host a sleepover for H & C!!

Sounds like it to me! Only im sure H & C would sleep like angels magically. M never fights our parents or when he is somewhere new.

Just for the record Henry ended up in their bed the last time they had him (when I was in the hospital having Cece). And she knows how Cece is because she watches her one day a week and tells me all the time how she won't nap. I love my Mom but she seems to forget this shit when she judges.