Where are my Friday Randoms?

[Ray]

I ironically had another anxiety attack this morning because I could not find my medication for anxiety attacks. 

cruel world

How is your day? lol

[Ray]

also, my FF is on crack.

[notagoddess]

I was just gonna post one of these.

Sorry about your anxiety, Ray. How's your job going? Is that the source of your stress these days?

[akraus2015]

Ray, I'm sorry you had a rough start to your morning. I have a love/hate relationship with my anxiety meds. I have some "as needed" ones, and they're great additions to my daily meds when I need them, but I have to sleep for like 18 hours to feel normal again.

I'm pouting because H is "working" today: entertaining 50+ customers by tailgaiting, BBQing, and drinking beer at the drag races. And I have a strategic planning meeting with our board until 8 p.m. tonight. Boo.

[titania]

I'm sorry Ray! Did you find them? Are you feeling ok now?

[ellabee]

I'm sorry Ray. I had an anxiety attack once and I felt like the world was ending and I was having a heart attack. They are no joke. I hope you found your meds and you feel better quickly!

[ellabee]

I work from home on Fridays and it goes a long way for my mental health. My commute is typically 45+ minutes, so saving the trip at least once a week feels so nice.

Plus I get to have lunch with my brother today, who also works from home and lives close enough by for us to meet up for a quick bite. It feels nice to be able to catch up.

[notagoddess]

I need to contact someone for an informational interview. I cannot, for the life of me, find out whether she is a Dr. or just a Ms.

How bad is it to contact a stranger asking for favor and address her as Ms. if she is a Dr? Is it something that would cause offense?

[Ray]

thanks guys. they were in my purse, where I always keep them. I just couldn't find them and then had a melt down in the parking lot. I'm doing better now. My boss came out and hugged me and told me to do whatever I need so I just chilled in my classroom for a bit before going to the staff meeting. I hear you akraus2015, - I've only taken them once before but it did take a while afterwards before I felt less "passenger-like" if that makes any sense.

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notagoddess, work has been better which is good. This morning was becasue a bear was hit on the road on my way to work and I started getting flash backs to when my dog Titus was killed this summer and it just kind of spiraled from there. Honestly I'm feeling fine now though, I'm just going to take a different route home.

[Ray]

Sept 25, 2015 11:55:52 GMT -5 notagoddess said:

I need to contact someone for an informational interview. I cannot, for the life of me, find out whether she is a Dr. or just a Ms.

How bad is it to contact a stranger asking for favor and address her as Ms. if she is a Dr? Is it something that would cause offense?

what if istead of saying "mrs. smith" or "dr. smith" you addressed her as "First Last"

I honestly wouldnt care if someone screwed up my title (probably because I don't have one) lol but I've some people to get snooty about it.

[notagoddess]

Sept 25, 2015 12:01:56 GMT -5 Ray said:

Sept 25, 2015 11:55:52 GMT -5 notagoddess said:

I need to contact someone for an informational interview. I cannot, for the life of me, find out whether she is a Dr. or just a Ms.

How bad is it to contact a stranger asking for favor and address her as Ms. if she is a Dr? Is it something that would cause offense?

what if istead of saying "mrs. smith" or "dr. smith" you addressed her as "First Last"

I honestly wouldnt care if someone screwed up my title (probably because I don't have one) lol but I've some people to get snooty about it.

So start the email by saying Dear First Last? That seems too informal. 

I'm kinda shocked how someone in a leadership position at a university doesn't have a LinkedIn or bio or CV anywhere.

[Rama]

Sept 25, 2015 11:55:52 GMT -5 notagoddess said:

I need to contact someone for an informational interview. I cannot, for the life of me, find out whether she is a Dr. or just a Ms.

How bad is it to contact a stranger asking for favor and address her as Ms. if she is a Dr? Is it something that would cause offense?

I think using Ms. is pretty common if you don't know their official title/status.

[akraus2015]

Sept 25, 2015 11:55:52 GMT -5 notagoddess said:

I need to contact someone for an informational interview. I cannot, for the life of me, find out whether she is a Dr. or just a Ms.

How bad is it to contact a stranger asking for favor and address her as Ms. if she is a Dr? Is it something that would cause offense?

I've been in this situation a number of times before.  I usually start with Ms., and then when I meet them in person I usually ask to clarify their title.  I usually say something like "Oh, hello, Ms. X.  It's nice to see you.  Are you Ms. or Dr.?  I want to make sure I'm calling you by your proper name."

[notagoddess]

Thanks guys. I'll ask her about her background during the interview, and if it comes out that she has a PhD, I'll just switch to Dr.

[notagoddess]

Sept 25, 2015 12:15:45 GMT -5 akraus2015 said:

Sept 25, 2015 11:55:52 GMT -5 notagoddess said:

I need to contact someone for an informational interview. I cannot, for the life of me, find out whether she is a Dr. or just a Ms.

How bad is it to contact a stranger asking for favor and address her as Ms. if she is a Dr? Is it something that would cause offense?

I've been in this situation a number of times before.  I usually start with Ms., and then when I meet them in person I usually ask to clarify their title.  I usually say something like "Oh, hello, Ms. X.  It's nice to see you.  Are you Ms. or Dr.?  I want to make sure I'm calling you by your proper name."

Oh I didn't even think of asking directly. That's smart!

[akraus2015]

So this is pretty random, but notagoddess's post made me think of it. I was at an education networking luncheon on Wednesday and the person sitting next to me was an etiquette coach for high school/ college students and young professionals. I've never been so nervous eating a lunch in my life. I was constantly thinking "Am I holding this fork correctly? Is my shirt tucked in all the way? How is my posture? Am I speaking clearly enough?" It was exhausting.

[icedtea]

Sorry, Ray, that sucks. Anxiety is a beast.

I continue to be sick and exhausted. I binge-watched House Hunters International the other day and am now looking for another TLC/HGTV show to lose my day to.

[titania]

Sept 25, 2015 12:21:33 GMT -5 akraus2015 said:

So this is pretty random, but notagoddess's post made me think of it. I was at an education networking luncheon on Wednesday and the person sitting next to me was an etiquette coach for high school/ college students and young professionals. I've never been so nervous eating a lunch in my life. I was constantly thinking "Am I holding this fork correctly? Is my shirt tucked in all the way? How is my posture? Am I speaking clearly enough?" It was exhausting.

That does sound exhausting!  I would also be super anxious I was doing everything wrong.  That also has to be a hard job to tell people you do.  Then everyone is looking at you expecting you to be perfect... what if you have a bad day?    

[akraus2015]

Sept 25, 2015 12:32:53 GMT -5 titania said:

Sept 25, 2015 12:21:33 GMT -5 akraus2015 said:

So this is pretty random, but notagoddess's post made me think of it. I was at an education networking luncheon on Wednesday and the person sitting next to me was an etiquette coach for high school/ college students and young professionals. I've never been so nervous eating a lunch in my life. I was constantly thinking "Am I holding this fork correctly? Is my shirt tucked in all the way? How is my posture? Am I speaking clearly enough?" It was exhausting.

That does sound exhausting!  I would also be super anxious I was doing everything wrong.  That also has to be a hard job to tell people you do.  Then everyone is looking at you expecting you to be perfect... what if you have a bad day?    

She actually mentioned that she hates telling people what she does, because people immediately sit up straighter and tend to become nervous around her.

[titania]

Sept 25, 2015 12:34:52 GMT -5 akraus2015 said:

Sept 25, 2015 12:32:53 GMT -5 titania said:

That does sound exhausting!  I would also be super anxious I was doing everything wrong.  That also has to be a hard job to tell people you do.  Then everyone is looking at you expecting you to be perfect... what if you have a bad day?    

She actually mentioned that she hates telling people what she does, because people immediately sit up straighter and tend to become nervous around her.

Yep... I totally can see that.  

[youdontsay]

Sorry Ray about the anxiety

I'm SO GLAD it's Friday. I feel like I've been non-stop this week. Between RE appointments, working late and doing stuff for MH's birthday, It's like I never sleep or never have a minute to wind down.

Today my crazy fucking CW took me aside and asked me if I was KU. I told her I was just fat. I didn't feel like sharing my joys of stimming with her because I don't want her .02. Fucking bitch.

[titania]

youdontsay, that is so incredibly rude! She sounds awful. I'm so sorry. ((hugs))

[mcktymck]

DH left his birthday cake Oreo's out on the coffee table last night. I just ate a few of them as my "breakfast". No shame!

[TheEleventhHour]

Sorry you were having trouble finding your meds Ray. I hope you found them! DH has anxiety and it makes him feel better just to have his as needed meds around.

Hugs youdontsay. It is so incredibly rude to ask anyone if they are pregnant. Like seriously unless you are delivering my fucking baby do not ask! I hope you're feeling a little better and can avoid that CW.

[penguin129]

Ray I'm glad you are feeling better and you found your meds.

youdontsay Sorry for you Co-workers stupidity. I would never ever ask someone that. LT for your crazy busy week and the relief Friday will bring you.

mcktymck I see no shame in your game. H wanted ice cream for his birthday a few weeks ago. He had it once and it keeps sitting there staring at me. I'm going to have some after my lunch.

[TheEleventhHour]

I had to drive up to the HR office just to pick up my badge. Annoying because it is 80 miles round trip. I wish there had been something else I needed to do up there so it didn't feel like it was a waste of time and gas! But I need my badge to work tomorrow so I had no choice.

I am currently sitting on the couch in my workout clothes. But rather than working out I am catching up on TCF. So so lazy.

[pismoduo]

So tired. The caffeine, it does nothing.

I will be so glad when H's company's kickstarter goes live Monday and we can stop staying up late every night trying to pull together media stuff for it.

[youdontsay]

Thanks titania, TheEleventhHour & penguin129, I think sometimes I take things too hard since I was in my own office for 3 years without any other interaction. Now it's like they stuck me in the idiot cube farm. This CW is older but it's still no excuse. It's bad enough I feel like shit and look like shit but that doesn't help. She also said "it's like you popped overnight!" THANKS.

[TheEleventhHour]

Sept 25, 2015 13:36:45 GMT -5 youdontsay said:

Thanks titania, TheEleventhHour & penguin129, I think sometimes I take things too hard since I was in my own office for 3 years without any other interaction. Now it's like they stuck me in the idiot cube farm. This CW is older but it's still no excuse. It's bad enough I feel like shit and look like shit but that doesn't help. She also said "it's like you popped overnight!" THANKS.

OMFG. I would seriously want to slap her. What is wrong with people?! 

[pismoduo]

Sept 25, 2015 12:55:25 GMT -5 youdontsay said:

Sorry Ray about the anxiety

I'm SO GLAD it's Friday. I feel like I've been non-stop this week. Between RE appointments, working late and doing stuff for MH's birthday, It's like I never sleep or never have a minute to wind down.

Today my crazy fucking CW took me aside and asked me if I was KU. I told her I was just fat. I didn't feel like sharing my joys of stimming with her because I don't want her .02. Fucking bitch.

((hugs)) What a twat. Seriously.

I cannot fathom why people ask other people if they're pregnant. Bitch, if I wanted you to know I'd fucking tell you.