Post by carolyngrace on Nov 13, 2015 13:47:38 GMT -5
holliberry28 I can totally relate to your family drama. There is a shit load of drama going on in my family right now too. Most of our issues stem from the fact that no one has boundaries. Everyone's constantly trying to take care each other's feelings rather than just paying attention to what them self is feeling and needs. Especially my mom, who will give him till the point of total exhaustion, which turns into anger. And then she gets frustrated that we all act scared of her and tiptoe around her. But our entire life she explodes when she gets this way. So we have good reason to tiptoe.
Just told my mom I wasn't likely going Black Friday shopping with her because I didn't want to stress over pumping enough for LO and also having to pump in the car. Mom's response? "Oh great, who's going to help me now?" Uh....
That's what I thought...Did you put your H's last name on your marriage license?? I already printed out all the forms and was ready to make an appointment with the SS office, but they also need a copy of your marriage license and my marriage license doesn't have H's last name added on it. Confused...
My marriage license has my full maiden name. Took it to the SS office with SS card, driver's license, and marriage license. Got it changed in like 10 minutes. I don't know why in the world you would need to get married again?? WTF?
Just looked at the Wal-Mart ad for black friday deals. Must resist. I'll probably just ask my dad to pick up a few things when he gets off of his shift.
I was only interested in the baby toys and fleece sleepers. Meh.
I'm nursing LO in a dressing room and she's more interested in looking in the mirror, lol.
holliberry28, I thought name changes are always handled by the SSA? When I changed mine, I just brought my marriage license to my local social security office and they mailed me a new card a few weeks later and it was official. There's nothing on the SSA's website about there being a time limit on how old your marriage license is. Once I had the new SS card, I used that get a new drivers license, change banking information, etc.
Same for us too. I had to take my social security card and marriage license and stand in line at our local social security office. Which in itself was a pain and it took 3 hours. there were so many people there. Then you wait and they send you a new social security card in the mail. Once you get your new card then you have to go to the DMV and change your name in person and then passport etc etc.
I would not think you need to get married again. Plus, even if you change it on you marriage license you would still need to go to the social security office and DMV
Oh my god, premie twins and then finding out you're pregnant. No. Just no. I had a pregnancy scare last week and cried while buying the test. I had two periods with the mini pill and then nothing. The tests were both negative and I took them a week apart. Still no period, so I'm taking another test next week. I hate that you may not get a cycle with the mini pill...does not make me feel safe.
And yea, holliberry28, I did everything at the ssa with my maiden name on everything. Once you get a new SS card, you can change your license, passport etc.
holliberry28 +1 to having maiden names on the marriage license. At the time you are getting licensed, thats what your legal name is, so I wouldn't think there would be a way to put your intended name on there.
I would recommend just going to SS and bringing marriage license, SS card, DL, etc with you. You should be able to just fill out a form and be done with it. Of course, after you change your name with SS, you will then need to do so with your DL.
Also, so sorry about the drama you are going through with your family. Family issues are always so hard to navigate through. The one thing that worries me is that you feel intimidated by your H. Like just about this situation? In general? I have a similar relationship with my mother, in that she caused a lot of drama in my life these past 6 months (my whole life, honestly). DW has a phenomenal relationship with her mom and she just can't fathom how/why my mom does the things she does. I don't understand either. But the thing is, even though DW doesn't understand why I stick around, and try to make things work, it doesn't matter. She supports me in what I want to do with my family. So...basically it worries me that you are intimidated by him and that he doesn't support you about this. But, is it for me to worry? No, probably not. Alas, we are here to support one another and the best I can do is share my experiences, and hopefully present that there is a different way for you & DH to handle this.
Stay strong, and keep your head up girl!
Thanks Kristykristyleelee. He never was like this, but all throughout the pregnancy and years before, my family would brag how much they'd be around, and how my dad would be the babysitter extroardinaire etc etc. So H feels lied to by them. He's just so upset with the whole situation, he himself feels slighted by them. And pissed that my mom wants to go work full time and go to casinos over seeing her grandson. I'm past the anger already though, let her do what makes her happy. I just wish he'd be on the same page as me.
I'm sorry if this is going to come off as rude. But your DH might need to look at things from a new perspective. At least your parents are there period. My kids will never meet their grandfather because he passed before they were born and I think about it a lot. He passed when he was only 36 years old.
I'm sorry that your parents are not helping out as much as they originally offered but at least your child was able to meet them. For many kids that just isn't an option.
Ok... I'm legit crying right now. DH just came to me to show me a shoe full of pee. Our dog's cancer meds make him excessively thirsty, which makes him pee excessively. It would appear Frank had an accident overnight and managed to pee only in DH's shoe. No where else. Just into the shoe. Only into one of DHs $150 North Face shoes. Like it was a damn doggy toilet. Or *was* it an accident? It wouldn't be funny if it was my shoe but JFC I have tears running down my face at the moment.
Thanks Kristykristyleelee. He never was like this, but all throughout the pregnancy and years before, my family would brag how much they'd be around, and how my dad would be the babysitter extroardinaire etc etc. So H feels lied to by them. He's just so upset with the whole situation, he himself feels slighted by them. And pissed that my mom wants to go work full time and go to casinos over seeing her grandson. I'm past the anger already though, let her do what makes her happy. I just wish he'd be on the same page as me.
I'm sorry if this is going to come off as rude. But your DH might need to look at things from a new perspective. At least your parents are there period. My kids will never meet their grandfather because he passed before they were born and I think about it a lot. He passed when he was only 36 years old.
I'm sorry that your parents are not helping out as much as they originally offered but at least your child was able to meet them. For many kids that just isn't an option.
I know. Looking at the bigger picture, you're definitely right. And we should be happy with any time they are willing to spend. It's just hard communicating this with him and having him actually hear me when he's angry.
I'm sorry your kids didn't get a chance to meet their grandfather.
I'm sorry if this is going to come off as rude. But your DH might need to look at things from a new perspective. At least your parents are there period. My kids will never meet their grandfather because he passed before they were born and I think about it a lot. He passed when he was only 36 years old.
I'm sorry that your parents are not helping out as much as they originally offered but at least your child was able to meet them. For many kids that just isn't an option.
I know. Looking at the bigger picture, you're definitely right. And we should be happy with any time they are willing to spend. It's just hard communicating this with him and having him actually hear me when he's angry.
I'm sorry your kids didn't get a chance to meet their grandfather.
Thanks for understanding. After I sent you the post I was worried it might come off wrong.
Close friend just had baby #4. They are always team green. She's had three girls so far and swore up and down that this was a boy. Baby Girl #4 is here.
SIL had 4 girls and then a suprise boy. I love all the girlyness when they visit. So much pink glittery happiness!
My dad stayed at my house alone while my mom, nieces, LO, and I went shopping. Apparently the toilet flooded while we were gone and H came home to a flooded bathroom. Now we have an emergency plumber here (that my mom is thankfully paying for) and I have a busted etagere I'm going to need to replace. :/
Post by musicfrk2002 on Nov 14, 2015 1:09:05 GMT -5
Could anyone use some Enfamil and/or Similac coupons? I have 2 Enfamil ones expiring the end of this month, and 4 Similac ones, 2 expiring the end of this month and 2 expiring the end of the year.
Could anyone use some Enfamil and/or Similac coupons? I have 2 Enfamil ones expiring the end of this month, and 4 Similac ones, 2 expiring the end of this month and 2 expiring the end of the year.
Could anyone use some Enfamil and/or Similac coupons? I have 2 Enfamil ones expiring the end of this month, and 4 Similac ones, 2 expiring the end of this month and 2 expiring the end of the year.
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I have similac ones I can't use too if you want them.
Could anyone use some Enfamil and/or Similac coupons? I have 2 Enfamil ones expiring the end of this month, and 4 Similac ones, 2 expiring the end of this month and 2 expiring the end of the year.
If no one else needs/wants them, I'll take the enfamil ones.
Could anyone use some Enfamil and/or Similac coupons? I have 2 Enfamil ones expiring the end of this month, and 4 Similac ones, 2 expiring the end of this month and 2 expiring the end of the year.
If no one else needs/wants them, I'll take the enfamil ones.
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