I actually think it's sweet when grandparents pick out an outfit. Like they see something, it makes them think of LO, and they buy it. I think it crosses the line to say it's for lo's birthday party/photos/baptism/whatever. If you decide it would be the perfect special event outfit, cool. But that's it.
Ffwc: my mom buys most of lo's closed. She knows my tastes and I like almost everything she picks out. I've used some of those outfits for photos. But she hasn't asked or requested.
@starrynight um you are not a little part of her life. You are a huge part of her life. Yeah, it sucks when you only see her for short periods of time, but that doesn't mean you have a smaller role in her life! You're working so she can have her needs met. You've gotten her the best possible childcare for when you can't be with her. You are her life. Even when you're not together.
I actually think it's sweet when grandparents pick out an outfit. Like they see something, it makes them think of LO, and they buy it. I think it crosses the line to say it's for lo's birthday party/photos/baptism/whatever. If you decide it would be the perfect special event outfit, cool. But that's it.
Ffwc: my mom buys most of lo's closed. She knows my tastes and I like almost everything she picks out. I've used some of those outfits for photos. But she hasn't asked or requested.
That's my problem. She's so big-hearted, and I know she's just excited. I feel like such a jerk.
How would it go over if you said you had already picked out an outfit for her party but you're looking forward to LO wearing grandma's outfit the next time you go out to dinner/visit grandma, whatever? And make sure to put a pic on FB!
DH caught a man cold yesterday, he keeps moaning and it's driving me insane. I come to work and there is another guy here with a man cold who is also moaning, very loudly. T&Ps that I don't take my frustrations of the man cold out on my co-worker.
armfruit $5 is a good price for places like that! Around here it's $10+ for an hour!
That's good to know! It's 10 for above age 3.
We have a few places like that here and $8 and up is the going rate... I think there's one day at one place that does charitable play for $2 but I know it's crazy crowded that day...
I don't want to make anyone feel badly if it's their style and I'm bashing it. It's just the polar opposite of what I've already picked out. I was planning to have her wear a navy corduroy jumper (which MIL also bought) with cute little pink tights I found that have tiny hearts on them. It's sweet, simple, and classic. This outfit is super bright colors, giant ruffles, bell bottoms (!!) and a huge (creepy) owl appliqué.
This is such a non-problem and I feel bad that I'm derailing Randoms with it, lol.
shellbell He doesn't grasp the importance to me (or the significance of letting MIL pick all her special-occasion clothes) but he will back me up if needed.
Looking back, I'm realizing she picked her Christmas outfits... I need to be assertive and go with what I already picked. I'll just tell her I was excited about them. She will whine and whine. But it'll be OK. I'm the mom!!!!!! Haha
She will whine about it?
Sweetie, that isn't her being big hearted and excited. That's her being a bit passive aggressive and manipulative.
You have an outfit. It's sweet of her to pick one out, but you already have something in mind. You'll use her outfit another time.
And she did buy part of the real outfit so she needs to get over it.
(((Hugs))) @starrynight. I used to have feelings like those all the time when my first two were little and I was working full time. Those feelings are perfectly normal, even "this late in the game". I'm sorry your dealing with them.
I don't want to make anyone feel badly if it's their style and I'm bashing it. It's just the polar opposite of what I've already picked out. I was planning to have her wear a navy corduroy jumper (which MIL also bought) with cute little pink tights I found that have tiny hearts on them. It's sweet, simple, and classic. This outfit is super bright colors, giant ruffles, bell bottoms (!!) and a huge (creepy) owl appliqué.
This is such a non-problem and I feel bad that I'm derailing Randoms with it, lol.
shellbell He doesn't grasp the importance to me (or the significance of letting MIL pick all her special-occasion clothes) but he will back me up if needed.
Looking back, I'm realizing she picked her Christmas outfits... I need to be assertive and go with what I already picked. I'll just tell her I was excited about them. She will whine and whine. But it'll be OK. I'm the mom!!!!!! Haha
She will whine about it?
Sweetie, that isn't her being big hearted and excited. That's her being a bit passive aggressive and manipulative.
You have an outfit. It's sweet of her to pick one out, but you already have something in mind. You'll use her outfit another time.
And she did buy part of the real outfit so she needs to get over it.
This.
If I were bookshelves, I'd put my kid in the outfit I picked out and not even bring it up to MIL. She can figure it out when she sees babybooks not in the owl thing. If she asks, you can simply say I wanted her to wear this. Is MIL really going to make a scene at babybooks party? Not likely, she might sigh/whine about it later but OH WELL.
I’m sorry you and your H are fighting armfruit. Is there any way you can discuss issues you both might be having and not have it become a fight? Easier said than done, I know.
Post by jackiep1023 on Jan 28, 2015 10:00:07 GMT -5
Happy Birthday, baby codypup, baby Dreaming, and baby @elf828!
I wanted to TP DH in the MOTN. He was on baby duty since I had to work today. DD has been having weird nights where she sort of wakes up, whines, sits up, and falls back asleep. Repeatedly. It seems like it breaks the cycle if we go in and pick her up for just a few minutes, and put her back down. DH kept letting her go, which means I was semi-awake basically from about 3-4:30 when he finally got up and got her resettled. I wasn't awake enough to say anything, but I woke up in a bit of a mood because of it.
I have so much crap to do the next day or two. I'm working today, then tomorrow working at my second job. Sometime between now and then I need to meal plan and make out a grocery list, so I can also shop tomorrow after I'm done working. Then I have half a day (or so) on Friday to clean before my sister and aunt get here (they are spending the weekend because of DD's birthday party on Sunday). I left a list of things that needed to be done on the kitchen counter, since DH will be home today and tomorrow. I wonder what the odds are that he will actually get anything accomplished for me!
Happy Birthday, baby codypup, baby Dreaming, and baby @elf828!
I wanted to TP DH in the MOTN. He was on baby duty since I had to work today. DD has been having weird nights where she sort of wakes up, whines, sits up, and falls back asleep. Repeatedly. It seems like it breaks the cycle if we go in and pick her up for just a few minutes, and put her back down. DH kept letting her go, which means I was semi-awake basically from about 3-4:30 when he finally got up and got her resettled. I wasn't awake enough to say anything, but I woke up in a bit of a mood because of it.
I have so much crap to do the next day or two. I'm working today, then tomorrow working at my second job. Sometime between now and then I need to meal plan and make out a grocery list, so I can also shop tomorrow after I'm done working. Then I have half a day (or so) on Friday to clean before my sister and aunt get here (they are spending the weekend because of DD's birthday party on Sunday). I left a list of things that needed to be done on the kitchen counter, since DH will be home today and tomorrow. I wonder what the odds are that he will actually get anything accomplished for me!
ugh......TP to him, seriously. These men would be crying in a corner if they had to take care of all the crap we are responsible for.
codypup @elf828 Dreaming Happy birthday babies! (and any others with baby birthdays today!)
tessymessy Sharing real life is not bringing randoms down. Many of us know the pain of loss and the insensitive comments that often follow. Please let us support you, even if all we can offer is internet ((hugs)). I am so very sorry.
Sweetie, that isn't her being big hearted and excited. That's her being a bit passive aggressive and manipulative.
You have an outfit. It's sweet of her to pick one out, but you already have something in mind. You'll use her outfit another time.
And she did buy part of the real outfit so she needs to get over it.
This.
If I were bookshelves, I'd put my kid in the outfit I picked out and not even bring it up to MIL. She can figure it out when she sees babybooks not in the owl thing. If she asks, you can simply say I wanted her to wear this. Is MIL really going to make a scene at babybooks party? Not likely, she might sigh/whine about it later but OH WELL.
Also, it's kind of rude to tell someone what to do with a gift.
"This gift is for xyz event" is rude unless you've got that person's input.
Would she buy a prom dress for a granddaughter without asking? I hope not!
We got a shitload of christmas and holiday themed clothes for the kids from all the grandparents. No one expected us to use it for any certain date.
Thanks Ladies! He called as soon as he got to work so we could hash it out and not leave each other on a bad note. It still sucks, but it will be worked through. I'd like to take LO to a place called Run around fun town. It's all Mats & play houses. It's $5 though, and we would only be there for maybe an hour and a half. I might save it for a day when my back isn't killing me.
I've heard Fairhaven Church has a softplay area, but I haven't been.
Post by jessasaurus on Jan 28, 2015 10:11:17 GMT -5
Happy birthday to baby @elf828 Dreaming and codypup. I can't believe we are all going to have wonderful.
Just popping in today to say hi. I'm on my way to student teaching and then have to go right from here to class later.
On a side note, I was getting my purse ready to take and I found a half eaten toddler fruit bar, some little plastic people, a paci, and one of her shoes. #mommylyfe
bluedot I suggest you write the addresses in pencil. I didn't with my first addresses I filled out. My sister has moved 5x since the first address, and my brother 4x. I now write them all in pencil so I don't have to scribble them out.
bookshelves I'm glad you shared too! Please dress your kid in what you want her to wear. Put her in MIL's outfit for a while on her actual birthday, or sometime around that date, take lots of photos and move on. It's okay! Dressing LO is one of the great joys in my life (#shallow) and I have made that clear to the ILs so that I'm not inundated with NMS clothing. IDGAF if they think that's weird - my baby, my rules. MIL only had boys also, so the baby-girl-clothes-buying impulse is strong with her and her taste is TERRIBLE. I had to nip it in the bud.
THIS is excellent advice. Dressing my little boy is also one of my favorite things; if I had a little girl, we'd have run out of room in her closet, and there's no way I'd let MIL make a special occasion wardrobe decision.
Dreaming I haven't gotten through all the comments, but just wanted to say that in that picture our daughters could be sisters. They aren't identical and I guess lots of babies look alike, but even the pose looks like something DD would do.
tessymessy I'm so sorry...that was so insensitive ((HUGS))
I ordered a bunch of snowflakes for A's birthday party on etsy. Last night I was working on her wreath (which turned out AWESOME!), and needed some of the snowflakes. Turns out 70 are missing. 70! It's not like she shorted me 5...but 70! I sent her a really nice email and am hoping it was just a mistake. I'm just not having good luck with etsy lately.
I guess we're not napping this morning. Of course not. Why would we when mama really needs it? We're doing the next best thing -- going to wegmans for a pastry and under eye cream.
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