TTC Check-In October 19th

[rikkiandjulie]

I can actually say that i truly go here now. A lot has changed since the last failed IUI #5. DW has asked to stop trying completely til January, and I will use the last two viles of our current donor. If I am not PG after those to viles, DW will go back in for an HSG. At that point we will pick a new donor - maybe a known donor, and try a few more IUIs. At this point I have no idea how many more we will try, a lot can change between now and then. But eventually I am sure that we will transition to IVF if neither of us are pregnant by next summer. But who knows. However, both of us at this point WILL carry a child. How we get there is different than we originally thought.

I have started temping, and have the first appointment on Thursday. I'll have an ultrasound then too. I will be asking for an HSG. If my predictor is right I should ovulate the week of the 25th, but I may very well be in Chicago, so I'll miss it. And I'll miss November to travel, so my first shot would be December, which seems so far away. I'm really hoping I squeeze in a try this month.

QOTD-1: We went for education over looks really, but the bank we used gives baby photos for free, so in the end we went for the one that looked most like DW as her traits are recessive (blond/blue) so it would likely have looked like me anyways, and then I could use the same donor with a chance they'd resemble her. However now we only have two viles left, and our children won't have the same donor, bc this one is sold out. Oh well.

Qotd-2: we just turned off our air officially as it was still get really warm during the day, and the dogs hate it. I will not turn the heater on til the first, and will leave it set at 69 during the day and 65 at night. Our house is at 69 year round so our winter bill is always way less than our summer bill. We hate to be hot.

[kekaellypula]

This is week 2 of the dreaded 2WW. Had back cramps on 6dpiui. Dark spot last night. Very light intermittent spotting so far today. Light cramps. I bought cheapo HPT last night figuring I would test M,W,F just to see what happens. In my previous life, if I bought a HPT I would get AF within 2 days. I should have figured that would happen in this life as well. Now I'm just going to wait and see what happens. I don't know my CD because I was bleeding for 2 solid weeks before I stopped taking BC and continued bleeding for a week afterwards.

QOTD - physical traits, career, interests. We paid for the baby photos and we could hear the donors voice. We were down to 2 and picked the guy with the more manly voice.
QOTD2 - The heat is on 68. I don't think the old house has insulation in the walls!

[rikkiandjulie]

Oct 19, 2015 12:47:00 GMT -5 kekaellypula said:

This is week 2 of the dreaded 2WW. Had back cramps on 6dpiui. Dark spot last night. Very light intermittent spotting so far today. Light cramps. I bought cheapo HPT last night figuring I would test M,W,F just to see what happens. In my previous life, if I bought a HPT I would get AF within 2 days. I should have figured that would happen in this life as well. Now I'm just going to wait and see what happens. I don't know my CD because I was bleeding for 2 solid weeks before I stopped taking BC and continued bleeding for a week afterwards.

QOTD - physical traits, career, interests. We paid for the baby photos and we could hear the donors voice. We were down to 2 and picked the guy with the more manly voice.
QOTD2 - The heat is on 68. I don't think the old house has insulation in the walls!

Sounds very promising Kelly! Wishing you all the luck in the world, what number try is this for you?

[kekaellypula]

This is #1. BTW - I'm Kerri my better half is Kassidy. The u/name is a combo of the first 2 letters of our first, middle, and last names.

I'll be extremely surprised if this works the first time.

[JustJudy]

I'm on CD8, finished the Femara yesterday and now I'm just waiting to O. I'm trying to stay cool, but it's not easy!

QOTW: @suesposa, height was also important to me, but mostly because I'm only 5' and I want to give any child a fighting chance at having some height! Also I'm a redhead so we went with a light haired donor, I'd love to have a redhead. Education/career was important but not critical and we looked at the whole family and their careers as well.

Bonus QOTW: 68 at all times is my favorite temperature. For the most part heat has stayed off except for a few days in the last week.

[rikkiandjulie]

Oct 19, 2015 13:56:08 GMT -5 kekaellypula said:

This is #1. BTW - I'm Kerri my better half is Kassidy. The u/name is a combo of the first 2 letters of our first, middle, and last names.

I'll be extremely surprised if this works the first time.

So sorry about the name mix up. ! And good luck! Thinking the best for you both.

[kona]

DW had another tracking ultrasound and things look like a go for Saturday IUI. She will go back again Friday just to be sure. I'm cautiously optimistic.

QOTW: Mostly looks and education. We did pick a tall donor since we both are so short and always hated it. But I think we went through 3 donors before we got pregnant.

QOTW: 65 during the day at 58 at night. I hate paying for heat and it gets really cold here.

[humorme00]

We're stimming away for ivf #1. Follicle check and b/w in the morning. Went out and bought new socks this weekend. I like to wear crazy socks any time my feet are going in stirrups. But- all of our previous trying has been in warmer weather and has been unsuccessful. So new socks were in order- more weather appropriate and bad mojo free : )

Q1: Height was really important to me, not so much for the wifey. But I'm short and she's not. We also looked for someone who played sports but also liked art/music. Wanted to offset my family's fat genes and we're both pretty artistic. Looks we went for similarities to DW's dad/grandfather/brother. In the end, any kid of ours will probably look more like her anyway. I got all the recessive traits in my family and look like none of them. She could totally pass as my parent's daughter.


Q2: I turned on the heat for the first time this morning. It was 60 in the house. That's just too cold to peel off the pjs and get ready for work. It's set at 63 now. Usually in the winter we keep it around 65-67. Summer is 69-72. When we have an infant around, we'll have to watch out for heat stroke : )

[rikkiandjulie]

haven't even started trying yet, and won't til December due to timing. But I will closely track my cycles these next two months with a temp chart and OPKs. But I am currently really scared, I have this huge fear that neither my wife nor myself will be able carry a child without money way outside of our means. I know that I can't think negatively in that way, but tons of our family members have gotten pregnant so easily, and many of our lesbian friends without too much hard ship. I have convinced myself that all of our efforts will be for nothing, as this is not something the universe wants for us. That we will be a childless couple for life, I am DEATHLY afraid of that as it is not something that I am okay with. I just so so so badly want for one of us to become pregnant, so badly. I want it more than anything, why can't luck be on our side even for a little.

[kekaellypula]

rikkiandjulie, it will happen. Once you figure out what might be an underlying cause you will have more knowledge on what is necessary.

[kekaellypula]

I just wanted to say... Hello CD1
Next time you decide to show up don't do it in the middle of the night.

[rikkiandjulie]

I'm sorry! That's the worst, I hate those surprises. How many days was that for you? It seemed like a short LP, you could ask about progesterone to lengthen it, if your LPs are too short implantation won't take place, I am sure that you know this though. I'm so so sorry the first failed one was the hardest I think, that and this last one. ((Hugs))) drink some wine tonight.

[kekaellypula]

Thanks. I think the clinic had my days off and it took forever for my follicle to develop to a size they were happy with which was over 20m before I triggered. This month is a clean slate. I know the exact date of starting my cycle and who doesn't like being a science experiment. I tell Kass that I'm like a petri dish.
If #2 is successful it is better timing wise anyways. With Kass going thru Tech school starting in January and it lasting 5 months if we get sent overseas I might actually get to go with her and not be stuck here until after the birth.

[esquette]

I'm on CD5. Finally healthy, really really hoping to ovulate this month!! Fingers crossed.

Question for people: What's considered a short luteal phase? I tend to have about a 24 day cycle. It's split pretty evenly into 12 days before O and 12 days after. Is that too short to implant???

QOTD1: When we picked a donor, we picked: HEALTHY (no history of stuff that my family has issues with, especially mental health), similar physical stature to Sweetie, and a scientist, like her. In that order of importance, I would say.

QOTD2: Our only change has been to turn off the AC and start opening windows in the evenings to let the stuffiness out.

[rikkiandjulie]

I think 12 is the shortest it should be, anything under would be cause for concern. DWs was like 8-9 days, without progesterone, if she wasn't pg on the progesterone her period would start on day 14 exactly.

[dannigirl]

We are on the donor search again. That's about all that's happening here. I should buy some OPK's so I can track when I ovulate again.. I just don't know where I want to order them from. I forgot where I bought my first batch and when I went to buy more they were different and I didn't like them. So I don't think I bought them from the same place.

QOTW #1: We've been looking for a donor that looks like Jo or her brother. I have actually been uploading his photos to see if I can get a close match with the face match programs some places have. But I'm not having as much luck as last time. We are mainly looking at physical traits. I'm on the hunt to find a donor with a certain looking cheek. Jo's fathers side of the family have a very defined cheek, it almost looks like two small balls under their skin when they smile and that's what I want to find. I've had some luck.
But today I found a donor that doesn't look anything like Jo's family, but he's pretty much perfect because he loves music and he's actually a music producer. Jo was a producer and she loves music more than anything, but he doesn't have any vials!!! UGH

QOTW #2: Oh yes, the furnace is on now... Considering it drops to about 0C(32F) at night now.. When we are not home or in bed, we let the temp drop to about 17C(62F). Just before we wake up or come home the temp goes up to about 19C(66F) to warm it up a little and then it drops back down to 18C(64.5F) for the rest of the time we are home. We have a wood fireplace in the basement we use in the winter to help offset the gas furnace. Considering it gets to -45C.. what is that in Fahrenheit? Either way, it gets cold here in the winter! lol

[rikkiandjulie]

DWs first niece was born tonight. She's crying hysterically and has been for hours. I've tried everything I can to make her smile, and she just keeps saying "I'm a failure, my body is a failure". I hope some sleep does her well, I gave her a melatonin and she should be asleep any minute now, at least she's not crying.... Hoping tomorrow will be better