Time for our weekly confessions!

[periwinkledaydreams]

Wait, I think my brain blended O, U and Confessions as I just read both threads back to back haha. No? Yes. Yes, definitely.

Anyway.

I confess I can't come up with a freaking original confession.

Also, I too bathe my baby infrequently.

[musicfrk2002]

Not sure when we last gave J a bath. Probably around halloween, that sounds accurate.

Still haven't had sex here. Never had sex during pregnancy. I think we may have had one time during the 2ww. Tbh, I really haven't had any interest in it, neither has h...at least he hasn't mentioned or tried anything. I did have that monitor on for 4 months pp that would alarm anytime my heart rate spiked, so that on top of a newborn put a damper on things.

[tatersalad]

Holy FFFC. I missed a shit storm.

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Nov 6, 2015 18:47:03 GMT -5 carolyngrace said:

Nov 6, 2015 18:19:15 GMT -5 gilder40 said:

Maybe I'm super dense, but I have no idea what y'all are talking about "giving in to." I mean, I thought I knew, but then some comments threw me off.

you win the fucking internet today!  How have I not been reading this thread all day?!  DH  convinced me to try once almost three years ago. Zero interest in trying it again and it has never been mentioned since ... until the other day when he said he wants to try it again fairly soon.
 





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BJs sure. I can be in the mood for that. 

Receiving, dear god YES PLEASE!

Sleep sex, fairly frequently. But he knows better than to wake me up for any reason these days. Sleep is freaking rare enough as it is. I would nut punch him for it at this stage.

I fake when it's not happening because otherwise he'll just keep going until I do and sometimes it just needs to be over. 

We only had sex 3-4 times while I was pregnant and started again at about 8 weeks.  After 12-13 weeks we were back in the normal routine.

[carolyngrace]

The only time I've ever done... it... it was an drunken "accident" in college. Come to think of it, who knows if it was accidental (he was a bit of an asshole - no pun intended), but once it happened I screamed and stopped it immediately. DH asks about it somewhat frequently, but having hemorrhoids after childbirth has pretty much squashed the idea. I think he's pretty sad it may never happen for him. Boo hoo.

[nchauhan]

@bubbs119, are you confused on what sleep sex is, or just confused on why I would do it?

I had sex pretty regularly during pregnancy until I hit the 8 month mark, then it got too weird for both of us. We started trying to have sex 5 weeks pp, but it took 3 times before it was normal and maybe an extra week before I liked it again. I would say we bone maybe once a week now, maybe twice? I'm not entirely sure, my perception of time is all bendy

[nchauhan]

kemdupuis, just jumping in on you, but I'm sorry you feel like that. That's always the worst. Can you try doing something sensual and not sex yet? Like taking a bath together? And then building on that?

stinybean, his name is Theodore, and while I don't mind teddy or teddy bear, I really don't like the name Ted for some reason. So we've been telling everyone his name is theo. His middle name is raja and that's what my family calls him. This kid will just have a million nick names haha


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[kemdupuis]

Nov 7, 2015 9:11:16 GMT -5 nchauhan said:

kemdupuis, just jumping in on you, but I'm sorry you feel like that. That's always the worst. Can you try doing something sensual and not sex yet? Like taking a bath together? And then building on that?

stinybean, his name is Theodore, and while I don't mind teddy or teddy bear, I really don't like the name Ted for some reason. So we've been telling everyone his name is theo. His middle name is raja and that's what my family calls him. This kid will just have a million nick names haha


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Yeah, maybe- but my DH is a huge goof ball and he would probably just end up laughing if we tried something like that. I am getting desperate though, so I'm game for just about anything at this point

[nchauhan]

Nov 7, 2015 10:14:02 GMT -5 kemdupuis said:

Nov 7, 2015 9:11:16 GMT -5 nchauhan said:

kemdupuis, just jumping in on you, but I'm sorry you feel like that. That's always the worst. Can you try doing something sensual and not sex yet? Like taking a bath together? And then building on that?

stinybean, his name is Theodore, and while I don't mind teddy or teddy bear, I really don't like the name Ted for some reason. So we've been telling everyone his name is theo. His middle name is raja and that's what my family calls him. This kid will just have a million nick names haha


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Yeah, maybe- but my DH is a huge goof ball and he would probably just end up laughing if we tried something like that. I am getting desperate though, so I'm game for just about anything at this point

That may not be a bad thing. It can be fun and silly and maybe he'll see that this is something you need.  Good luck either way!

[periwinkledaydreams]

nchauhan maybe I was confused about the sleep sex.. cause I see so many people saying they do it all the time I feel like maybe I was. Do you mean he wakes you up from sleep with sex, not literally has sex with your body while its still sleeping?

Eta not trying to judge, just trying to understand. Honestly the former is totally cool with us and we've okayed it but the latter skeeves me the EFF OUT and is a definite no-no, ban-hammered, I would send a fucker to jail if I knew he crossed that line with me. Again, not judging, just trying to wrap my head around what others are saying here.

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Nov 7, 2015 10:54:27 GMT -5 periwinkledaydreams said:

@nchauchan maybe I was confused about the sleep sex.. cause I see so many people saying they do it all the time I feel like maybe I was. Do you mean he wakes you up from sleep with sex, not literally has sex with your body while its still sleeping?

This is what I meant. I love randomly waking up in the middle of the night to sex when I'm half asleep, almost like it's a dream, and then rolling over and going right back to sleep.  When we don't have a non sleeping five month old in the house, that is.  Since DH bartends and works evenings and often doesn't get home until midnight and  come to bed until 1 am, that's why it happens so frequently in our house.

[nchauhan]

periwinkledaydreams, at least in my house I'm half asleep. I'm definitely not dead asleep while he's jack hammering away on top of me. But I'm awake enough to say, yes do me, but be quick and i just lay there..again kind of half asleep. I don't really participate other than kiss him sometimes and I don't try to get off. Side laying sleep sex is the best, because then I get the cuddles and fall right back asleep so easily. Plus, bonus, sometimes I get sex dreams which are super vivid!

eta, waking up to him going down on me is the best thing ever and makes it easier to get permission to the sex sleep.

[periwinkledaydreams]

Thanks everyone for explaining things you definitely don't need to explain to anyone! My PTSD brain just went to a really bad sad place over this one for some reason.

[stinybean]

nchauhan Ted is not what I would call a baby either.

[kemdupuis]

FFSC: I just "went to the grocery store" for 2.5 hours and left B at home withDH.Really I went to Target and wandered the aisles for an hour and a half and then I went to the grocery store. DH didn't get home until after 8pm last night and was at work from 6am to around 2pm today, so B and I have had a lot of one on one time. Let's just say my normally sweet little boy has not been super pleasant the last few days because he is gassy and spitting up a lot. He also did not want to nap today. Mama needed a break.

[periwinkledaydreams]

kemdupuis I really need to try this!

[carolyngrace]

Oh God, DH would DIE of happiness if I liked half-asleep sex. I can't think of a WORSE time to have sex! Don't fucking talk to me when I'm asleep or half-asleep, much less touch me, much less fuck me.

But I like giving BJ's, so I guess he's got that.

[periwinkledaydreams]

Yep SO knows I have a hard enough time falling asleep, he would never ever ever wake me up on purpose once I finally fell asleep unless it was to save my life! I on the other hand am allowed to wake HIM up with sex, so there's that...

Also I love BJs! But only with him, its not like a lifelong love lol

[jessila]

I remembered my (lame) confession! MIL came over to see O last weekend after she was out of the country for a few weeks. She knew that O didn't feel good but still wanted to stop by. MIL and I have a great relationship.
O was refusing to nap and just wanted to snuggle. I passed him off when she got here. Then I left the room to grab something. O started screaming and neither MIL or DH could calm him down. As soon as I had him again he was fine. And it felt smugly good to know that all he wanted was me.

[gilder40]

Nov 6, 2015 18:47:03 GMT -5 carolyngrace said:

Nov 6, 2015 18:19:15 GMT -5 gilder40 said:

Maybe I'm super dense, but I have no idea what y'all are talking about "giving in to." I mean, I thought I knew, but then some comments threw me off.

We did it a few times while I was pregnant. We've done it 2-3 times since she was born. But he works nights, so he leaves for work about an hour after I get home from school. And his nights off are in the middle of the week, and I'm too damn tired to do anything.

Hahahaha, you my dear, are amazing.

And that's what I thought y'all were talking about. But someone said something about massaging a prostate, and someone else mentioned a toy up his arse, so I got confused as to who was giving and receiving in this particular scenario. Lol.