Tuesday TFAS Check In 9/22

[ellabee]

Board is quiet this morning.... anyone here???

Check in here if you are trying for a second or any # sibling. Also if you will be TFAS or any # sibling in the future.



Age of LO(s):

Cycle/Month:

Cycle Day:

Circumstances (if any special):

R/R/CS:

GTKY- What's one parenting thing you said you'd never do (or always do) before having kids that completely went out the window? 

[ellabee]

Age of LO(s): 18 months next week.

Cycle/Month: 3

Cycle Day: 27/6dpo

Circumstances (if any special): Actively TTC #2.

R/R/CS: Timing was really good this cycle since we powered through tiredness to hit -2,-1 and O, so I'll be extra bummed to see a bfn, but I'm already feeling crampy. Boo to that.

GTKY- What's one parenting thing you said you'd never do (or always do) before having kids that completely went out the window? I was going to feed DD all organic everything, without any processed snack food. HA. Now I'm like, here, have all the goldfish you want if it means I can use the bathroom for 2 minutes by myself.

[britta]

I've never posted here but it applies to me, so here goes...

Age of LO(s): DS will be 2 on 10/04

Cycle/Month: 3/3

Cycle Day: 1

Circumstances (if any special): None

R/R/CS: *sigh* Tuesday. Lots of small annoyances today but I already posted them elsewhere so I won't repeat myself

GTKY- We were totally not going to be *those* parents whose toddler knows how to operate an iPad. However, DH recently decided it was ok for DS to "have an educational app or two", so he downloaded a Daniel Tiger one and a Sesame Street ABC app. So now we have an almost two year old that asks to play "Melmo" and "Roar". I will say though, just in the two weeks we've had the Sesame Street one, DS is able to recognize letters now, so that's kinda cool. And screen time is VERY limited.

[sleepymonkey]

Age of LO(s): 21 months at the end of the month

Cycle/Month: 4

Cycle Day: 15

Circumstances (if any special): None

R/R/CS: Just waiting to O. I had ridiculously high expectations for my ability to GKU very quickly like I did with DD so now I'm just working on adjusting my expectations.

GTKY- What's one parenting thing you said you'd never do (or always do) before having kids that completely went out the window? Co-sleep. Before DD was born I said I would not allow her to sleep with us unless it was an extenuating circumstance. We haven't co-slept full time but she goes through phases where she will wake up MOTN and just cries when you try to put her back down in her crib. So it's either we stay up holding her all night or she comes in to our bed. Not a hard choice when we both have to go to work the next day! For a few months this happened every night but now it's just a few nights a week.

[twobananas]

Age of LO(s): almost 3, 1

Cycle/Month: 5/5

Cycle Day: 3

Circumstances (if any special): Trying for a third

R/R/CS: Just trying to be patient and enjoy where we are at in life without always looking to the next thing. So so hard for me to do.

GTKY- What's one parenting thing you said you'd never do (or always do) before having kids that completely went out the window? I was anti-minivan, I wanted to be the cool mom with the SUV. Just bought a minivan last month and it's the best thing ever. We love it!

[jense927]

Age of LO(s): 21 months

Cycle/Month: 8/9

Cycle Day: 11

Circumstances (if any special):

R/R/CS: Waiting to O. Trying to decide if I should start using the OPKs tomorrow or wait a few more days. Hate wasting them!

GTKY- What's one parenting thing you said you'd never do (or always do) before having kids that completely went out the window? I never thought I'd be the mom who would ask her Toddler what they wanted to do. It always annoyed me to see mom's asking their kids "___ do you want to go to bed now?" Like no just tell your kid it is time for bed. But I so do that all the time now. I never realized how cool it would be especially in the beginning to watch them learn what you are asking and make decisions for themselves.

[doodler]

Age of LO(s): 23 months

Cycle/Month: N/A

Cycle Day: N/A

Circumstances (if any special): Benched after a loss and waiting for cycle to return

R/R/CS: Nothing, just wanted to check in this week

GTKY- What's one parenting thing you said you'd never do (or always do) before having kids that completely went out the window? I could never understand the whole grilled cheese, mac & cheese, chicken tenders thing with toddlers. Until mine refused to eat anything but those three things. Some days he will eat everything we eat but others....no way. So I feed him whatever he will eat!

[cheezee]

Age of LO(s): almost 4

Cycle/Month: 5

Cycle Day: 3dpo

Circumstances (if any special): MFI

R/R/CS: I know we don't really have a shot this month. October we'll be taking a little break...we'll still HIO but I'm taking a break from temping and opks.

GTKY- What's one parenting thing you said you'd never do (or always do) before having kids that completely went out the window? So many things. I think my biggest is the iPad. I used to feel a lot of guilt about it but now I've totally accepted that I'm that mom.

[amandamh2]

Age of LO(s): 5 months today

Cycle/Month: 5 months PP but on BC and BF so no cycles yet

Circumstances (if any special): our timeline has changed a few times but I think the current plan is to go off BC early January and start trying some time in February. We'll see if I even get AF back in that time or not as I'll still be BFing. At least without the BC we'll know.

R/R/CS: Little guy and I are finally getting over a nasty cold only to have DH start to come down with it yesterday. Go away illness!

GTKY- What's one parenting thing you said you'd never do (or always do) before having kids that completely went out the window?
Another co-sleeper. I said I would never do it but now DS starts the night in his crib but after the first wake up he stays with me because getting up two or more times is just not happening. It lets me get a little more sleep at least so no regrets

[KR]

Age of LO(s): 15 months

Cycle/Month: 2/2

Cycle day: 3

R/R/CS: I also had unrealistic expectations that I would GKU the first month we tried. HA! Hoping it is is still fast but trying not to make plans based on hypothetical pregnancies or kids. My other rant is my 10 days of spotting last cycle. I had just got my period back PP, had 3 "normal" cycles, then 10 day spotting the first month we actually tried. So annoying. Really hoping this month is at the very least "normal".

GTKY- What's one parenting thing you said you'd never do (or always do) before having kids that completely went out the window? I don't think I ever set the bar high enough to be let down now, haha. (Complacent). I had hoped to minimize co sleeping but knew it would happen sometimes. I hoped to minimize snacks of processed foods, but knew it was practical with an on the go life, etc. Buuuut, my LO is still young, I'm sure I will be that to myself at some point.

[jubilantsquirrel]

Age of LO(s): 18 months

Cycle/Month: A litt over a month before we start TFAS

Cycle Day: 6

Circumstances (if any special): none

R/R/CS: none really.

GTKY- What's one parenting thing you said you'd never do (or always do) before having kids that completely went out the window?
There honestly wasn't much I said I would never do. I guess one thing was breastfeeding. *I thought I would go at least a year, if not longer, but my body had other ideas. I did make it about 6-7 months though.



*I don't care how long people breastfeed for, or if they breastfeed at all, I just had it in my own mind that I would do it for at least a year. It didn't happen how I thought and I am a-ok with that.

[cheezee]

Sept 22, 2015 13:58:21 GMT -5 jubilantsquirrel said:

Age of LO(s): 18 months

Cycle/Month: A litt over a month before we start TFAS

Cycle Day: 6

Circumstances (if any special): none

R/R/CS: none really.

GTKY- What's one parenting thing you said you'd never do (or always do) before having kids that completely went out the window?
There honestly wasn't much I said I would never do. I guess one thing was breastfeeding. *I thought I would go at least a year, if not longer, but my body had other ideas. I did make it about 6-7 months though.



*I don't care how long people breastfeed for, or if they breastfeed at all, I just had it in my own mind that I would do it for at least a year. It didn't happen how I thought and I am a-ok with that.

BF'ing is so dang hard! I wish it wasn't for so many. I definitely wasn't prepared for how much work it took.

[sleepymonkey]

doodler, I am a bit embarrassed of how many of DD's meals consist of mac n cheese. She has little to no interest in any other kind of "main course" and would rather starve than to eat pretty much any protein other than cheese. I watched my nephew grow up only eating chicken finger and french fries (still does at 10 years old) and swore my child(ren) would eat more varieties of food. Silly me. I thought I would have some control over my toddler's eating.

[36chambers]

Lurker jumping in - hope that's OK!


Age of LO(s):
Just turned 1 year!


Cycle/Month:
1/1


Cycle Day:
22


Circumstances (if any special):
Got my first PP period at 9 mo. My cycles are a little longer than they were before (30-34 days so far compared to pretty consistent 28-29). Still breastfeeding once a day. 


R/R/CS: I just started charting this month (wish I would've started before). Question for the FF pros - when set in advanced mode FF is telling me I haven't O'd yet. But in the other modes (FAM and research) it gives me crosshairs on the same day (CD16). Anyone have something similar happen in the past?


GTKY- What's one parenting thing you said you'd never do (or always do) before having kids that completely went out the window? Me prior to LO, "I'll never make special meals for my kids. Everyone in the house eats the same thing." Me now, "Here have this grilled cheese, or this rice, or this pasta. Oh you don't want any of that? How about this omelette?" /ends up giving most of it to the dog :\

[rungirlrun]

twobananas, I struggle with looking at what's next all the time. I hate it because I feel like I'm missing out on current life so I'm trying to just chill. But it's so hard sometimes. 

jubilantsquirrel, breastfeeding was one of the hardest things I've ever done in my life.

Age of LO(s): 2

Cycle/Month: 4/4

Cycle Day: 17/4 dpo

Circumstances (if any special): N/A

R/R/CS: The other day my H said that he couldn't believe I wasn't pregnant yet. I feel the same way, but it made me sad when he said it too. (I know it's hasn't been that long, but with perfect timing each month and countless friends getting pregnant the first month they tried, we just thought it would have happened by now - hoping this is our lucky month.)

GTKY- What's one parenting thing you said you'd never do (or always do) before having kids that completely went out the window? Definitely eating related. We said our kids will eat what we eat for dinner, and if they don't, they don't get dinner. We do that to a degree but always throw food on DS's plate that we know he will eat that's not part of our dinner.

[sammysam]

I am making my way over from OAD. Hope you don't mind if I join in here?

Age of LO? 20 months on Friday

Cycle/month: N/A

Cycle Day: N/A

Circumstances: Still BFing DD. Waiting to start TFAS in January.

R/R/CS: Already put this in WTDS yesterday...so nothing for today.

GTKY: Bed sharing. I said I would never do it. Ha. DD has been sleeping with me since she decided her crib was some sort of torture device somewhere back around 6 months of age...and now I love it. If we end up lucky enough to have a second child then I plan on having them both sleep with me.

[thelittleredm]

Age of LO: 2yr

Cycle/Month: 8/9
CD/DPO: 32/14

RRCS: I'm super happy about having a full-time job but if my body to catch the good vibes, that'd be great. I expected AF a day or two ago and she still hasn't shown up but I keep getting BFNs. Ready to move on!

GTKY: I said I wouldn't let the TV or a tablet babysit my toddler. *snort* I lie at every well visit about how much TV he watches.

[penguin129]

Age of LO: 2

Cycle/Month: N/A

CD: 16

Circumstances: Putting TFAS on hold until at least January so I can switch doctors and get my thyroid in check

R/R/CS: Not much today. The long story is in WTDS so if you want to see it head over there.

GTKY: Hmmm... I'm not sure I ever said I wouldn't do something. I never thought after having DD sleep in her own room in her toddler bed for a year that we would co-sleep. DD was waking up screaming with nightmares or night terrors several times a week and it would take us hours to comfort her and get her to go back to sleep. We tried co-sleeping and haven't had an episode in 2 months. She has her own twin bed, pillow, and comforter next to our full size bed.

[bighair12]

Age of LO(s): 3

Cycle/Month: 1/1

Cycle Day: 2 (I think) got a period yesterday then it petered out today

Circumstances (if any special): I am not home till next Friday. Then it's game on.

R/R/CS: unsure about this period so far. So far post mirena has been confusing.

GTKY- What's one parenting thing you said you'd never do (or always do) before having kids that completely went out the window?
Co-sleeping for sure. I swore up and down we wouldn't do it. Now I love it because I miss the cuddles.

[dontstopbelievin]

Hello, I'm late to the party.

Age of LO(s): 21 mo

Cycle/Month: 3/3

Cycle Day: 16 I think

Circumstances (if any special): just waiting to O.

R/R/CS: I got my PP period back over a year ago. When I stopped bfing, I had a 28-30 day cycle for the first time in my life...until we started trying a few months ago. Now it's all over the place again. Oh how I love you, PCOS.

GTKY- What's one parenting thing you said you'd never do (or always do) before having kids that completely went out the window? I never said anything out loud, but in my mind, we would co- sleep, I would baby wear, we would not do CIO, and my child would never see a TV or an iPad. We didn't co-sleep, we did let her cio, I never got around to learning now to use my ring sling, and my child asks for her favorite movie on tv. Oh well, she's healthy and happy and I have my sanity.

[firefly]

Hi everyone! I normally post on the T-TTCAS/Secondary IF forum but it's pretty quiet over there, so I'd like to join this check-in, too!    

Age of LO(s):
4


Cycle/Month:
19/17


Cycle Day:
27/12DPO 


Circumstances (if any special):
Secondary IF/Mild MFI. DH is currently on medication but I took a medication break this cycle. Next cycle I'll be taking another round of Femara 7.5mg and then we'll do IUI #4. I'm also planning to try Novarel (HCG trigger shot) next month, which will be new for us.

R/R/CS:
I already tested this cycle at 10 and 11 DPO and got BFNs.


GTKY- What's one parenting thing you said you'd never do (or always do) before having kids that completely went out the window? This is a tough question! I always hoped I could maintain my patience with DD and really I've found patience to be one of the hardest parts about being a parent. I've lost my cool with her a few times and yelled and then felt terrible after. DH is so good about never losing his temper. I wish I could be more like that and I'll continue to try....

[jwinct]

Age of LO(s): 6 and 8

Cycle/Month: #1

Cycle Day: 23

Circumstances (if any special): I am old now. And I only have one fallopian tube, but I only had one functioning one for both my previous pregnancies. (I ended up having emergency surgery 5 months after DD#1 was born. There was a grapefruit sized cyst in my fallopian tube and it was twisted around itself three times. HOLY PAIN. So, they removed it.)

R/R/CS: Can't think of anything, other than I'm super impatient and want to pee on sticks already.

GTKY- What's one parenting thing you said you'd never do (or always do) before having kids that completely went out the window? Ditto thelittleredm. My kids watch way too much TV and spend too much time playing video games, especially now that they don't need help with any of it. I have no idea how to use the XBox, but my kids sure do!

[judyblume14]

Age of LO(s): 12 months

Cycle/Month: 2/2

Cycle Day: CD1

Circumstances (if any special): Still breastfeeding twice daily. Plan was to "casually" TTC until January when we get back into charting but...

R/R/CS: I think not charting is making more crazy pants than charting. So, I will probably be heading over to amazon today to order some OPKs and a new thermometer...

GTKY- What's one parenting thing you said you'd never do (or always do) before having kids that completely went out the window? We were going to make our own purees, but never did. We were going to feed her only whole foods and no processed junk (then we realized how wonderfully distracting Puffs and Fruit Stringz are and they allow us to ea too!). I didn't want to play around on my phone while nursing - I was supposed to be "in the moment" but nope.