I wanted to start this thread yesterday because I'm excited for today. O and I are going to coffee with an old coworker. Then it's friendsgiving at my house. Yay turkey!!! Tomorrow we're going to ILs for dinner.
Last night DH offered to take the first MOTN feeding. Sigh. It didn't work. O wanted nothing to do with that bottle. He screamed and cried. C tried for 30 minutes then came to get me. As soon as O was in my arms he stopped crying and smiled. He'd eaten 2oz of the bottle, nursed for 15 minutes, and passed out. I miss sleep and it's only been a week.
jessila, sorry to hear it didn't work out. I hope you were able to get enough rest to enjoy your day, it sounds like a lot of fun! Today I'm going to a craft fair with MIL in her town. This will be our 5th year in a row going. E loves watching people so he should have an overstimulating blast today.
jessila, that sucks but hopefully you can still enjoy your day!
mirage86, I love craft fairs. We have a huge one here and I can't wait. It's super congested so we won't take little one because strollers are a nightmare but the weekend after is the Festival of Trees and even though it's congested too I'm totally braving the stroller because I know he will loving watching all the people and all of the sparkly lights.
Today I'm going to try clean house because tomorrow my BFF comes for a WHOLE WEEK. I'm a little excited if you couldn't tell.
Post by carolyngrace on Nov 7, 2015 8:44:16 GMT -5
Today I have a couple hours of work to do, and then my mom, sisters and I are going shopping! There's a huge clothing sale at the convention center and I'm in major need of something to spruce me up.
Tomorrow is a family at home day with DH and we might go to church.
Post by billyhorrible on Nov 7, 2015 9:34:07 GMT -5
It's a race weekend for me, so we decided to make a staycation out of it. We're at a hotel near the start, so I'll finish nursing and head out. The boys will meet me at the finish. Then we'll just tool around today and head home tomorrow.
Oh I'm so jealous of your guys' plans so far! I'm stuck at work and would love to go to a craft fair!! Some cousins from India are visiting my mom and they may drive down to see us and the baby tomorrow. I'm really excited to see them but it's also tough as well. Last time they visited, they were convinced H and I were loaded because we each had our own cars and then badgered me to buy them round trip plane tickets for them to come back to visit during Christmas for a month. I just couldn't do it. They don't understand cost of living or loans, they just see stuff and assume everyone in the US is rich unless they are actually homeless. So my mom is a little hesitant to bring them by since we bought a house a couple years ago. Not looking forward to those comments.
Wow, I turned into a bitter Betty. Don't get me wrong, I love my family and wish we could visit more often, it's just not in our budget or permitted by our work schedules. But I am super excited for them to meet T!
Hi! LO and I are exploring Columbus, Ohio today while H is at a conference. We're meeting a friend and her baby for lunch and we're likely doing some shopping, like going to the American Girl store!
nchauhan, yikes that sounds like it could be stressful!
Happy early birthday @bubbs119,
budders, this sounds stupid but doing errands together with DH without baby is probably one of my favourite uses of a babysitter. When my mom comes to visit I totally take advantage of that. We used to do all of our errands together and now it's just easier for one of us to go that to take LO so we often just do that.
It's a race weekend for me, so we decided to make a staycation out of it. We're at a hotel near the start, so I'll finish nursing and head out. The boys will meet me at the finish. Then we'll just tool around today and head home tomorrow.
@bubbs119, are you kidding, a pedicure, nap and dinner/wine sound fabulous for a birthday! Happy early birthday, by the way! For mine we are getting a hotel room for one night and letting MIL watch T. We will just be downtown in case it's too early for me to be away from baby all night, but I think I can do it since it'll be for less than 24 hours total.
Post by wegrowsheep on Nov 7, 2015 11:53:22 GMT -5
helping in DD's ballet class, then going to niece's bday party. It's an ice skating party. I can ride horses, dance, rollerblade.... but God help me, I suck at skating. So this should be fun because I can hold T and watch my super athletic DH show off and tote kids around.
Hanging around the house this morning with B- so we are cleaning, doing laundry, and I am drinking copious amounts of coffee. When DH gets home, we're going to run errands and head over to a craft fair to hopefully find a few Christmas gifts.
Tomorrow is lazy family day at home complete with football, pjs and a slow cooked meal of some sort. I'm thinking pot roast. I would like to read a little, too. The book I was reading before B came is still sitting on the coffee table with my bookmark smack dab in the middle. I need to finish it, and a lazy, rainy weekend sounds like the perfect time
College football today (TCU-OK ST!!) while doing things around the house today. Dinner at a friends house later and the Alabama-LSU game.
Tomorrow, probably take the boys to do an easy hike before the weather turns consistently cold enough that we have to stop for the season. More football. More stuff around the house.
I really prefer my weekends to not have much on the agenda, when possible, so it's perfect.
Post by musicfrk2002 on Nov 7, 2015 12:43:28 GMT -5
H is gone today, so J and I are at home. He is napping, and I should be cleaning but I'm sitting on the couch eating and watching tv. We will be going out later to buy me a new pillow even though I just got a new one. I have woken up since I started using this one with horrible back pain.
Nothing planned for tomorrow other than taking J's 5 month pictures.
Post by periwinkledaydreams on Nov 7, 2015 13:01:42 GMT -5
I think Im just mad that Im alone with her AGAIN, and mad in advance because we'll be alone again tomorrow. I'm tired of being home alone cleaning and applying for jobs with baby. Every day is the same and Im so exhausted.
Wow. Sorry you guys. Massive downer. I realize this is a forum and not therapy! Lol.
Sometimes it helps to vent! Esp when I bet others may feel the same. Vent away girl. I'm currently venting to a bottle of wine, it's very understanding
I think Im just mad that Im alone with her AGAIN, and mad in advance because we'll be alone again tomorrow. I'm tired of being home alone cleaning and applying for jobs with baby. Every day is the same and Im so exhausted.
H basically does his usual stuff, goes for drinks after work, goes to his usual meetups & I just spend 12 hours a day on my own, cleaning, cooking & feeling guilty that my friendships are struggling right now & I should be doing more to make them work.
If they're really friends, you'll be able to pick up where you left off at a later point in time. If you can't, you will make new friends.
That being said, I have no issues with husbands doing their own thing as long as two criteria are met. 1) you're not struggling at home without him, and 2) there's a reciprocal time for you to have non-kid time. It doesn't sound like that's the case with you and I think you need to sit him down and talk to him about it. I'm a benefit of the doubt kinda of person, so I'm thinking he doesn't know how your feeling and would be happy to make sure things are/get easier for you.
It's a race weekend for me, so we decided to make a staycation out of it. We're at a hotel near the start, so I'll finish nursing and head out. The boys will meet me at the finish. Then we'll just tool around today and head home tomorrow.
What kind of race? Are you running? Good luck!!
It's just a 5k, but I'm an ambassador for it. Its one of my favorite races, so might as well get some perks for promoting it!
I ran, and faster than I thought I would. Made friends with some vendors and came home with two bags overflowing with samples, cups, sunglasses and other swag.
Wow. Sorry you guys. Massive downer. I realize this is a forum and not therapy! Lol.
I was going to apologize for being a downer as well. Im sorry you're feeling the same as me but I'm slightly unburdened to hear at least I'm not alone. I'm beyond livid at the moment and have shut myself in the bedroom rocking the baby while mine watches a movie and eats the pizza that I bought because his incompetent ass couldn't be bothered to help the kid stop crying and get a nap while I showered.
To what billyhorrible has to say, a resounding yes. I definitely need to have that sit down conversation with mine. I have not ever had a kid-free "me" time since she was born. Not a day, not an hour, not a moment. It is well past time!
I'm not home by choice, but because of a work injury I'm out on worker's comp, hence the mandated endless job applications. I want to go to work please! The expectation that I spend the day cooking and cleaning on top of caring for the baby is one thing, but when you factor in on top of all that that 1. I am injured 2. I have to be doing my applications and 3. I don't want to be here doing this anyway...
Sorry... Joolschweets is right. This is NOT therapy!!! Ima stop now!
Post by carolyngrace on Nov 7, 2015 19:21:34 GMT -5
Joolschweets, & periwinkledaydreams vent as much as you want as far as I'm concerned. Especially if we can help with some ideas or just listening.
I think I've probably had more "me time" than a lot of people at this point, but I can't fathom having NONE yet. Get. On. That. I really do think it'll make you feel better. Think of something you'll really enjoy and plan it, book it, whatever.
periwinkledaydreams I come up with an excuse to run out to the store or Sonic or Starbucks or somewhere random every day. The 15-30 minutes of me time keeps me sane. I work, but I'm a teacher so I never really have alone time. Sometimes just driving around by myself is enough. H never says anything, but I think he understands. Plus, I always bring him back a treat. We're going to get fat from all the Sonic ice cream. I know it's not much "me" time, but even that little bit can help. Plus, it'll teach your SO to fend for himself in small increments so that he gets used to it and doesn't rely on you to always be on baby duty.
Post by periwinkledaydreams on Nov 7, 2015 20:31:09 GMT -5
Hmm gigi3126 I'll have to try it! Unfortunately he doesn't usually get home until dinner time, which coincides with meltdown/bedtime, so it would basically mean being like "Hi, here's some dinner and your screaming child. Have fun with all that. Bye!" For reals, I appreciate everyones suggestions. A conversation definitely needs to be had.
I need to read the rest of the thread but fuuuuuck, I started bleeding today. I always wear a pantiliner anymore, but I had to run into target for tampons because a pantiliner wasn't going to cut it. Balls.
Okay, hugs all around here. I've also been craving alone time - I won't get it this week since we're here. I spent all day with LO. Even at home, I had to tell h to leave me alone when I wanted to shower; he would come into the bathroom and have her peek around the corner. He doesn't get the constant touching and sheer exhaustion I feel even though he watches her 2x a week. I've had two times I've had quality me time since June - my friend's bachelorette and I got my hair done. The night I got my hair done he had dealt with fussy LO all day and was so overwhelmed when I finally came home. Sucks for him I'm going again on the 24th! I can't remember the last time I sat by myself with something I wanted to read and a hot beverage, though.
Post by whoopsadaisy on Nov 7, 2015 21:10:33 GMT -5
I was thinking today, as my DH slept until 10:30 and I had been up with the baby since 6 (and for four feeding last night) that I would like a weekend too...
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