Tuesday TFAS Check In 10/27

[ellabee]

Hi ladies! The TFAS check-in is for those trying for a second, third, fourth sibling, etc. Feel free to post here even if you are in wait. There is a spot so you can let us know what you are waiting for.



Age of LO(s):

CD/DPO:

Circumstances:

R/R/CS:

GTKY - Who does your LO(s) take after (appearance or personality-wise)? 

[britta]

Thanks for positing!

Age of LO(s): 2

CD/DPO: 36/15

Circumstances: Cycle 3/Month 4 TFAS

R/R/CS: *sigh* I had SUCH high hopes for this cycle and it seems CD1 is looming now. I shouldn't whine because I know there are ladies still yearning for and trying for their first, but I'm feeling frustrated today. DS will be nearly 3 (if not 3) by the time we have a second which is a larger gap than we had planned for. But really I should just STFU and count my blessing. Dear Diary entry complete.

GTKY - Appearance: DH, athough when he was much younger he looked more like me. He does have my eyes though. Personality wise: Ha. A troublesome mix. He's a little daredevil like MH was (is) but he's very sensitive like me. Which is problematic because he constantly wants to do things that are life threatening or "against the rules". We have to be careful how we speak to him.

[ellabee]

britta, I'm sorry CD1 is approaching. Just because you have a LO doesn't diminish the utter frustration and disappointment that is CD1. Many hugs for you, girl.

ETA: I think that's why I like starting this check-in (and keeping it going each week). I want to be sensitive to those that have been struggling with TTC for a long time, or are dealing with IF, so it's nice to have a place where we can talk freely about TTC in the context of already having LC. For instance - the unique frustration that is GKU cycle 1 with LO #1 and then having too high expectations when TTC#2, or worrying about the age gap between LO's, etc.

[britta]

ellabee I agree. I love this check in. Thank you for keeping it alive!

[ellabee]

Age of LO(s): 19 months

CD/DPO: 29/9

Circumstances: TTC#2

R/R/CS: 50/50 pessimistic/hopeful this cycle.

GTKY - Who does your LO(s) take after (appearance or personality-wise)? Looks-wise in everything but her hair she takes after me more than DH. For personality, she's got her dad's rambunctiousness and my observant/watchful tendencies. She gets her stubbornness from both of us.

[singingsea]

Age of LO(s): The dude will be 3 in February.

CD/DPO: CD7

Circumstances: Cycle 12/2AL

R/R/CS: November we'll be hitting the one year mark. Sigh.

GTKY - Who does your LO(s) take after (appearance or personality-wise)? Everyone says he's my little clone. I disagree and see a lot of H in his facial features. Personality-wise I think he's a good mix of both of us.

[littlelion]

Age of LO(s): 10 mo
CD/DPO: tfas nov
Circumstances: problems sustaining pregnancy, seeing my RE that helped with my son this Friday!
R/R/CS: sometimes the idea of a 2nd lo scares me. With just one: my house is so messy, I'm constantly late or leaving work early/no overtime, & my relationship with dh feels stressed to the max. I know we want and would love another baby, I just worry how I'll figure things out.

GTKY - Who does your LO(s) take after (appearance or personality-wise)? Appearance mostly DH, it'll be fun to see if that's still true as he ages. Personality me. Sweet until he doesn't get his way.

[jubilantsquirrel]

Age of LO(s): 19 months

CD/DPO: 10

Circumstances: Just waiting until November rolls around to start TTC again. So close!

R/R/CS: none

GTKY - Who does your LO(s) take after (appearance or personality-wise)?
Appearance wise he definitely has my eyes and smile. But according to everyone else he looks just like MH. He definitely has MH's permanent bed-head hair, which is adorable! Personality wise, he's a mixture. He's very independent and stubborn, which he gets from both of us. He's also pretty laid back and easy going, which is how H and I are as well.

[amandamh2]

Age of LO(s): 6 months

Circumstances: TTA until TFAS early 2016

R/R/CS: So for those who are also on WTDS, yesterday I was feeling pretty down about refilling my BC prescription. It has been hard in the past week as a few people in my life have announced second pregnancies (I'm so excited for them, especially one who has been waiting a long time for this!) and the idea of waiting to try until spring has been hard. DH and I talked about it last night and it looks like we might move our start date up to January instead of March! We still have to see how a couple things go but since he was originally thinking April with March as a compromise I'm pretty excited about this new possibility.

GTKY - Who does your LO(s) take after (appearance or personality-wise)? Looks: all DH except for my eyes. We say he's like Harry Potter haha. Personality: again more like DH, who is much more outgoing than me and loves to make people laugh. DS is a morning person like me though, he wakes up happy and ready to go.

[amparo1981]

Oct 27, 2015 11:03:11 GMT -5 ellabee said:

For instance - the unique frustration that is GKU cycle 1 with LO #1 and then having too high expectations when TTC#2, or worrying about the age gap between LO's, etc.

OMG this. Cycle 1 with our LO. This time? Just started cycle 8. Urghhh. (And I feel so self-absorbed because hey, we got lucky once, I shouldn't complain just because it's not that easy this time around).

Add to this that everyone in LOs circle of friends either has siblings or their parents are announcing pregnancies right, left and centre. Sigh.

Don't mind me, CD1 gloominess over here.

Age of LO(s):2

CD/DPO:1

Circumstances: whatever we're doing, it's not working. wonder what changed between last time and this time.

R/R/CS: craaaaamps. blergh.

GTKY - LO unfortunately inherited my stick straight hair, instead of SO's curls. But she got his blue eyes, so there's that.

[penguin129]

ellabee Thank you so much for starting this thread every week. I agree it is really nice to have a place to talk about TTC #2, etc, when we already have a little one.

Age of LO: 2

CD/DPO: 25/11

Circumstances: Trying to wait until January to TFAS

Rants/Raves/CS: I am really getting tired of waiting to try. I talked to H last night and said we should move our date up. The reason we had it set for January to start trying is that is when my insurance will go into effect (which I have to wait until November 1st to shop for). I'm thinking if I'd get pregnant in December My first appointment wouldn't happen until the end of January so we should be fine. The only thing I would need to do is make sure I have someone to check my Thyroid levels before the OB appointment. I'm thinking we won't be lucky and get pregnant cycle 1 this time so I figure there's no harm in trying early. I haven't really had baby fever, but I may be starting to get it. We found out 3 years ago today we were pregnant with DD, my cousin just found out her 2nd is a girl, and another friend is due with her 4th in December. Babies abound.

GTKY: DD looks like me despite her blond hair and blue eyes. H and I both have brown eyes and brown hair but her facial features and curls are all from me. She definitely is like both of us personality wise. H and I were both firstborn so she is stubborn just like us.

[judyblume14]

Age of LO(s): 14 months

CD/DPO: CD 7

Circumstances: TTC#2, cycle 3

R/R/CS: I had a TON of pimples with this cycle. I had more pimples this weekend than I had in all of middle school.

GTKY - Who does your LO(s) take after (appearance or personality-wise)? Looks - DH. She's his mini-me. Personality... not sure yet. But holy hell she's precious. So, we'll go with me

[penguin129]

@zerozeroone Yay to good labs and no diabetes!
amandamh2 I'm happy to hear you may be moving your TTC date up. We're considering that too.
littlelion Good luck with the RE Friday!
jubilantsquirrel Just 4 more days!!
amparo1981 Sorry for CD 1.
britta DD will be a little old than 3 by the time the next kiddo would be born, maybe even closer to 4 depending on how long it takes this time. I think we just have to let go of age gap worries at some point (if that makes sense).
singingsea Sorry for the 1 year mark

[jense927]

Age of LO(s): 22 months

CD/DPO: 15

Circumstances:

R/R/CS: I also love this check-in! Got KU with LO on cycle 3. I am now on cycle 9 TTC #2. So hard. All my friends are just starting to get pregnant with their first LOs and I just want to join them!

GTKY - Who does your LO(s) take after (appearance or personality-wise)? He looks identical to DH. Seriously he does not look like me at all lol. Personality is more like me I think. He is very happy most of the time but needs to get his way and quickly as well!

[rungirlrun]

ellabee, I love these check-ins. Thanks for posting them!

singingsea, I'm so sorry you're coming up on 1 year.

Age of LO(s): 2

CD/DPO: CD 3

Circumstances: Cycle 6 trying. Just want to get pregnant. I'm really thankful for this board because it reminds me that just because most of my close friends/family members got KU'd the first month trying, that's not really the norm.

R/R/CS: britta, I feel like we are in the exact same spot now. I had the highest hopes possible last cycle and was crushed to be back here for another month trying. My son is about a month older than yours, and I just see the age gap widening between him and LO #2. I know I'm luckier than many people TTC, but it still sucks. I thought for sure I'd be pregnant by now.

GTKY - Who does your LO(s) take after (appearance or personality-wise)? Others say he looks so much like H. I really think he's 50/50 both of us appearance-wise and personality-wise.

[cheezee]

ellabee, thanks for starting! I am mainly a check-in girl around here (its so hard to keep up!) and I really look forward to this one as well!
littlelion, good luck at the RE! Hope you get some answers soon.
amparo1981, sorry about CD1. Hugs!

Age of LO(s): Turning 4 very soon. This is giving me all the sads. I just can't believe this means I'll probably have a 5 year old by the time #2 comes along.

CD/DPO: CD 29...with CD1 coming any minute.

Circumstances: MFI - we were on the bench this cycle.

R/R/CS: We're going to give it a go next cycle even though our chances are so so slim. I hate not knowing until December if DH's meds are working. I wish he could just do a SA every month! Ready to get this cycle going but I haven't temped in about 6 weeks so I'll have to get in that habit again. I have no idea when I O'd last month and I started taking B6 to hopefully lengthen my 9/10 day LP. So I'm anxious to see if that has improved.

GTKY - Who does your LO(s) take after (appearance or personality-wise)? DD is my mini me. We have a pic of her right after she was born next to one of my baby pics and it is freakishly similar. She has a lot of DH's personality though...we're in trouble!

[Deleted]

Age of LO(s): 3yr old DS

CD/DPO: 39/6

Circumstances: hypothyroid, and we needed metformin to conceive DS

R/R/CS: cautiously optimistic this cycle.

GTKY - Who does your LO(s) take after (appearance or personality-wise)? 
DS is my face in a DH shaped face and body proportion. He seems to have a mix of mine and DH'S personalities. He also somehow gives me the same smirks my little brother did when he was a toddler.

[hurricanerek]

Hi, is it OK if I join in? I've been posting on wtds for a few months now.

Age of LO: 14 months

CD/DPO: CD 14

Circumstances: charting in prep for ttc in December

R/R/CS: I've been feeling worried about when this next LO will be conceived too. Ideally we would like them to be 2-3 years apart so we're starting to ttc the moment my lmp would give me a September 2016 due date. However, I know the realities of ttc and that it's highly unlikely we will be successful our first cycle. We conceived on our 3rd with dd, which I consider to be very fortunate.

Gtky: she has my curly brown hair for sure but I think she's going to be tall like Dh. She also got blue eyes from neither of us so that must be from her grandma. Personality - wise, she's adventurous and social like Dh.

[ellabee]

Welcome hurricanerek!

[sleepymonkey]

Like amparo1981, I GKU with #1 quickly (cycle 2 but first cycle with good timing) and am now on cycle 5 with awesome timing most months. It didn't help that my ob's arnp that I saw for my annual when we first started TFAS told me that even though I'm 38, I shouldn't have a problem GKU because it was so quick the first time when I was 36. So now I feel like "WTF, body?"

Age of LO(s): 22 months on Halloween

CD/DPO: 21/8

Circumstances: n/a

R/R/CS: Not feeling very hopeful. The crazy train hasn't even shown up yet, which is unheard of for me.

GTKY - Who does your LO(s) take after (appearance or personality-wise)? DD is my little mini-me from when I was little. Personality wise, I think she takes after me mostly but also a little bit like MH. She is a little chatterbox and is verbally advanced for her age but get her around people she isn't completely comfortable with and she clams up. My mom said I was the exact same way. She's shy around people she doesn't know, like me. She has a great sense of humor, like MH.

[ellabee]

sleepymonkey and amparo1981, I totally feel you. DD was conceived on cycle #1. I barely even had a concept of what the "TWW" was before I got my bfp. Now we're on cycle 4 (soon to be 5 I'm pretty sure) and it's making me wonder what we're doing wrong, or what's different about my body that could cause an issue, even though mentally I'm aware that 4 months TTC is absolutely normal.

Again, I don't like to vent on the main board because I have a wonderful DD. I just know that TFAS comes with it's own unique mental struggles.

[judyblume14]

Oct 28, 2015 8:33:58 GMT -5 ellabee said:

sleepymonkey and amparo1981, I totally feel you. DD was conceived on cycle #1. I barely even had a concept of what the "TWW" was before I got my bfp. Now we're on cycle 4 (soon to be 5 I'm pretty sure) and it's making me wonder what we're doing wrong, or what's different about my body that could cause an issue, even though mentally I'm aware that 4 months TTC is absolutely normal.

Again, I don't like to vent on the main board because I have a wonderful DD. I just know that TFAS comes with it's own unique mental struggles.

ellabee, just wanted to echo the others that I'm really thankful for this check-in, even having only participated a few times so far.

And to the bolded. YES! I have very dear IRL friends, and of course the ladies here on TCF that have had real TTTC.  My DD was conceived on cycle 10. It was so frustrating, but we never hit the 1 year mark, I'm under 35, etc. With this one, I'm just assuming it'll take 10 again. I'll be pleasantly surprised with less, but I'm in it for the long haul.

[rungirlrun]

Oct 28, 2015 8:33:58 GMT -5 ellabee said:

sleepymonkey and amparo1981, I totally feel you. DD was conceived on cycle #1. I barely even had a concept of what the "TWW" was before I got my bfp. Now we're on cycle 4 (soon to be 5 I'm pretty sure) and it's making me wonder what we're doing wrong, or what's different about my body that could cause an issue, even though mentally I'm aware that 4 months TTC is absolutely normal.

Again, I don't like to vent on the main board because I have a wonderful DD. I just know that TFAS comes with it's own unique mental struggles.

I hear ya.  DS was actually conceived after 7 months, but I had no clue what I was doing for half of it - thought TTC meant just going off birth control.  So once I figured out how to actually try, I got pregnant on the 4th month (seemed like forever back then, but in reality, not that bad).  Now I'm on month 6 of perfect timing and have no clue what's going on.  I'm starting to panic that something is wrong, I need to see a fertility specialist, etc.  I know none of that is necessary at this point (under 35, not trying for really that long, and both H and I appear to be healthy).  But it's hard not to panic and assume we are doing something wrong.

[Deleted]

Hi all! I haven't posted here in a while due to moving from ttc to ntnp but what the hey I lurk so.
Age of LO(s): 17, 15, 13, 12, 19month

CD/DPO: not sure but think I o'd week+ I'm anticipating d1 on Halloween or so

Circumstances: ntnp due to age and no insurance or $ for RE; we'd just so very much love to have a sibling close in age to our youngest. He is my dh's only as my other boys are from 1st marriage

R/R/CS:

GTKY - Who does your LO(s) take after (appearance or personality-wise)? My youngest looks just like his father. He acts like him to, laughs at poots! He is a busy, climbing boy.

For all of you ladies feeling anxious over the time it's taking to conceive I think that is natural. I used to kid that by the time you're ready to conceive it really means you wish you had the baby already!

[dashook]

Hi Ladies!
ellabee, thanks for starting!
((hugs)) to those that need them...I'm right there with you.

Age of LO(s): 9.5 months

CD/DPO: n/a...still waiting for my first PPP, and still BFing my LO

Circumstances: NTNP while we wait for my period to come back so I have something to track for actual TTC

R/R/CS: I know it's still really early but I am already stressed about TFAS and the age gap between DS and a future sibling. It actually took us a while to conceive him (with a loss thrown in too) and while I like to glitter fart myself thinking that it'll happen more quickly the second time because my body somehow "knows what it's doing now," I know that that is actually a load of crap. So I wait. And worry.

GTKY - Who does your LO(s) take after (appearance or personality-wise)? He has my eyes, for sure. And baby pics of him and me look strikingly similar. However, I see a lot of DH in him, especially when he smiles. Personality wise, he's extremely social and outgoing, stubborn, focused when he wants to figure something out, yet a little goofy, loves to snuggle (but only if he's in the right mood)...all traits that DH and I both possess, but still, my overall feeling is that LO is really his own person.

[TnT10]

Age of LO(s): 21mo

CD/DPO: not really sure, I haven't been tracking at all.

Circumstances: TTA until after my 30th birthday next month; I was just released from the bench by my endocrinologist earlier this month. I've waited this long (we went off BCP 11/2014), so at this point I want to celebrate my birthday by boozing it up!

R/R/CS: I haven't been on in a few months- my endocrinologist benched me until we got everything figured out with my thyroid in August. I took a break, real break this time, from everything TTC related to get my shit together. Anywho, I met with her earlier this month and she said that everything looks good at this point so we are good to go. We tried for 6 cycles before I self benched for mental health and then was benched by the dr right when I was ready to try again. I plan to hop back in though and start posting again!

GTKY - Who does your LO(s) take after (appearance or personality-wise)?

LO looks and acts like DH so so much. She is always talking, she's funny and ornery. She is however independent and stubborn like me!


I just wanted to chime in to give hugs to you ladies today. I have been lurking again for about a week or so and I so understand your feelings today. DD was a cycle one baby as well and we wanted to have 2U2, clearly that didn't happen. That is part of the reason I needed such a break because I was getting really upset about our plan not working out like we wanted it to. I just try to focus on DD and think that maybe it is a blessing in disguise because this toddler stage is much much harder than I thought it would be. I knew that it wouldn't be easy but thought that I had more time before I would have to deal with some of the things we are going through already!