Post by newmomma8 on Oct 14, 2015 8:21:47 GMT -5
So last night was our first night putting T in her toddler bed upstairs. I planned to sleep in the extra bed across from her room with the video monitor since she always wakes up in the MOTN.
She fell asleep with me on the couch, DH brought her upstairs and put her down in her bed. I start getting my phone, charger and pillow to go upstairs and while doing this, I ask DH if he closed T's door. He said no,...I start to say "that's why I'm hesitant" and that's where he cuts me off and jumps down my throat and says "don't say that's why your hesitant to put her up there". So I get mad that he wouldn't even hear me out so I just start walking towards the stairs and he tries to hug/kiss me goodnight and I bypass him because pregnancy hormones just don't work well with him pissing me off.
What do I see when I get to the top of the stairs?!?! THE BABY GATE FOR THE STAIRS IS OPEN!!!!!!!!!!! I immediately went to her room to make sure she was asleep and realized the camera for the monitor was on the floor, so I fix it, set up the monitor and my phone in the extra room and lay down and immediately start bawling my eyes out. Not only did he not shut her door, he left the gate to the stairs open. Granted, yes, she was still asleep when I got up there 10 minutes after he put her down, but my argument for this is how in the world did he know 100% sure she would not wake up in those 10 minutes because it's a strange room, strange bed and just the fact that he can't be 100% sure she wouldn't have rolled over and woke up.
IF, by chance we heard her cry if she did wake up, could he have gotten to the top of the stairs before she tried to come down them?
Does he know for sure she would have even cried if she woke up and not just walked out of her room to try to find us and made it to the stairs to find the gate open?
MAIN QUESTION: Is the consequences of leaving a 19 month old upstairs in a strange area (we don't go up there a lot) with her bedroom door and stair gate open worth it? Is it worth your ego when I plea with you not to do it? Is her life worth it?!
Please don't sugar coat anything, if you think I'm overreacting, please let me know because I feel like DH and I really need to sit and discuss this and why I'm "over protective" about this situation tonight and I want to go into it fairly, not crazy overreacting because of pregnancy hormones.