Tuesday TFAS Check In 11/10

[ellabee]

Hi ladies! The TFAS check-in is for those trying for a second, third, fourth sibling, etc. Feel free to post here even if you are waiting to TFAS.


Age of LO(s):

Circumstances:

Cycle/Month:

CD/DPO:

R/R/CS:

GTKY - How do you find time for your self and what do you do during that precious "me" time?

[amandamh2]

Age of LO(s): 6.5 months

Circumstances: TFAS in January

R/R/CS: I've been thinking about what happens when we start TTC. I don't chart (I'm a control freak and a planner and charting to me would feel like a must do and add stress where I've come to be at peace with not having control in this area) so I'm wondering how to participate in WTO/TWW threads when I don't know for sure. Is that frowned upon? Do other people do this?

GTKY - How do you find time for your self and what do you do during that precious "me" time? DH does bath time and reads the bedtime story so that's my guaranteed time every day. I either read and have tea or work out.

[rungirlrun]

Age of LO(s): 2

Circumstances: NA

Cycle/Month: 6/6

CD/DPO: 17/4

R/R/CS: Feeling hopeful this cycle but not too much bc I don't want to be overly disappointed like last cycle.

GTKY - How do you find time for your self and what do you do during that precious "me" time? I love working out - makes me a better person. So I'll run early before my husband goes to work, and my gym has free childcare so that's a godsend!

[rungirlrun]

Nov 10, 2015 10:02:41 GMT -5 amandamh2 said:

Age of LO(s): 6.5 months

Circumstances: TFAS in January

R/R/CS: I've been thinking about what happens when we start TTC. I don't chart (I'm a control freak and a planner and charting to me would feel like a must do and add stress where I've come to be at peace with not having control in this area) so I'm wondering how to participate in WTO/TWW threads when I don't know for sure. Is that frowned upon? Do other people do this?

GTKY - How do you find time for your self and what do you do during that precious "me" time? DH does bath time and reads the bedtime story so that's my guaranteed time every day. I either read and have tea or work out.

Do you do any sort of charting (OPK's, check CM even)?  Or can you tell when you ovulate?  I only joined this forum in September, but I haven't seen too many ladies participate who don't chart to any extent.  Can you tell when you ovulate?  If so, you could always estimate WTO and TWW.  Or do you plan on going the NTNP (not trying not preventing) route?  Anyone is welcome to participate, but it might just be harder for you to participate if you have no idea when you ovulate.

[doodler]

Age of LO(s): 2

Circumstances: TTC

Cycle/Month: 2AL

CD/DPO: CD8

R/R/CS: Nothing now.

GTKY - How do you find time for your self and what do you do during that precious "me" time? HA! My me time is when I am at work. I try to carve time out of my work day to call for appointments, spend time on here, etc.

DH and I are going away for a night this weekend and I am so excited! It is only the second time we have left DS overnight. Last time was for a wedding.

[jubilantsquirrel]

Age of LO(s): 19 months (almost 20!)

Circumstances:

Cycle/Month: 1/1

CD/DPO: 24

R/R/CS: None

GTKY - How do you find time for your self and what do you do during that precious "me" time?

lol, I don't. I've been trying to get better with this but it's hard. DH and I take turns doing bath and bedtime, so some nights I'll get a little break, but I'm usually cooking dinner during that time.

[ria]

Age of LO(s): DD and DSD are both 6

Circumstances: TTC

Cycle/Month: 6/6

CD/DPO: Not sure, I'll start temping/charting when AF arrives

R/R/CS: I'm really hoping once I start charting and temping, that I'll finally start hitting my fertile week. I think at the moment I'm missing I entirely

GTKY - How do you find time for your self and what do you do during that precious "me" time?

On Sunday mornings the girls have dance classes and DH goes to mass, so that's my 'me' time. I normally go swimming or read or walk the dog.

[ellabee]

Age of LO(s): 19 months

Circumstances: TTC#2

Cycle/Month: 5

CD/DPO: 12/NA

R/R/CS: CD1 hit hard last cycle. I was convinced that it was going to be "the" cycle for us. I'm focusing on taking a chill pill this month. It doesn't help that it's open enrollment for 2016 benefits right now and I have to think about each medical plan and what the coverage would be for 1) an in-hospital birth (in an ideal world) or 2) infertility treatments (in a less than ideal world).

GTKY - How do you find time for your self and what do you do during that precious "me" time?
I asked this question because I majorly struggle with this. I need to make time for myself to get to the gym, but I just can't fathom when I would go. I have such little time with DD each day as it is that I don't want to give any more up. I also can't cut any more time out of my work day. Going to the gym at 8pm isn't so appealing to me but may be my only option...

[cheezee]

Age of LO(s): 4

Circumstances: MFI

Cycle/Month: 6/8

CD/DPO: CD14

R/R/CS: HIO week has begun in our house. Hoping for a positive opk soon. My temps seem to be more whacky...we got a new comforter and I keep waking up hot. My OCD self is annoyed.

GTKY - How do you find time for your self and what do you do during that precious "me" time? Ha! I get about one day a week while LO is at preschool and I'm off work. I usually reserve this for a grocery store trip or running errands. Occasionally I'll get a pedi or lunch with a friend. Never get much me time while I'm at home...as soon as DD gets to bed I'm headed for bed too.

[amandamh2]

Nov 10, 2015 10:39:57 GMT -5 rungirlrun said:

Nov 10, 2015 10:02:41 GMT -5 amandamh2 said:

Age of LO(s): 6.5 months

Circumstances: TFAS in January

R/R/CS: I've been thinking about what happens when we start TTC. I don't chart (I'm a control freak and a planner and charting to me would feel like a must do and add stress where I've come to be at peace with not having control in this area) so I'm wondering how to participate in WTO/TWW threads when I don't know for sure. Is that frowned upon? Do other people do this?

GTKY - How do you find time for your self and what do you do during that precious "me" time? DH does bath time and reads the bedtime story so that's my guaranteed time every day. I either read and have tea or work out.

Do you do any sort of charting (OPK's, check CM even)?  Or can you tell when you ovulate?  I only joined this forum in September, but I haven't seen too many ladies participate who don't chart to any extent.  Can you tell when you ovulate?  If so, you could always estimate WTO and TWW.  Or do you plan on going the NTNP (not trying not preventing) route?  Anyone is welcome to participate, but it might just be harder for you to participate if you have no idea when you ovulate.

I don't do any sort of charting. We do more NTNP I guess since we don't track and don't have a set timeline, we just prevent until we're at the minimum time we'd be ready for a pregnancy to happen. Letting go of control helps me not to stress about it because I get anxious when things don't go according to plan. No strict plan lessens the anxiety for me.
 With my first I just took a pregnancy test when I was a couple weeks past my expected period based on my "typical" cycle (which I know can change any time).

[Deleted]

Age of LO(s): DS is 3

Circumstances: TFAS with hypothyroidism. I was not dx when we concieved DS

Cycle/Month: 3/4 of proper tracking

CD/DPO: 4

R/R/CS: I'm very glad for the day off tomorrow for remembrance day. It does make for a busy work week on the remaining 4 days though.

GTKY - How do you find time for your self and what do you do during that precious "me" time?
DH does bath time, so if there is no laundry to fold, I get to read for a bit. I also try to take short courses or go out with friends. Sometimes me time is just a silent trip for groceries, lol!

[sleepymonkey]

ellabee, I could've written that exact thing about going to the gym. I already get up at 5:45 to get ready for the day, leave the house at 6:45, and don't get home until 6. By then I have an hour and a half to get us all fed and spend some time with DD before starting to get her ready for bed. After she goes to bed at 8, I have 2 hours with MH to talk, catch up on TV, and/or TFAS before I go to bed. I don't know how to fit the gym (or any workout) in to my schedule and that makes me sad, and my weight reflects that.

Age of LO(s): 22 months

Circumstances: AMA, last month TTC before trying to get a referral to an RE

Cycle/Month: 6

CD/DPO: CD10 WTO

R/R/CS: I started OPKs this morning and it was already darker than it usually is when I start. I have a feeling I will get a +OPK in the next day or so, which means another early O/short cycle for me.

GTKY - How do you find time for your self and what do you do during that precious "me" time? I struggle with this because I feel like my time with DD is so limited. Sometimes I go to the grocery store or Target by myself and I end up rushing because I feel guilty being away from her. But occasionally, I will take a PTO day on a day she goes to daycare (she only goes on T and Th) and I will just lounge in my pj's most of the day, drinking coffee, and watching bad daytime TV (cheesy Lifetime movies anyone?). Just having the quiet in my own home really helps me recharge.

[Deleted]

amandamh2, if you don't temp then there's really no confirmation of O date; if you go by secondary signs of cm, cramping, just general cycle length and want to do 2ww just be sure to verify you aren't certain of O date and if you test early/test not knowing your O day don't be expecting accurate results/upset if someone calls you out; otherwise you do you and go with it.

Age of LO(s): 19ms, 12, 13, 15, 17

Circumstances: ttc a 2nd with dh for a year; now just observe cm/cycle length pray/wish!

CD/DPO: first week of cycle I don't O typically until cd18+

R/R/CS:

GTKY - How do you find time for your self and what do you do during that precious "me" time? hahha, just kidding! I love to read at lunch in my car by myself! It is a big bummer when I have phonecalls/errands to run and cannot get that mental break. My house is a busy and loud one and I love it but those moments reading are just the best! I walk either with lo and or a dog or not at all. I'm too busy with dinner, after school activities, errands, shopping, etc for the gym/ alone workouts and bc I did all that when I was younger I do not miss the gotta work out/gotta run mindset. An occasional jog/hike by myself is awesome and if I had more time I'd devote it to going to a boutique or self-care (hair/nails) type place once or so a month.

[penguin129]

Age of LOL 2 (she's 28 months now)

Circumstances: TFAS with Hypothryoidism like @sparky85 I also wasn't diagnosed until after having my LO

CD/DPO: 14 and WTO

R/R/CS: We're TFAS now! I'm feeling a little better from my cold. I have a doctor's appointment tomorrow. I am pretty sure they are going to lower the dose of my thyroid meds because I'm bordering hyper now.

GTKY: I don't usually have "me" time. I'm happy if I can take a shower when H is home or a soak. I am technically alone when H gives DD a bath, but there's not much you can do in 20 minutes.

[penguin129]

amandamh2 I think if you state you are just guessing about when you O that is fine. This cycle I've been sick and we didn't decide to move up our TFAS time until almost 10 days into my cycle. I haven't checked CM or temped. I'll use an OPK.

[cbowl]

Hi. Hoping it's okay if I rejoin...I was here over the summer for a bit.

Age of LO(s): 23 months

Circumstances: Started TFAS in July 2014. Had a loss at 18 weeks in May 2015 and another loss at 9 weeks in September 2015.

Cycle/Month: 1/1 AL

CD/DPO: 13 (I think)

R/R/CS: Just ready to get back to a normal cycle after my D&C in September

GTKY - How do you find time for your self and what do you do during that precious "me" time? I've recently started going to yoga on Saturday mornings while my H is at swim lessons with my daughter. I love it.

[ellabee]

Welcome back cbowl! Although I'm very sorry that you find yourself back here because losses. Big hugs, girl. I hope your stay is short!

[hurricanerek]

Age of LO(s): 15 months

Circumstances: ttc next month

CD/DPO: CD 27/12 dpo

R/R/CS: just waiting for AF to start off our last TTA cycle. Starting to feel excited to do this again.

GTKY - How do you find time for your self and what do you do during that precious "me" time?
Me time is during DD's nap. That's usually when I eat lunch and watch some tv. I also catch up on laundry and kitchen cleanup then. It's very rare for me to get an extended amount of time away from dd.

[flojo973]

@sparky85, penguin129, I am hypothyroid too. I literally count down the minutes in the morning from when I take my synthroid until when I can have my coffee

Age of LO(s): 17 months

Circumstances: TTC

Cycle/Month: 3 (1AL)

CD/DPO: 13

R/R/CS: No idea what my body is doing since my loss. EWCM on CD13 but I don't think I could possibly O so soon after m/c.

GTKY - How do you find time for your self and what do you do during that precious "me" time? DD goes to bed pretty early and I usually have a little time to myself before DH comes home from work. I veg out and watch some shows. I need to start working out again.

ETA:  Welcome cbowl, I'm so sorry for your losses.  Big hugs.

[amandamh2]

Thanks for the responses @kellbell and penguin129. I have no problem admitting it's guesswork on my part based on my average and not the most accurate but it's what works best for me. I'm not a big symptom spotter or early tester either, just looking for a community to be part of while we TTC/NTNP.

[rungirlrun]

Nov 10, 2015 12:49:35 GMT -5 amandamh2 said:

Nov 10, 2015 10:39:57 GMT -5 rungirlrun said:

Do you do any sort of charting (OPK's, check CM even)?  Or can you tell when you ovulate?  I only joined this forum in September, but I haven't seen too many ladies participate who don't chart to any extent.  Can you tell when you ovulate?  If so, you could always estimate WTO and TWW.  Or do you plan on going the NTNP (not trying not preventing) route?  Anyone is welcome to participate, but it might just be harder for you to participate if you have no idea when you ovulate.

I don't do any sort of charting. We do more NTNP I guess since we don't track and don't have a set timeline, we just prevent until we're at the minimum time we'd be ready for a pregnancy to happen. Letting go of control helps me not to stress about it because I get anxious when things don't go according to plan. No strict plan lessens the anxiety for me.
 With my first I just took a pregnancy test when I was a couple weeks past my expected period based on my "typical" cycle (which I know can change any time).

There is absolutely nothing wrong with not charting.  I prefer charting as I think it will help me get pregnant faster than not, but do what works for you.  Just try to avoid testing too early (as it seems you did with your first).  Good luck!

[Deleted]

cbowl, so sorry you are re-joining but hope we can offer encouragement and laughter along the way!

[cbowl]

Thanks ellabee and flojo973 !  ETA:  and @kellbell !

[ameliabird]

Age of LO(s): 23 months

Circumstances: TFAS currently

Cycle/Month: 1/1

CD/DPO: 16

RRCS: DD is refusing to nap lately and has been climbing out of her crib. I guess it's time to move to a toddler bed :/

GTKY - How do you find time for your self and what do you do during that precious "me" time? Well, naps used to be my "me" time but lately not so much. I usually watch my shows off the dvr and get on FB and TCF.

[penguin129]

I'm sorry for your losses and that you find yourself here again cbowl.

[judyblume14]

This is a drive by so I can post on my computer... I'll catch up and read through everyone's tonight!

Age of LO(s): 14 months

Circumstances: TTC#2

Cycle/Month: 3/4

CD/DPO: 19/8 (I think?)

R/R/CS: I'm doing a very poor job of getting back into the swing of charting.

GTKY - How do you find time for your self and what do you do during that precious "me" time? My "me" time is working out. When I'm not being a Lazy Lily, I got 3 days a week right after work (and end up getting home at the same time as DD and DH), and one or twice in the morning on the weekend (and my saint of a husband rarely holds it over my head. I wish he would take some "me" time so I'd feel a teeny bit less guilty.

[sammysam]

@amandahmh2 I will probably just use OPKs this time around so mine will be mostly guess work too. I wouldn't worry about it too much. Just participate based on your best guess at O. That's my plan anyways.

@ellabee sleepymonkey I completely agree! I used to be one of those people who went to the gym at 4am every day before work and sometimes again after work. Now I can't fathom taking time away from DD to go. I just make a point of getting out of the house with her every day after I get home from work even if it's just 30 minutes. Park, swimming, walking around the mall, grocery shopping, anything. And when she let's me I workout with bands while we play together at home. It's not perfect but it's something.

ameliabird DD gave up on her crib at 6 months. She is 21 months now and has been in a floor bed since 6 months. She loves it if it makes you feel any better about the transition. We converted her crib to a toddler bed but she just uses it as a mini couch.

[sammysam]

Age of LO : 21 months

Circumstances : TFAS in January

R / R / CS : I ranted a bit on WTDS yesterday...so I think today I'm good.

GTKY: Because SO and I aren't living together right now (due to work) I don't really have any me time. I try to get everything done at work so I am not bringing work home (DD wouldn't let me work anyways ) so I don't even take a break at lunch and once I get home it's just me and DD so no time to myself there either. I have learned to just have my me time with her since she goes everywhere I do. When she naps I go on here or read.

[monicageller]

Age of LO(s): 3

Circumstances: I got pregnant very easily on the first try with my son. So I'm trying to be realistic and not let myself get upset if it doesn't happen the first try this time around. I know I was very luck last time and I shouldn't count on that again- but it's hard!

Cycle/Month: 1

CD/DPO: 16.... Not doing anything (yet) to track O- so I'm not sure about dpo.

R/R/CS: nada

GTKY - How do you find time for your self and what do you do during that precious "me" time? I go to the gym 3 days a week before work. Also, my husband and I try and take turns with bedtime and giving each other time to get away for girls night (me) and golf (him).

[givemewine]

Age of LO(s): 6 Yrs.

Circumstances:Still trying, trying, trying!!

Cycle/Month:month 21

CD/DPO:CD 80

R/R/CS:Rant. DD came down with pink eye Sunday evening...GREAT. So I have been home with her this week. You ever notice how when somebody mentions or has pink eye suddenly your eye itches? YEAH, I've been dealing with that for the last 3 days.

GTKY - How do you find time for your self and what do you do during that precious "me" time? Usually on the weekends I'll leave DD and H to fend for themselves for a few hours and I will grab a coffee and walk around the mall or Target. Or get a manicure!