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[BJ Dealer]

We get to go home today! Soooooooo glad my mom is coming to stay a few nights. I can't wait for my bed and fewer interruptions, though I will miss the awesome nurses and the nursery option.

[lostineden]

Congrats @tmg14 & BJ Dealer!

Today is MH's first day back at work. I'm equal parts anxious and relieved. MH was using paternity leave as a mini-vacation, so it'll be nice to do things other than lay in bed and watch TV. Like clean the house.

*I use "clean" very loosely.

[leopardgurl831]

Happy 1 month @tmg14!

My Mom and I are home with boy boys today and DH is working full days now.

Thinking about hitting up our local babywearing meeting and checking out a wrap. I have an addiction to carriers and checking out is cheaper :-p

[cnbpa3027]

We have our first pediatrician appointment today and I am really hopeful that Charlotte is gaining weight again. My other two were still losing at this point because they were still struggling to latch.

I ordered my breastpump through target with insurance just before I was induced and yesterday was the first day my husband could go pick it up and they ordered the wrong one! I had requested the Medela one, but they ordered the Ameda one. I am pissed, but I can't decide if I should actually be angry or if I am just blowing it out of proportion because it is just one more thing that isn't going my way. Now I will have to wait another few days before the other one comes in. Does anyone have the Ameda and love it? I suppose I am not opposed to having a different one, I just had no issues with the Medela one when my other kids were born and I am afraid this one isn't going to be as good.

My other goals for today are to finish the kids Halloween costumes. My daughters witch costume needs a couple of finishing touches and I still need to make my sons ghost costume. He is sick now too, but hopefully he will have kicked it by Thursday so he can participate in the school parade and carnival.

[kc730]

Dr appointment today. Going to ask to go ahead and be induced, 40+3 today. She was up for whatever I wanted last week, and I should be favorable for a foley bulb induction versus pitocin. We shall see!

[katie0919]

We kept ds1 home from daycare last week and the week before that we were in the hospital. Soooo, today is ds1's first day back at daycare. I feel terrible because he has a bad cold and likely an ear infection (has been crying that his ear hurts so we are treating with Advil bc our pedi doesn't use antibiotics for a single ear infection so giving it s couple days before taking him in)

DH had a week paternity leave and took an additional week off so that means today is his last day off before he has to go back to work. I'm actually really sad bc he just didn't get a whole lot of time alone with ds2 and I know he doesn't feel very connected to him yet.

AFM I'm excited to start getting my precious alone time with ds1 although I'm already panicked about how fast it will go and then I'll be back at work. Gah! Someone help me remember the positives!!

OH! Also, my friend posted on Facebook that she wanted to sell her Land of Nod teepee (you know the ones that cost a ridiculous amount of money - $159 to be exact!). Anyway it was barely used by her kids and she asked people to "bid". No one said anything so I asked her to give a starting bid, she said $20, I bid $30 and she gave it to me for $30! I actually felt like I was robbing her at this price and she's a good friend so I gave her $50, but I still feel like that's a steal for that tent. So there is part of the kids Xmas present, done!

[katie0919]

. - my pediatrician always said with DS 1 (who was born in December) that is wasn't being outside in the cold that would make him sick, it would be sitting inside where germs fester and multiply in the warm inside and that's how people get sick! She always encouraged me to take him outside, but to avoid the malls, groceries, etc in flu season. Hope you have a fun day! Oh and my baby does the audible poops too!!! My first DS didn't so we crack up every time, very entertaining.

[leopardgurl831]

cnbpa3027 If it isn't broke don't fix it, so I'd wait for the Medela.

[peachey]

cnbpa3027 I used an Ameda with DS1 at the hospital and really liked it. The flanges fit my boobs better too.

[peachey]

littlecabbage1019 you can do it! It will get easier and easier to leave the house. If you venture to the store just know if thugs go sideways you would not be the first mother to abandon her cart and just walk out.

Lol autocorrect thugs should be things!

[peachey]

. this is a great read about taking babies outside.

www.bbc.com/news/magazine-21537988

[peachey]

L has a Drs appointment, fingers crossed for no more weight loss, or maybe a tiny bit of gain.

[katie0919]

Oct 26, 2015 7:22:27 GMT -5 littlecabbage1019 said:

Welp, looks like I'm going to have to rip off the band aid and leave the house today. I'm pretty sure i have a yeast infection so I'm going to try to go to the OB. When i told mh he asked if i could go to the grocery store too. When i told him I already have enough anxiety just leaving the house alone, he said i should ask his mom to go to the store with me. No thanks dude. He doesn't understand why this would ge even more stressful. I wish he would just understand that i need to take things one step at a time.

Not cool, cabbage DH, not cool. I remember the first couple times I went out alone with ds1, and it was SO stressful. I believe it was to post natal yoga and I was a mess. I'm lucky I even made it there. I remember pulling over multiple times to open the back door and check on him! It's a big adjustment as a ftm to go out alone with baby. No way mil would be of any help with that. Guys just don't get it! Even my dh being a std (second time dad) seems to not understand jack shit. Lol. Hang in there, hope you start feeling better ASAP

[db7211]

@jj32

((Hugs)) Yes sweetheart, sometimes babies just cry. Has anyone recommended The Happiest Baby on the Block? I highly recommend it if you haven't had a chance to read it. Very helpful.

[aylafsu1881]

Oct 26, 2015 6:47:38 GMT -5 leopardgurl831 said:

Happy 1 month @tmg14!

My Mom and I are home with boy boys today and DH is working full days now.

Thinking about hitting up our local babywearing meeting and checking out a wrap. I have an addiction to carriers and checking out is cheaper :-p

Me to. I am addicted to ring slings right now. I have three and am considering another. I love the cord and patterns.

[aylafsu1881]

Oct 26, 2015 6:58:26 GMT -5 cnbpa3027 said:

We have our first pediatrician appointment today and I am really hopeful that Charlotte is gaining weight again. My other two were still losing at this point because they were still struggling to latch.

I ordered my breastpump through target with insurance just before I was induced and yesterday was the first day my husband could go pick it up and they ordered the wrong one! I had requested the Medela one, but they ordered the Ameda one. I am pissed, but I can't decide if I should actually be angry or if I am just blowing it out of proportion because it is just one more thing that isn't going my way. Now I will have to wait another few days before the other one comes in. Does anyone have the Ameda and love it? I suppose I am not opposed to having a different one, I just had no issues with the Medela one when my other kids were born and I am afraid this one isn't going to be as good.

My other goals for today are to finish the kids Halloween costumes. My daughters witch costume needs a couple of finishing touches and I still need to make my sons ghost costume. He is sick now too, but hopefully he will have kicked it by Thursday so he can participate in the school parade and carnival.

I have the ameda and love it. I used it with DD1 from 6 weeks to 1 year pumping at work. It was great. I got another one for F through insurance. That way I can have one at home and one at work. The big thing for me was that ameda is a closed system so I can sell it afterwards. I never tried the medela I cannot compare them. I lived ameda though.

[aylafsu1881]

km380 the beginning is so hard. It is a struggle and you ate doing a great job. If BF is not working for you then do formula. There is no wrong way to feed a baby. It will get better, just take one day at a time.

[aylafsu1881]

Oct 26, 2015 8:09:23 GMT -5 @jj32 said:

This is my first day solo as DH went back to work. DS is super fussy and nothing is working & I feel like crying. Do babies just cry to cry? Or maybe it's my breast milk? Ugh I don't know!

Yes. Sometimes it seems like they do. It is overwhelming sometimes. Hugs.

[Smootiepie]

Add me to the first day alone club, DH went back to work today. I'm stupid nervous - I just keep thinking it's going to be really hard because DH has been so helpful.

I also need to motivate myself to get out of the house today because I've essentially been a couch potato the past 3 weeks. I'm thinking either a walk or picking up lunch.

[peachey]

. I agree about the article but it makes me feel like surviving winter in the mountains with a new born/small baby won't be so bad. And that going outside could be great for him. E and I lived outside the summer he was born.

[sunflwra]

First of all- I was able to get G to latch directly this morning and she stayed there for 15 MINUTES!!!!! No shield or anything, I'm so excited!

I'm also meeting up with a local mama that does a lot of baby wearing to see if she can help me figure out my ring sling, so yay on that too!

[sunflwra]

Oct 26, 2015 7:11:00 GMT -5 randomosity said:

Oh, so last night I was smart and threw together crockpot Apple oatmeal for this morning. I came out of my room after waking up and my husband was sitting at the table with both girls, eating it and he asks, "are these potatoes in here?"

Yes. I made potato and cinnamon oatmeal. I swear...my husband.

This literally made me laugh out loud :-)

[sunflwra]

Oct 26, 2015 7:20:16 GMT -5 katie0919 said:

DH had a week paternity leave and took an additional week off so that means today is his last day off before he has to go back to work. I'm actually really sad bc he just didn't get a whole lot of time alone with ds2 and I know he doesn't feel very connected to him yet.

AFM I'm excited to start getting my precious alone time with ds1 although I'm already panicked about how fast it will go and then I'll be back at work. Gah! Someone help me remember the positives!!

!

You are in my head katie0919 ! DH's time at home with DD2 has been so different than with DD1 and I feel like he hasn't gotten to have the same experience and bond with her. When he's home, he's taking the lead on DD1's needs so that I can pump all day long and take care of DD2. I know it will get better but I feel bad that he's not getting that quality time with her.

Also- our non-stop parade of guests ended yesterday, so I feel like today is the beginning of my home time with G. I know I'm very lucky to have more than the standard 12 weeks with her but I can't believe there are only 12 left! I am excited though that it includes my favorite time of year and can really start enjoying our time and the upcoming holidays!

[sunflwra]

Oct 26, 2015 7:22:27 GMT -5 littlecabbage1019 said:

Welp, looks like I'm going to have to rip off the band aid and leave the house today. I'm pretty sure i have a yeast infection so I'm going to try to go to the OB. When i told mh he asked if i could go to the grocery store too. When i told him I already have enough anxiety just leaving the house alone, he said i should ask his mom to go to the store with me. No thanks dude. He doesn't understand why this would ge even more stressful. I wish he would just understand that i need to take things one step at a time.

littlecabbage1019 - do you have to go in to see your OB? I had a bladder infection shortly after delivery and my OB called something in for me without a visit. I think YI and UTIs are pretty common so may not be a big deal to have something called in so you don't have to go out.

In general though, this is a really great time to run errands with LOs. G will pretty much konk out in the car seat as I run in and out of places, so as long as I keep my errands in between feedings or at least bring a bottle, it's not bad at all. Hope you feel better!

[sunflwra]

Oct 26, 2015 8:19:45 GMT -5 peachey said:

littlecabbage1019 you can do it! It will get easier and easier to leave the house. If you venture to the store just know if thugs go sideways you would not be the first mother to abandon her cart and just walk out.

Lol autocorrect thugs should be things!

+1 on this and LOL at thugs :-)

[sunflwra]

Oct 26, 2015 8:26:40 GMT -5 thinkingoutloud said:

I've decided today is my last full day of work. I may come in for a little bit tomorrow or I might just not come in at all. I need to go to Michael's and get wooden letters that spell baby girls name and my mom is going to paint them and hang them up in the nursery. Also, our mall has been shut down for over a year but H&M and Nordstrom Rack opened up so I think I am going to check those out. Maybe get a pedi. RCS scheduled for Wed. I'm getting excited!

I just received the sweetest sweater dress and tights from H & M as a gift. I had no idea their baby stuff was so cute and reasonably priced! Enjoy your downtime pre-baby! I had a whole pampering day planned and then ended up going a week earlier then planned do I'm super jealous. Good luck Wed!

[sunflwra]

Oct 26, 2015 8:48:21 GMT -5 km380 said:

I have to go to my f/u at the ob soon for my hematoma. The original plan was mh would stay home w C and my mom would take me (still on Percocet so no one wants me driving, And My ob's office is at the hospital, dnw to bring a 10day old) All of us were up all night in shifts bc C was screaming and eating every 1hr 45 min. Now the plan is leave C with my mom and a bottle of formula and mh will take me. He spent the least time w her last night bc he's so frustrated with everything. I know he's annoyed w the new plan but I don't know what to do. My mom is best at soothing her. They both keep asking what i think is best and I have no clue. Why do they not see that? I also need to discuss ppd at my appt.

And later I need to call the pedi and ask about doing more formula. I can't handle the bf'ing. Basically I'm drowning and failing over here. I don't know how all of you are doing this. I told mh last night through tears I miss the hospital

Big hugs hon, I'm so sorry you are having a tough time but as others have said, it's totally normal. It's just a whole new kind of stress that wears you down.

Regarding feeding, I'll just say that you should do what you need to in order to survive. I honestly wouldn't even bother asking the pedi about the formula, if it works for you, do it.

DH likes to default to me when it comes to the kids and I remember with DD1 thinking, what the hell do you think I know that you don't?? I'm not a baby whisperer! Do what works, do what gets you through and keeps you the most sane. This will pass. Good luck mama!

[cnbpa3027]

Oct 26, 2015 10:47:50 GMT -5 RJBrownie said:

Oct 26, 2015 8:09:23 GMT -5 @jj32 said:

This is my first day solo as DH went back to work. DS is super fussy and nothing is working & I feel like crying. Do babies just cry to cry? Or maybe it's my breast milk? Ugh I don't know!

Yes. Sometimes babies just cry because they are over it, or for no apparent reason at all. With DS1, he cried everyday from about 4:30-5:15, and then would immediately fall asleep. This went on for 2 months.

If you have a video monitor, you can lay him down and turn the sound down but keep the video on to keep an eye on him, if you need 10 minutes to have a cup of coffee and breathe.

I hate to tell you this, but yes, sometimes they cry just to cry. 6 weeks is when thir fussiness is supposed to peak. If he is fed, dry, well rested, and doesn't have any gas or reflux issues, he is probably just trying to get that extra energy out.

My daughter was one of the bad ones---she cried all the time! Then one day she opened her eyes long enough to see the world around her and she has been a super happy kid ever since.

I agree that if you are starting to go a little crazy, put the baby down and take a minute for yourself. They will be fine if they cry for 10 minutes and you will be a lot better able to handle the fussiness with a clear head.

[coffee001]

I made two "grown up" phone calls this morning with out kids screaming, and did 4 loads of laundry so far.

Got R bathed and next to vacuum and clean up the house.

DH noticed yesterday his glove box was open in his car yesterday and asked me if I got in it. (Which I didn't.) so I asked if anything was missing he didn't notice anything missing. Well today he got to school and his hole binder is missing. Not a huge deal more of a pain in the ass for him. Well he calls me to tell me nothing else was missing, his shot gun was still in the trunk....

wtf seriously I'm livid that he didn't bring it in after going shooting but why the hell would someone brake in and steal a school binder, but pass on the $3000 dollar gun. I'm just grateful but confused.

[coffee001]

Oct 26, 2015 13:01:23 GMT -5 @lildiamondeyes said:

You all are freaking me out! How the fuck am I supposed to handle a newborn and a 13 month old? Dh had 12 weeks off last time (he did have FT school).

Newborns sleep a lot. Mickey Mouse clubhouse will become your best friend