*UPDATES IN OP* Request for All the Good Things
Jan 29, 2015 12:06:21 GMT -5
Post by rlb on Jan 29, 2015 12:06:21 GMT -5
**Losses Mentioned**
I know I'm a creepy lurker, and I haven't been able to participate as much as I'd like due to a huge workload and traveling right now, but I need to get some good stuff out into the universe for one of my best friends, and I am asking for help from the great group we have here at J14.
She has been TTC with no luck since '10, and started medical interventions after being in my wedding in October '13. We are both AMA, so my hubs and I started TTC right away knowing the struggles many of our friends are facing right now, and were shocked when we got a BFP after my first cycle. BF had her first IUI last Jan which resulted in a BFP but m/c at 5w. She handled it very well, and her doctor said she could do another her next cycle, which resulted in another BFP. She was able to get an u/s to see the HB, but at the next u/s there was none. The 2nd loss took more of an emotional toll, so they decided to postpone until now. She had her 3rd IUI on Monday, so begins the 2WW.
Throughout my pregnancy, she has been the absolute picture of grace and was even part of throwing my shower. I will never know how deeply it affected her, because she told me that she did not want to ever make me feel that I should not show any excitement around her. I did struggle with what I refer to as "survivor's guilt", because I can't imagine just how painful it was and she never let me know since she didn't want to take away from my experience. I had a m/c 10 years ago (unplanned pregnancy) and I know it literally took me years to accept and discuss it, so like I can't even fathom how she feels and I have felt so helpless.
This is where you ladies come in. Pretty much the only thing I feel I can do is to ask for thoughts and prayers and good vibes and good juju and good whatever-you-believe-in for a sticky baby and a long and healthy pregnancy for her. Almost daily since my BFP I have wished that she could have the experiences I am having, so I'm going to put this out there in hopes that it's her time.
Thanks in advance!!
***FEB UPDATE*** - BFN
***JUNE UPDATE***IUI #4 tomorrow!!!! J14 Ute Power Activate!!!
***JUNE UPDATE #2*** BFN So helpless...
I know I'm a creepy lurker, and I haven't been able to participate as much as I'd like due to a huge workload and traveling right now, but I need to get some good stuff out into the universe for one of my best friends, and I am asking for help from the great group we have here at J14.
She has been TTC with no luck since '10, and started medical interventions after being in my wedding in October '13. We are both AMA, so my hubs and I started TTC right away knowing the struggles many of our friends are facing right now, and were shocked when we got a BFP after my first cycle. BF had her first IUI last Jan which resulted in a BFP but m/c at 5w. She handled it very well, and her doctor said she could do another her next cycle, which resulted in another BFP. She was able to get an u/s to see the HB, but at the next u/s there was none. The 2nd loss took more of an emotional toll, so they decided to postpone until now. She had her 3rd IUI on Monday, so begins the 2WW.
Throughout my pregnancy, she has been the absolute picture of grace and was even part of throwing my shower. I will never know how deeply it affected her, because she told me that she did not want to ever make me feel that I should not show any excitement around her. I did struggle with what I refer to as "survivor's guilt", because I can't imagine just how painful it was and she never let me know since she didn't want to take away from my experience. I had a m/c 10 years ago (unplanned pregnancy) and I know it literally took me years to accept and discuss it, so like I can't even fathom how she feels and I have felt so helpless.
This is where you ladies come in. Pretty much the only thing I feel I can do is to ask for thoughts and prayers and good vibes and good juju and good whatever-you-believe-in for a sticky baby and a long and healthy pregnancy for her. Almost daily since my BFP I have wished that she could have the experiences I am having, so I'm going to put this out there in hopes that it's her time.
Thanks in advance!!
***FEB UPDATE*** - BFN
***JUNE UPDATE***IUI #4 tomorrow!!!! J14 Ute Power Activate!!!
***JUNE UPDATE #2*** BFN
So helpless...
But to prove again what kind of person she is, she still drove over 4 hours yesterday to come to our sledding party, and didn't tell me about the BFN until she got back home. She is going to look into adoption now, and I think I'd like to let the lovely person in Parenting know again just how much of a selfless and giving thing she has done. 
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