Post by daystardreams on Oct 14, 2015 12:05:40 GMT -5
doodler It is so frustrating that anyone would keep a baby from caring, wonderful people that love him.My brother was bad to my nephew's mom also but my family was always wonderful to her. My mom and dad spent a thousand dollars getting them an apartment to live in but they couldn't keep up the bills so they moved in with my mom and dad throughout her entire pregnancy. And she did stuff like sold her food stamps to her mom so my mom had to completely support them. She was very clearly using my parents for money and they bought the baby EVERYTHING. Even after the baby was born and they split up, she still asked my mom for stuff all the time. When the baby was about 8 months old my brother got a new girlfriend and she freaked. She told me that she always thought they'd get back together (even though she'd broke his nose with a frying pan a few weeks before) and she cut us all off. We've only seen the baby three times since then and the state has contacted us twice to come get the baby since then because his mom was in jail but both times some other member of her family got there before us. It's a mess.
Post by LadyNymeria on Oct 14, 2015 12:21:47 GMT -5
Sorry this is a bit long...
WTO this cycle is stressing me the fuck out and I don't like it. I'm generally not a very anxious person but I'm starting to feel out of control a bit.
CM/CP seemed to be indicating I was entering my FW (earlier than ever before) so we're sexing it up, but OPKs aren't really changing darkness. EWCM seems to be going away but I have no idea if it's really going away or if it's because I've been restricting fluids trying to get OPKs to work for me.
I liked it when I knew what to expect. Pre-loss I O'd on CD 16 +/- 1 day almost every month. Now I don't know what to expect and I feel like I'm not handling it very well. I spend so much time staring at my chart, like something is going to change one hour to the next.
Since I don't know what to expect I'm aiming for ED sex instead of EOD (yes, I know EOD would be enough but the thought of not GKU because we didn't have enough sex is also stressing me out). MH referred to sex as a chore last night - when I apologized he said he didn't mean it as a bad thing and we certainly had a good time, but I don't want him to burn out. And I realize that last part is something I need to talk to him about, but I'm just letting it all out right now sine I'm having a hard time concentrating at work.
Ugh I hope this is temporary and goes away soon. It's only Cycle 2 of trying again...
Post by notagoddess on Oct 14, 2015 12:30:34 GMT -5
LadyNymeria, I don't have any advice, but I wanted to offer you hugs. Maintaining a good sex life while TTC can be challenging. The uncertainty of it all can feed anxiety like nothing else.
Post by LadyNymeria on Oct 14, 2015 14:26:15 GMT -5
daystardreams and doodler - Sorry to hear about the situations you both are dealing with with your nephews. It's horrible that there's family that loves those kids and you don't get to see them.
akraus2015 - I'm glad you're doing better!! And that you have been able to accept being out of work for now. I hope being able to spend your time focusing on yourself rather than work will help you feel even better!
Post by peaseblossom55 on Oct 14, 2015 16:54:10 GMT -5
How are you doing? I have ups and downs. On vacation right now and I keep thinking of Anneliese and how much she would have loved the aquarium. H and I are having so much fun though. I don't want to go home. Status: ttc in two weeks met with my re last week blood work is fine. I had a sono and the doctor thinks there might be some leftover issue from the pregnancy so I'm getting a hysteroscopy done in less than 2 weeks then I begin on the femara. I just want the next 2 weeks to fly by to begin. Diagnosis: pcos Updates/questions: none right now. Gtky: my bff has been so supportive willing to talk and cheer me up.
LadyNymeria I'm sorry. My cycles have always been clockwork regular also and I'm just hopeful that I go back to normal. Also, wasn't it you that was spotting last cycle? I checked CM just now and was very surprised to see blood. I had a period after my D&C and I'm on CD9. I am assuming it is loss related but I thought that first period would have cleared me out.
Post by kayladawn91 on Oct 14, 2015 23:10:05 GMT -5
Rant/Debbie Downer: AF showed a few hours ago and I'm just laying in bed crying. I didn't even get my hopes up this cycle and was also expecting CD1 all day but it's still so upsetting.
Hugs to everyone that needs them this week. I'm so glad we have this group here.
Rant/Debbie Downer: AF showed a few hours ago and I'm just laying in bed crying. I didn't even get my hopes up this cycle and was also expecting CD1 all day but it's still so upsetting.
Hugs to everyone that needs them this week. I'm so glad we have this group here.
LadyNymeria your friend sounds awesome! You were so lucky to have her (and vice versa)
notagoddess I'm so sorry about the job. Big hugs to you! Yay for being able to ttc again though!
pbandj714 YAY FOR FINALLY O'ING! Facebook has been so hard for me lately too. So many babies born around when my first should have been. So much scrolling past pictures...
danib good luck NTNP. I think we're finally going to move to that this month instead of actively TTC (we were TTA because of me being unemployed). Everything is crossed for you for this month though!
daystardreams so many hugs to you! I'm glad you found yourself here though. I hope this next round of treatments work and you get your rainbow!
doodler so many hugs to you. I know exactly how you feel being scared. My SO and I have honestly not had sex in months because I'm still terrified of a loss happening a third time. He has been a champ about it luckily. My second loss was in July and I'm only just at the point where I think I'm ready again. Take as much time as you need to heal.
mosdub AAAAAHHHHH it's so exciting that your levels are so low now! I would definitely bring the research to your doctor and get his opinion on it, but I agree with pp that I would trust someone in the top of their field versus a regular ob. They used to tell women to wait three cycles to try again after a regular miscarriage but now we know that there is no point to that advice! Go with what your gut is telling you.
akraus2015 I'm glad you finally sought help lady. Big hugs and I hope you start feeling much better soon!
kayladawn91 big hugs! I don't really have anyone IRL either. It's rough sometimes. I'm so sorry about cd1
vancitygirl I hope you start feeling better soon! OPKs are the worst. I hope you get the hang of them soon.
peaseblossom55 good luck with the hysteroscopy! I hope the next couple weeks fly by for you!
How are you doing? Meh
Status (TTA, TTC, Benched): NTNP? I think? We'll see. I'm not sure if I'm ready to jump full force into ttc yet.
Diagnosis (if applicable): nada
Updates/questions: Nope
Debbie downer (a place to vent): FB sucks. That is all.
GTKY: Besides your SO, who has been your biggest support in dealing with your loss? You all. My sister and mom were there for me for my first loss, but they just don't grasp this second one I think. It's been really hard on me.
GTKY: Besides your SO, who has been your biggest support in dealing with your loss? You all. My sister and mom were there for me for my first loss, but they just don't grasp this second one I think. It's been really hard on me.
Hugs. I'm sorry they're not really "getting" this loss. I feel like it can be hard for others to understand that a CP is truly a loss. I had no idea what a CP was before joining this community. I'm glad we've been able to be here for you at least.
You guys. My best friend is pregnant. We were going to be pregnant together. I taught her how to temp, and chart, use OPK's, and the whole shebang. Everything was perfect. I was pregnant and then she was going to start trying a few months later. Well...now she is pregnant. And I'm not. I have never been so excited and yet so sad and upset at the same time. I'm a mess.
I'm sorry, I just had to get that out. My son's birthday dinner is in 1.5 hours and I need to get myself together before everyone, including my friend, gets here. Thank you for giving me somewhere to put these feelings.
Post by kayladawn91 on Oct 17, 2015 15:08:21 GMT -5
I'm so sorry doodler. My sister and SIL both had babies 3 months after my EDD and it rips my heart out every time I see either of them. And my other sister is pregnant now too. So I completely understand. Hugs to you and good luck today.
doodler all of those feelings are okay. So many hugs so much love to you. I'm so sorry. I hope you are/were able to harness the happy part with the company around - if not, know that that is okay too.
You guys. My best friend is pregnant. We were going to be pregnant together. I taught her how to temp, and chart, use OPK's, and the whole shebang. Everything was perfect. I was pregnant and then she was going to start trying a few months later. Well...now she is pregnant. And I'm not. I have never been so excited and yet so sad and upset at the same time. I'm a mess.
I'm sorry, I just had to get that out. My son's birthday dinner is in 1.5 hours and I need to get myself together before everyone, including my friend, gets here. Thank you for giving me somewhere to put these feelings.
My best friend is pregnant about 10 weeks along. I try not to act as upset as I am, I just want to be pregnant again.
You guys. My best friend is pregnant. We were going to be pregnant together. I taught her how to temp, and chart, use OPK's, and the whole shebang. Everything was perfect. I was pregnant and then she was going to start trying a few months later. Well...now she is pregnant. And I'm not. I have never been so excited and yet so sad and upset at the same time. I'm a mess.
I'm sorry, I just had to get that out. My son's birthday dinner is in 1.5 hours and I need to get myself together before everyone, including my friend, gets here. Thank you for giving me somewhere to put these feelings.
I'm so sorry. My best friend is pregnant too. She found our yesterday that she's having a boy. I was due 2.5 weeks before she is due. It was (and still is) such a rollercoaster of emotions for me. Oddly, I've felt much more serene ever since she told me the sex. I don't know why. Big, big hugs to you.
You guys. My best friend is pregnant. We were going to be pregnant together. I taught her how to temp, and chart, use OPK's, and the whole shebang. Everything was perfect. I was pregnant and then she was going to start trying a few months later. Well...now she is pregnant. And I'm not. I have never been so excited and yet so sad and upset at the same time. I'm a mess.
I'm sorry, I just had to get that out. My son's birthday dinner is in 1.5 hours and I need to get myself together before everyone, including my friend, gets here. Thank you for giving me somewhere to put these feelings.
So many hugs lady. I just went through this with my sister. It is so rough. You're allowed to feel all the feels.
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