Post by wegrowsheep on Nov 14, 2015 21:10:58 GMT -5
Christmas is stressing me out. Both sides of the family do adult gifts still, which is nice but pretty intense. I always try & get really thoughtful gifts but I feel like its getting out of hand. DH wants me to do all the shopping but pooh-poohs everything I suggest.
Eg. His rents have difficulty financially. Ever since O was born they've been talking about buying a travel crib, highchair, some spare clothes etc but never do. Im pretty sure its the money. Also I think its wrong of me to just expect them to buy all that stuff...shit is expensive. So I suggested we buy them a travel crib & some spare baby bits & bobs for their house for xmas. H got really, like really offended & made out that I was an asshole for "getting them something for our kid". I don't understand spending the same money on pointless tat when I know they'll need it & I'll have to buy it anyway.
Am I actually just being a dick?
Pretty sure it's okay to buy stuff for your kid to use, even if it's at someone else's house. We left toys at my IL's house for all the cousins to use when they visit, and MIL appreciates it. I get books at yardsales and leave a little collection there too. My parents bought a second hand pnp for their house, and it's nice to not lug all the extra crap around. As long as they don't mind you leaving stuff there, I think your DH needs to shut it. Just remind him that your kid = your responsibility.
Edit: Not sure if it'd make a great Chistmas gift though. Perhaps label it as a gift for your LO and let them open it. Get them a coffee table book of baby pics as well, perhaps?
Or give DH an envelope of cash and tell him to deal with his parents.