Thursday randoms/bitchfest

[Deleted]

I didn't see anything started for today and I just need to take a minute to complain so.....

Last night DH and I went to my MIL's house for dinner. While I was laying on the couch waiting for the food to be ready, the baby started kicking like crazy, so I told my MIL to come see if she could feel the baby moving. The baby's name is Maya. She started squeeling in this really annoying voice "MAYITA!!! THIS IS YOUR GRANDMOTHER, MOVE FOR ME!!!!" I swear at that point the baby stopped moving. So I told my MIL to be quiet for a second and let DH do the talking. Finally the baby started kicking again and MIL was able to feel her, which made her really happy. When she finally got up to finish cooking, I realized she had left cold wet bread crumbs ALL OVER my stomach (she was making breaded chicken for dinner). It was fucking gross. 

Later that night my DH started talking to my belly and said "Mayita, this is your daddy" to which I snapped "DON'T CALL HER THAT!" 

I hate the name Mayita. Her name is Maya. I can live with my MIL being the only one that calls her that, but I refuse to let my husband call her something I hate. I know I'm probably being a brat about this... but I don't care. 

Ok rant over.

[carolyngrace]

My rant is money! BOTH of our (old) cars had big problems happen this week. On top of it being during a snowstorm when it was super inconvenient, we really can't afford the repairs. Then, last night, our heat stops working! When we got home it was 49 degrees in the house. We got it to switch on for the night, but by this morning it was cold again.

The plan was to save for my maternity leave these few months, but I feel like life is laughing in my face. Like what, you, get ahead for once?

Sick of struggling. Mad that I got a masters degree without understanding it would take years more to become licensed and begin to make any money. Ugh.

[Deleted]

DS is home sick again today. I love the fact that he wants to just sit on the sofa and cuddle with me because, at eight, he doesn't always want to do that anymore. But I did about 10% of the work I needed to do yesterday... um, like billing so we have money... and really need to get it caught up today. It's going to be hard. And I'm going to have to attend two meetings by phone now, which is just ridiculously difficult since I'll barely be able to hear. But mostly I just hate seeing DS be so lethargic and want him to be his crazy self again.

[Widget123]

so we started trying to potty train DD at home because now that she is in the toddler room at daycare, they put all of the kids on the potty every 2 hours. but I just hate it: it is so much work and I am not sure if she is really ready. its been about a week and a half and we've had so good days in which she pee'd or pooped nearly every time we put her on the potty, but other days like yesterday, we would put her on the potty and she wouldn't do anything then she would have a dirty diaper within 30 minutes and then I see her sheet from daycare and yesterday was not nearly as successful as the day before. sometimes she will willingly sit on the potty and other times it is like wrestling an alligator. an of course its my job, not DH's. rant over.

[nettje]

@jimbobcooter sorry your little guy isn't feeling well. Hopefully he feels better soon.

Random: I was called in to see my doc for blood work and a urine analysis. Blood work turned out well but I had a ton of sugar in my urine sample. So now I have to go back in just to pee in a cup. I'm sure I know what caused the increase sugar in my urine (a Fanta) and I know the doc just wants to be cautious. Yay for long waits at the lab.

[nettje]

I have another random that I almost forgot about! We're finally getting our new dining table today! We've only been waiting for it since November. It ended up being on back order and it's finally in! No more sitting at a small, apartment sized table!!

[Deleted]

Another random/bitch: this morning I tried to put on a pair of my pre-pregnancy pants (I was going to wear them with a belly band) and I couldn't get them past my thighs. I sulked for about 20 seconds and ended up in a maternity maxi skirt. Fuck it.

[tiffbot]

I was just scrolling through another thread and saw a post of mine and realized I wasnt a n00b anymore! Wee!!

Found out last night about some pretty bad stuff BIL has gotten himself into. It was very emotional and a lot to take in and my H is crushed and confused and all over emotionally right now.
For respect of their privacy at this moment I'll leave it at that for now, he's already getting professional help as of today and that's the best anyone can do, but it's going to be a long road ahead. I'm feeling really bad for my ILs and H right now.

[wormgerm]

I realized yesterday that my pregnant ass can't handle hard chairs any more. I sat on a hard dining chair for about an hour sewing baby a blanket and then when I got up I could hardly walk. I'm about to have to buy myself an inflatable donut or something else to protect my delicate little pelvis from big bad hard surfaces.

[bendherova]

this is not really a big deal, but my husband finds out if he passes his board exam (for surgery) sometime in the next two hours. AND HE'S IN SURGERY AND CAN'T CHECK SO I HAVE TO WAIT! DAMNIT.

He'd better know by the time my anatomy scan rolls around this afternoon.

[nerdbeast23]

I don't post often but I HAVE to complain about this. My husband came home from work at lunch yesterday and told me he had been laid off due to lack of work (he is a machinist). Luckily my uncle owns a business that is busy so he starts working there next week but as far as health insurance goes we are screwed for the time lapse of 60 days. Since his insurance runs out the end of the month which is on Sunday all my appointments planned for next week are going to be out of pocket. This includes my A/S ultrasound and my DD 15 month immunizations. Its just horrible timing and I'm trying to remain upbeat and positive around him and I figured you ladies wouldn't mind me venting here. Thanks.

[beersandweirs]

Jan 29, 2015 10:47:56 GMT -5 Kristykristyleelee said:

My bitch today is that I have to go to the courthouse to file a claim for small claims court. I am SUPER annoyed by this and have been putting it off for about a month. I actually went on Monday afternoon...but they were CLOSED because of the "snowstorm" (it was not snowing and there was no snow on the ground). So now I need to take more time off of work to go file this claim. All because my old slumlord did not give me my security deposit back. That's ok though...I have a slam dunk case...where I live the law is that the landlord has 30 days to return the security deposit OR a written up document showing what the money was spent on, accompanied with receipts. I have not received the document detailing what they spent the money on. So now, according to the law, I am entitled to 2x the original security deposit. It is just annoying I need to go file the claim and then will have to actually make a court appearance.

My loaded potato soup for lunch will make me happy though

Same thing happened to me with a similar law in my state.  My landlord was a real bitch and said she sent it.  I know she didn't and had no idea of the law.  But it was only $150, so not really worth taking her to court.  Good luck with yours!

[mrsmonogrammed]

Jan 29, 2015 9:52:27 GMT -5 carolyngrace said:

My rant is money! BOTH of our (old) cars had big problems happen this week. On top of it being during a snowstorm when it was super inconvenient, we really can't afford the repairs. Then, last night, our heat stops working! When we got home it was 49 degrees in the house. We got it to switch on for the night, but by this morning it was cold again.

The plan was to save for my maternity leave these few months, but I feel like life is laughing in my face. Like what, you, get ahead for once?

Sick of struggling. Mad that I got a masters degree without understanding it would take years more to become licensed and begin to make any money. Ugh.

I feel ya!! I'm sorry you guys are having so many expensive problems all at once:( I can commiserate...my H lost his job 3 weeks ago (right after we paid for a huge car repair and an extra annual house bill depleting our savings more than I'm comfortable with) so now instead of saving for maternity leave, all my extra cash is being used just to stay afloat.

Social work is NOT for the feignt of heart. Lots of love to your little family:)

[herbavein]

my random/bitch: I'm working an event at work tonight, which means I'm here until 9pm or so tonight. The event includes passed hors d' oeuvres (pretty substantial ones), but I'm at the registration table, so I won't get to eat until 7:30pm or so (if there's anything left). Which totally throws off my eating schedule - when do I eat lunch? how do I pace snacks? - which is a crisis for this pregnant lady. Especially one who is already depleting her snack reserve pretty quickly... And it's like 5 degrees out, so I'm not going to be leaving here to grab a bite to eat.

oh, and my right wrist is hurting. I have a tendency to get tendonitis in it, and really don't appreciate a flare-up right now.

[noeliav]

Jan 29, 2015 10:05:45 GMT -5 Widget123 said:

so we started trying to potty train DD at home because now that she is in the toddler room at daycare, they put all of the kids on the potty every 2 hours. but I just hate it: it is so much work and I am not sure if she is really ready. its been about a week and a half and we've had so good days in which she pee'd or pooped nearly every time we put her on the potty, but other days like yesterday, we would put her on the potty and she wouldn't do anything then she would have a dirty diaper within 30 minutes and then I see her sheet from daycare and yesterday was not nearly as successful as the day before. sometimes she will willingly sit on the potty and other times it is like wrestling an alligator. an of course its my job, not DH's. rant over.

My two cents (not that you asked for it) is that if she's not ready, then she's not ready. I'd back off, given what you have written here, and let her take the lead. 18m is really quite young for potty training. Is the school pushing you on this?

[Deleted]

I complained once before about DH telling me he has every single pregnancy symptom I complain about. Tired, puking, gassy, etc. I just commented that I'm worried about the fact that I don't seem to be able to eat much the last few days and he's all "Oh yeah, me too. I know what you mean." And I snapped. I just glared at him and asked him if he has excessive vaginal discharge as well. Can't say that went over so well but GEEZUS, MAN! You are not freaking pregnant so quit whining about all of your non existent "symptoms" in a patronizing attempt to make me feel better.

[teenybird]

I had a little melt down this morning because my wedding/engagement rings won't fit anymore. I've tried three days in a row now, but they are so tight I can't bear to wear them. I hate hate hate not wearing them, because I'm so used to there being something on my hand. I'm debating getting some kind of dummy band to wear until my hands aren't so puffy anymore. My back is also driving me effing crazy (still), and no amount of stretching or yoga seems to help. Our insurance won't cover chiropractic right now either and, as another social worker in the bunch, we just can't afford even more medical bills (old car needs repairs all the time, had to fix heat last month, DH is a student and makes zilch, etc.).

My mom is also giving me crap about wanting to try cloth diapering, and I'm just done arguing with her. It's like...no mom, they don't use pins and plastic cover pants anymore!!

>____< *facepalm*



Edited because my puffy ass hands can't type on mobile today.

[billyhorrible]

I just have a bunch of random work shit going on. And I'm sick of it. I've got two different opposing counsel agreeing to one thing and then doing something else, I've got experts that feel the need to use me as an intermediary instead of talking to each other. I was in two "surprise!" meetings yesterday that took me away from stuff I need to get done. And of course, anything that can complicate a case seems to always happen.

[holliberry28]

herbavein, I'd ask a colleague to make you a plate of hor d'oeuvres before everyone else gets there, and then you can eat that at 7:30. Food is very important

[brennaz]

I am having horrible braxton hicks this week. At least hourly, and sometimes so bad I find myself holding my breath. I've heard they can be stronger with subsequent pregnancies, but dammit I hope they don't get worse as I get farther along. I suspect stress/emotions have brought them on this week, too, so maybe they will subside a little in the next few days.

My other bitch is that I can't stand the difference in the way my sister treats her kids. She has a clear favorite, and it just pisses me off. I saw her this morning (which I don't do often, because she frustrates the hell out of me). Her favorite child dumped pulpy, fresh-squeezed orange juice ALL OVER my sheath dress. I'm now sticky and citrus-y, for which neither even apologized, and she made her other two kids and I clean up his whole mess. We are talking about 16 ounces of juice, literally flung all over me and the table (and my phone). I was already annoyed because she let her favorite kid get the large juice and a breakfast sandwich, after she had just told her other two that they could either get a juice OR a sandwich. I would have paid for them to get whatever (hello, it's breakfast, they do need nuitrition...), but she had walked to the other register while I was ordering for one of her kids, so I didn't know this until afterward, when the two were drinking their juice/smoothies and watching the other eat his sandwich (and throw orange juice around). Then she proceeds to complain to me about how one of them was taken out of his IEP, and she supposedly had no say-so or recourse, but then complains about how he doesn't do his homework and it's so much work for her, and at least he was still passing with D's (uh, no). I asked about his medication and therapy, and she said she "hadn't had time" to schedule an appointment with the psychiatrist to have him evaluated for a refill, and his last appointment was several months ago. But she had to rush off because she couldn't miss the spelling bee in favorite child's classroom. Uh, PRIORITIES MUCH?! I know this is kind of rambling, but damn it feels good to get it out!!

[mrskblack11]

We have to go to my MIL's to meet with her BF's son's girlfriend for a "financial planning meeting". The MIL's BF's Son's GF's just graduated and got a job and needs some clients...so my MIL thought it would be a GREAT IDEA for us to meet with her.

I am not pleased by this situation.

[nettje]

brennaz so sorry your sister is a jerk to her other kids. That would frustrate the hell out of me.

[nettje]

@mrsblack11 I hate when people put me in that type of situation. A friend did something similar once with her husband. We already had someone in that particular field.

ETA: fuck yeah!! I'm not a noob anymore!!

[Widget123]

Jan 29, 2015 11:49:38 GMT -5 noeliav said:

Jan 29, 2015 10:05:45 GMT -5 Widget123 said:

so we started trying to potty train DD at home because now that she is in the toddler room at daycare, they put all of the kids on the potty every 2 hours. but I just hate it: it is so much work and I am not sure if she is really ready. its been about a week and a half and we've had so good days in which she pee'd or pooped nearly every time we put her on the potty, but other days like yesterday, we would put her on the potty and she wouldn't do anything then she would have a dirty diaper within 30 minutes and then I see her sheet from daycare and yesterday was not nearly as successful as the day before. sometimes she will willingly sit on the potty and other times it is like wrestling an alligator. an of course its my job, not DH's. rant over.

My two cents (not that you asked for it) is that if she's not ready, then she's not ready. I'd back off, given what you have written here, and let her take the lead. 18m is really quite young for potty training. Is the school pushing you on this?

Daycare is going to put her on the potty every 2 hours regardless, unless I specifically tell them not to.  They started her on the very first day in her new room.  If they didn't do that, we wouldn't have started at home this soon.  I don't see any harm in letting them keep it up.  DH is the one really pushing this at home and since I am the one actually putting her on the potty a million times a day instead of him, he doesn't see it the same way I do.  He actually yelled at me one day because he said I didn't get DD to the potty fast enough and that is why she pee'd in her diaper.  I guess I feel like we should encourage it at home but not to the same extent as we are now. One of DD's cousins who is only about 1.5 years older than her potty trained around the same age, so DH considers this to be normal.

[sully326]

So, I saw my nutritionist yesterday and I got in trouble for not gaining enough weight. She even went as far to say, "Is the baby okay?"....Really?! You DON'T say that to someone who has experienced a second trimester miscarriage!!

I know everyone gains differently during pregnancy & I know it can be nornal not to gain much at this point but my PGAL Brain is on overdrive. So, I've been SUPER nervous about my A/S on the fourth because of her comment.

I don't wanna go back to her again because this is the second time she's made comments where my weight gain coincide with my baby's health. She does it again and I'm going to flip out on Her!

[noeliav]

Widget123
DD is 26m and the only one in her class who is PT'd, so there's that perspective?

She started showing interest around 18m, but I knew we had a trip coming up the next month and diapers were going to be so much more convenient (for me, lol). So, we bought potties but only put her on when/if she asked. After our trip, we bought underwear and she was full steam ahead. She PT'd herself fully (both day and night) within 6weeks.

But, it was all her. We just got lucky and it sounds like (imo) your DD's cousin was similar.

[theBeeMama]

This is not a bitch but pretty random!

So I think I found *the* girl name.

The only problem is that I discovered it via an older couple at my church who were telling me that they have a grandson with the same name as my DS... Then they mentioned that their grandson had a sister. I asked her name and they said it... And that's when the heavens sang and my heart skipped a beat and I thought, "that's it! That's our girl name!!"

... Buuuuuuut I keep thinking about it and I feel like it would be totally weird and creepy to use it since my kids would then be named the same thing as those people's grandkids. If this couple was more lighthearted or if I knew them better I'd just be like "isn't this funny, I fell in love with your grandchild's name, lol haha funny harhar..." but they're kinda up tight people and i just worry they would think I was super weird.

Haha I know it's silly and I am probably overthinking it! Lol oh well! I have a feeling that this baby is a boy so it probably won't even matter!!

[blasto!]

My phone has been driving me crazy. I got an android phone in the fall and I love the phone, but am not getting about 70% of my group text messages (estimate based on what people have told me). So I have no idea what's going on in my life.

Then this morning, I slept through my alarm. I woke up at about 8:40 just to have my phone display, "7:45 alarm missed." Very helpful. That totally helps me get to work on time.

[holliberry28]

brennaz, sorry about those contractions Is your sister the type who would freak out if you mentioned her picking favorites? That is super frustrating though. Did you ever follow up with that job interview?

My only bitch is I still haven't felt baby. At 19 weeks, 2 days, I'm getting impatient! That's all..

[mcp6286]

Jan 29, 2015 13:41:15 GMT -5 brennaz said:

I am having horrible braxton hicks this week. At least hourly, and sometimes so bad I find myself holding my breath. I've heard they can be stronger with subsequent pregnancies, but dammit I hope they don't get worse as I get farther along. I suspect stress/emotions have brought them on this week, too, so maybe they will subside a little in the next few days.

My other bitch is that I can't stand the difference in the way my sister treats her kids. She has a clear favorite, and it just pisses me off. I saw her this morning (which I don't do often, because she frustrates the hell out of me). Her favorite child dumped pulpy, fresh-squeezed orange juice ALL OVER my sheath dress. I'm now sticky and citrus-y, for which neither even apologized, and she made her other two kids and I clean up his whole mess. We are talking about 16 ounces of juice, literally flung all over me and the table (and my phone). I was already annoyed because she let her favorite kid get the large juice and a breakfast sandwich, after she had just told her other two that they could either get a juice OR a sandwich. I would have paid for them to get whatever (hello, it's breakfast, they do need nuitrition...), but she had walked to the other register while I was ordering for one of her kids, so I didn't know this until afterward, when the two were drinking their juice/smoothies and watching the other eat his sandwich (and throw orange juice around). Then she proceeds to complain to me about how one of them was taken out of his IEP, and she supposedly had no say-so or recourse, but then complains about how he doesn't do his homework and it's so much work for her, and at least he was still passing with D's (uh, no). I asked about his medication and therapy, and she said she "hadn't had time" to schedule an appointment with the psychiatrist to have him evaluated for a refill, and his last appointment was several months ago. But she had to rush off because she couldn't miss the spelling bee in favorite child's classroom. Uh, PRIORITIES MUCH?! I know this is kind of rambling, but damn it feels good to get it out!!

OMG I probably would've punched her! Favoritism makes me angrier than anything else (probably because my mom clearly favored child #3 in our family and the other 4 of us all knew it). I'm always on top of my ILs to make sure they aren't favoring my oldest niece above the other kids. The kids' parents (the terrible BIL/SIL) also favor the two girls and completely disregard my nephew. This year, the girls both had huge pool parties and my nephew's Bday got completely skipped because BIL & SIL were fighting and using L's Bday to teach one another a lesson. The aunts and uncles all chipped in to get him a Wii U to try to make up for it but kids know.