Intro (long, oy)
Jan 27, 2015 18:22:49 GMT -5
Post by weezyb on Jan 27, 2015 18:22:49 GMT -5
Hi everyone!
Ihave been was a member of TB for 3 years or so. I have been active on and off on different boards (1st tri, miscarriage/pregnancy loss, infertility, third party) My husband and I are (still) on a very long journey to parenthood. I tried to summarize everything in my siggy, but I don't know how clear it is. Let me know if I need to explain anything!
Starting tomorrow, our gestational carrier will be 13 weeks. I know I'm technically part of the August 2015 board, but since our due date is 8/5 and they will be doing a planned c-section 2 weeks prior, I kinda feel like I want to chill in the July boards. Plushonestly, and this is going to sound REAAALLL creepy...I've been lurking here since we transferred our embryo on November 17th. And another technicality...I know I'm not pregnant (duh) and I fit in on the Third Party boards, but reading about symptoms, feelings, stupid-things-people-say-to-pregnant-ladies, etc. makes me feel more involved. I should admit that I have (and probably STILL do) say stupid things to pregnant women because in my mind "oh wow look how big you are!!" is an awesome compliment (to me it's like "holy crap you're doing some awesome and look at the evidence!!"). I've gotten a whole lot better at keeping thoughts to myself
I don't know how much I can participate beyond saying supportive things, but know how much it means that I feel like I'm actively part of my third-party pregnancy. I should add that our carrier is doing an AMAZING job of keeping me in the know (she sent me her first belly picture the other day...yeah yeah it's mostly bloat...but it's MY bloat!!!). She lets me know all the things she's craving, and the best part - she has small children at home and the oldest one talks to the baby!!! It makes me feel all sorts of feels. This is our carrier's second surrogacy - her kids are pros at understanding that "mommy is taking care of the baby until his/her parents can come and get him/her".
This is my first time even peaking in to a second trimester...all of my pregnancies ended in the first...I am a nervous wreck!! I don't want to barrage our carrier with worry and freak outs...so when she told me she was sick and taking antibiotics, instead of flipping I read the boards and realized that women get sick while pregnant and there are approved drugs to take when that happens. It's amazing how much common sense goes out the window during a pregnancy (even when you're not the one pregnant).
I'm probably rambling by now. I'll wrap it up! Feel free to ask me questions about anything - I'm looking forward to experiencing this journey with everyone here.
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Starting tomorrow, our gestational carrier will be 13 weeks. I know I'm technically part of the August 2015 board, but since our due date is 8/5 and they will be doing a planned c-section 2 weeks prior, I kinda feel like I want to chill in the July boards. Plushonestly, and this is going to sound REAAALLL creepy...I've been lurking here since we transferred our embryo on November 17th. And another technicality...I know I'm not pregnant (duh) and I fit in on the Third Party boards, but reading about symptoms, feelings, stupid-things-people-say-to-pregnant-ladies, etc. makes me feel more involved. I should admit that I have (and probably STILL do) say stupid things to pregnant women because in my mind "oh wow look how big you are!!" is an awesome compliment (to me it's like "holy crap you're doing some awesome and look at the evidence!!"). I've gotten a whole lot better at keeping thoughts to myself
I don't know how much I can participate beyond saying supportive things, but know how much it means that I feel like I'm actively part of my third-party pregnancy. I should add that our carrier is doing an AMAZING job of keeping me in the know (she sent me her first belly picture the other day...yeah yeah it's mostly bloat...but it's MY bloat!!!). She lets me know all the things she's craving, and the best part - she has small children at home and the oldest one talks to the baby!!! It makes me feel all sorts of feels. This is our carrier's second surrogacy - her kids are pros at understanding that "mommy is taking care of the baby until his/her parents can come and get him/her".
This is my first time even peaking in to a second trimester...all of my pregnancies ended in the first...I am a nervous wreck!! I don't want to barrage our carrier with worry and freak outs...so when she told me she was sick and taking antibiotics, instead of flipping I read the boards and realized that women get sick while pregnant and there are approved drugs to take when that happens. It's amazing how much common sense goes out the window during a pregnancy (even when you're not the one pregnant).
I'm probably rambling by now. I'll wrap it up! Feel free to ask me questions about anything - I'm looking forward to experiencing this journey with everyone here.