THIS IS A HUGE UO! They better penalize the heck out of them. Especially because they stomped my team out of the playoffs!!!!!!!!!
LOL. I knew it would be.
It's just stupid. I'm sure they'll be penalized, but it will be impossible to prove whether there was foul play or if it was just a weather-related thing. From what I read, deflated balls were all out of service in the 2nd half....when they scored the vast majority of points in the Colts game.
Generally, people just love to hate the Pats. Can't remember who, but I read that a player said deflategate is a worse offense than the Saints' bounty program. That's some BS.
@mx2, don't be mad. In a few years, Brady will retire. Luck is the waive of the future. He's going to be an epic QB and I see many superbowl appearances coming his way....
I also just really, really like Luck. He seems like a great guy. And I like his Amish playoff beard.
Mine is that now that I have left the place that shall not be named I don't care about the drama. I also don't want to click and give them more traffic. My guess is the storm will die down and eventually a new community will form. It won't be the same as ours but that's ok, we have one here. I don't think it's worth the energy to lurk and get upset IMO.
In regards to Deflategate, I DO think the balls were tampered with. 11 out of 12? That's not weather-related. I don't think it made a difference in the outcome, but I do think the Pats should be penalized for cheating. You break the rules, you should be punished.
UO: I don't like Tom Brady. I think it's a result of 'overexposure' by the media, but I'm tired of hearing about him and Giselle. Same goes for Tiger Woods (although that has died down somewhat as his game has slipped). I'll be glad when they retire!
Have not been back to the Dump since my account was deactivated. I don't have time to keep up with more than one message board. Ok, that's not true, I follow Gator football and recruiting, too. But now that the initial outrage has died down, I just don't have the time/energy/what-have-you to care.
From a purely parental preference perspective without regard to aptitude or interest, I would rather B participate in the arts than sports. I think that the world needs more Mozarts and less Tom Bradys.
Mine is that now that I have left the place that shall not be named I don't care about the drama. I also don't want to click and give them more traffic. My guess is the storm will die down and eventually a new community will form. It won't be the same as ours but that's ok, we have one here. I don't think it's worth the energy to lurk and get upset IMO.
I had no idea there was still drama happening. When I left TB I deleted my favorites and now I don't have an account. Everyone who I care about talking to has moved over here so I feel no need to go back. Is that an UO? or would still caring about it be an UO?
I can't think of anything that makes me more uncomfortable than the gaggles of single women who will all be at the movies on Valentine's Day seeing 50 Shades of Gray.
Although the book wasn't amazing, I still enjoyed it. I think the movie will be extremely disappointing though.
No interest in seeing the movie. I don't mind reading sex scenes, but for some reason I'm just uncomfortable watching them. Yes, that probably makes me a prude. (FWIW, I did not read 50 SOG, more b/c I heard the writing was terrible).
That sums it up. Basically, by telling the kid they are smart it tells them they are successful at mastering a new skill because they have some superior, innate ability. That ability is fixed and finite. If you praise the child's efforts, they are more likely to think creatively and won't be discouraged as easily if they are having trouble with a new concept. If they believe they are smart and encounter trouble with a particular subject, they feel like it must mean they are stupid if they aren't grasping it quickly. If they are told they do well because of their hard work, they are encouraged to continue working hard.
That sums it up. Basically, by telling the kid they are smart it tells them they are successful at mastering a new skill because they have some superior, innate ability. That ability is fixed and finite. If you praise the child's efforts, they are more likely to think creatively and won't be discouraged as easily if they are having trouble with a new concept. If they believe they are smart and encounter trouble with a particular subject, they feel like it must mean they are stupid if they aren't grasping it quickly. If they are told they do well because of their hard work, they are encouraged to continue working hard.
Ive read this article and I have mixed feelings about it. I want my son to know that I think he's smart but I also don't want him to be hard on himself or think he's "stupid" for not mastering something right away.
RE: smart . I get what they are saying but I think it's important to establish you can be smart in a variety of ways. To cgmb 's point I want my kids to know I have confidence in them and think they are smart, But to also to know that being smart can vary and have a wide range of meaning.
That sums it up. Basically, by telling the kid they are smart it tells them they are successful at mastering a new skill because they have some superior, innate ability. That ability is fixed and finite. If you praise the child's efforts, they are more likely to think creatively and won't be discouraged as easily if they are having trouble with a new concept. If they believe they are smart and encounter trouble with a particular subject, they feel like it must mean they are stupid if they aren't grasping it quickly. If they are told they do well because of their hard work, they are encouraged to continue working hard.
Thanks, I think I've read that before and I understand what the author is trying to say.
This is kind of along the same lines of why I ask my husband to praise G by saying things like "you are being so patient, thank you" instead of "you are being good." Because I always think if he isn't being good, does that mean he's being bad? I don't like the term bad being applied to behaviors, and DH and I have had discussions and agree that we try to be specific when we address what G isn't doing vs. using more blanket terminology. Maybe that is an UO.
Edited for clarification. I hope this is coming out the way I intend.
RE: smart . I get what they are saying but I think it's important to establish you can be smart in a variety of ways. To cgmb 's point I want my kids to know I have confidence in them and think they are smart, But to also to know that being smart can vary and have a wide range of meaning.
I'm not sure what one has to do with the other. If A seems to have a great painting ability, obviously I would praise him, but wouldn't say that makes him smart. That just means he has a talent for a particular activity.
What I recognize in him now, is what would be described as kinesthetic intelligence. If, because of that, he becomes highly skilled at sports, I still don't believe that is an indication he is smart.
I embrace the theory of multiple intelligences, and will nurture his abilities but I believe I can do that without continually telling him he is brilliant.
There's a balance...I don't think kids should get a trophy for showing up, but to the other extreme, I don't plan to withhold praise or be stingy with compliments for fear of raising a lazy or unconfident child.
Growing up, I was praised for both being smart AND working hard. I think that's ok. IMO (and I think my parents feel this way, too), intellect is a gift and those that have it should be encouraged to use it. My parents had certain expectations of both my sister and I b/c we *were* smart. Not unrealistic expectations, but we were expected to work hard and put forth effort. They were not going to shrug off bad grades, for example, in part b/c they knew we were capable of more. But if the best we could do was a B, and they saw we were trying our hardest, then that was fine. Again, balance.
I was referring more to the fact that it is a term used commonly in our society. So rather than just avoid using it ( because he will likely hear it from other kids, teachers, parents) I would like to give him a greater understanding of the word other than just a label of " being smart" or not. But I agree not to put emphasis on it as a blanket term.
Eta: I swear my phone adds random words to my sentences
That sums it up. Basically, by telling the kid they are smart it tells them they are successful at mastering a new skill because they have some superior, innate ability. That ability is fixed and finite. If you praise the child's efforts, they are more likely to think creatively and won't be discouraged as easily if they are having trouble with a new concept. If they believe they are smart and encounter trouble with a particular subject, they feel like it must mean they are stupid if they aren't grasping it quickly. If they are told they do well because of their hard work, they are encouraged to continue working hard.
cagoldi, have you read Dan Pink's Drive? Your write up on the first chapter made me think of his book. There's also a really good RSA video on it. Well, it's less about praise and more about intrinsic vs extrinsic motivation.
So what you guys are saying is... smart should not be used because it is a blanket term meaning it could convey that LO should be "smart" in everything?
I grew up being told by my father that I was smart constantly. He would say it in context like "you're so smart, you can do anything."
It inspired me rather than intimidated me...however, I think I get where you are coming from cagoldi.
Inspired you as far as knowing he thought you were intelligent, but were you inspired to take risks with your education and attempt to learn things that were outside of your comfort zone? For instance, I sure as hell would have never taken Trig because I just felt I wasn't good at math. I enrolled in AP Art History and AP/IB French because those were subjects I felt I had an aptitude for, much more so than math. I personally never believed those concepts were really within my ability to grasp, I think if I were to approach them now it would be with the understanding that I can master it, but I would really need to apply myself.
I hate Tom Brady but it has nothing to do with football & everything to do with the way he treated his first baby mama.
That sentence isn't constructed correctly but I don't care because I'm really tired.
I'm originally from the same area as his first baby mama and that's pretty much why I've never been a big fan of his. His wife isn't doing him any favors whenever she feels the need to open her mouth.
I can see what you're saying cagoldi. I heard I was "smart" growing up, so not grasping something immediately was tough. Some things (like cars), I've learned to just shrug it off cause ain't nobody got time for dat! But it did limit my goals--like the fact I went to nursing school instead of med school. Could I have made it through? Sure, but I likely wouldn't have been top of the class and would have risked losing scholarships, so I went with a "safer" alternative. I love being a nurse, so that's cool, but there are still some days I regret that decision.
All that to say that I tell C he is smart often since it still blows my mind that this little person I created walks, talks, eats and creates havoc. But I also tell him he is patient, loving, gentle, thoughtful and other things when they are happening.
Re: Super Bowl. Eh, I'm sure we'll watch it. Wish I could throw a big party just so I could have my party food. Cause, wings. But a massage as a backup plan sounds awesome!
My UO? I'm not that impressed with Vegas so far this trip. Maybe it's cause I have a sick kid. And we got ripped off at Hard Rock Cafe last night. Hoping the children's museum is fun this afternoon.
THIS IS A HUGE UO! They better penalize the heck out of them. Especially because they stomped my team out of the playoffs!!!!!!!!!
LOL. I knew it would be.
It's just stupid. I'm sure they'll be penalized, but it will be impossible to prove whether there was foul play or if it was just a weather-related thing. From what I read, deflated balls were all out of service in the 2nd half....when they scored the vast majority of points in the Colts game.
Generally, people just love to hate the Pats. Can't remember who, but I read that a player said deflategate is a worse offense than the Saints' bounty program. That's some BS.
Preach it! I do hate that we've possibly given people another reason to hate us and make us look shady, but move on, let's play some football!
ke2009 Vegas is not for families. It just isn't. I took A in May but only to visit my mom. It's not on my short list of child friendly destinations, not even on my long list, actually.
It's a blast with friends, and best if you just go with a group of girls.
Post by xolastunicornxo on Jan 29, 2015 23:06:23 GMT -5
cagoldi it used to be though! I grew up in Reno and we uses to go to Vegas a lot as a family. MGM had a huge amusement Park that was awesome, and the pirates fight at the one hotel! It was about 10 or so years ago that Vegas tourism made a hard push to make it an adult place instead of a family place.
cagoldi it used to be though! I grew up in Reno and we uses to go to Vegas a lot as a family. MGM had a huge amusement Park that was awesome, and the pirates fight at the one hotel! It was about 10 or so years ago that Vegas tourism made a hard push to make it an adult place instead of a family place.
We went as kids a few times and I didn't hate it, but it wasn't one of my favorite places.
For as long as I can remember there have been sloppy drunks wandering the Strip and pages from smut magazines all over the sidewalk.
cagoldi it used to be though! I grew up in Reno and we uses to go to Vegas a lot as a family. MGM had a huge amusement Park that was awesome, and the pirates fight at the one hotel! It was about 10 or so years ago that Vegas tourism made a hard push to make it an adult place instead of a family place.
We went as kids a few times and I didn't hate it, but it wasn't one of my favorite places.
For as long as I can remember there have been sloppy drunks wandering the Strip and pages from smut magazines all over the sidewalk.
Eh- that's probably true. Maybe it's a growing up in Nevada thing that it never bothered me or struck me as weird? The first time I went to a bar in college after I left home (with my fake Id) and they called "last call" I had no idea what they meant. Like I literally didn't know bars closed...
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