Holy Crap You Guys

[kbates85]

My kid has lost his mind. I mean, he's acting like a two year old (<---see what I did there). He just embarrassed the crap out of me in front of a good friend and her 3YO. If anyone so much as touches ANY of his toys HE COMPLETELY LOSES HIS MIND (why and I yelling?). Not just a little whining or even crying. He screams like I'm pulling off his fingernails. He won't stop, he won't calm down. I've been googling all the things about sharing but OMG I'm just overwhelmed now. He's taking his nap, thank baby jesus.

I'm going to go cry in the corner. 

send help

[fishes]

DS, who has normally been a super chill kid, got upset with me a few weeks ago because I tried to use one of HIS blankets for his doll.

[sagen]

If it were me I would do one of two things. First off if it was his favorite toy he brought I might just let it slide, and ask the three year old if he could play with something else.

If it was the three year olds toy, or if you are not cool with him not sharing I would give him a warning like " you can play with it for awhile, then it is our friend's turn." After a few minutes try switching out, and giving it to the friend. If he screams bloody murder, take him to a time out somewhere, not in I am mad at you way, but a calm the f down way. Don't take it personal or be embarrassed he is totally acting normal, and hasn't developed his empathy skills and wonders wtf is going on, why he must give his toy he was playing with away. Alas that is the way of the world, got to share got to care, so keep on keeping on, but don't worry about it. If your friend judges you she is a naive parent that will one day get her ass handed to her. Chances are if she has a three year old she has btdt with the sharing struggles, and can only commiserate with your plight.

[laketide]

DD is good about sharing at daycare with their toys but her toys are HERS. She yells nightly at our Boston terrier if she so much as looks at her blanket.

[kbates85]

Jan 28, 2015 16:51:03 GMT -5 sagen said:

If it were me I would do one of two things. First off if it was his favorite toy he brought I might just let it slide, and ask the three year old if he could play with something else.

If it was the three year olds toy, or if you are not cool with him not sharing I would give him a warning like " you can play with it for awhile, then it is our friend's turn." After a few minutes try switching out, and giving it to the friend. If he screams bloody murder, take him to a time out somewhere, not in I am mad at you way, but a calm the f down way. Don't take it personal or be embarrassed he is totally acting normal, and hasn't developed his empathy skills and wonders wtf is going on, why he must give his toy he was playing with away. Alas that is the way of the world, got to share got to care, so keep on keeping on, but don't worry about it. If your friend judges you she is a naive parent that will one day get her ass handed to her. Chances are if she has a three year old she has btdt with the sharing struggles, and can only commiserate with your plight.

I'm going dissect this advice ad-nauseum because you are wise sagen. Thank you for your thoughtful reply. My friend was totally understanding or at least she pretended to be.

[kbates85]

Jan 28, 2015 17:11:52 GMT -5 @uncaripswife said:

You need a drink, or chocolate, or something.

Yeah, I started to eat real food for lunch and then I was like fuck this I need chocolate. Just annihilated a giant dark chocolate and orange bar. no regrets