The MIL Theory

[gilder40]

No, it's not true for me. My husband has two sisters: one with kids and one who is in high school. My MIL is fantastic and I love her to pieces.

[whoopsadaisy]

Well, yeah. My husband has one brother who is a disaster and I get along pretty well with my MIL. So works for us!

[thecatsmeow]

Doesn't fit for me. DH has a brother and a sister. Both married, both with kids. We were actually the last to do both. I get along pretty well with MIL.

My thoughts on this... my MIL has a strained relationship with the other DIL, so I think she is more careful when dealing with me... although I agree SIL is a difficult person.

[tiffbot]

Me and my MIL get along great, H has one brother, who is unmarried, we have the only kids so far.

[mrsdee1982]

My MIL can be a total nightmare. And my DH has a sister with 3 kids. Fits the bill for us!

[Deleted]

Yes. I get along with my MIL really well and DH has 2 brothers. No sisters.

[billyhorrible]

My MIL is a horrible person and my husband only has a brother (with kids).

[musicfrk2002]

H has one brothet. MIL and I usually get along...but I get fed up with her when she is here after awhile, but never say anything when she is driving me nuts. She lives in Nevada so we only see her a few times a year anyways.

[trixi282]

Would kinda be true for me. I love my MIL, she and I get along 99% of the time, and H only has 1 brother. There are a few things that irk me about her from time to time. But they're minor, and I just smh and move on.

As for my mom and SIL they've had their moments.... not full on clash, but they weren't besties either, and my brother is in the middle of 2 girls... but they were married before us and had their 1st before I was married.... 2nd kid before we had our 1st.... older sis isn't married and has no kids. They had a come to Jesus about 2 years ago and it changed their relationship for the better.

[Bluedaisy]

Nope. DH has a younger brother with kids. SILs mom died a few years back so MIL kind of tries to take over as her mother and even though SIL doesn't like it she lets her. MIL tries to do the same with me even though my mom is very much alive and my best friend. MIL is incredibly jealous of my mom. We generally get along ok but she often drives me nuts by overstepping I just play nice though and remind myself that I only see her twice a year at the most.

[erbear]

H is basically an only child; he has two much older brothers that were raised by people other than MIL. One has kids and the other I've never met (h has only met him a handful of times in 30 years himself).

Eta: my mil may be very much a country bumpkin, but I love her dearly.

[paintdadanta]

Nope. My husband is an only child and neither of us get along with her.

[mrsmonogrammed]

Not sure if I fit the bill, H and I are only children and we both get along with the other's mom. It's kind of nice not to have to worry about sibling/cousin dynamics for us and our kids, but right now DD is the only one and they are spoiling the crap out of her!!

[jessila]

True for me. H is one of three boys. My MIL is amazing...now. When DH and I started dating, in 11th grade, she was not and didn't become so for a few years.
My SIL gets along with my mom. My brother is oldest and has 2 sisters. Brother and I both have 1 child.

[silv3rlining]

My relationship with my MIL improved greatly when I was pregnant with DS. DH has a brother & sister. His sister was already pregnant when we got pregnant and his brother had a (3?) Year old at the time. I think a lot of the issue (s) MIL had with me had to do with the fact DH & I are 12 years apart (she assumed I was immature), we didn't know each other very long when we got married (married a year to the Saturday we met), which also meant we (MIL & I) hadn't spent much time getting to know each other. Plus DH is her first born and was a but of a momma's boy and no girl would ever be good enough for her son

[Widget123]

DH has one brother with kids. MIL drives me nuts but i do get along with her most of the time.

[txngrl31]

True for me!! DH has a sister with a two year old girl. We have had so many issues over the years with her passive aggressiveness and lack of communication with us. Since DD has been born, she has been a bit better, but she shows favoritism towards my SIL's daughter.

[alayne926]

Works for me. My MIL has 4 boys.

[tjanca22]

DH and I both don't get along with her. 99% of the time I just tolerate MIL, DH is more like 98% (as he says). He's an only child.

[mirage86]

True for me. MIL has 3 boys. She is amazing and I could spend a lot of time bragging about her.

[stinybean]

DH has a younger sister with two kids, we get along, but I'm not a fan.

[hannahl201477]

My husband has brother and step sister for 15 years. But she talks to step sister less than me. We are always excluded and she worships the ground my husbands brothers wife walks on. She may just get along with Her bc they sit back and let her raise their kid whereas that's not happening with me. Either way I'm frustrated with her more times than not.

[Deleted]

Side note on MIL. We generally get along. The only thing that bugs about my MIL is she is constantly comparing all her grand children. DH just got back from her house with a new story about how RJ ( DHs brothers son) just takes a nap so easily. All she has to say is RJ it's nap time go lay down. And he lays down and sleeps. So DH suddenly thinks there is something wrong w our kid. It's annoying to be compared to others kids.

[ladysif]

I say false too. DH is one of three boys. Particularly rough if you're the for 1st DIL, huge learning curve for MIL.

[dogmama22]

True for us. MIL is great and DH has only one brother with no kids yet.

[Flick]

I love SO mother so much. She's the sweetest woman ever. He has 18 siblings and three of his sisters have kids and his brother just had a baby last week.

[stinybean]

Flick holy moly 18 siblings!

[kemdupuis]

I wish this were true for us. I don't get along well with my MIL- mostly because she and FIL have little to no social graces. We don't fight or clash, per say. I just do not particularly enjoy her company. At all. DH has two brothers and a sister who is my age, and none of them have children.

[holliberry28]

Oct 18, 2015 16:54:43 GMT -5 @poppyc8 said:

Side note on MIL. We generally get along. The only thing that bugs about my MIL is she is constantly comparing all her grand children. DH just got back from her house with a new story about how RJ ( DHs brothers son) just takes a nap so easily. All she has to say is RJ it's nap time go lay down. And he lays down and sleeps. So DH suddenly thinks there is something wrong w our kid. It's annoying to be compared to others kids.

This is us too. I love my MIL and she's been such a huge (and only) help with M. DH has a brother only who is divorced and has a 7 yr old DD so MIL lets to say how, "with S they did this..."etc. She has good intentions and is a sweetheart so I just ignore that or say that were doing it a different way or something to that effect.

[Flick]

Oct 19, 2015 6:00:31 GMT -5 budders said:

Oct 18, 2015 22:27:30 GMT -5 Flick said:

I love SO mother so much. She's the sweetest woman ever. He has 18 siblings and three of his sisters have kids and his brother just had a baby last week.

Are you married to a Duggar??

Snort laughed at this. Hahaha

Not married to a duggar, SO parents couldn't conceive and so they adopted my SO and his brother and sister. Then a few years later added another and another and so on. They ended up being able to conceive later and had two biological children. So all but two of their children are adopted. Not that you'd know it, SO acts just like his dad and has his moms quick wit.